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Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.56,0:00:08.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Way before the first selfie,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.68,0:00:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the ancient Greeks and Romans had a myth
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.88,0:00:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about someone a little too obsessed \Nwith his own image.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.60,0:00:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In one telling,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.90,0:00:20.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Narcissus was a handsome guy wandering\Nthe world in search of someone to love.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.78,0:00:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After rejecting a nymph named Echo,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.24,0:00:26.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he caught a glimpse \Nof his own reflection in a river,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.71,0:00:28.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and fell in love with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.51,0:00:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unable to tear himself away,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.12,0:00:31.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Narcissus drowned.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.94,0:00:37.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A flower marked the spot of where he died,\Nand we call that flower the Narcissus.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.04,0:00:40.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The myth captures \Nthe basic idea of narcissism,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.39,0:00:44.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,elevated and sometimes \Ndetrimental self-involvement.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.18,0:00:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's not just a personality type\Nthat shows up in advice columns.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.27,0:00:52.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's actually a set of traits classified\Nand studied by psychologists.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.97,0:00:58.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The psychological definition of narcissism\Nis an inflated, grandiose self-image.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.77,0:01:02.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To varying degrees, narcissists think\Nthey're better looking,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.12,0:01:02.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,smarter,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.97,0:01:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and more important than other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.23,0:01:08.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they deserve special treatment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.01,0:01:12.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Psychologists recognize two forms\Nof narcissism as a personality trait:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.77,0:01:15.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,grandiose and vulnerable narcissism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.89,0:01:18.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's also narcissistic \Npersonality disorder,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.41,0:01:22.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a more extreme form,\Nwhich we'll return to shortly.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.07,0:01:25.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grandiose narcissism \Nis the most familiar kind,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.80,0:01:27.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,characterized by extroversion,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.79,0:01:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dominance,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.96,0:01:30.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and attention seeking.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.53,0:01:33.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grandiose narcissists pursue \Nattention and power,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.81,0:01:35.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes as politicians,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.46,0:01:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,celebrities,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.46,0:01:38.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or cultural leaders.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.29,0:01:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, not everyone who pursues\Nthese positions of power is narcissistic.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.64,0:01:44.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many do it for very positive reasons,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.41,0:01:46.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like reaching their full potential,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.08,0:01:48.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or helping make people's lives better.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.49,0:01:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But narcissistic individuals seek power
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.78,0:01:53.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the status \Nand attention that goes with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.77,0:01:57.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Meanwhile, vulnerable narcissists\Ncan be quiet and reserved.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.92,0:01:59.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have a strong sense of entitlement,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.83,0:02:02.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but are easily threatened or slighted.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.79,0:02:07.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In either case, the dark side of\Nnarcissism shows up over the long term.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.06,0:02:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Narcissists tend to act selfishly,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.99,0:02:14.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so narcissistic leaders may make risky\Nor unethical decisions,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.38,0:02:19.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and narcissistic partners may be dishonest\Nor unfaithful.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.14,0:02:21.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their rosy view of themselves\Nis challenged,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.68,0:02:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can become resentful and aggressive.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.22,0:02:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like a disease where the sufferers\Nfeel pretty good,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.18,0:02:29.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the people around them suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.50,0:02:30.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Taken to the extreme,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.92,0:02:34.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this behavior is classified \Nas a psychological disorder
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.21,0:02:36.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called narcissistic personality disorder.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.96,0:02:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It affects one to two percent\Nof the population,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.93,0:02:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more commonly men.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.51,0:02:44.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is also a diagnosis \Nreserved for adults.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.66,0:02:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Young people, especially children,\Ncan be very self-centered,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.14,0:02:51.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but this might just be a normal\Npart of development.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.49,0:02:54.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fifth edition of the American\NPsychiatric Association's
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.77,0:02:57.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Diagnostic and Statistical Manual
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.31,0:03:01.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,describes several traits associated\Nwith narcissistic personality disorder.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.86,0:03:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They include a grandiose view of oneself,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.78,0:03:06.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,problems with empathy,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.16,0:03:07.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sense of entitlement,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.77,0:03:10.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a need for admiration or attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.80,0:03:13.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What makes these trait a true\Npersonality disorder
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.54,0:03:17.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that they take over people's lives\Nand cause significant problems.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.89,0:03:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine that instead of caring\Nfor your spouse or children,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.10,0:03:24.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you used them as a source\Nof attention or admiration.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.43,0:03:26.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or imagine that instead of seeking
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.10,0:03:28.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,constructive feedback \Nabout your performance,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.41,0:03:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you instead told everyone \Nwho tried to help you
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.80,0:03:32.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they were wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.91,0:03:35.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what causes narcissism?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.23,0:03:37.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Twin studies show \Na strong genetic component,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.97,0:03:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although we don't know \Nwhich genes are involved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.02,0:03:42.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But environment matters, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.90,0:03:45.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Parents who put their child\Non a pedestal
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.24,0:03:47.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can foster grandiose narcissism.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.79,0:03:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And cold, controlling parents\Ncan contribute to vulnerable narcissism.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.05,0:03:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Narcissism also seems to be higher
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.26,0:03:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in cultures that value individuality\Nand self-promotion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.43,0:04:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the United States, for example,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.17,0:04:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,narcissism as a personality trait\Nhas been rising since the 1970s,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.90,0:04:07.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the communal focus of the 60s
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.99,0:04:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gave way to the self-esteem movement
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.15,0:04:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a rise in materialism.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.63,0:04:17.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More recently, social media has multiplied\Nthe possibilities for self-promotion,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.08,0:04:18.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,though it's worth noting
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.37,0:04:22.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there's no clear evidence\Nthat social media causes narcissism.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.19,0:04:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rather, it provides narcissists a means\Nto seek social status and attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.76,0:04:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So can narcissists improve \Non those negative traits?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.24,0:04:32.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes!
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.47,0:04:35.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anything that promotes honest reflection\Non their own behavior
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.45,0:04:37.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and caring for others,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.10,0:04:42.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like psychotherapy or practicing \Ncompassion towards others, can be helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.12,0:04:44.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The difficulty is it can be challenging
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.17,0:04:46.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for people with \Nnarcissistic personality disorder
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.71,0:04:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to keep working at self-betterment.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.91,0:04:53.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a narcissist, self-reflection is hard\Nfrom an unflattering angle.