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Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.18,0:00:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,TROM\Nvoices
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.50,0:00:11.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Conflict resolution
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.52,0:00:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or how to avoid conflict with other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.20,0:00:17.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is a typical problem with everybody.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.76,0:00:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dealing with Conflict\NJacque Fresco
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.54,0:00:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The reason for conflict
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.70,0:00:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because people come \Nfrom different places,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.10,0:00:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,different environments.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.56,0:00:53.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they bring with them attitudes \Nwhich they picked up there.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.78,0:00:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So merely commanding another person,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.78,0:00:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying to another person,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.56,0:01:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“You ought not to think the way you think”
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.18,0:01:03.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,does not alter the behavior.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.24,0:01:07.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you really want to get along with people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.66,0:01:09.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only when they say to you
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.02,0:01:12.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“What’s the best way to put \Nthe shovel into the ground?”
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.14,0:01:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Use your foot, it’s easier.”
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.10,0:01:18.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if they don’t ask you, let it go.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.76,0:01:22.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The best way to avoid conflict is to not
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.68,0:01:27.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,superimpose your values, even though they’re\Nbetter than the other person values...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.58,0:01:32.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever their views are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.80,0:01:36.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unless they say to you. \N“What do you think of my views?”
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.54,0:01:38.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you can give your opinion.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.76,0:01:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, In working with conflict,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.18,0:01:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you do it once or twice.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.36,0:01:59.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say "It seems to me \Nif you held the drill this way...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.70,0:02:02.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,first, it would work better
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.02,0:02:04.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's what I found."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.94,0:02:08.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if a person doesn't ask you and \Nthey're busy drilling and they say
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.20,0:02:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't want your fuckin' advice!"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.64,0:02:13.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You tend to your computer, \NI'll tend to my drilling."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.94,0:02:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people don't want advice. \NThey feel they're being put down.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.12,0:02:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop giving one another advice, \Nthat produces antagonism.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.26,0:02:27.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unless they ask for it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.28,0:02:31.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, is this an absolute formula? \NIt's a better way of dealing with people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.98,0:02:36.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you can't turn them around \Nby pointing out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.48,0:02:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The trouble with you is \Nyou don't listen to anybody."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.68,0:02:42.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That doesn't cause them to now listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.62,0:02:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They'll go on with their same pattern, \Nunless they say to you:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.48,0:02:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Am I inattentive?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.74,0:02:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or "Do I appear inattentive?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.02,0:02:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very few people talk like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.28,0:02:55.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what sane means. Sane means,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.88,0:02:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when a person comes over to you and says
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.18,0:03:02.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm not familiar with that jigsaw, \Nhow to use it."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.38,0:03:04.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you instruct them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.36,0:03:07.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they come over everyday and say
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.42,0:03:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't know how to use a jigsaw" \Nwatch them and guide them through it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.88,0:03:14.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does that make sense?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.04,0:03:20.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you have any attitudes now about different \Npeople that think differently than you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.78,0:03:23.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think differently than you do, period.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.38,0:03:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Making a comment as \N"You're dimwitted" or "slow"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.12,0:03:29.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The trouble with you is that \Nyou have no imagination!"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.82,0:03:31.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That doesn't alter behavior,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.98,0:03:34.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it only increases conflict.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.40,0:03:36.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you understand what I'm saying?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.60,0:03:40.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If a person is a very good \Npainter of roses
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.34,0:03:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you like roses,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.36,0:03:45.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you will associate with \Nhim for that reason.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.20,0:03:47.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if he says "If you just ask me,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.04,0:03:51.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the Irish ought to be \Nsent back to Ireland."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.42,0:03:55.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,say "Well, I don't feel that \Nway about the Irish so
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.00,0:03:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd rather not discuss it.”
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.48,0:04:01.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I think there are Swedes that behave badly
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.48,0:04:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some Swedes that behave well." \NYou can say that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.06,0:04:10.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He might understand that \N"...but I appreciate your comments."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.86,0:04:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't wipe him out. \N"You're a racist!"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.84,0:04:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, don't wipe him out.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.66,0:04:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,discover a new world at\Ntromsite.com