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Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.38,0:00:09.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,<Breaking Bad Habits>
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.49,0:00:12.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) I'm very glad\Nto see you again.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.25,0:00:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for all the help you've provided\Nfor me and a lot of people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.83,0:00:22.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Definitely, your wisdom is very much\Nappreciated and accepted.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.46,0:00:31.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm doing pretty good lately \Nand, at times, feel a lot of equanimity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.61,0:00:38.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While there is a lot of peace of mind, there's \Nalways a nagging voice in the background.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.63,0:00:45.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm afraid to go back to my old habits.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.22,0:00:54.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though I've improved a lot,\Nthere are moments I still fall back
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.40,0:01:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with less intensity, \Nand I feel frustrated when that happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.90,0:01:22.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Practice has been incredible\Nin easing most of my mental afflictions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.58,0:01:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through a lot of reflection,\Nand I feel much better.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.42,0:01:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But now that I've been feeling this\Nequanimity for a few weeks
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.33,0:01:38.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and feeling very good,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.79,0:01:45.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's always a nervousness that\NI'll fall back into my habitual patterns.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.31,0:01:52.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In a way, that's negative thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.93,0:01:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very difficult \Nto break these habitual patterns.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.49,0:02:04.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why is it so difficult?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.49,0:02:15.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Has your relationship with\Nyour daughter improved a lot, or
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.43,0:02:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have you been able to let go of the issues \Nthat were hanging over that relationship?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.48,0:02:24.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.28,0:02:31.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) That's great. \NLet me ask you a question.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.65,0:02:53.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which one is more likely to succeed:\Ntrying something for the first time,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.34,0:03:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or trying what you have succeeded\Npreviously and going at it again?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.64,0:03:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Sometimes it's more difficult \Nto go back and review all these patterns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.09,0:03:15.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it's a little easier.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.63,0:03:19.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But let's say it's easier\Nto go through new things.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.16,0:03:31.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Still there's some difficulty in that too,\Nbut it gives a better outcome in some way.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.83,0:03:40.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) You've experienced\Nsome tough times in your life.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.45,0:03:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you said you have gotten a lot better\Nand can maintain equanimity,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.09,0:03:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having gone through a lot of practice and\Nputting in a lot of effort to get there.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.68,0:04:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if your concern comes true\Nand you revert back,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.72,0:04:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would you be a little better than before,\Nknowing what you know
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.68,0:04:21.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and having the capacity that you do, \Nor would you be just as bad as before?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.26,0:04:26.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) I'll be definitely better off\Nknowing what I know now, much better.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.67,0:04:33.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, in some ways, I'm very glad for\Nwhatever I did to overcome
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.10,0:04:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mental attachment.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.46,0:04:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am so glad that \NI went through the work
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.93,0:04:47.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I definitely feel\Nthat I'm better off like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.49,0:05:35.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) The point I'm trying to make is that,\Nlet's say you started off at minus 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.16,0:05:39.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you worked yourself \Nall the way up to plus 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.05,0:05:45.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you relapse as you are concerned, \Nyou won't relapse all the way to minus 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.27,0:05:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You'll relapse maybe to minus 5,\Nand if you restart at minus 5,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.50,0:05:57.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,getting to plus 10 or even 15 will be\Nmuch easier than the first time.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.49,0:06:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I'm trying to say is that, \Neven if you relapse,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.32,0:06:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not as bad as before, \Nand you have already built up
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.36,0:06:07.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the capacity to bring yourself back up.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.96,0:06:11.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, there's no reason \Nfor you to be concerned.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.18,0:06:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need to practice being awake as much \Nas possible in order to not relapse.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.48,0:06:34.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you do not need to be\Nscared of relapsing
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.75,0:06:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it'll be much easier\Nto find equanimity again,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.20,0:06:41.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if you relapse \Nand fall back into your old pattern.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.60,0:06:43.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can just try again.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.24,0:06:50.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm saying that you should not be\Nscared of relapsing.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.23,0:06:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, you won't relapse.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.66,0:07:03.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, even if you do, it's going to be\Neasier for you to come back,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.17,0:07:04.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so there's no big problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.95,0:07:20.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ultimately what I'm trying to say is that\Nthere's nothing for you to be afraid of.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.29,0:07:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Thank you, Sunim.\NYou're right, and I really get your point.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.74,0:07:34.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I cannot say that it's greed, but I\Ndefinitely understand from experience now
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.53,0:07:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even when I relapse into\Nsome kind of a mental affliction or
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.56,0:07:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,attachment due to these habitual patterns,\Ntheir intensity is much less by far.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.58,0:07:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I definitely agree with you that\Nfrom minus 10, possibly I work up to 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.10,0:07:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I agree. You are right.\NI have already experienced that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.24,0:08:02.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's good that you mentioned\Nbecause I do fall,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.62,0:08:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I don't feel \Nthat I fall that deep anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.38,0:08:10.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's good to know.\NThank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.65,0:08:30.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) The fear comes because you are \Nattached to that state of positivity.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.81,0:08:34.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You should just observe\Nthat you are in a good state and
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.80,0:08:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maintaining equanimity and peace of mind \Ninstead of being attached to that state.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.76,0:08:47.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our mind is always dynamic.\NIt's constantly moving.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.83,0:08:55.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just because you are in a good state now, \Nyou can't try to grab onto it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.37,0:09:06.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All you can do is just observe it as it\Nfluctuates and moves in dynamic ways.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.34,0:09:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fear comes from your attachment \Nand desire to hold on to that good state.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.72,0:09:31.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, you need to not attach yourself to\Nor obsess over the current state.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.70,0:09:40.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, it is for you to realize that,\Neven if you go back,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.85,0:09:45.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not something \Nfor you to be afraid of.