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How can I be stable and live with a person
who is not interested in spirituality?

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I like very much the idea
of being a Dharmacharya,

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but he does not agree.

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How can I practice
to keep that aspiration?

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(Sr Pine) I want very much to follow
the Dharma practices,

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the example of the mindfulness trainings,

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but I live with a person who
is not interested in the spiritual path.

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So how can I practice
to remain stable in that situation?

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When you are lovable,
when you are fresh,

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when you are appreciated
by the other person,

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you have a chance that everything you do
will be appreciated by him or by her,

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because when we truly love a person,
we love everything about that person.

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That is a natural tendency.

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And that is why the spiritual can be
recognized in every act of daily life.

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You do not need to say:
'This is spiritual.'

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That will turn people off.

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When you drink your tea
mindfully, peacefully, happily,

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and there is mindfulness, 
concentration and insight in you,

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drinking tea is a very spiritual thing.

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It radiates peace, happiness and joy.

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And that is already spiritual.

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You do not need to say:
'Well, I want to drink my tea spiritually.'

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(Laughs)

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You do not have to say that.

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And the practice of
the five mindfulness trainings

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is like that too.

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You do not need to say:
'I practice the mindfulness trainings.'

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You just live according to
the five trainings.

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You practice without a name,
but it is a real practice.

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You are a Buddhist,

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but you do not need to say
that you are a Buddhist.

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And you do not want to
impose your way on him or her.

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If you practice well,
you are happy, you are fresh.

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That is good enough.

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One day the other person may ask:
'Darling, how could do you do it?'

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'In such a situation I would not
be able to act like you.'

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And that is the time when you can
share your practice formally.

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But be the practice first,
be the Dharma first.

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And that is good enough.

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And you draw him or her into the practice,
one way or another.

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Remember, do not try
to impose your practice on him or her.

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Do not practice too formally.

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There are those who practice
walking meditation in a very funny way.

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They want to show that
they are practicing walking meditation.

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It looks not very natural at all.

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(Laughter)

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And there are those of us who walk
very deeply and happily,

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but they do not look
too serious in the practice.

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When you breathe in
mindfully and joyfully,

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you do not try to show other people:
'I am breathing in mindfully, you know.'

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(Laughter)

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'I am a good practitioner.'

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(Laughter)

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In Buddhism we have the expression
'practicing the non-practice',

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'hanh vo hanh hanh',
'practice the non-practice'.

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You do not need to have...

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much appearance.

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That way we can convey
the essence of the practice better.

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And if the other person wants to be
happy, serene and peaceful,

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he has a chance to learn.

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