WEBVTT 00:00:00.876 --> 00:00:07.964 If you know of any relationship 00:00:07.964 --> 00:00:11.054 that is not currently right, 00:00:11.054 --> 00:00:18.465 you are to endeavor yourself to mend it. 00:00:18.465 --> 00:00:19.904 You are. 00:00:19.904 --> 00:00:23.356 You're the one that's supposed to fix it. 00:00:23.356 --> 00:00:25.755 If we won't, if I know 00:00:25.755 --> 00:00:29.915 that something's wrong in a relationship 00:00:29.915 --> 00:00:32.005 and I'm like a horse or a mule 00:00:32.005 --> 00:00:34.125 that Psalm 32 says don't be that way - 00:00:34.125 --> 00:00:36.177 don't be stubborn and refuse - 00:00:36.177 --> 00:00:37.933 if I know something's wrong 00:00:37.933 --> 00:00:40.135 and I won't fix it, 00:00:40.135 --> 00:00:43.895 then I should stop 00:00:43.895 --> 00:00:45.748 expecting God to speak to me; 00:00:45.748 --> 00:00:47.345 I should stop reading books; 00:00:47.345 --> 00:00:49.266 I should stop talking about missions; 00:00:49.266 --> 00:00:51.805 I should stop all the talk 00:00:51.805 --> 00:00:53.435 and first get things right 00:00:53.435 --> 00:00:55.216 before I pursue anymore. 00:00:55.216 --> 00:00:56.865 If God's shown me something 00:00:56.865 --> 00:00:58.684 and I don't walk in the light of it - 00:00:58.684 --> 00:01:00.265 I don't obey what He's shown me - 00:01:00.265 --> 00:01:02.715 why should He say anymore to me? 00:01:02.715 --> 00:01:05.675 Why if He puts a finger on me 00:01:05.675 --> 00:01:07.205 about a relationship 00:01:07.205 --> 00:01:08.796 and I know it's got to be right - 00:01:08.796 --> 00:01:10.855 I know for sure 00:01:10.855 --> 00:01:12.035 if John Dees and I - 00:01:12.035 --> 00:01:13.773 which we've never had any of this - 00:01:13.773 --> 00:01:16.586 but if we had a dilemma in our relationship 00:01:16.586 --> 00:01:20.342 and we both knew something wasn't right between us - 00:01:20.342 --> 00:01:22.954 I had hurt him, I had sinned against him, 00:01:22.954 --> 00:01:24.464 or the other way around, 00:01:24.464 --> 00:01:26.145 and we both knew we were going to 00:01:26.145 --> 00:01:28.146 see each other today for the first time, 00:01:28.146 --> 00:01:29.584 I promise you, 00:01:29.584 --> 00:01:30.795 he would be coming to me, 00:01:30.795 --> 00:01:31.906 I'd be coming to him 00:01:31.906 --> 00:01:33.205 and we would get it right 00:01:33.205 --> 00:01:35.867 before we started singing, wouldn't we? 00:01:35.867 --> 00:01:38.644 How easy it is to come into church 00:01:38.644 --> 00:01:40.712 and a relationship not be right 00:01:40.712 --> 00:01:45.545 and then we want to sing the songs of God. 00:01:45.545 --> 00:01:47.325 If you come to worship 00:01:47.325 --> 00:01:50.516 and you come to bring your gift to the altar 00:01:50.516 --> 00:01:53.496 and there remember that your brother 00:01:53.496 --> 00:01:54.865 has ought against you, 00:01:54.865 --> 00:01:57.545 stop your singing, stop your worship. 00:01:57.545 --> 00:01:59.876 Go get it right and then come 00:01:59.876 --> 00:02:02.774 and offer your gift. 00:02:02.774 --> 00:02:03.965 How about it? 00:02:03.965 --> 00:02:07.486 Is every relationship right? 00:02:07.486 --> 00:02:10.596 You ought not to go to bed tonight 00:02:10.596 --> 00:02:15.925 without making sure of it 00:02:15.925 --> 00:02:18.925 because your bones might start rotting 00:02:18.925 --> 00:02:21.594 and your strength might start drying up 00:02:21.594 --> 00:02:23.054 like the heat of the summer. 00:02:23.054 --> 00:02:26.585 If you keep silent about it - 00:02:26.585 --> 00:02:30.235 it seems like we heard that not long ago. 00:02:30.235 --> 00:02:32.864 You see, what happens is - 00:02:32.864 --> 00:02:34.153 here's what we do. 00:02:34.153 --> 00:02:36.034 There's a problem in a relationship 00:02:36.034 --> 00:02:38.923 and we begin to rationalize and justify 00:02:38.923 --> 00:02:40.615 and make mental excuses. 00:02:40.615 --> 00:02:42.743 "Well, it will take care of itself." 00:02:42.743 --> 00:02:45.333 No, it won't. 00:02:45.333 --> 00:02:47.466 "Well, it will create more problems 00:02:47.466 --> 00:02:49.336 than it will solve if I go to him." 00:02:49.336 --> 00:02:51.605 No, it won't. 00:02:51.605 --> 00:02:54.034 "Well, it's just going to have to be that way." 00:02:54.034 --> 00:02:55.954 No, it doesn't. 00:02:55.954 --> 00:02:59.884 "Well, there's been too much time passed." 00:02:59.884 --> 00:03:02.904 No, there hasn't. 00:03:02.904 --> 00:03:05.534 "Well, there's too many differences between us." 00:03:05.534 --> 00:03:07.275 No, there are not. 00:03:07.275 --> 00:03:09.664 Maybe I've left out your excuse, 00:03:09.664 --> 00:03:12.055 but still the answer is 00:03:12.055 --> 00:03:15.076 it is always right, always right, 00:03:15.076 --> 00:03:16.657 to make things right. 00:03:16.657 --> 00:03:19.485 It is always wrong to leave a relationship 00:03:19.485 --> 00:03:22.375 damaged somehow. 00:03:22.375 --> 00:03:24.065 And the reason some true Christians 00:03:24.065 --> 00:03:26.086 won't get relationships right - 00:03:26.086 --> 00:03:27.806 I think there's three major reasons. 00:03:27.806 --> 00:03:31.075 Number one, it's too scary. 00:03:31.075 --> 00:03:33.224 It's scary to go to someone 00:03:33.224 --> 00:03:34.445 and say, brother, 00:03:34.445 --> 00:03:37.425 I think there's been something between us. 00:03:37.425 --> 00:03:38.835 It isn't right. 00:03:38.835 --> 00:03:41.274 I'm sorry. I don't want that to be that way. 00:03:41.274 --> 00:03:44.785 It's scary to do that, isn't it? 00:03:44.785 --> 00:03:46.473 It is. 00:03:46.473 --> 00:03:48.223 It's fearful. 00:03:48.223 --> 00:03:51.355 It's way outside some people's comfort zones to do that. 00:03:51.355 --> 00:03:56.424 It scares people to initiate making things right. 00:03:56.424 --> 00:04:01.034 Secondly, it's too painful to go 00:04:01.034 --> 00:04:04.236 and to say, listen, 00:04:04.236 --> 00:04:06.626 we've not been right in our relationship. 00:04:06.626 --> 00:04:10.213 It's too painful for some people. 00:04:10.213 --> 00:04:14.515 Thirdly, some people are just too proud. 00:04:14.515 --> 00:04:17.114 They want to leave it on the other person. 00:04:17.114 --> 00:04:20.785 The other person may not even know there's a problem. 00:04:20.785 --> 00:04:22.085 And you've wronged them, 00:04:22.085 --> 00:04:24.324 and you feel like you've sinned against them, 00:04:24.324 --> 00:04:29.274 or you feel legitimately that they did wrong you, 00:04:29.274 --> 00:04:31.737 but you're too proud to go. 00:04:31.737 --> 00:04:36.296 Too scared, too painful, too proud. 00:04:36.296 --> 00:04:39.974 And so you leave it undone. 00:04:39.974 --> 00:04:43.555 Listen, things undealt with 00:04:43.555 --> 00:04:46.044 will only do damage down the road. 00:04:46.044 --> 00:04:47.923 To hear the remainder of the sermon, 00:04:47.923 --> 00:04:50.644 search for "Every Relationship Right."