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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.49,0:00:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I speak in 10 minutes
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.74,0:00:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the bonds of women\Nover three generations,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.31,0:00:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how the astonishing\Nstrength of those bonds
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.39,0:00:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,took hold in the life\Nof a four-year-old girl
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.02,0:00:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,huddled with her young sister,\Nher mother and her grandmother
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.88,0:00:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for five days and nights\Nin a small boat in the China Sea
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.73,0:00:36.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than 30 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.27,0:00:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bonds that took hold\Nin the life of that small girl
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.85,0:00:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and never let go --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.31,0:00:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that small girl now\Nliving in San Francisco
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.93,0:00:46.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and speaking to you today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.74,0:00:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not a finished story.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.32,0:00:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is a jigsaw puzzle\Nstill being put together.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.92,0:00:55.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me tell you about some of the pieces.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.76,0:01:01.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine the first piece:\Na man burning his life's work.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.47,0:01:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is a poet, a playwright,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.77,0:01:07.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a man whose whole life
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.07,0:01:11.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had been balanced on the single hope\Nof his country's unity and freedom.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.55,0:01:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine him as the communists\Nenter Saigon --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.86,0:01:19.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,confronting the fact\Nthat his life had been a complete waste.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.75,0:01:22.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Words, for so long his friends,\Nnow mocked him.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.55,0:01:25.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He retreated into silence.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.03,0:01:28.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He died broken by history.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.74,0:01:31.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is my grandfather.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.39,0:01:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never knew him in real life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.31,0:01:39.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But our lives are much more\Nthan our memories.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.71,0:01:43.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My grandmother never\Nlet me forget his life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.96,0:01:47.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My duty was not to allow\Nit to have been in vain,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.11,0:01:51.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my lesson was to learn\Nthat, yes, history tried to crush us,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.61,0:01:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we endured.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.32,0:01:57.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The next piece of the jigsaw\Nis of a boat in the early dawn
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.86,0:01:59.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slipping silently out to sea.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.13,0:02:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother, Mai, was 18\Nwhen her father died --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.62,0:02:06.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already in an arranged marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.83,0:02:08.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already with two small girls.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.82,0:02:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For her, life had distilled\Nitself into one task:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.53,0:02:16.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the escape of her family\Nand a new life in Australia.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.79,0:02:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was inconceivable to her\Nthat she would not succeed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.97,0:02:24.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So after a four-year saga\Nthat defies fiction,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.90,0:02:28.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a boat slipped out to sea\Ndisguised as a fishing vessel.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.81,0:02:31.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the adults knew the risks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.76,0:02:35.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The greatest fear\Nwas of pirates, rape and death.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.40,0:02:39.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like most adults on the boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.31,0:02:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mother carried\Na small bottle of poison.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.87,0:02:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we were captured,\Nfirst my sister and I,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.17,0:02:48.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then she and my grandmother would drink.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.77,0:02:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My first memories are from the boat --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.57,0:02:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the steady beat of the engine,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.38,0:02:57.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the bow dipping into each wave,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.22,0:03:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the vast and empty horizon.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.34,0:03:03.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't remember the pirates\Nwho came many times,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.87,0:03:06.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but were bluffed by the bravado\Nof the men on our boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.93,0:03:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the engine dying\Nand failing to start for six hours.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.55,0:03:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I do remember the lights\Non the oil rig off the Malaysian coast
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.08,0:03:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the young man who collapsed and died,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.84,0:03:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the journey's end too much for him,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.38,0:03:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the first apple I tasted,\Ngiven to me by the men on the rig.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.89,0:03:30.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No apple has ever tasted the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.48,0:03:37.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After three months in a refugee camp,\Nwe landed in Melbourne.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.55,0:03:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the next piece of the jigsaw\Nis about four women
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.09,0:03:43.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,across three generations\Nshaping a new life together.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.42,0:03:47.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We settled in Footscray,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.46,0:03:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a working-class suburb\Nwhose demographic is layers of immigrants.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.81,0:03:56.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unlike the settled middle-class suburbs,\Nwhose existence I was oblivious of,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.14,0:03:58.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was no sense\Nof entitlement in Footscray.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.20,0:04:02.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The smells from shop doors\Nwere from the rest of the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.41,0:04:04.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the snippets of halting English
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.12,0:04:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were exchanged between people\Nwho had one thing in common:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.78,0:04:09.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were starting again.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.35,0:04:13.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother worked on farms,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.21,0:04:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then on a car assembly line,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.87,0:04:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,working six days, double shifts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.03,0:04:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somehow, she found time to study English
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.17,0:04:22.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gain IT qualifications.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.15,0:04:24.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were poor.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.26,0:04:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the dollars were allocated
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.04,0:04:30.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and extra tuition in English\Nand mathematics was budgeted for
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.46,0:04:32.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,regardless of what missed out,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.51,0:04:35.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was usually new clothes;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.01,0:04:37.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were always secondhand.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.24,0:04:40.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two pairs of stockings for school,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.25,0:04:42.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,each to hide the holes in the other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.87,0:04:46.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A school uniform down to the ankles,\Nbecause it had to last for six years.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.66,0:04:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there were rare\Nbut searing chants of "slit-eye"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.64,0:04:54.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the occasional graffiti:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.40,0:04:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Asian, go home."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.59,0:04:57.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go home to where?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.87,0:05:00.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something stiffened inside me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.30,0:05:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a gathering of resolve\Nand a quiet voice saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.70,0:05:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I will bypass you."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.88,0:05:11.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother, my sister and I\Nslept in the same bed.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.55,0:05:14.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother was exhausted each night,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.81,0:05:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we told one another about our day
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.89,0:05:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listened to the movements\Nof my grandmother around the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.06,0:05:23.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother suffered from nightmares,\Nall about the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.39,0:05:28.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my job was to stay awake\Nuntil her nightmares came
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.43,0:05:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could wake her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.94,0:05:33.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She opened a computer store,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.78,0:05:36.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then studied to be a beautician\Nand opened another business.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.38,0:05:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the women came with their stories
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.18,0:05:41.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about men who could not\Nmake the transition,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.84,0:05:43.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,angry and inflexible,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.62,0:05:46.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and troubled children\Ncaught between two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.06,0:05:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grants and sponsors were sought.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.10,0:05:50.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Centers were established.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.84,0:05:53.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lived in parallel worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.98,0:05:57.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In one, I was the classic Asian student,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.04,0:05:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,relentless in the demands\Nthat I made on myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.77,0:06:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the other, I was enmeshed\Nin lives that were precarious,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.89,0:06:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tragically scarred by violence,\Ndrug abuse and isolation.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.92,0:06:10.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But so many over the years were helped.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.98,0:06:13.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for that work,\Nwhen I was a final-year law student,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.92,0:06:16.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was chosen as the Young\NAustralian of the Year.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.50,0:06:20.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was catapulted from\None piece of the jigsaw to another,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.45,0:06:22.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their edges didn't fit.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.01,0:06:25.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tan Le, anonymous Footscray resident,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.28,0:06:28.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was now Tan Le,\Nrefugee and social activist,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.64,0:06:32.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,invited to speak in venues\Nshe had never heard of
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.08,0:06:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and into homes whose existence\Nshe could never have imagined.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.51,0:06:38.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know the protocols.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.60,0:06:40.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to use the cutlery.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.31,0:06:43.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to talk about wine.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.70,0:06:46.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to talk about anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.64,0:06:50.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to retreat\Nto the routines and comfort
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.58,0:06:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of life in an unsung suburb --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.08,0:06:56.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grandmother, a mother and two daughters
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.73,0:07:00.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ending each day as they had\Nfor almost 20 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.44,0:07:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling one another the story of their day
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.92,0:07:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and falling asleep,\Nthe three of us still in the same bed.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.74,0:07:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my mother I couldn't do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.31,0:07:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She reminded me that I was now\Nthe same age she had been
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.79,0:07:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we boarded the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.15,0:07:19.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No" had never been an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.48,0:07:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Just do it," she said,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.83,0:07:24.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"and don't be what you're not."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.74,0:07:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spoke out on youth\Nunemployment and education
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.98,0:07:32.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the neglect of the marginalized\Nand disenfranchised.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.48,0:07:35.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the more candidly I spoke,\Nthe more I was asked to speak.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.86,0:07:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met people from all walks of life,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.95,0:07:42.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many of them doing\Nthe thing they loved,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.53,0:07:44.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,living on the frontiers of possibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.17,0:07:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even though I finished my degree,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.60,0:07:50.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized I could not settle\Ninto a career in law.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.28,0:07:53.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There had to be another piece\Nof the jigsaw.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.55,0:07:56.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized, at the same time,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.90,0:07:59.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it is OK to be an outsider,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.57,0:08:01.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a recent arrival,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.34,0:08:02.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,new on the scene --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.22,0:08:04.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not just OK,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.98,0:08:07.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but something to be thankful for,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.27,0:08:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perhaps a gift from the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.89,0:08:14.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because being an insider can so easily\Nmean collapsing the horizons,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.49,0:08:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can so easily mean accepting\Nthe presumptions of your province.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.87,0:08:22.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have stepped outside\Nmy comfort zone enough now
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.30,0:08:25.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to know that, yes,\Nthe world does fall apart,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.04,0:08:26.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not in the way that you fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.45,0:08:29.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Possibilities that would not\Nhave been allowed
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.76,0:08:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were outrageously encouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.94,0:08:33.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was an energy there,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.43,0:08:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an implacable optimism,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.51,0:08:38.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a strange mixture of humility and daring.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.21,0:08:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I followed my hunches.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.98,0:08:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I gathered around me\Na small team of people
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.49,0:08:47.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for whom the label "It can't be done"\Nwas an irresistible challenge.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.28,0:08:49.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a year, we were penniless.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.31,0:08:52.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of each day,\NI made a huge pot of soup
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.68,0:08:54.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which we all shared.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.85,0:08:56.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We worked well into each night.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.23,0:09:00.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of our ideas were crazy,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.51,0:09:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a few were brilliant,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.34,0:09:03.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we broke through.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.45,0:09:08.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made the decision to move\Nto the US after only one trip.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.62,0:09:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My hunches again.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.57,0:09:15.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Three months later, I had relocated,\Nand the adventure has continued.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.56,0:09:20.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before I close, though,\Nlet me tell you about my grandmother.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.92,0:09:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up at a time when Confucianism\Nwas the social norm
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.56,0:09:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the local mandarin\Nwas the person who mattered.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.85,0:09:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Life hadn't changed for centuries.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.95,0:09:34.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her father died soon after she was born.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.58,0:09:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her mother raised her alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.59,0:09:43.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 17, she became the second wife\Nof a mandarin whose mother beat her.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.63,0:09:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With no support from her husband,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.65,0:09:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she caused a sensation\Nby taking him to court
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.38,0:09:51.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and prosecuting her own case,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.64,0:09:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a far greater sensation when she won.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.39,0:09:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.90,0:10:00.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.17,0:10:02.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"It can't be done" was shown to be wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.72,0:10:08.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was taking a shower\Nin a hotel room in Sydney
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.78,0:10:10.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the moment she died,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.36,0:10:12.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,600 miles away, in Melbourne.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.20,0:10:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I looked through the shower screen\Nand saw her standing on the other side.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.36,0:10:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew she had come to say goodbye.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.06,0:10:22.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother phoned minutes later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.42,0:10:25.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A few days later,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.73,0:10:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we went to a Buddhist temple in Footscray\Nand sat around her casket.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.08,0:10:33.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We told her stories and assured her\Nthat we were still with her.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.82,0:10:39.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At midnight, the monk came\Nand told us he had to close the casket.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.50,0:10:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother asked us to feel her hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.65,0:10:45.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She asked the monk,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.10,0:10:49.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why is it that her hand is so warm\Nand the rest of her is so cold?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.78,0:10:54.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Because you have been holding it\Nsince this morning," he said.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.78,0:10:56.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You have not let it go."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.34,0:11:03.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there is a sinew in our family,\Nit runs through the women.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.20,0:11:07.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Given who we were\Nand how life had shaped us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.18,0:11:10.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can now see that the men\Nthat might have come into our lives
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.54,0:11:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would have thwarted us.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.47,0:11:14.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Defeat would have come too easily.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.69,0:11:19.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I would like to have my own children,\Nand I wonder about the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.89,0:11:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who could ever wish it on their own?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.04,0:11:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yet I am afraid of privilege,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.21,0:11:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of ease,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.44,0:11:28.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of entitlement.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.56,0:11:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can I give them a bow in their lives,\Ndipping bravely into each wave,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.62,0:11:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unperturbed and steady\Nbeat of the engine,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.99,0:11:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the vast horizon that guarantees nothing?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.54,0:11:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.33,0:11:45.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if I could give it
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.75,0:11:48.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and still see them safely through,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.09,0:11:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.42,0:11:57.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.19,0:12:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trevor Neilson: And also,\NTan's mother is here today,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.48,0:12:08.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the fourth or fifth row.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.10,0:12:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)