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I have 422 friends,
yet I am lonely.

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I speak to all of them
everyday, yet none of them

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really know me.

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The problem I have
sits in the spaces

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between looking into their
eyes or at a name on a screen.

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I took a step back
and opened my eyes.

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I looked around and realized
that this media we call social

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is anything but, when
we open our computers

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and it's our doors we shut.

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All this technology we
have, it's just an illusion.

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Community, companionship,
a sense of inclusion.

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Yet, when you step away from
this device of delusion,

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you awaken to see a
world of confusion.

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A world where we're slaves to
the technology we mastered,

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where information gets sold
by some rich greedy bastard.

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A world of self-interest,
self-image self-promotion,

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where we all share
our best bits,

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but leave out the emotion.

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We're at our most happy
with an experience we share.

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But is it the same,
if no one is there?

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Be there for your friends
and they'll be there too,

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but no one will be, if
a group message will do.

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We edit and exaggerate,
crave adulation.

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We pretend not to notice
the social isolation.

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We put our words into order
until our lives are glistening.

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We don't even know if
anyone is listening.

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Being alone isn't the problem,
let me just emphasize.

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If you read a book, paint a
picture, or do some exercise,

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you're being productive
and present, not reserved

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and recluse.

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You're being awake and
attentive and putting your time

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to good use.

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So when you're in public
and you start to feel alone,

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put your hands behind your
head, step away from the phone.

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You don't need to stare at
your menu or your contact list.

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Just talk to one another.

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Learn to coexist.

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I can't stand to hear the
silence of a busy commuter

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train where no one wants to talk
for the fear of looking insane.

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We're becoming unsocial.

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It no longer satisfies to
engage with one another

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and look into someone's eyes.

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We're surrounded by children
who, since they were born,

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have watched us living like
robots and think it's the norm.

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It's not very likely you'll
make world's greatest dad

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if you can't entertain a
child without using an iPad.

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When I was a child
I'd never be home.

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Be out with my friends, on
our bikes we would roam.

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I'd wear holes in my trainers
and graze up my knees.

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We'd build our own clubhouse
high up in the trees.

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Now the park's so
quiet it gives me

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a chill, see no children outside
and the swings hanging still.

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There's no skipping, no
hopscotch, no church,

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and no steeple.

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We're a generation of idiots,
smartphones, and dumb people.

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So look up from your phone.

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Shut down the display.

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Take in your surroundings,
make the most of today.

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Just one real
connection is all it

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can take, to show you the
difference that being there

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can make.

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Be there in the moment
that she gives you the look

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that you remember forever.

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That's when love overtook.

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The time she'll first hold your
hand or first kiss your lips,

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the time you first disagree,
but still love her to bits.

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The time you don't
have to tell hundreds

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of what you've just done,
because you want to share

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this moment with just this one.

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The time you'll
sell your computer

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so you can buy a ring, for
the girl of your dreams

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who is now the real thing.

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The time you'll want to start
a family, and the moment when

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you first hold your little girl,
and get to fall in love again.

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The time she keeps you up at
night and all you want is rest.

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The time you wipe away the tears
as your baby flees the nest.

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The time your baby girl returns
with a boy for you to hold,

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and the time he
calls you granddad

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and makes you feel real old.

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The time you take
in all you've made,

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just by giving life attention.

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And how you're glad
you didn't waste it

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by looking down
at some invention.

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The time you hold your wife's
hand, sit down beside her bed.

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You tell her that you love
her, lay a kiss upon her head.

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She then whispers
to you quietly,

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as her heart gives a
final beat, that she's

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lucky she got stopped by
that lost boy in the street.

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But none of these
times ever happened.

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You never had any of this.

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When you're too
busy looking down,

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you don't see the
chances you miss.

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So look up from your phone.

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Shut down those displays.

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We have a finite existence,
a set number of days.

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Don't waste your life
getting caught in the net,

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as when the end comes,
nothing is worse than regret.

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I'm guilty too of being
part of this machine,

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this digital world, we
are heard but not seen.

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Where we type as we talk
and we read as we chat.

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Where we spend hours together
without making eye contact.

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So don't give into a life
where you follow the hype.

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Give people your love.

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Don't give them your like.

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Disconnect from the need
to be heard and defined.

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Go out into the world.

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Leave distractions behind.

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Look up from your phone.

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Shut down that display.

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Stop watching this video.

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Live life the real way.

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