0:00:00.876,0:00:07.964 If you know of any relationship 0:00:07.964,0:00:11.054 that is not currently right, 0:00:11.054,0:00:18.465 you are to endeavor yourself to mend it. 0:00:18.465,0:00:19.904 You are. 0:00:19.904,0:00:23.356 You're the one that's supposed to fix it. 0:00:23.356,0:00:25.755 If we won't, if I know 0:00:25.755,0:00:29.915 that something's wrong in a relationship 0:00:29.915,0:00:32.005 and I'm like a horse or a mule 0:00:32.005,0:00:34.125 that Psalm 32 says don't be that way - 0:00:34.125,0:00:36.177 don't be stubborn and refuse - 0:00:36.177,0:00:37.933 if I know something's wrong 0:00:37.933,0:00:40.135 and I won't fix it, 0:00:40.135,0:00:43.895 then I should stop 0:00:43.895,0:00:45.748 expecting God to speak to me; 0:00:45.748,0:00:47.345 I should stop reading books; 0:00:47.345,0:00:49.266 I should stop talking about missions; 0:00:49.266,0:00:51.805 I should stop all the talk 0:00:51.805,0:00:53.435 and first get things right 0:00:53.435,0:00:55.216 before I pursue anymore. 0:00:55.216,0:00:56.865 If God's shown me something 0:00:56.865,0:00:58.684 and I don't walk in the light of it - 0:00:58.684,0:01:00.265 I don't obey what He's shown me - 0:01:00.265,0:01:02.715 why should He say anymore to me? 0:01:02.715,0:01:05.675 Why if He puts a finger on me 0:01:05.675,0:01:07.205 about a relationship 0:01:07.205,0:01:08.796 and I know it's got to be right - 0:01:08.796,0:01:10.855 I know for sure 0:01:10.855,0:01:12.035 if John Dees and I - 0:01:12.035,0:01:13.773 which we've never had any of this - 0:01:13.773,0:01:16.586 but if we had a dilemma [br]in our relationship 0:01:16.586,0:01:20.342 and we both knew something [br]wasn't right between us - 0:01:20.342,0:01:22.954 I had hurt him, I had sinned against him, 0:01:22.954,0:01:24.464 or the other way around, 0:01:24.464,0:01:26.145 and we both knew we were going to 0:01:26.145,0:01:28.146 see each other today for the first time, 0:01:28.146,0:01:29.584 I promise you, 0:01:29.584,0:01:30.795 he would be coming to me, 0:01:30.795,0:01:31.906 I'd be coming to him 0:01:31.906,0:01:33.205 and we would get it right 0:01:33.205,0:01:35.867 before we started singing, wouldn't we? 0:01:35.867,0:01:38.644 How easy it is to come into church 0:01:38.644,0:01:40.712 and a relationship not be right 0:01:40.712,0:01:45.545 and then we want to sing the songs of God. 0:01:45.545,0:01:47.325 If you come to worship 0:01:47.325,0:01:50.516 and you come to bring [br]your gift to the altar 0:01:50.516,0:01:53.496 and there remember that your brother 0:01:53.496,0:01:54.865 has ought against you, 0:01:54.865,0:01:57.545 stop your singing, stop your worship. 0:01:57.545,0:01:59.876 Go get it right and then come 0:01:59.876,0:02:02.774 and offer your gift. 0:02:02.774,0:02:03.965 How about it? 0:02:03.965,0:02:07.486 Is every relationship right? 0:02:07.486,0:02:10.596 You ought not to go to bed tonight 0:02:10.596,0:02:15.925 without making sure of it 0:02:15.925,0:02:18.925 because your bones might start rotting 0:02:18.925,0:02:21.594 and your strength might start drying up 0:02:21.594,0:02:23.054 like the heat of the summer. 0:02:23.054,0:02:26.585 If you keep silent about it - 0:02:26.585,0:02:30.235 it seems like we heard that not long ago. 0:02:30.235,0:02:32.864 You see, what happens is - 0:02:32.864,0:02:34.153 here's what we do. 0:02:34.153,0:02:36.034 There's a problem in a relationship 0:02:36.034,0:02:38.923 and we begin to rationalize and justify 0:02:38.923,0:02:40.615 and make mental excuses. 0:02:40.615,0:02:42.743 "Well, it will take care of itself." 0:02:42.743,0:02:45.333 No, it won't. 0:02:45.333,0:02:47.466 "Well, it will create more problems 0:02:47.466,0:02:49.336 than it will solve if I go to him." 0:02:49.336,0:02:51.605 No, it won't. 0:02:51.605,0:02:54.034 "Well, it's just going to [br]have to be that way." 0:02:54.034,0:02:55.954 No, it doesn't. 0:02:55.954,0:02:59.884 "Well, there's been too much time passed." 0:02:59.884,0:03:02.904 No, there hasn't. 0:03:02.904,0:03:05.534 "Well, there's too many [br]differences between us." 0:03:05.534,0:03:07.275 No, there are not. 0:03:07.275,0:03:09.664 Maybe I've left out your excuse, 0:03:09.664,0:03:12.055 but still the answer is 0:03:12.055,0:03:15.076 it is always right, always right, 0:03:15.076,0:03:16.657 to make things right. 0:03:16.657,0:03:19.485 It is always wrong to leave a relationship 0:03:19.485,0:03:22.375 damaged somehow. 0:03:22.375,0:03:24.065 And the reason some true Christians 0:03:24.065,0:03:26.086 won't get relationships right - 0:03:26.086,0:03:27.806 I think there's three major reasons. 0:03:27.806,0:03:31.075 Number one, it's too scary. 0:03:31.075,0:03:33.224 It's scary to go to someone 0:03:33.224,0:03:34.445 and say, brother, 0:03:34.445,0:03:37.425 I think there's been something between us. 0:03:37.425,0:03:38.835 It isn't right. 0:03:38.835,0:03:41.274 I'm sorry. I don't want [br]that to be that way. 0:03:41.274,0:03:44.785 It's scary to do that, isn't it? 0:03:44.785,0:03:46.473 It is. 0:03:46.473,0:03:48.223 It's fearful. 0:03:48.223,0:03:51.355 It's way outside some people's [br]comfort zones to do that. 0:03:51.355,0:03:56.424 It scares people to [br]initiate making things right. 0:03:56.424,0:04:01.034 Secondly, it's too painful to go 0:04:01.034,0:04:04.236 and to say, listen, 0:04:04.236,0:04:06.626 we've not been right in our relationship. 0:04:06.626,0:04:10.213 It's too painful for some people. 0:04:10.213,0:04:14.515 Thirdly, some people are just too proud. 0:04:14.515,0:04:17.114 They want to leave it on the other person. 0:04:17.114,0:04:20.785 The other person may not [br]even know there's a problem. 0:04:20.785,0:04:22.085 And you've wronged them, 0:04:22.085,0:04:24.324 and you feel like you've [br]sinned against them, 0:04:24.324,0:04:29.274 or you feel legitimately [br]that they did wrong you, 0:04:29.274,0:04:31.737 but you're too proud to go. 0:04:31.737,0:04:36.296 Too scared, too painful, too proud. 0:04:36.296,0:04:39.974 And so you leave it undone. 0:04:39.974,0:04:43.555 Listen, things undealt with 0:04:43.555,0:04:46.044 will only do damage down the road. 0:04:46.044,0:04:47.923 To hear the remainder of the sermon, 0:04:47.923,0:04:50.644 search for "Every Relationship Right."