[Translated and captioned by ShibaSubs] [Translated and timed by jackie] [Reviewed by hearthrose] Welcome back to Shanghai Share Life! This show is sponsored by the sports app Keep. Keep Live Class makes burning fat happier. Why are you looking at me? Is it my pronunciation? You always put your hands like, Keep Live Class! You always do this gesture. That's how you communicate important information. It's subconscious, I don't even know what I'm doing. Let's see what will happen this episode. Let's go. Excited! I'm so scared. Let's go. Today we'll see her profile picture change. Did you take 50 selfies for me to choose from when you were eating? Yes. The ugliest one is still to come. Episode 13 (Second Half), Week 13 The Street is Not a Fantasy [panelists] "The Street is Not a Fantasy," what's that mean? Hello. -Oh! -Hello. -You're home. -Yeah. Oh yeah, here. I got something for everyone. You can have some first. [panelist] He only bought it for her. The weather is getting colder. I remembered you Shanghai people traditionally eat chestnuts in the winter. You bought chestnuts? Yeah. My English newspaper. You're treating your special newspaper like this? It's ok, I already read it. -Eat. -Thank you. But you know, chestnuts are very high in calories. Oh, yeah. Having a few is like having a bowl of rice. Yeah. But you still bought it? Aren't you really diet conscious? I bought it for Didi. Nice. Fatten him up. By the way, he asked me to tell you... -Who? -Didi. -Tell me what? -Remember how he left first this morning? And we wondered if Carmon was jealous? They had a fight over that. Yeah. Ok. She said she doesn't want him to be close to other girls. So that's why he's being so... -Avoidant? -Yeah. Because he has a girlfriend now. -Being like that doesn't look good. -Ok. [panelist] If I were Gaogao, I would be so uncomfortable. I'll peel it for you. -Your hands can't peel it. -Your hands can't? -I'm talking about you. -It's fine. If it's for you, I can. See that? Get ready to change your profile pic. Get ready. -Here's two for you. -Thank you. I'll keep working on this one. I don't think I would be like that if I were dating someone. I would automatically keep my distance from other girls. Really? I doubt that. Why? Just a feeling. -You have to experience it to know. -I just have a feeling. Why not.... be my girlfriend to see? What? I think it's sweet. Be my girlfriend to see. Something's wrong with your brain today, right? I'm being serious. You like me, I like you. Don't you like me? Since when do I like you? Didi said so. -Seriously? -Yeah, we... Is Didi trying to mess with us? Haven't you been trying to spend a lot of time with me lately? Have I? You have! Don't I spend time with everyone? We all spend time together. You're being silly. So you didn't mean... I'm taking these back. I still have two. No more for you. Are you ready to change your profile picture? I'm going to take a hundred photos that you can choose from. Is Didi messing with us? Didi... It's fine, it's not a big deal. Is he trying to find a new way to harass me? This... Our... [panelists] -After that he's still-- -Eating chestnuts? -Are you ok? -I'm fine. Really. I was just kidding. -It's a ridiculous idea, right? -Yeah, ridiculous. Even if Didi had said that, I don't think you would mean it. We're such good buddies, I was just joking with you. Teasing you for fun. Your new jokes are next-level. -I know. -More creative than before. Right? I'm going to... [panelist] He's leaving to cry. Read a book. -Okay. -Take your time eating. [panelist] His back looks so lonely. He can only maintain his dignity for thirty seconds. Wu Jiawen (Carmon) Designer, 29 years old Sun Shirui (Didi) Student, 20 years old Pu Xiaobo (Pupu) PhD Candidate, 26 years old Gao Qilian (Gaogao) Cosplayer, 25 years old Zhang Ting (ARe) Musician, 27 years old Come in. -Hello. -Hello. -Can I come in? -Of course. -Do you want to watch something? -No, just to sit. What are you doing? Just taking care of some work. -What's up? -I just wanted to talk to you a bit. Ok. What is it? Just...there might have been a small misunderstanding. [panelist] Misunderstanding... oh, she's talking about Didi. Um, just... earlier today, Pupu talked to me a little. It seems like the way that Didi and I interact caused some misunderstandings. There's nothing between us, just... how to say it? There's nothing weird going on. We just talk to each other like this, getting mad at each other and casually insulting each other. But because of your relationship, it might... cause some misunderstanding. I just never thought about it before. I see. That's how it is... So awkward. You talked about her behind her back. Now she's asking if you dislike her. Yeah. It's like this... Well... We were in the kitchen before, right? Didi and I were having an argument. Maybe he doesn't understand. And it's his first relationship. So... I understand what you mean. I want to tell you about my side too. -Yeah. -Just... My age gap with him is pretty big. It's easy to feel a little insecure. [panelist] So candid. I understand. But... I had a problem with him, so I laid down some rules with him. Including, for example, if his girlfriend is next to him, just don't... Just... It's true, he is a little... He's too much like a little kid. I didn't misunderstand you two. It's his behavior that makes me feel... -like I'm being sidelined. -Yeah, he talks too much. But I didn't get the wrong idea. I don't want you to misunderstand me either. I know. It's mostly his problem. -It's all his fault. -Yeah. I don't think you should worry too much about the age difference. Maybe because it's the first time I'm experiencing this kind of age difference. There are some conflicts I haven't encountered before. But sometimes I also feel like it makes me happy. That's why I want to be with him. But there are still many conflicts. [panelist] Hurry up and ask her about Pupu. -Either way, don't worry. -I know. -That's good. -Yeah. Next time you yell at him, I'll be on your side. Because he likes to harass me too. He's so annoying. [panelist] She's not going to tell her about Pupu? Seriously? I don't like it. So cold! [panelist] Their height difference is amazing. It's so cold. What do you want to eat? Should we go in there? It looks so warm. I don't care, let's go. I'm dying. Go in first, hurry. -Eat whatever you want. -Ok. I'm still cold. -Are you cold? -Yeah. -Your hands are so warm. -Of course. So fast. -Your pork and rice. -Thanks. Is this mine? Yeah. -Please enjoy. -Thank you. [panelist] Give the girl the first bite! -Yeah. -Come on, kid. How many calories is this? -500. -This has 500? It's very high in calories. [panelist] You're just going to eat it by yourself? He's terrible at this. How's your internship search? I'm still preparing. Because last time... -Was it a simulation last time? -Yeah. I'm looking for a formal interview this time. Did you do that when you were in college? When I was in college... I worked a part-time job abroad. From when I graduated college until now... I've been doing design for almost ten years. Did you already know you wanted to do that in college? When I was in college, I read a lot and had designers I looked up to. I really wanted to be like them. You had such a clear plan so early. What do you want to do after graduating? -Will you stay in Shanghai, or.. -I haven't really thought about it. I think... Maybe I still want to go back to Nanjing, but I'm not sure. I'm probably going to be in Shanghai indefinitely. But you probably still have a sense of whether you're going to become a basketball player or go into law after graduating, right? Not really. You don't have a rough plan or anything? No. It doesn't matter, I'm only a sophomore. I haven't even had an internship. It's still early. This is pretty salty. [panelist] This is the youthfulness you wanted. But-- What? Have you thought about what will happen to us in the future? Isn't it too far away to plan now? There's no need. [panelist] Then how will you stay together forever? Is this really important to you? I'm 29. I feel like... we need to think about it seriously. Sorry about the wait. Eat first, we can talk later. But this is a serious issue. [panelist] Of course. He doesn't want to talk about it because it's too serious. It's ok. Do you think it's okay? No, I just... Aren't things good like this? We're happy every day. What's wrong? Nothing. [panelist] She's mad. -Carmon is so moody. -Yeah. If you need stability, you should have accepted Hao. People are just like this. They want everything. Yeah. You can't have it both ways. Hello: your dessert. Hi. Thank you. Enjoy. What do you want, banana or blueberry or strawberry? I'll wait. Eat it. Have a bite. Is it sweet? -Don't be upset. -I'm not upset, just thinking. Just... Well... Look, I go to a top university. I go to East China Normal and I'm a law major. I can play basketball too. I'm only a sophomore, and I have so many skills. When I look for a job later on... Even if it's not the best job, I won't have a problem finding one. So I don't think about it much. And... in terms of what will happen with us, I think things are great right now. Every day we spend time together and eat together and we're so happy. I promise you that after I graduate, no matter what job I look for, whether or not I can find a good job, I'll go wherever you go. Ok? Cheer up. Be happy when you eat, or else you won't be able to digest. Right? -I want this one. -I'll get it for you. -It makes me sigh. -Me too. -So tiring. -Why didn't he say that to begin with? Why did he keep avoiding it? Because at that point he hadn't figured out what to say yet. Put yourself in his shoes. Your sophomore year... -You would never think about this. -Yeah, no way. Yes. People at that age, in their second year of college... If you ask them about the future of their relationship, they'd be speechless. And if they ask where you think you'll be in the future, of course you'll say by their side. It doesn't mean anything. You should help him out. Isn't it the same as saying you'll be together forever? At least Didi is honest. -Yeah. -He wouldn't be like you. Then why did he casually say that he would be with her forever? "Forever" is a meaningless word. No, he sincerely thinks they'll be together forever. He just doesn't know what "forever" means. "Forever" is an easy promise. But "tomorrow" isn't. -Yeah. -Think about it. Even if you like her right now and say you'll go wherever she goes, in the next five years, if you really got a chance to go to the U.S. and join the NBA, wouldn't you go? He doesn't understand the weight of his promise to follow her. Yeah. There are so many variables in his life. Yeah. But I think he really likes Carmon. In the span of one week, we saw him make two big promises to Carmon. It's like doing self-criticisms every day. -"I promise whatever happens..." -Yeah, she laid down rules with him. He's making too many promises because he's young. I can also understand Carmon's anxiety. But she really does want it all. -I think it's too early. -I agree. -Yeah. -Something else happened just now. I don't know what's going on with my bet with Keni. You definitely lost. I'll take my pictures soon. -It seems that the confession failed. -There was never even a confession. Pupu doesn't even like Gaogao. He heard something from Didi and felt like he could score. I disagree. I object. -I do too! -I object! I think she likes him, but his confession was so disappointing. -Yeah. -What he said was, If you like me, then I like you. If you don't like me, then I don't like you either. His logic is... If you don't like me, I was just kidding. Retreat, advance, offense, defense. He held back. If she had agreed to get together, and then he was like, Just teasing you! Daxun, why does it seem like you've done this before? -No, no. -Your description is so vivid. Others don't perceive you as trustworthy. No! Do you think that confession was trustworthy? -I think so. -How was that trustworthy? -It was! -How? -I think it was sincere. -Yeah! That was my favorite confession of the show. -It seemed natural. -Yeah. And I don't think this is what he said. "You like me, so I like you." He said, "You like me, I like you too." "We should be together." And then he wanted to preserve his dignity. That's why he said he was kidding. "Just teasing you." to lessen his embarrassment. He's dumbfounded right now. He assumed it would go smoothly. No, I don't think he did. That's why he said it like that. He was insecure about it, not confident. Anyway, I don't think this thing is over. I don't think that was a real rejection. From Gaogao. -I agree with Teacher Chen. -Me too. Me too. Here's an example. One Valentine's Day, there was a guy pursuing me at the time. He sent me a message asking if I was doing anything the next day. I said I wasn't. Then he suggested that we go out together. He intentionally didn't say anything about Valentine's Day. He just asked me out as if it was a normal day, because he was afraid it would turn into a big deal. And what it would mean if I rejected him. So in fact, Pupu is playing this thing down. -But you knew that that boy liked you. -Right. But Gaogao doesn't know if Pupu likes her. Says who? She knows! -How could she not know? -What does she know? -He likes her. -Are we not all clear on this? I really think they just have a roommate relationship. As if! -There's nothing between them. -There will be! Will not! -I completely agree with Teacher Chen. -Me too! -Raise your hand! -It's just the beginning. -Yes. -It's a confession and a rejection, but it could also be a beginning. It's not a one-off deal. And later it might even be Gaogao who initiates things with Pupu. -Gaogao taking the lead. -Very possible. Ok, let's all calm down. Even though these five just had a heated argument, let me summarize. Aside from that one, these five all have the same opinion. I don't know what you're arguing about. You all have exactly the same opinion. -She didn't even say much. -Yeah! Then what do you think? There's nothing between them. They're just roommates. Ok, let's keep watching. You'll definitely have to change your profile pic. I still believe it. [panelist] What's Yuyintang? It's an underground music venue in Shanghai. Hello, Teacher Zhang. -Hello. -This is my roommate, Pu Xiaobo. This is the manager of Yuyintang, Zhang Haisheng. -Hello. -Just call me Pupu. I wanted to connect you two. He has a few questions he wanted to ask you. -Let's sit here. -Ok. [panelist] I've heard this manager is a great person. -You can put the guitar down. -Sure. What's up? He's a professional classical guitarist. Yes, I play classical guitar. He's a little lost about the future of his career. Are you still studying, or...? -I'm getting a PhD right now. -Where? -Manhattan School of Music. -That's a very good school. Yes, I thought there might be more opportunities abroad. I was building a network there, but suddenly returning to China this year... it was... The simplest question is... What do you want? I still want to be one of those... classical musicians that perform in concert halls. In China... If you want to be a classical musician, a professional musician... As far as I know, there aren't many of them. Their target audience, compared to the target audience of an indie band like Zhang Ting's... is probably smaller. Only a small percentage of musicians get really popular. But most independent musicians in China struggle a lot. They don't get much income just from music. For someone like you who hasn't finished their PhD... It will be hard to get performance opportunities. I understand, but... I still want to see if there's... an agency that might be interested. An agency... For classical music, domestically, they only recruit through music schools in China. -You did your bachelor's abroad. -Yeah. So the schools here wouldn't recommend you. I guess I'm not ready to give up. I've studied music for so many years. If you can be indifferent to fame and fortune, you can still realize your dream. My suggestion is, if you are determined to go down this path, you have to find ways to perform. Without regard to the venue or pay. Even performing on the street or in bars or restaurants would be good. Anyway, I suggest sticking to your original idea. As long as you can persevere, you will definitely be able to succeed someday. [panelist] The manager is so sincere and honest. Then, Teacher Zhang, do you think we could schedule a show here? Like a special show for his classical guitar. Lately... Do you think there's a chance? I'm afraid it might be difficult. Our performance schedule is a little full. And for this kind of performance... We would definitely need a promotional planning period. And it wouldn't necessarily draw a crowd. Ok. Then... I have to go now. We can talk another time. -Let's come watch a show sometime. -Yes, come back. Ok. Thank you. Ok. Bye, Teacher Zhang. So depressing. It's ok. Every time I see him, he... But he's right. Yeah, the way he talks is very to the point. Good medicine tastes bitter. It's true, you really can't support yourself by playing an instrument. It's the truth. I think no matter what style of music, it's not easy for anyone. My band has been playing for a long time. But I still can't rely on the band's income to support myself. I have to have a Taobao [online merch] store and make clothes in order to support myself. I feel like I've lost all my self-confidence. Why don't we take Zhang's advice and try to do something tonight? Really? I think giving it a try might help you feel less lost. Stop dwelling on it. Let's go. It's decided, ok? Let's go. I'll help you find a cool pedestrian bridge. How cool can it be? I'll have to see. Very cool. [panelist] Playing on the street is pretty good. I'm still a little apprehensive. Will this really work? Once we set up the equipment and you start playing, you won't be nervous. I'm not nervous, just not used to this. It's ok, you'll adapt. Here? There're a lot of people here. [panelist] This girl is so nice, staying with him. Let's try it. Yeah. -There's sound. -It's distorted, we can't turn it loud. It's a little quiet. I'll stand here and listen. It's not bad. -I'll play you the song you like. -Ok. -This is a little romantic. -The status of your bet is uncertain. Yeah, it's romantic. Take my arms, I never use them. Your goodbye left me with eyes that cry How can I go on without you? [panelist] He plays so well. So why not take ... If you don't put a bucket out, how will people give you money? What he wants isn't money. He wants people to appreciate him. People only show appreciation for you by giving money. -You're good. -Thank you. [panelist] Someone gave money! -Open for business. -We got a donation. It's fun to watch passersby react. Thank you. [panelist] Someone else gave money. Keep going. That's not the problem. [panelist] His feelings are complicated. -I feel like he's going to cry. -Yes, he's both happy and upset. No one is stopping to listen, just walking past. [panelist] See, what he needs is people to appreciate his talent. When we first started going to the livehouse to perform, sometimes we would have a really awkward audience. [panelist] There are people taking pictures. How much did they give? Let me see. Three yuan. Four yuan. I put it here because-- [panelist] Why is he angry all of a sudden? He's fallen apart. He's in a terrible mood. It's ok. You'll have all kinds of audiences when you perform. I'm done. -I'm not here to beg for food. -Pupu. Don't go! You're really done? I'm not here to beg. [panelist] Speaker! Bag! -She's nice enough to get your stuff. -Yeah. Hello. What happened? He's not in a good mood right now. I'll go up and talk to him first. I'll fill you in later. [panelist] Will that upset Gaogao? I hope so! Come on! The profile picture is changing back and forth. It's time to strike back. -Gaogao. -Gaogao. Gaogao, get up there. -The boy you like... -Has been hurt. He needs a little love. I'm coming in. [panelist] This girl is too kind. Are you feeling any better? What were we doing? Just begging like street beggars? Why did I spend so many years learning music? For this? For people to throw me a couple of coins? This performance... the point wasn't to get money. I just wanted them to listen to me more seriously. Not every performance will be like you imagined. A lot of my performances turn out differently from how I hope. What am I doing? I studied for so many years, but I can't even go to a concert hall here? [panelist] Why are you arguing with her? You're acting like she's the one not letting you play in a concert. This year... No matter what, I'll have my own concert in Shanghai. [panelist] Look at Gaogao. Strike back! Keni, your profile picture. She cares about him. Roommates care about each other. -I care about my roommate too. -Do you listen at your roommate's door? That's caring a little too much, isn't it? What are you doing now? -I have to do some work. -Ok. I'm going to the play room. Hello. What are you doing here? Um... What is it? Pupu and ARe are inside. And...it seems like Pupu isn't in a good mood. So maybe don't go in for now. Pupu's not happy? I'll go in and see. -Wait. -Wait for what? -What are you doing? -I'm going in to see. -Isn't he upset? -They're talking, don't interrupt them. -Pupu- -You don't know what happened. [panelist] He's so funny. What are you doing here? Why aren't you going in? Aren't you two close? -It's your fault. -My fault? What did I do? -What does it have to do with me? -Did you tell Pupu I like him? Did I? No, I was just kidding around with him. -Don't-- I'm going in. -Wait. I'm going in. He took it seriously. He told me. Let me go in. [panelist] Carmon is upset again. She thinks they're acting too close. I'm not talking to you right now. [panelist] He saw! An endless, bitter war. These people are unbelievable. Didn't you want to go in? Why are you sitting here? I wanted to see what was going on. Sit there. Why? -What for? -Sit there. Why? I don't want you next to me. What? Why? What did I do? You really don't know? She didn't want you to go in, why did you badger about it? What do you mean badger? I care about my roommates. Of course I-- You care about your roommate, but do you care about our problem? What kind of- What do these things-- Go sit there. But- She's so quick to anger. She's mad that he's not thinking about their future. He wants to gossip about other people instead. She's really controlling. But- what's wrong now? What is it? We only just finished having an argument- and immediately you just- you make me feel like you don't care. About our problem. [panelist] Shouldn't you say he's a good person? Going to help others means that I don't care about us? Then that means-- I should only think about us and ignore everyone around me. Only think about us, is that what you want? You- You didn't even properly think about our problem before concerning yourself with someone else's problem. But I- How should he think about their problem? Should he just sit at the table and think about their problem? Screw his life, screw his friends, screw all his other relationships? Let it go. Don't be mad. Ziqi, let it go. I didn't just set aside our problem. I just happened to encounter them and thought I could help my roommate. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And about our thing, what else is there to discuss? We didn't even arrive at an answer. How can I give you an answer? How can I know, after I graduate, Where I'll go, what I'll do? How can I know that right now? I can't answer that. Do you think it's practical for me to have an answer right now? You just want to hear me say those unrealistic promises, and you'll be happy, right? I can say them. I just need something a little more clear. I need to feel like you're taking this to heart. But you aren't. You're just smiling like an idiot. I didn't say I wasn't thinking about it. I just feel like- Maybe you are thinking about it, but if it's not clear for me to see, -what am I supposed to think? -So you don't believe me? I don't not believe you. But your attitude is strange. What's strange? I went to help a roommate. Is that strange? [panelist] Didi's thinking is very clear. Yeah. Great. Over here... Deng Ziqi is going crazy. She was slapping her legs and yelling. Say it again. I already forgot what I said. Just- "He's not your son!" "Is he your puppet?!" "Even if he was your son, you can't be like this!" No, what I said was, Even if he was your son, you should still give him space. She remembered. Yeah! How someone else thinks, how he acts, if you keep putting pressure on him and trying to influence him, and you're forcing him to think according to your logic, -is he your puppet? -Agreed. -Right? -Yeah. She's so controlling. This kind of person is scary. She's insecure. Her worst enemy right now is herself. This must be the biggest reason she hasn't found love for so long. Carmon wants him to only be thinking about her. To only be thinking about their issues. Do you think we didn't consider their age difference enough? I think Carmon's insecurity is understandable. We're just worried that they won't be able to stay together like this. There's no way. Maybe Didi will get controlled by her so much that he'll think it's fine. Didi will get used to it. Because he's still young. I think if they stay together for a few months, Didi won't be the one to change. -It has to be Carmon. -Yes. Carmon will have to realize that she can't be like this. If she can change, they might have a chance. There's no point in Didi changing. His changes will be never-ending. We'll have to see what they're like in two years, -when the honeymoon period has faded. -You want to watch them for two years? If she can change, it will be because Didi's thinking is clear. I thought Didi's rhetorical questions were all on point. Yes, Didi's pushback against her was clearly articulated. Yeah. And then there's Pupu. He's pretty temperamental. It was ridiculous how he spoke to ARe just now. It's not like she put you out of work. Yeah, I agree. And she was so kind to help him. Introducing you to the manager, taking you to busk, even encouraging you, and you're angry? Seriously? Based on our understanding of Pupu, he must know he did something wrong. He'll apologize later, but he couldn't help it in the moment. -ARe has experienced all of this. -Yes. So she told him that he just has to play. Why did someone throwing you a couple of coins upset you? And you should take the weather into consideration, right? -Yeah. -It's cold: who's going to listen to you? You'd have to be so bundled up. There are really those kinds of performances, though. With a whole symphony behind one guy playing the guitar. -You're talking about concert musicians. -Yes. -There can only be so many of those. -True. So many people in the world play piano. But you only know Lang Lang, Zhao Yinyin... -Yes. -Li Yundi. That's it. So many pianists out there, but how many can you name? That's it. It's easy for people with artistic ideals to fall into wishful thinking. Don't. I think if you can't let go of the idea that you're destined for something, you won't succeed. Yes. You have to be thick-skinned to be an artist. You have to be willing to put aside your dignity. I was on another show once that had us fly to a foreign country. We were all tasked with busking on the street, because no one abroad would recognize us. My teammate and I also put a guitar case on the ground and started to perform. Some people threw money into our case, and we were really happy. Some people were like, What are you doing? Don't block the path. Really disdainful types. Some of the other participants who finished the challenge said that it was really hard, that it made them feel undignified. But I thought, if you look at it from another angle, isn't this the reason you make music and art? Because there are too many indifferent people in the world. That was so inspirational. -You're clapping for yourself. -Well said. Ok, let's watch the next segment. What happened? Today... I took Pupu to meet the manager of Yuyintang. And after that, I took him to a subway entrance. To busk? Pretty much. The results weren't great. After a few people came over and tossed him a few coins... When the first person gave a coin, maybe he was a little happy. But when the next few people tossed in coins, maybe he gradually began feeling like they weren't there to hear his music. Like he was a beggar? Yeah. It felt like a blow to him. [panelist] Gaogao understands the reason. I feel like helping him perform in a concert hall... would be the only way to make him feel better. I think we can. Let's look for a venue. -Yeah. -And deal with the logistics. Then we... We can talk about it later with Carmon and Didi. And we can all think about how to do it. Hello. How are you? Are you okay now? I'm okay. Much better. You may be better, but I have a problem. I have no words. I'll sit here. It's fine, I'm just really speechless, you know? What's the matter? Carmon and I came back... We had a small fight when we were out. It wasn't that bad by itself. But when we came back, you were in there, so we went up. We saw Gaogao standing there. I wanted to go in the playroom, but she said you were inside. She said not to go in since you were upset. I said, so what? I'll go in and talk to him. At that point, Carmon came back down with her laptop. I looked at her and she glared back at me. I could tell something was wrong, so I followed her. She probably saw you and Gaogao together. It wasn't that. It had nothing to do with that. It was our own problem. She's 29. She asked me to tell her my plans for the future. But you-- But how can I solve this problem? I have no way of solving it right now. Yeah, it's an impossible demand. If I said to her, Carmon... after I graduate in a few years, I can guarantee you all these things, isn't that lying? Yeah. You... haven't even graduated yet. How could you... I feel like this isn't how a relationship should be. [panelist] You're taking a class. Relationship Class. This is just part of dating. No matter what I do, she says I'm not taking things seriously. Or she says I have a bad attitude. Maybe she feels insecure..... [panelist] What is it? I've been listening at the door for ten minutes. Get out. [panelist] New member? Which one are you? He seems familiar. I've seen him somewhere. New guy! New guy! I feel like I've seen him before, but I forget where. He seems like a male idol. But would an idol come to a dating show? Maybe he just wants to make friends. It's not like you have to date. -Carmon really scared me just now. -She said she listened for ten minutes. I feel like even the cameraman was scared. He was shaking when he turned the camera. It was difficult to turn around. Carmon really is a little scary. Her facial expression and tone were really scary. It wasn't the first time she spoke like this. Earlier she said, "You sit over there." "Don't come near me." "There! There!" -It's happened a lot. -This was the scariest. She gives you the feeling like she's some big boss. It's like when you're in school and the dean is watching you from behind. Exactly, just like that. Some people are on their phones and the dean is like, -Come outside. -What are you doing? Calm down, everyone. Before Chinese New Year, Carmon was the delicate victim of our show. In the Year of the Ox, why is she suddenly... -Reared up like a bull. -So bullish. In dating, she really... They say relationships change people for the better. She's jealous and insecure, so she wants him to change. To be honest, I think... Don't blame it on Didi's age and say she's insecure because he's young. I think she's just like this in relationships. That's why she seems so natural behaving like this. Yes. I'm just wondering if Didi is going to stand up for himself and push back against her until maybe slowly... she'll change to become less controlling. That would be a good result. Let's see what will happen next episode. -Ok. -See you next time, friends! Until next time, Shanghai Share Life! [Translated and timed by jackie] [Reviewed by hearthrose]