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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.69,0:00:02.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I speak in 10 minutes
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.94,0:00:06.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the bonds of women\Nover three generations,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.51,0:00:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how the astonishing\Nstrength of those bonds
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.59,0:00:12.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,took hold in the life\Nof a four-year-old girl
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.22,0:00:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,huddled with her young sister,\Nher mother and her grandmother
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.08,0:00:21.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for five days and nights\Nin a small boat in the China Sea
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.93,0:00:23.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than 30 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.47,0:00:27.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bonds that took hold\Nin the life of that small girl
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.05,0:00:28.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and never let go --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.51,0:00:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that small girl now\Nliving in San Francisco
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.13,0:00:33.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and speaking to you today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.94,0:00:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not a finished story.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.52,0:00:40.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is a jigsaw puzzle\Nstill being put together.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.12,0:00:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me tell you about some of the pieces.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.96,0:00:48.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine the first piece:\Na man burning his life's work.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.67,0:00:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is a poet, a playwright,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.97,0:00:54.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a man whose whole life
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.27,0:00:58.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had been balanced on the single hope\Nof his country's unity and freedom.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.25,0:01:02.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine him as the communists\Nenter Saigon --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.56,0:01:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,confronting the fact\Nthat his life had been a complete waste.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.45,0:01:09.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Words, for so long his friends,\Nnow mocked him.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.25,0:01:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He retreated into silence.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.73,0:01:14.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He died broken by history.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.44,0:01:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is my grandfather.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.09,0:01:20.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never knew him in real life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.01,0:01:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But our lives are much more\Nthan our memories.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.41,0:01:28.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My grandmother never\Nlet me forget his life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.66,0:01:32.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My duty was not to allow\Nit to have been in vain,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.81,0:01:37.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my lesson was to learn\Nthat, yes, history tried to crush us,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.31,0:01:38.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we endured.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.02,0:01:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The next piece of the jigsaw\Nis of a boat in the early dawn
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.56,0:01:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slipping silently out to sea.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.83,0:01:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother, Mai, was 18\Nwhen her father died --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.32,0:01:52.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already in an arranged marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.53,0:01:54.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already with two small girls.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.52,0:01:58.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For her, life had distilled\Nitself into one task:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.23,0:02:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the escape of her family\Nand a new life in Australia.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.49,0:02:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was inconceivable to her\Nthat she would not succeed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.67,0:02:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So after a four-year saga\Nthat defies fiction,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.60,0:02:13.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a boat slipped out to sea\Ndisguised as a fishing vessel.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.41,0:02:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the adults knew the risks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.36,0:02:21.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The greatest fear\Nwas of pirates, rape and death.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.100,0:02:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like most adults on the boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.91,0:02:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mother carried\Na small bottle of poison.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.47,0:02:31.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we were captured,\Nfirst my sister and I,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.77,0:02:33.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then she and my grandmother would drink.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.47,0:02:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My first memories are from the boat --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.27,0:02:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the steady beat of the engine,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.08,0:02:42.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the bow dipping into each wave,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.92,0:02:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the vast and empty horizon.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.04,0:02:48.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't remember the pirates\Nwho came many times,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.57,0:02:51.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but were bluffed by the bravado\Nof the men on our boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.63,0:02:56.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the engine dying\Nand failing to start for six hours.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.25,0:03:01.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I do remember the lights\Non the oil rig off the Malaysian coast
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.78,0:03:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the young man who collapsed and died,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.54,0:03:06.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the journey's end too much for him,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.08,0:03:11.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the first apple I tasted,\Ngiven to me by the men on the rig.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.59,0:03:15.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No apple has ever tasted the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.18,0:03:21.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After three months in a refugee camp,\Nwe landed in Melbourne.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.25,0:03:24.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the next piece of the jigsaw\Nis about four women
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.79,0:03:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,across three generations\Nshaping a new life together.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.12,0:03:32.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We settled in Footscray,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.16,0:03:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a working-class suburb\Nwhose demographic is layers of immigrants.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.51,0:03:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unlike the settled middle-class suburbs,\Nwhose existence I was oblivious of,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.84,0:03:43.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was no sense\Nof entitlement in Footscray.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.90,0:03:47.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The smells from shop doors\Nwere from the rest of the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.11,0:03:48.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the snippets of halting English
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.82,0:03:52.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were exchanged between people\Nwho had one thing in common:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.48,0:03:53.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were starting again.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.45,0:03:57.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother worked on farms,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.31,0:03:58.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then on a car assembly line,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.97,0:04:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,working six days, double shifts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.13,0:04:04.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somehow, she found time to study English
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.27,0:04:06.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gain IT qualifications.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.25,0:04:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were poor.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.36,0:04:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the dollars were allocated
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.14,0:04:14.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and extra tuition in English\Nand mathematics was budgeted for
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.56,0:04:16.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,regardless of what missed out,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.61,0:04:19.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was usually new clothes;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.11,0:04:21.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were always secondhand.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.34,0:04:24.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two pairs of stockings for school,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.35,0:04:26.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,each to hide the holes in the other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.97,0:04:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A school uniform down to the ankles,\Nbecause it had to last for six years.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.76,0:04:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there were rare\Nbut searing chants of "slit-eye"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.74,0:04:38.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the occasional graffiti:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.50,0:04:39.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Asian, go home."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.69,0:04:41.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go home to where?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.97,0:04:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something stiffened inside me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.40,0:04:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a gathering of resolve\Nand a quiet voice saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.80,0:04:50.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I will bypass you."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.98,0:04:55.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother, my sister and I\Nslept in the same bed.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.65,0:04:58.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother was exhausted each night,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.91,0:05:00.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we told one another about our day
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.99,0:05:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listened to the movements\Nof my grandmother around the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.16,0:05:07.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother suffered from nightmares,\Nall about the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.49,0:05:12.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my job was to stay awake\Nuntil her nightmares came
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.53,0:05:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could wake her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.04,0:05:17.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She opened a computer store,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.88,0:05:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then studied to be a beautician\Nand opened another business.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.48,0:05:23.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the women came with their stories
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.28,0:05:25.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about men who could not\Nmake the transition,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.94,0:05:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,angry and inflexible,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.72,0:05:30.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and troubled children\Ncaught between two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.16,0:05:33.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grants and sponsors were sought.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.20,0:05:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Centers were established.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.94,0:05:37.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lived in parallel worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.08,0:05:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In one, I was the classic Asian student,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.14,0:05:43.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,relentless in the demands\Nthat I made on myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.57,0:05:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the other, I was enmeshed\Nin lives that were precarious,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.69,0:05:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tragically scarred by violence,\Ndrug abuse and isolation.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.72,0:05:54.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But so many over the years were helped.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.78,0:05:57.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for that work,\Nwhen I was a final-year law student,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.72,0:06:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was chosen as the Young\NAustralian of the Year.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.30,0:06:04.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was catapulted from\None piece of the jigsaw to another,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.25,0:06:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their edges didn't fit.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.81,0:06:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tan Le, anonymous Footscray resident,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.08,0:06:12.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was now Tan Le,\Nrefugee and social activist,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.44,0:06:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,invited to speak in venues\Nshe had never heard of
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.88,0:06:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and into homes whose existence\Nshe could never have imagined.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.31,0:06:21.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know the protocols.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.40,0:06:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to use the cutlery.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.11,0:06:27.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to talk about wine.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.50,0:06:30.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know how to talk about anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.44,0:06:34.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to retreat\Nto the routines and comfort
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.38,0:06:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of life in an unsung suburb --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.48,0:06:40.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grandmother, a mother and two daughters
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.13,0:06:43.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ending each day as they had\Nfor almost 20 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.84,0:06:46.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling one another the story of their day
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.32,0:06:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and falling asleep,\Nthe three of us still in the same bed.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.14,0:06:54.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told my mother I couldn't do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.71,0:06:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She reminded me that I was now\Nthe same age she had been
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.19,0:07:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we boarded the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.55,0:07:03.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No" had never been an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.88,0:07:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Just do it," she said,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.23,0:07:07.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"and don't be what you're not."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.14,0:07:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spoke out on youth\Nunemployment and education
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.38,0:07:15.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the neglect of the marginalized\Nand disenfranchised.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.88,0:07:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the more candidly I spoke,\Nthe more I was asked to speak.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.26,0:07:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met people from all walks of life,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.35,0:07:25.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many of them doing\Nthe thing they loved,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.93,0:07:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,living on the frontiers of possibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.57,0:07:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even though I finished my degree,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.00,0:07:34.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized I could not settle\Ninto a career in law.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.68,0:07:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There had to be another piece\Nof the jigsaw.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.95,0:07:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized, at the same time,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.30,0:07:42.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it is OK to be an outsider,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.97,0:07:44.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a recent arrival,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.74,0:07:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,new on the scene --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.62,0:07:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not just OK,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.38,0:07:50.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but something to be thankful for,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.67,0:07:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perhaps a gift from the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.29,0:07:57.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because being an insider can so easily\Nmean collapsing the horizons,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.89,0:08:01.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can so easily mean accepting\Nthe presumptions of your province.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.97,0:08:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have stepped outside\Nmy comfort zone enough now
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.40,0:08:08.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to know that, yes,\Nthe world does fall apart,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.14,0:08:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not in the way that you fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.55,0:08:12.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Possibilities that would not\Nhave been allowed
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.86,0:08:14.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were outrageously encouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.04,0:08:16.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was an energy there,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.54,0:08:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an implacable optimism,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.61,0:08:21.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a strange mixture of humility and daring.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.31,0:08:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I followed my hunches.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.08,0:08:26.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I gathered around me\Na small team of people
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.59,0:08:30.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for whom the label "It can't be done"\Nwas an irresistible challenge.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.38,0:08:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a year, we were penniless.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.41,0:08:35.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of each day,\NI made a huge pot of soup
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.78,0:08:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which we all shared.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.95,0:08:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We worked well into each night.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.33,0:08:41.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of our ideas were crazy,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.61,0:08:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a few were brilliant,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.44,0:08:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we broke through.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.55,0:08:50.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made the decision to move\Nto the US after only one trip.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.72,0:08:52.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My hunches again.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.67,0:08:57.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Three months later, I had relocated,\Nand the adventure has continued.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.66,0:09:02.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before I close, though,\Nlet me tell you about my grandmother.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.02,0:09:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She grew up at a time when Confucianism\Nwas the social norm
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.66,0:09:10.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the local mandarin\Nwas the person who mattered.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.95,0:09:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Life hadn't changed for centuries.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.05,0:09:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her father died soon after she was born.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.68,0:09:19.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her mother raised her alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.69,0:09:25.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At 17, she became the second wife\Nof a mandarin whose mother beat her.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.73,0:09:28.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With no support from her husband,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.75,0:09:31.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she caused a sensation\Nby taking him to court
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.48,0:09:33.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and prosecuting her own case,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.74,0:09:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a far greater sensation when she won.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.49,0:09:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.00,0:09:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.07,0:09:45.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"It can't be done" was shown to be wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.62,0:09:51.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was taking a shower\Nin a hotel room in Sydney
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.68,0:09:53.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the moment she died,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.26,0:09:55.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,600 miles away, in Melbourne.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.10,0:10:01.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I looked through the shower screen\Nand saw her standing on the other side.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.26,0:10:03.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew she had come to say goodbye.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.96,0:10:05.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother phoned minutes later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.32,0:10:08.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A few days later,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.63,0:10:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we went to a Buddhist temple in Footscray\Nand sat around her casket.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.98,0:10:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We told her stories and assured her\Nthat we were still with her.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.72,0:10:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At midnight, the monk came\Nand told us he had to close the casket.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.40,0:10:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother asked us to feel her hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.55,0:10:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She asked the monk,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.00,0:10:32.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why is it that her hand is so warm\Nand the rest of her is so cold?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.68,0:10:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Because you have been holding it\Nsince this morning," he said.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.68,0:10:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You have not let it go."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.24,0:10:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there is a sinew in our family,\Nit runs through the women.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.10,0:10:50.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Given who we were\Nand how life had shaped us,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.08,0:10:53.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can now see that the men\Nthat might have come into our lives
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.44,0:10:54.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would have thwarted us.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.37,0:10:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Defeat would have come too easily.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.59,0:11:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I would like to have my own children,\Nand I wonder about the boat.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.79,0:11:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who could ever wish it on their own?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.94,0:11:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yet I am afraid of privilege,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.11,0:11:10.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of ease,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.34,0:11:11.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of entitlement.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.46,0:11:16.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can I give them a bow in their lives,\Ndipping bravely into each wave,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.52,0:11:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unperturbed and steady\Nbeat of the engine,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.89,0:11:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the vast horizon that guarantees nothing?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.44,0:11:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.23,0:11:28.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if I could give it
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.65,0:11:30.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and still see them safely through,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.99,0:11:32.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.32,0:11:40.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.09,0:11:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trevor Neilson: And also,\NTan's mother is here today,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.38,0:11:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the fourth or fifth row.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.00,0:11:55.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)