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Today we are going to talk about a basic mechanism that

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our brain has and that affects our lives.

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Our brain tends to be negative.

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Thanks to that, humans have survived for
thousands of years.

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What does our brain do? it naturally
goes for the negative and

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looks for any type of threat it can find and

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starts looking for

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any dangerous situation that may occur.

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It's worried for all the bad things that could
happen to us

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Our brain is truly a survival machine.

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Psychologist Rick Hanson says:

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"The brain is like Velcro for negative experiences,
but Teflon for positive ones".

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This explains why it's so easy for us to find 
negativity before positivity and

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why we give too much attention and room to
fear and concern.

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Studies suggest that if you say one negative thing
to your couple,

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you'll need to say 5 positive things to
counter the negative effect.

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Our brain works for our survival. 
To get us through the day. It is not

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prepared and it is not meant to care
for our happiness.

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That is up to us.

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If we both do our jobs right, we will not 
only get through the day alive,

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but happy as well.