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When you look at these images,[br]what do you see?

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What do you think of?

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Maybe you see things[br]like beautiful, skinny, flawless.

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By the way,

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after looking at a fashion magazine[br]for about three seconds

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your self-esteem goes down by 50%,

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according to the publication[br]Psychology Today.

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Now what do you see?

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Do your thoughts change?

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Maybe, when you look at these images,

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you see something[br]like fat, ugly, or even weird.

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Do you realize[br]that could be considered bullying?

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Don't worry, it's not your fault.

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Society and media have trained you[br]to look at these images in that way.

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Hello, I am 15, almost 16 years old.

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I'm a cheerleader, skier,[br]runner, slash honor student,

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here at Park City High School.

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When I was a little girl,

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me and my mom's favorite TV show[br]was America's Next Top Model.

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During the commercials, I used to do[br]my best runway walk and strut my stuff.

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And then I'd ask my mom,

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I'd say, "Mommy, am I skinny enough?[br]Am I pretty enough to win?"

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Keep in mind I was about eight years old.

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From a young age, we are trained by media

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with images on Facebook,[br]Instagram, TV, magazines.

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It's literally everywhere.

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From beauty campaigns[br]to definition of perfect,

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girls are told[br]we have to have collarbones

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you can see from a mile away.

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For boys, it's all about[br]your hair and jawline.

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If you can't meet up to those standards,

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you aren't worth the time.

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Media tells us we aren't good enough

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and gives us unrealistic,[br]photoshoped, perfect images.

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This is why I believe[br]we are prone to bullying.

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No offense to anyone here;

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I don't believe[br]you can exactly stop bullying.

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There's no law, cure, or punishment[br]you can give a human being

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to make them stop[br]being rude to each other.

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No, the change starts with you.

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As a great man, an idol of mine once said,

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"You must be the change[br]you wish to see in the world.

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Bullying starts and stops[br]with you, an individual.

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I want to knock down some stereotypes[br]and give you some statistics.

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For starters, it's not just[br]the nerds, geeks, and weirdos

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that are bullied and shoved[br]into the nearest locker.

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No, far from it.

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Anyone and everyone is bullied.

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I bet I could ask every single one of you[br]if you've ever been bullied,

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and you'd say yes.

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Three point two million students[br]a year are bullied.

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One in four teachers do not believe[br]bullying is a problem,

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and only 4% of teachers[br]would actually intervene

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in a bullying situation.

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A new study done by Fox News[br]shows that being bullied as a child

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is more harmful, emotionally,[br]than being abused by an adult.

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So, who do you trust

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if a friend, a teacher, or peers[br]can't always be there for you?

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I know how this feels:

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totally alone, no friends to be with,

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like no one could ever understand.

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I've been bullied a lot in my life.

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I've been called things[br]like, "Fattolin," and "Slut,"

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and many other names by many people.

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I know all the emotions[br]one in six kids feels every single day.

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I can tell you, bullying is real.

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and it hurts you[br]more than just emotionally.

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So, what is my solution?

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You always have yourself.

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Look in that mirror.

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A little closer, a little harder.

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Find that one thing, that ability,[br]that trait that you love about yourself.

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I know this is not an easy task.

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We are our own hardest critic,

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and the media has taught us[br]to be unaccepting of ourselves,

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always trying to fix the little things,

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but never quite making it to perfect.

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But I promise you, it's there;

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whether it's skin deep[br]or something on the inside.

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When you find that, you hold on to it,

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and the next time you're bullied,[br]you cling on to it, and you say,

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"I know myself,

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and they are wrong.

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They're wrong."

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You know yourself[br]way better than any bully does.

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So why listen to a by-standard

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when you can listen to an expert?

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Don't let someone tear you down.

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I know the next time[br]someone calls me Fattolin,

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I'm not going to be aggressive about it,

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and no, I'm not going to run away either.

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I'm going to stand up,[br]and I'm going to say,

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"I'm sorry, but you are[br]completely wrong about me."

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And walk away.

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Because that makes[br]a better impression, anyways.

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I like to think of myself[br]as an example against the stereotypes

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because I am a cheerleader

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which is considered to be[br]a popular position,

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but I still deal with bullying[br]all the time.

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Showing people who you are,

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and not letting media[br]or a bully define you,

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is what I call,

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"Mirror BeYOUty."

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Being who you are[br]is way more attractive or beautiful to me

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than a good jawline and some great hair.

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Your character is[br]what makes you well, you!

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You don't have to teach the whole world

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on how to report a bully[br]or tell a principal you read a mean text.

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No, you need to teach the whole world[br]on how to be themselves

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and not let anyone whether be a bully,

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a boss, a teacher, or even a parent

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tell them different.

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You are all beautiful,[br]so show your beYOUty.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)