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Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.53,0:00:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My uncle Eddy is unlike \Nanyone else I've ever met.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.43,0:00:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He grew up in Oregon,\Nand resembles a lumberjack;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.74,0:00:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tall, muscular, bearded\Nand wears flannel.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.98,0:00:32.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, it's always been his personal style\Nthat I've really envied,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.42,0:00:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,large rings, earrings \Nand fabulous necklaces.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.59,0:00:40.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He often does my makeup, drag queen style\Nwith glittery false eyelashes,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.70,0:00:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brings me sparkly jewelry
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.14,0:00:45.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dresses me up\Nin feather boas and bedazzled finery.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.63,0:00:49.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We spend hours together perfecting\NEster Williams synchronized swing moves
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.51,0:00:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Judy Garland song and dance routines.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.84,0:00:57.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a little girl, I thought my uncle Eddy\Nwas the perfect manliest of men.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.45,0:00:58.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.83,0:01:02.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why Eddy would enthusiastically engage\Nin these activities with me,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.57,0:01:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while my three older brothers \Nwere less than willing participants.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.70,0:01:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.70,0:01:11.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I now understand that my brothers felt\Nthey couldn't stray outside\N
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.40,0:01:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the expected norms of masculinity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.42,0:01:16.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while Eddy had already crossed\Nall these boundaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.50,0:01:19.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I'm a pretty typical\N15-year-old girl,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.31,0:01:21.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like fashion, I spend \Ntoo much time on my phone,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.89,0:01:24.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have seen \Nevery episode of gossip girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.96,0:01:30.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm also loud, assertive, bossy.\NI like math and I am a terrible cook.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.78,0:01:34.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like everyone else, I possess\Nboth masculine and feminine qualities.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.85,0:01:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can accept a woman \Nwith masculine traits,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.55,0:01:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although the same cannot be said\Nfor men and femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.81,0:01:43.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Masculinity is consistently defined
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.04,0:01:45.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by separation and oppositeness\Nfrom femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.86,0:01:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in this way, masculinity \Nand femininity define each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.89,0:01:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no matter their individual expectations.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.47,0:01:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 1991, psychologist Monica Biernat
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.41,0:02:00.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,found that children do not initially see\Nmasculinity and femininity as opposites,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.52,0:02:04.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although as they got older, their views\Nbecame increasingly contradictory.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.50,0:02:07.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The idea that men and women\Nact as opposites,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.26,0:02:10.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their respective traits,\Nis completely learned.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.19,0:02:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've internalized these traits\Nwith a concrete male/female association,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.31,0:02:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although the traits and qualities\Nbelonging to a woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.92,0:02:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,could just as easily exist\Nwithin any man, like my uncle Eddy.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.23,0:02:24.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When one of my brothers was a toddler,\Nhe had a favorite Power Ranger,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.98,0:02:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the pink Power Ranger.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.08,0:02:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was obsessed, and would\Ndress only in this outfit.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.12,0:02:33.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn't think the pink Power Ranger \Nwas feminine, he just liked the color.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.82,0:02:38.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today he shudders with embarrassment\Nwhenever we bring up his close association
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.11,0:02:40.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to something so feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.77,0:02:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These identities are conscious,\Nchosen behaviors
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.75,0:02:46.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to act within our socials norms \Nand boundaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.51,0:02:50.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Masculinity and femininity are formed\Nby social cultural expectations,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.87,0:02:53.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not biological differences.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.31,0:02:55.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've explored femininity, \Nand we can accept
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.91,0:02:59.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a wide variety of personalities\Noutside the norm, as feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.25,0:03:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We wear pants, play sports, vote,\Nand can have the same jobs as men,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.07,0:03:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're still feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.46,0:03:08.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This acceptance and fluidity\Nis not the same for men and masculinity,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.85,0:03:13.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and men are still widely expected to live\Nwithin their impossible stereotype.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.40,0:03:15.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our ideals of masculinity\Nallow men to maintain
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.87,0:03:20.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a socially dominant position over women\Nand other gender identities.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.04,0:03:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This social dominance of masculinity\Nis known as hegemonic masculinity.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.09,0:03:27.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hegemonic masculinity \Ndraws on male privilege
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.37,0:03:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,creating an idea of superiority\Nand enforcing a dominance
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.56,0:03:33.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over other's perceived weaknesses.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.07,0:03:36.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This idea for superiority \Nsometimes leads to violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.22,0:03:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as rape and misogyny,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.96,0:03:40.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a man overcompensating\Nfor his masculinity
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.37,0:03:45.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tries to prove that he is not shy,\Nafraid, or worst of all, feminine.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.61,0:03:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Heterosexuality is one of the \Nlargest parts of hegemonic masculinity.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.89,0:03:52.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So men may use sexuality and homophobia
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.50,0:03:56.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a basis of "taking away"\Nanother man's masculinity.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.28,0:03:58.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Saying that someone is gay\Nis no longer used
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.61,0:04:00.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to question their sexuality,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.34,0:04:06.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but rather the term has become synonymous\Nwith dumb, stupid, or simply unmasculine.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.62,0:04:10.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hegemonic masculinity causes \Nmany problems throughout our society,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.51,0:04:15.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although the most powerful influence\Nit has, is that it limits our potential.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.45,0:04:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The idea that there is\Nonly one type of masculinity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.53,0:04:23.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,boxes men into this expectation,\Nand keeps women out.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.85,0:04:27.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We allow and even enforce a duality\Nor double standard.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.61,0:04:30.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Male leaders are strong,\Npowerful and decisive,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.15,0:04:33.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet a woman in the same exact position\Nis considered a bitch.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.64,0:04:37.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We slut-shame girls \Nwhile admiring a man who is a player.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.06,0:04:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hegemonic masculinity creates the idea\Nthat men are superior,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.00,0:04:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,causing self-esteem problems among women.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.47,0:04:45.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Phrases like, "Don't be such a girl",
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.24,0:04:47.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are used to describe actions\Nperformed poorly,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.58,0:04:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying that everything girls do\Nis inherently bad because of their gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.44,0:04:55.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever gender is an issue,\NI am not at my best.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.97,0:04:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wonder if many of us feel this way?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.03,0:05:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of us in our modern societies\Nstill struggle with their own greatness,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.10,0:05:06.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we second-guess\Nour ability to be equal?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.11,0:05:07.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I play the string bass,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.85,0:05:11.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so usually I'm the only girl\Nin a group of all boy basses.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.06,0:05:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last year, in the Lincoln Youth Symphony,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.02,0:05:15.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we had a playing test\Nwhich determined our seating,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.55,0:05:18.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when the results were released,\NI was first chair.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.71,0:05:22.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should have been happy, ecstatic,\Nand so proud of my achievement,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.85,0:05:24.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet I only felt panic.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.52,0:05:28.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got into my mom's car after rehearsal\Nand immediately started sobbing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.76,0:05:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was certain and terrified\Nthat the other all male bassists\N
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.98,0:05:35.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be angry at me \Nfor being first chair.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.60,0:05:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought that I shouldn't be\Nbetter than them
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.14,0:05:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and continued to downplay\Nmy own abilities.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.80,0:05:44.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the time, I couldn't articulate\Nwhy I felt this way,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.15,0:05:47.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although I've since realized\Nthat it's because hegemonic masculinity
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.37,0:05:50.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and its inherent social dominance\Nhad been so ingrained in me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.84,0:05:55.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I felt it was not my place\Nas a girl to demonstrate superior talent.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.63,0:05:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't considered any less feminine\Nby my new seating,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.88,0:06:01.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although I was still limited\Nin my identity
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.08,0:06:03.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what I thought that meant.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.10,0:06:05.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not gender conforming robots,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.26,0:06:07.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are complex human beings\Nwith countless traits
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.67,0:06:10.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that should not be confined by a gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.32,0:06:13.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even subconsciously we are worried\Nabout being judged
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.18,0:06:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or ridiculed for doing something\Noutside the expected norm.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.98,0:06:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kind of like a teenage girl giving\Na TEDx talk on hegemonic masculinity.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.32,0:06:23.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.16,0:06:27.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By breaking down \Nthe stereotype of masculinity,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.57,0:06:30.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can increase \Nthe acceptability of femininity.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.57,0:06:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These identities differ by culture, \Nregion, religion, and personal belief.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.89,0:06:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So there are unlimited forms\Nof masculinity and femininity,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.03,0:06:41.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can be open\Nto accepting them all as a spectrum,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.10,0:06:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of two strict ideals.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.46,0:06:46.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see my uncle Eddy as the perfect man,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.46,0:06:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I now admire his ability \Nto transcend stereotypes boundaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.20,0:06:52.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was born inside the boundaries,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.31,0:06:55.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm still trying to figure out\Nwho I want to be in this world.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.49,0:06:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a girl, I wear dresses;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.27,0:07:00.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet, obviously I have\Nmasculine traits too.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.76,0:07:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,None of us can live\Non one side or the other.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.89,0:07:06.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My identity is not decided\Nby my etiquette,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.91,0:07:10.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being assertive, \Nor my hatred of high heels.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.48,0:07:15.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I challenge you not to limit yourself \Nto being a pink or blue Power Ranger.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.44,0:07:19.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The spectrum of possibilities is endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.09,0:07:21.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)