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Translation & Subtitles: thoseguiltyeyes | scandal-heaven.com[br]⠀[br]Hello! RINA here.

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Today's video is one where I'll be chatting at home for the first time in forever.

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Hasn't it been a really long time?

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Lately I've been filming vlogs of stuff I do when I go out,

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so it feels like it's been a really long time since I've done this.

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It feels kind of weird.

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I asked people to send in stuff like what's been bothering them lately,

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what they've been thinking about,

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or any large or small problems.

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I'll be selecting a few of those and talking about them.

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A lot of them overlapped.

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Like, there were a lot who were thinking the same thing,

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or worrying about the same thing.

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There were also a lot of things that I could relate to.

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It made me think that everyone really does think the same kind of things.

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I'll talk and answer them leisurely as we think together.

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(Before that...)

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A lot of my viewers are around my age.

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I'll be turning 32 this August,

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and mostly everyone is around that age.

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I felt that the problems unique to my generation

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and that the way you think changes with each generation.

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I was like, "Yeah, I guess we do think of things like that now."

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At any rate, I'll start reading from the first screenshot I took.

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"This is my third year in the workforce. Every day is like a routine, and it seems like every year there's less and less fun things to do."

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Right?

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Like...

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You have to go to work every day and come home.

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I've always been in the music scene,

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and I think it's a job that involves meeting new people

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and doing things in new places relatively often.

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If you look at it roughly, the process is very similar.

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We make new music, promote it, tour,

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tour while making new music,

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and record that music after touring.

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It's a very luxurious way of life,

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but I totally understand [situations like the question asker].

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So, if you ask people around you how to keep things fresh,

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I think there'll come a time when they'll say it's difficult to do.

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So I think the only way to do that is to learn something new,

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or find something you like to do,

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or study something new as an adult.

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In that sense,

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sometimes you have no choice but to renew yourself.

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For me, how I should edit a video is different from what I'd do with music.

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I'm not saying that it feels really fresh right now,

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but when I went to French school,

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it really felt like I was off to a new start.

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Also, I did a video about this,

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about how I've been doing Pilates to work out and refresh myself.

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Every day, recently—it's really a recent thing—

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I've been trying to spend an hour a day

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studying something that has nothing to do with my lifestyle or work.

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Maybe do something like that.

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I think you have to get things going on your own.

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It's impossible to have someone else provide you with a fresh environment every day.

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It takes time,

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but in the end, I think the only thing you can do

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is to make new moves on your own.

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On to the next question.

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"I haven't had any feelings of love for a man for more than 5 years now."

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I see.

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It's like, "What does it mean to love, anyway?"

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Love, huh.

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The power of love is incredible.

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It can make you do your best at anything.

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The moment you fall in love with someone,

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or the time frame when you do,

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is really awesome.

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But sometimes I think that if I could learn to make myself happy,

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I would truly be invincible.

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Some might think that sounds really lonely,

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but at any rate, maybe I'm just trying to be someone

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who can have fun on their own.

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I think there are a lot of things I'm not doing well, though.

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Maybe there's someone you'd have fun with and feel fulfilled by

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and you'd like to be with them,

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or maybe there's someone who's attracted to you.

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If you're mentally open like that,

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you might have a better chance of meeting someone.

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But, well, as you get older,

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it feels like you're less likely to have people that you're attracted to.

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Or rather, the number lessens.

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There's more and more to consider.

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So it'd be nice if you could make yourself as happy as possible

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and have good encounters and feelings of love

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appear somewhere along the way, wouldn't it?

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I totally get you.

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I totally understand this situation.

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"I often wonder how I and my family will live in the future. I'm filled with anxiety."

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Family, huh...

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Yeah...

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I'm the eldest out of five kids.

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My mom was a single mother.

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I also played the father role in the family.

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That's why I do a lot of thinking.

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Like wondering how we can all ultimately be happy.

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Since I love my job, there are times when I'm like,

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"I need to work hard and earn money."

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That's not the only thing, though.

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There are definitely times when I feel anxious

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because my family is one I have to support properly.

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Since this person might not have the same circumstances as me,

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they may be feeling a different kind of anxiety.

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But I definitely feel that way sometimes, too.

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I hope we can keep the band going for as long and healthy as possible,

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but I wonder how I would be able live my life

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if something difficult happened to me, such as my health declining.

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It's no good if I can't look after my family.

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What I should do at that time...

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This is not a negative thing in terms of the band at all,

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but something I think about level-headedly as a human being.

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Sometimes it's hard to find the answer,

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and I get anxious and scared.

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But in the end, I feel like I have no choice but to do what's in front of me.

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But I totally get that about family.

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It's because you care about them so much that you're worried.

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I understand.

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I also play the father figure financially.

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I've been paying for my sisters' tuitions all this time.

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I pay all the rent and living expenses at my parents' house.

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Sometimes I feel like it's hard to talk about money with others.

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I think that instability there would have a huge impact on one's mental health.

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For me too...

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But there's no choice but to work hard, ultimately.

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There's no choice but for me to do it.

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I think that's why I've been able to stay motivated and try all kinds of things.

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Sometimes I wonder if I'd be able to work this hard if it was just for me.

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Sometimes it can be an anxiety factor.

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I think that knowing there's something you need to protect can be motivating.

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"Human relations and communication in the workplace are difficult, aren't they?"

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They are difficult.

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In my case...

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The band's been together since we were young.

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We have a very special bond.

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So it's a very difficult relationship to explain in words.

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But each one of us is an individual person,

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and although we're friends who have been playing music together as a band for a long time,

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we are also our own person.

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I think it's good to be involved

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while maintaining a good sense of distance and emotional space.

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That's why we've been able to support each other

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and be a band for such a long time.

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In that way...

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I think I've been adjusting and thinking about it a lot more since we've grown up.

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But the relationship between us is a bit too special,

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so this may not be helpful to others.

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Also, we have close relationships to those at our management office and record label.

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I think that's the main thing about interpersonal relationships at work in my case.

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But that might also be a special case.

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I think it depends on the office,

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but in our case, we are very close, like a family.

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At this time, I really want to separate and cherish my private life, in a good way,

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so, honestly, I think there are more things we don't mention or talk about with each other than before.

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Not that there's anything wrong with that.

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That's why I think our relationships keep changing.

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You yourself change as well.

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It'd be good if we could all communicate what we need to convey,

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maintain a good distance,

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and build relationships at work while protecting ourselves.

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I've never really experienced what it's like to have a boss and subordinates like in a company,

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so I probably don't understand all of that properly.

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I don't think I know anything about it.

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I can imagine it, but I'm sure there are things you won't understand unless you're there experiencing it,

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so I don't think I can say anything adequate.

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I'm sure it must be hard.

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It's really commendable. It really is.

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I think that's impressive.

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We also speak really casually to the head of our office.

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That's what it's like [where we are].

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That's how close we are.

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But I'm sure that doesn't happen very often.

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That's why there are so many things that I can't even imagine.

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But there's a part of me that believes that if you truly convey something properly,

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it will get through to everyone.

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Yeah.

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It'd be nice to be involved without it being too difficult.

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Here's a cute question.

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"I'm going to Tokyo Disneyland for the first time in forever. I'm so unsure what to eat at the park."

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That's so cute.

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So tranquil.

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Disney's great.

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I also went recently with a friend.

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It might have been a while ago, actually.

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It was fun.

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I always have to have a churro.

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It's delicious.

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Please have fun!

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They might have already gone.

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"I get emotional easily and regret it later."

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I get you.

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I totally get you.

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Because you value something and have passion for it...

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Your words become strong, fast, and sharp.

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Because, you know...

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I don't think it's possible to be emotional without passion.

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You know you'll regret it,

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and you'll probably hate yourself for being that way.

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I think it's great to be able to change things in creative ways,

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but I think it's really great to have something you're passionate about,

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something you can put your heart and soul into,

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to the point where it's something really emotional for you.

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I'm totally the same way.

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I'm totally like that when I talk about the band.

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Yeah.

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There are lots of times when I wonder why I said something in a certain way,

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or how I could have communicated it better.

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That's why sometimes I try talking about that topic one more time.

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Yeah, there are many times when you can't apologize properly.

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That's when you reaffirm that you are passionate about it.

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It's been a long time.

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But yeah, in that way...

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I think it's great when there are things that you can really get emotionally attached to.

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So I think it would be good if we could talk about the things we want to change,

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even if it's just a little bit at a time,

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or about the things we think we did wrong that we can make up for later,

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even if it's after the fact.

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I'm sure there will be times when they'll understand,

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and you'll feel better, too.

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"I'm tired of comparing my life with my friends' all the time."

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Looking at social media, right?

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You subsciously compare things.

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Isn't that the same for everyone?

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If there are accounts that make you feel bad when you see their posts,

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I think it's fine if you mute them.

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In regards to social media, that is.

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I wonder if there are times when they do comparisons during conversations.

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Because everything in your life is something you've experienced yourself,

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I think there are times when you feel like there are no improvements in your life.

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I feel like there are so many cases where someone's life is insanely special from someone else's perspective.

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You're like, "That's not what my life's like."

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I'm sure there's a lot of things you don't realize,

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like the parts that other people envy and think are amazing.

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I think you'll realize that your life is impressive.

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"I'm a 24-year-old woman. I'm going out with someone 12 years older than me, and it's hard to keep up because my money sense differs."

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Maybe you should talk to them about this.

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You're dating, after all.

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It's better that the two of you talk about it.

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For the long run, as well.

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I think it'd be a good idea to honestly talk about what you wrote to me.

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"I'm going overseas for a year soon for work, and I'm wondering if I should go out with someone I like right now."

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You mean it'd end up being a long-distance relationship, right?

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I think it's fine to go out with them.

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A year actually goes by so quickly.

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They could also go overseas if they want.

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You can call each other and stay in touch.

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Maybe I'm the type of person who doesn't think of distance as a problem.

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I think it's a good thing when two people like and are attracted to each other.

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Although it might not be as easy to meet each other

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as when you're living in the same country.

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However, I think there's a possibility it'll become a special time

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that you can say afterwards was a good time.

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I think it's really cool when women work hard for a year overseas like this.

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Ah, I got one of these questions.

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"Now that I'm at the age where I have friends who are getting married or living together, I feel anxious even though I've never been in a relationship."

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Yeah.

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Almost all of the questions I got are this kind of type.

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When I ask for questions, most of them are like this.

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There's really no way to solve this.

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Everyone is different, so there's no need to worry.

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But it is true that when you think about your body and such,

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it's natural that you feel like you're counting backwards, especially for women.

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I'm sure there will be a lot of things to think about, like whether you'd have a baby or not.

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I get it.

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I'm wondering what's going to happen to me too, really.

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With that in mind...

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But there's always so much to do in front of me.

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Just because I might take a break doesn't mean I'm getting married.

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I've been in my band for a long time.

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Yeah, no one knows.

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But my married friends say that it's all about timing.

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A lot of people say they never thought it would be like this,

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and I also think that's how it must be.

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So, to rewind a bit,

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I'm the type of person who thinks it's better to have a foundation where I'm fine even if I'm alone.

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I'd like to be able to live a normal and happy life on my own

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before I go out with someone or not, get married or not.

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We'll have new kind of fun when we're together.

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That's what I feel right now.

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That's what I'm feeling now.

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But I get you.

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Isn't it the same for everyone?

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So don't think you're the only one.

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Make yourself happy by thinking that you're not in any particular hurry.

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It doesn't have to be fun all the time, though.

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I think it would be nice to have that,

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to be able to live your life in a good way.

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Marriage is not the ultimate goal.

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There are a lot of new and difficult things [after you get married].

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"This is about interior design preferences. I just moved, so I'm unsure of what to do. RINA, what theme do you have at your place?"

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Oh, they moved? It's fun to design new places.

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I like antique vibes.

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I go to flea markets.

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I got that mirror in back of me at a flea market.

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I've bought antiques in Europe,

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like that picture frame next to [the mirror].

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I've bought stuff from vintage shops in Osaka.

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I go to stores like that when we go overseas on tour.

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I've bought lamps and such.

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Hold on a sec.

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This one.

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I bought this recently.

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I bought this in Paris recently.

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I collect stuff from various places while traveling.

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Something like that.

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Also, my sofa is beige.

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My tables are also mostly beige.

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Beige might be my go-to color.

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Beige.

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Beige in color.

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Ah, this one...

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"If I can't congratulate my bias on their marriage, would I be semi-disqualified as a fan because I love them too much?"

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Ah, but...yeah...

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It is shocking,

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when fans are suddenly informed like that.

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We're all human, of course.

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Even if you understand that your bias is in love and has a private life,

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it's still shocking, I'm sure.

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You've been supporting them with your time and money for a long time.

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I don't think that disqualifies you as a fan.

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I'm sure there are people who feel that way, though.

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But things like that aren't something you can control.

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The artists as well.

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It's someone's life, and they are free to choose to do things as they see fit.

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But I totally understand.

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I get it.

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I wonder if fans would congratulate me if I got married.

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All of the questions from here on are basically about marriage.

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"Can I be happy without getting married?"

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"I don't think I need to get married, but everyone I know is in a rush to get married."

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"After meeting more than 30 people on a dating app, no matter how much I think about it, I prefer my ex-girlfriend. I'm already heartbroken."

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But you worked really hard.

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You made a change and took action.

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That's impressive.

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Meeting over 30 people.

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It takes a lot of strength to meet people, doesn't it?

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You're meeting someone for the first time,

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and you've repeated it 30 times.

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That's impressive.

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I see.

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Your ex-girlfriend.

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This is difficult.

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If you have high expectations, you might end up hurting yourself.

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But why not try talking [to your ex] just once?

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If this is possible.

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You could just meet up.

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If you really think you can't hold it in anymore, why not confess your feelings?

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I really feel like that could help sort some things out.

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I feel like just properly conveying your feelings would make a difference.

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I hope you meet someone good.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
"I'll be quitting my job tomorrow. I'm in the process of looking for a new job, but I'm not sure if I'll find a good one."

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
That's great.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
I have a girl friend who recently decided to change jobs.

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We're about the same age.

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She doesn't have a clear idea of what she wants to do or what she wants to do next,

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so it's difficult for her to choose a company.

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She's single, but I've heard that there aren't many companies that'll hire a woman in her 30s

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who might get married soon and quit, or who might get pregnant and quit.

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That's also tough.

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I was just thinking how difficult that is.

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She applied to a lot of places, and x

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x

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Before that happened, I got a call from her.

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She was crying, asking what she should do.

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I was also panicking.

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But I listened to her, and she told me all of this.

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So I know it's a real pain.

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x

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So I hope you can get through this and do your best now

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so that your future self can feel at ease.

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I don't know what a good place would look like for you,

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but...

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I hope you find a company where you can demonstrate your full potential and feel at ease.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
"I started playing the drums this year but can't play them very well."

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
That's totally fine.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
Then you've been playing for a little over half a year.

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It's normal to have trouble drumming well at first, so it's okay.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
An instrument is something you practice for your whole life.

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If you stop even for a little, you'll decline.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
[The drums] are really interesting and a lot of work,

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since the sound comes directly from them.

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Keep having fun as you continue playing.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
I hope you continue having fun while making changes, such as covering your favorite songs,

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
playing louder, or changing your settings up.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
"What do you think about one's boyfriend hanging out with other girls? I'm getting a little tired of my friends and boyfriend being in contact with each other so much."

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
There were a lot of questions from people having trouble with their significant others.

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So let's talk about it.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
You're in a relationship, so you want to be able to talk about

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the good things and the bad things with the person you're with.

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x

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I think it's best to convey that with love.

9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000
It's better to talk about it than deny it.

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x

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I don't know how long I've been talking.

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It's been over 40 minutes.

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How will I put it all together?

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It was a lot of fun to be able to talk about everyday life with you guys.

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It was nice.

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Even if I don't get an answer, just being able to talk to people like this, even if it's through a screen.

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I really felt like we're living in the same era and in the same way.

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Everyone worries about similar things.

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You're not alone, so don't worry too much about things like this or feel anxious.

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Of course, the opposite is also good.

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I hope we can keep talking like this.

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At any rate, if you're able to get through x, you'll be fine.

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Thanks so much for watching to the end.

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See you in my next video!

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Bye bye!