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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.64,0:00:02.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a professional troublemaker.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.44,0:00:03.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.35,0:00:09.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As my job is to critique the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.06,0:00:13.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the shoddy systems and the people\Nwho refuse to do better,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.99,0:00:17.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a writer, as a speaker,\Nas a shady Nigerian --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.19,0:00:18.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.24,0:00:22.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like my purpose is to be this cat.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.24,0:00:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.42,0:00:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am the person\Nwho is looking at other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.10,0:00:28.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, "I need you to fix it."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.33,0:00:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is me.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.51,0:00:34.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want us to leave this world\Nbetter than we found it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.23,0:00:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And how I choose to effect change
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.02,0:00:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is by speaking up,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.46,0:00:41.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by being the first\Nand by being the domino.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.24,0:00:45.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a line of dominoes to fall,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.32,0:00:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one has to fall first,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.59,0:00:50.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which then leaves the other\Nchoiceless to do the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.24,0:00:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that domino that falls,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.86,0:00:55.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're hoping that, OK,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.14,0:00:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the next person that sees this\Nis inspired to be a domino.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.12,0:01:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being the domino, for me,\Nlooks like speaking up
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.33,0:01:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and doing the things\Nthat are really difficult,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.59,0:01:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially when they are needed,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.71,0:01:10.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the hope that others\Nwill follow suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.04,0:01:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here's the thing:\NI'm the person who says
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.62,0:01:17.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you might be thinking\Nbut dared not to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.10,0:01:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of times people think\Nthat we're fearless,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.90,0:01:21.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people who do this, we're fearless.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.90,0:01:23.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not fearless.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.08,0:01:25.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not unafraid of the consequences
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.58,0:01:27.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the sacrifices that we have to make
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.81,0:01:29.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by speaking truth to power.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.83,0:01:32.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What happens is, we feel like we have to,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.06,0:01:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there are too few\Npeople in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.68,0:01:36.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,willing to be the domino,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.33,0:01:38.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,too few people willing to take that fall.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.72,0:01:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not doing it without fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.46,0:01:41.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, let's talk about fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.41,0:01:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew exactly what I wanted\Nto be when I grew up.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.76,0:01:46.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was like, "I'm going to be a doctor!"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.73,0:01:48.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doctor Luvvie was the dream.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.88,0:01:51.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was Doc McStuffins\Nbefore it was a thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.15,0:01:52.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.38,0:01:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I remember when I went to college,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.61,0:01:58.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my freshman year,\NI had to take Chemistry 101
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.34,0:01:59.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for my premed major.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.12,0:02:04.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got the first and last D\Nof my academic career.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.21,0:02:05.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.90,0:02:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I went to my advisor, and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.50,0:02:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK, let's drop the premed,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.78,0:02:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because this doctor thing\Nis not going to work,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.03,0:02:14.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I don't even like hospitals.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.79,0:02:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So ..."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.97,0:02:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.02,0:02:19.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Let's just consider that done for."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.73,0:02:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that same semester,\NI started blogging.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.17,0:02:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was 2003.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.62,0:02:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as that one dream was ending,\Nanother was beginning.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.51,0:02:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then what was a cute hobby\Nbecame my full-time job
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.10,0:02:32.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I lost my marketing job in 2010.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.02,0:02:36.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it still took me two more years\Nto say, "I'm a writer."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.42,0:02:41.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nine years after I had started writing,\Nbefore I said, "I'm a writer,"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.66,0:02:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was afraid of what happens
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.48,0:02:46.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without 401ks,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.52,0:02:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without, "How am I going\Nto keep up my shoe habit?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.06,0:02:50.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's important to me."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.24,0:02:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.39,0:02:54.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it took me that long to own this thing
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.41,0:02:56.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was what my purpose was.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.06,0:02:57.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I realized,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.52,0:02:59.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fear has a very concrete power
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.86,0:03:04.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of keeping us from doing and saying\Nthe things that are our purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.82,0:03:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was like, "You know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.52,0:03:09.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not going to let fear rule my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.15,0:03:12.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not going to let fear\Ndictate what I do."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.59,0:03:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then all of these\Nawesome things started happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.60,0:03:17.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dominoes started to fall.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.85,0:03:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I realized that,\NI was like, "OK, 2015,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.55,0:03:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I turned 30,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.84,0:03:24.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's going to be my year\Nof 'Do it anyway.'
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.05,0:03:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anything that scares me,\NI'm going to actively pursue it."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.67,0:03:29.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I'm a Capricorn.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.88,0:03:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like my feel solidly on the ground.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.17,0:03:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I decided to take\Nmy first-ever solo vacation,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.05,0:03:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was out of the country\Nto the Dominican Republic.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.83,0:03:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on my birthday, what did I do?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.45,0:03:44.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went ziplining through\Nthe forests of Punta Cana.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.68,0:03:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for some odd reason,\NI had on business casual.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.12,0:03:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't ask why.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.32,0:03:51.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.55,0:03:53.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I had an incredible time.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.43,0:03:55.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also, I don't like being\Nsubmerged in water.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.59,0:03:57.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like to be, again, on solid ground.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.96,0:04:02.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I went to Mexico\Nand swam with dolphins underwater.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.24,0:04:05.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then the cool thing\Nthat I did also that year
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.66,0:04:07.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was my mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.77,0:04:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was I wrote my book,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.68,0:04:11.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual,"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.76,0:04:12.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I had to own --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.94,0:04:13.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.97,0:04:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that whole writing thing now, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.80,0:04:17.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.06,0:04:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the very anti-me thing\Nthat I did that year
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.11,0:04:21.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that scared the crap out of me --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.91,0:04:24.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went skydiving.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.54,0:04:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're about to fall out of the plane.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.37,0:04:30.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was like, "I've done some stupid\Nthings in life. This is one of them."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.86,0:04:31.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.88,0:04:33.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then we come falling down to Earth,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.83,0:04:37.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I literally lose my breath\Nas I see Earth, and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.10,0:04:39.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I just fell out of a perfectly good\Nplane on purpose."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.77,0:04:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.82,0:04:42.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What is wrong with me?!"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.28,0:04:44.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then I looked down at the beauty,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.22,0:04:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was like, "This is\Nthe best thing I could have done.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.100,0:04:49.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was an amazing decision."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.26,0:04:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think about the times\Nwhen I have to speak truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.13,0:04:55.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It feels like I am falling\Nout of that plane.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.46,0:04:58.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It feels like that moment\Nwhen I'm at the edge of the plane,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.34,0:05:00.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm like, "You shouldn't do this,"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.23,0:05:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but then I do it anyway,\Nbecause I realize I have to.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.67,0:05:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sitting at the edge of that plane
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.38,0:05:08.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and kind of staying on that plane\Nis comfort to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.20,0:05:10.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I feel like every day\Nthat I'm speaking truth
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.54,0:05:13.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,against institutions and people\Nwho are bigger than me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.36,0:05:15.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just forces that are\Nmore powerful than me,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.71,0:05:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I'm falling out of that plane.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.79,0:05:19.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I realize comfort is overrated.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.92,0:05:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because being quiet is comfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.66,0:05:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Keeping things the way\Nthey've been is comfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.00,0:05:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all comfort has done\Nis maintain the status quo.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.72,0:05:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we've got to get comfortable\Nwith being uncomfortable
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.43,0:05:34.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by speaking these hard truths\Nwhen they're necessary.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.84,0:05:36.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.16,0:05:39.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.36,0:05:43.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for me, though, I realize\Nthat I have to speak these truths,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.11,0:05:45.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because honesty is so important to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.08,0:05:47.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My integrity is something I hold dear.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.35,0:05:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Justice -- I don't think justice\Nshould be an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.91,0:05:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We should always have justice.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.42,0:05:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also, I believe in shea butter\Nas a core value, and --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.78,0:05:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.10,0:05:59.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think the world would be better\Nif we were more moisturized.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.48,0:06:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But besides that, with these\Nas my core values,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.32,0:06:04.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have to speak the truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.62,0:06:06.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have no other choice in the matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.50,0:06:08.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But people like me,\Nthe professional troublemakers,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.91,0:06:12.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should not be the only ones who are\Ncommitted to being these dominoes
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.24,0:06:13.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are always falling out of planes
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.100,0:06:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or being the first one to take this hit.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.96,0:06:18.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People are so afraid\Nof these acute consequences,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.31,0:06:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not realizing that there are many times\Nwhen we walk in rooms
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.39,0:06:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are some of the most\Npowerful people in those rooms --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.40,0:06:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we might be the second-most powerful,\Nthird-most powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.19,0:06:30.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I firmly believe\Nthat our job in those times
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.07,0:06:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to disrupt what is happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.14,0:06:34.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then if we're not the most powerful,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.26,0:06:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if two more of us band together,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.51,0:06:37.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it makes us powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.99,0:06:40.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like cosigning\Nthe woman in the meeting,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.48,0:06:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, the woman\Nwho can't seem to get her word out,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.40,0:06:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just making sure that other person\Nwho can't make a point
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.83,0:06:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is being heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.16,0:06:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our job is to make sure\Nthey have room for that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.44,0:06:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone's well-being\Nis community business.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.57,0:06:55.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we made that a point,\Nwe're understand that,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.82,0:06:57.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the times when we need help,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.50,0:06:59.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we wouldn't have to look around so hard
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.48,0:07:01.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we made sure\Nwe were somebody else's help.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.31,0:07:04.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are times when I feel like
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.11,0:07:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have taken very public\Ntumbles and falls,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.15,0:07:10.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the time when I was asked\Nto speak at a conference,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.86,0:07:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they wanted me to pay my way there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.34,0:07:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I did some research
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.73,0:07:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and found out the white men\Nwho spoke there got compensated
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.86,0:07:20.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and got their travel paid for.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.78,0:07:23.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white women who spoke there\Ngot their travel paid for.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.82,0:07:28.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The black women who spoke there were\Nexpected to actually pay to speak there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.13,0:07:29.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was like, "What do I do?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.42,0:07:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I knew that if I spoke up\Nabout this publicly,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.18,0:07:34.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could face financial loss.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.16,0:07:38.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then I also understood\Nthat my silence serves no one.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.66,0:07:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I fearfully spoke up about it publicly,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.79,0:07:44.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and other women started\Ncoming out to talk about,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.43,0:07:46.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I, too, have faced\Nthis type of pay inequality."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.00,0:07:50.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it started a conversation\Nabout discriminatory pay practices
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.13,0:07:52.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this conference was participating in.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.67,0:07:55.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was the domino
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.09,0:07:57.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the time I read a disturbing\Nmemoir by a public figure
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.84,0:07:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wrote a piece about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.65,0:08:03.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew this person was more powerful\Nthan me and could impact my career,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.17,0:08:04.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was like, "I've got to do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.01,0:08:08.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got to sit at the edge of this plane,\Nmaybe for two hours."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.44,0:08:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I did. And I pressed\N"Publish," and I ran away.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.90,0:08:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.96,0:08:13.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I came back to a viral post
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.90,0:08:17.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and people being like, "Oh my God,\NI'm so glad somebody finally said this."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.52,0:08:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it started a conversation
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.06,0:08:21.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about mental health and self-care,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.88,0:08:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was like, "OK. Alright.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.75,0:08:27.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This thing that I'm doing,\NI guess, alright, it's doing something."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.16,0:08:30.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then so many people\Nhave been the domino
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.42,0:08:35.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they talk about how\Nthey've been assaulted by powerful men.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.78,0:08:40.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's made millions of women\Njoin in and say, "Me Too."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.23,0:08:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, a shout-out to Tarana Burke\Nfor igniting that movement.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.11,0:08:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.76,0:08:54.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People and systems count on our silence\Nto keep us exactly where we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.01,0:09:01.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, being the domino sometimes\Ncomes down to being exactly who you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.24,0:09:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I've been a shady somebody\Nsince I was three.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.20,0:09:06.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.30,0:09:07.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is me on my third birthday.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.92,0:09:11.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I've been this girl all my life,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.29,0:09:13.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I feel like\Neven that's been the domino,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.38,0:09:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in a world\Nthat wants us to walk around
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.71,0:09:17.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as representatives of ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.57,0:09:19.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being yourself can be a revolutionary act.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.43,0:09:22.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a world that wants us to whisper,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.80,0:09:24.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I choose to yell.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.00,0:09:29.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.01,0:09:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it's time to say these hard things,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.44,0:09:34.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ask myself three things.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.10,0:09:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One: Did you mean it?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.51,0:09:38.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two: Can you defend it?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.22,0:09:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Three: Did you say it with love?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.37,0:09:43.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the answer is yes to all three,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.62,0:09:45.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say it and let the chips fall.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.54,0:09:48.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's important.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.72,0:09:50.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That checkpoint with myself
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.27,0:09:52.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always tells me, "Yes,\Nyou're supposed to do this."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.60,0:09:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Telling the truth --\Ntelling thoughtful truths --
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.00,0:09:58.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should not be a revolutionary act.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.27,0:10:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Speaking truths to power\Nshould not be sacrificial, but they are.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.37,0:10:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think if more of us chose\Nto do this for the greater good,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.58,0:10:09.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we'd be in better spaces\Nthan we are right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.26,0:10:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Speaking of the greater good,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.44,0:10:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we commit ourselves\Nto telling truths to build bridges
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.89,0:10:18.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to common ground,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.40,0:10:21.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bridges that aren't based\Non truth will collapse.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.63,0:10:23.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it is our job,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.52,0:10:26.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is our obligation, it is our duty
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.87,0:10:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to speak truth to power, to be the domino,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.88,0:10:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not just when it's difficult --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.53,0:10:33.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially when it's difficult.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.54,0:10:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.76,0:10:40.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)