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When you look at these images,
what do you see?

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What do you think of?

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Maybe you see things
like beautiful, skinny, flawless.

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By the way,

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after looking at a fashion magazine
for about three seconds

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your self-esteem goes down by 50%,

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according to the publication
Psychology Today.

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Now what do you see?

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Do your thoughts change?

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Maybe, when you look at these images,

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you see something
like fat, ugly, or even weird.

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Do you realize
that could be considered bullying?

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Don't worry, it's not your fault.

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Society and media have trained you
to look at these images in that way.

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Hello, I am 15, almost 16 years old.

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I'm a cheerleader, skier,
runner, slash honor student,

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here at Park City High School.

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When I was a little girl,

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me and my mom's favorite TV show
was America's Next Top Model.

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During the commercials, I used to do
my best runway walk and strut my stuff.

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And then I'd ask my mom,

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I'd say, "Mommy, am I skinny enough?
Am I pretty enough to win?"

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Keep in mind I was about eight years old.

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From a young age, we are trained by media

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with images on Facebook,
Instagram, TV, magazines.

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It's literally everywhere.

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From beauty campaigns
to definition of perfect,

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girls are told
we have to have collarbones

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you can see from a mile away.

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For boys, it's all about
your hair and jawline.

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If you can't meet up to those standards,

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you aren't worth the time.

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Media tells us we aren't good enough

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and gives us unrealistic,
photoshoped, perfect images.

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This is why I believe
we are prone to bullying.

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No offense to anyone here;

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I don't believe
you can exactly stop bullying.

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There's no law, cure, or punishment
you can give a human being

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to make them stop
being rude to each other.

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No, the change starts with you.

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As a great man, an idol of mine once said,

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"You must be the change
you wish to see in the world.

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Bullying starts and stops
with you, an individual.

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I want to knock down some stereotypes
and give you some statistics.

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For starters, it's not just
the nerds, geeks, and weirdos

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that are bullied and shoved
into the nearest locker.

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No, far from it.

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Anyone and everyone is bullied.

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I bet I could ask every single one of you
if you've ever been bullied,

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and you'd say yes.

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Three point two million students
a year are bullied.

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One in four teachers do not believe
bullying is a problem,

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and only 4% of teachers
would actually intervene

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in a bullying situation.

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A new study done by Fox News
shows that being bullied as a child

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is more harmful, emotionally,
than being abused by an adult.

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So, who do you trust

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if a friend, a teacher, or peers
can't always be there for you?

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I know how this feels:

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totally alone, no friends to be with,

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like no one could ever understand.

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I've been bullied a lot in my life.

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I've been called things
like, "Fattolin," and "Slut,"

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and many other names by many people.

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I know all the emotions
one in six kids feels every single day.

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I can tell you, bullying is real.

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and it hurts you
more than just emotionally.

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So, what is my solution?

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You always have yourself.

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Look in that mirror.

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A little closer, a little harder.

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Find that one thing, that ability,
that trait that you love about yourself.

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I know this is not an easy task.

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We are our own hardest critic,

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and the media has taught us
to be unaccepting of ourselves,

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always trying to fix the little things,

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but never quite making it to perfect.

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But I promise you, it's there;

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whether it's skin deep
or something on the inside.

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When you find that, you hold on to it,

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and the next time you're bullied,
you cling on to it, and you say,

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"I know myself,

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and they are wrong.

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They're wrong."

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You know yourself
way better than any bully does.

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So why listen to a by-standard

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when you can listen to an expert?

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Don't let someone tear you down.

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I know the next time
someone calls me Fattolin,

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I'm not going to be aggressive about it,

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and no, I'm not going to run away either.

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I'm going to stand up,
and I'm going to say,

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"I'm sorry, but you are
completely wrong about me."

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And walk away.

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Because that makes
a better impression, anyways.

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I like to think of myself
as an example against the stereotypes

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because I am a cheerleader

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which is considered to be
a popular position,

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but I still deal with bullying
all the time.

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Showing people who you are,

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and not letting media
or a bully define you,

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is what I call,

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"Mirror BeYOUty."

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Being who you are
is way more attractive or beautiful to me

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than a good jawline and some great hair.

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Your character is
what makes you well, you!

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You don't have to teach the whole world

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on how to report a bully
or tell a principal you read a mean text.

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No, you need to teach the whole world
on how to be themselves

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and not let anyone whether be a bully,

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a boss, a teacher, or even a parent

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tell them different.

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You are all beautiful,
so show your beYOUty.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)