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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.72,0:00:03.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was on a long road trip this summer,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.17,0:00:06.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was having\Na wonderful time listening
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.24,0:00:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the amazing Isabel Wilkerson's\N"The Warmth of Other Suns."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.99,0:00:20.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It documents six million black folks\Nfleeing the South from 1915 to 1970
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.76,0:00:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking for a respite\Nfrom all the brutality
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.24,0:00:27.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and trying to get to a better\Nopportunity up North,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.100,0:00:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was filled with stories\Nof the resilience and the brilliance
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.41,0:00:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of African-Americans,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.36,0:00:38.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was also really hard to hear\Nall the stories of the horrors
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.73,0:00:43.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,\Nand the humility,\Nand all the humiliations.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.32,0:00:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was especially hard to hear\Nabout the beatings and the burnings
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.03,0:00:51.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the lynchings of black men.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.37,0:00:54.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "You know,\Nthis is a little deep.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.63,0:00:58.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I need a break. I'm going\Nto turn on the radio."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.92,0:01:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I turned it on, and there it was:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.06,0:01:04.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ferguson, Missouri,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.23,0:01:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Michael Brown,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.44,0:01:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,18-year-old black man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.66,0:01:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unarmed, shot by a white police officer,\Nlaid on the ground dead,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.56,0:01:18.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,blood running for four hours
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.48,0:01:22.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while his grandmother and little children\Nand his neighbors watched in horror,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.99,0:01:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.02,0:01:29.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here it is again.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.24,0:01:32.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This violence, this brutality\Nagainst black men
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.96,0:01:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been going on for centuries.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.82,0:01:40.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, it's the same story.\NIt's just different names.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.40,0:01:43.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Amadou Diallo.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.50,0:01:46.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Sean Bell.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.82,0:01:50.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Oscar Grant.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.21,0:01:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Trayvon Martin.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.20,0:01:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This violence, this brutality,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.04,0:01:59.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is really something that's part\Nof our national psyche.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.86,0:02:02.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's part of our collective history.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.63,0:02:07.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are we going to do about it?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.45,0:02:11.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know that part of us that still\Ncrosses the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.67,0:02:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,locks the doors,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.72,0:02:17.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,clutches the purses,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.08,0:02:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we see young black men?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.96,0:02:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That part.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.02,0:02:25.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I know we're not\Nshooting people down in the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.97,0:02:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm saying that the same\Nstereotypes and prejudices
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.06,0:02:33.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that fuel those kinds of tragic incidents\N
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.12,0:02:35.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.33,0:02:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been schooled in them as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.20,0:02:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that we can stop\Nthese types of incidents,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.76,0:02:48.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these Fergusons from happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.73,0:02:54.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by looking within\Nand being willing to change ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.08,0:02:57.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I have a call to action for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.37,0:03:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are three things that I want\Nto offer us today to think about
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.45,0:03:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as ways to stop Ferguson\Nfrom happening again;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.56,0:03:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three things that I think will help us
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.86,0:03:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reform our images of young black men;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.34,0:03:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three things that I'm hoping\Nwill not only protect them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.65,0:03:20.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but will open the world\Nso that they can thrive.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.85,0:03:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine that?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.15,0:03:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine our country\Nembracing young black men,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.70,0:03:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seeing them as part of our future,\Ngiving them that kind of openness,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.04,0:03:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that kind of grace we give\Nto people we love?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.76,0:03:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How much better would our lives be?\NHow much better would our country be?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.05,0:03:43.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me just start with number one.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.97,0:03:46.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We gotta get out of denial.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.96,0:03:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop trying to be good people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.36,0:03:53.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need real people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.50,0:03:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I do a lot of diversity work,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.41,0:03:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and people will come up to me\Nat the beginning of the workshop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.38,0:04:02.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're like, "Oh, Ms. Diversity Lady,\Nwe're so glad you're here" --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.07,0:04:03.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.65,0:04:06.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"but we don't have a biased bone \Nin our body."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.66,0:04:08.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm like, "Really?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.52,0:04:13.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I do this work every day,\Nand I see all my biases."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.01,0:04:16.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, not too long ago, I was on a plane
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.52,0:04:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I heard the voice of a woman\Npilot coming over the P.A. system,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.90,0:04:23.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was just so excited, so thrilled.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.01,0:04:26.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was like, "Yes, women,\Nwe are rocking it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.12,0:04:28.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are now in the stratosphere."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.33,0:04:31.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was all good, and then it started\Ngetting turbulent and bumpy,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.46,0:04:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.88,0:04:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I hope she can drive."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.30,0:04:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.63,0:04:37.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know. Right.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.83,0:04:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's not even like\NI knew that was a bias
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.07,0:04:43.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until I was coming back on the other leg\Nand there's always a guy driving
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.56,0:04:45.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's often turbulent and bumpy,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.31,0:04:48.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've never questioned\Nthe confidence of the male driver.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.13,0:04:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The pilot is good.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.09,0:04:52.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, here's the problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.58,0:05:00.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you ask me explicitly,\NI would say, "Female pilot: awesome."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.10,0:05:04.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it appears that when things get funky\Nand a little troublesome, a little risky,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.79,0:05:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lean on a bias that I didn't\Neven know that I had.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.80,0:05:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, fast-moving planes in the sky,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.42,0:05:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want a guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.38,0:05:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's my default.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.66,0:05:18.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men are my default.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.29,0:05:20.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who is your default?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.61,0:05:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you trust?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.64,0:05:24.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who are you afraid of?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.77,0:05:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you implicitly feel connected to?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.80,0:05:31.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you run away from?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.85,0:05:34.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to tell you\Nwhat we have learned.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.27,0:05:39.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The implicit association test,\Nwhich measures unconscious bias,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.67,0:05:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can go online and take it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.39,0:05:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Five million people have taken it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.64,0:05:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Turns out, our default is white.\NWe like white people.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.56,0:05:52.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We prefer white. What do I mean by that?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.32,0:05:57.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When people are shown images \Nof black men and white men,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.57,0:06:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are more quickly able to associate
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.56,0:06:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that picture with a positive word,\Nthat white person with a positive word,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.64,0:06:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than we are when we are \Ntrying to associate
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.30,0:06:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,positive with a black face,\Nand vice versa.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.01,0:06:13.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we see a black face,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.90,0:06:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is easier for us to connect\Nblack with negative
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.95,0:06:22.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than it is white with negative.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.08,0:06:27.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seventy percent of white people\Ntaking that test prefer white.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.04,0:06:33.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fifty percent of black people\Ntaking that test prefer white.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.75,0:06:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, we were all outside\Nwhen the contamination came down.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.31,0:06:45.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do we do about the fact\Nthat our brain automatically associates?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.70,0:06:51.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, one of the things\Nthat you probably are thinking about,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.31,0:06:53.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're probably like, you know what,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.28,0:06:56.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just going to double down\Non my color blindness.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.82,0:06:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I'm going to recommit to that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.54,0:07:00.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to suggest to you, no.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.66,0:07:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've gone about as far as we can go\Ntrying to make a difference
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.82,0:07:05.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to not see color.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.43,0:07:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem was never that we saw color.\NIt was what we did when we saw the color.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.27,0:07:14.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a false ideal.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.27,0:07:17.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while we're busy \Npretending not to see,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.04,0:07:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are not being aware of the ways\Nin which racial difference
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.87,0:07:26.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is changing people's possibilities,\Nthat's keeping them from thriving,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.15,0:07:31.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes it's causing them\Nan early death.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.34,0:07:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in fact, what the scientists\Nare telling us is, no way.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.88,0:07:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't even think about color blindness.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.28,0:07:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, what they're suggesting is,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.76,0:07:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stare at awesome black people.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.29,0:07:48.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.03,0:07:52.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look at them directly in their faces\Nand memorize them,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.100,0:07:57.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when we look\Nat awesome folks who are black,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.66,0:08:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it helps to dissociate
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.87,0:08:06.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the association that happens\Nautomatically in our brain.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.40,0:08:11.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you think I'm showing you\Nthese beautiful black men behind me?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.83,0:08:15.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were so many, I had to cut them.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.04,0:08:16.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so here's the thing:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.35,0:08:22.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm trying to reset your automatic\Nassociations about who black men are.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.28,0:08:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm trying to remind you
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.64,0:08:29.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that young black men\Ngrow up to be amazing human beings
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.66,0:08:35.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have changed our lives\Nand made them better.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.37,0:08:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So here's the thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.89,0:08:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other possibility in science,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.44,0:08:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's only temporarily changing\Nour automatic assumptions,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.36,0:08:45.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one thing we know
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.87,0:08:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that if you take a white person\Nwho is odious that you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.66,0:08:53.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and stick it up next to a person of color,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.67,0:08:56.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a black person, who is fabulous,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.13,0:08:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then that sometimes actually\Ncauses us to disassociate too.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.64,0:09:04.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So think Jeffrey Dahmer and Colin Powell.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.85,0:09:07.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just stare at them, right? (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.36,0:09:10.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But these are the things.\NSo go looking for your bias.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.17,0:09:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please, please, just get out of denial\Nand go looking for disconfirming data
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.26,0:09:18.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will prove that in fact\Nyour old stereotypes are wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.85,0:09:20.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so that's number one: number two,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.78,0:09:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I'm going to say is move toward\Nyoung black men instead of away from them.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.47,0:09:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not the hardest thing to do,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.06,0:09:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's also one of these things
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.93,0:09:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you have to be conscious \Nand intentional about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.60,0:09:37.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I was in a Wall Street area \None time several years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.71,0:09:41.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I was with a colleague of mine,\Nand she's really wonderful
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.09,0:09:44.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she does diversity work with me\Nand she's a woman of color, she's Korean.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.73,0:09:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we were outside,\Nit was late at night,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.68,0:09:49.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were sort of wondering where\Nwe were going, we were lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.73,0:09:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I saw this person across the street,\Nand I was thinking, "Oh great, black guy."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.91,0:09:56.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was going toward him\Nwithout even thinking about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.68,0:10:00.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she was like,\N"Oh, that's interesting."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.46,0:10:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The guy across the street,\Nhe was a black guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.28,0:10:06.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think black guys generally\Nknow where they're going.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.94,0:10:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know why exactly I think that,\Nbut that's what I think.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.58,0:10:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So she was saying, "Oh, you\Nwere going, 'Yay, a black guy'?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.92,0:10:18.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "I was going,\N'Ooh, a black guy.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.99,0:10:22.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Other direction. Same need,\Nsame guy, same clothes,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.38,0:10:25.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,same time, same street,\Ndifferent reaction.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.73,0:10:28.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she said, "I feel so bad.\NI'm a diversity consultant.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.46,0:10:31.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did the black guy thing.\NI'm a woman of color. Oh my God!"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.28,0:10:35.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "You know what? Please.\NWe really need to relax about this."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.06,0:10:38.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, you've got to realize\NI go way back with black guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.78,0:10:41.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.53,0:10:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad is a black guy.\NYou see what I'm saying?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.76,0:10:48.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got a 6'5" black guy son.\NI was married to a black guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.70,0:10:51.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My black guy thing\Nis so wide and so deep
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.22,0:10:56.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I can pretty much sort\Nand figure out who that black guy is,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.01,0:10:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was my black guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.96,0:11:01.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Yes, ladies, I know\Nwhere you're going. I'll take you there."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.73,0:11:05.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, biases are the stories\Nwe make up about people
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.38,0:11:07.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before we know who they actually are.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.89,0:11:10.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how are we going to know who they are
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.62,0:11:14.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we've been told to avoid\Nand be afraid of them?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.43,0:11:19.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm going to tell you\Nto walk toward your discomfort.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.48,0:11:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm not asking you\Nto take any crazy risks.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.52,0:11:27.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm saying, just do an inventory,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.42,0:11:31.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,expand your social\Nand professional circles.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.31,0:11:33.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's in your circle?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.14,0:11:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's missing?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.64,0:11:39.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many authentic relationships
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.59,0:11:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you have with young black people,\Nfolks, men, women?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.06,0:11:49.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or any other major difference\Nfrom who you are
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.81,0:11:53.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how you roll, so to speak?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.15,0:11:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, you know what?\NJust look around your periphery.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.23,0:11:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There may be somebody at work,\Nin your classroom,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.53,0:12:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your house of worship, somewhere,\Nthere's some black young guy there.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.98,0:12:03.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're nice. You say hi.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.44,0:12:09.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm saying go deeper, closer, further,\Nand build the kinds of relationships,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.78,0:12:15.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the kinds of friendships that actually\Ncause you to see the holistic person
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.06,0:12:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to really go against the stereotypes.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.55,0:12:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know some of you are out there,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.14,0:12:23.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,\NI know because I have some white\Nfriends in particular that will say,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.44,0:12:25.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You have no idea how awkward I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.41,0:12:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I don't think this\Nis going to work for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.14,0:12:29.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure I'm going to blow this."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.88,0:12:35.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, maybe, but this thing is not \Nabout perfection. It's about connection.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.84,0:12:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're not going to get comfortable\Nbefore you get uncomfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.84,0:12:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, you just have to do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.97,0:12:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And young black men, what I'm saying is
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.32,0:12:50.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if someone comes your way, genuinely\Nand authentically, take the invitation.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:50.36,0:12:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not everyone is out to get you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.21,0:12:56.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go looking for those people\Nwho can see your humanity.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.69,0:13:00.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, it's the empathy\Nand the compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.20,0:13:04.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that comes out of having relationships\Nwith people who are different from you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.90,0:13:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something really powerful\Nand beautiful happens:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.90,0:13:10.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you start to realize that they are you,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.41,0:13:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they are part of you,\Nthat they are you in your family,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.20,0:13:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we cease to be bystanders
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.19,0:13:23.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become actors,\Nwe become advocates,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.18,0:13:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become allies.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.68,0:13:31.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So go away from your comfort\Ninto a bigger, brighter thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.15,0:13:36.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that is how we will stop\Nanother Ferguson from happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.14,0:13:38.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's how we create a community
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.37,0:13:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where everybody, especially\Nyoung black men, can thrive.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.38,0:13:44.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this last thing is going to be harder,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.30,0:13:47.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know it, but I'm just going\Nto put it out there anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.17,0:13:52.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we see something, we have to have\Nthe courage to say something,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.41,0:13:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even to the people we love.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.21,0:13:59.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, it's holidays\Nand it's going to be a time
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.85,0:14:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're sitting around the table\Nand having a good time.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.28,0:14:05.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of us, anyways, will be in holidays,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.48,0:14:10.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you've got to listen to\Nthe conversations around the table.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.40,0:14:17.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You start to say things like,\N"Grandma's a bigot."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.09,0:14:18.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.92,0:14:21.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uncle Joe is racist."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.86,0:14:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know, we love Grandma\Nand we love Uncle Joe. We do.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.48,0:14:31.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know they're good people,\Nbut what they're saying is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.32,0:14:38.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we need to be able to say something,\Nbecause you know who else is at the table?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.30,0:14:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The children are at the table.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.15,0:14:48.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we wonder why these biases don't die,\Nand move from generation to generation?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.40,0:14:51.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we're not saying anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.65,0:14:58.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've got to be willing to say, "Grandma,\Nwe don't call people that anymore."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.17,0:15:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uncle Joe, it isn't true\Nthat he deserved that.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.38,0:15:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No one deserves that."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.32,0:15:09.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we've got to be willing
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.73,0:15:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to not shelter our children\Nfrom the ugliness of racism
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.51,0:15:17.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when black parents don't\Nhave the luxury to do so,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:17.82,0:15:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially those who have \Nyoung black sons.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.60,0:15:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've got to take \Nour lovely darlings, our future,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.98,0:15:33.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we've got to tell them we have \Nan amazing country with incredible ideals,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.78,0:15:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have worked incredibly hard,\Nand we have made some progress,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:36.76,0:15:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we are not done.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:39.93,0:15:43.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We still have in us this old stuff
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.93,0:15:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about superiority and it is causing us
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.97,0:15:50.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to embed those further\Ninto our institutions
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.44,0:15:52.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our society and generations,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.42,0:15:56.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it is making for despair
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.03,0:16:03.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and disparities and a devastating\Ndevaluing of young black men.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.15,0:16:05.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We still struggle, you have to tell them,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.61,0:16:08.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with seeing both the color
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.39,0:16:12.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the character of young black men,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.02,0:16:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that you, and you expect them,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.86,0:16:20.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be part of the forces of change\Nin this society
Dialogue: 0,0:16:20.37,0:16:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will stand against injustice\Nand is willing, above all other things,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:26.94,0:16:35.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make a society where young black men \Ncan be seen for all of who they are.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.70,0:16:41.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So many amazing black men,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.63,0:16:49.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those who are the most amazing\Nstatesmen that have ever lived,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.96,0:16:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brave soldiers,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.99,0:16:57.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,awesome, hardworking laborers.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.29,0:17:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are people who\Nare powerful preachers.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:01.94,0:17:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are incredible scientists\Nand artists and writers.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.54,0:17:11.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are dynamic comedians.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.51,0:17:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are doting grandpas,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:16.45,0:17:19.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caring sons.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.48,0:17:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are strong fathers,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.24,0:17:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are young men\Nwith dreams of their own.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.59,0:17:32.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:32.15,0:17:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)