WEBVTT 00:00:00.806 --> 00:00:03.356 I have four hundred and twenty-two friends 00:00:03.367 --> 00:00:05.470 yet I'm lonely. 00:00:05.487 --> 00:00:07.621 I speak to all of them every day, yet 00:00:07.621 --> 00:00:09.230 none of them really know me. 00:00:09.234 --> 00:00:11.594 LOOK UP 00:00:12.022 --> 00:00:14.666 The problem I have sits in the spaces between 00:00:14.666 --> 00:00:17.031 looking into their eyes or at a name on a screen. 00:00:17.031 --> 00:00:19.034 I took a step back and opened my eyes 00:00:19.034 --> 00:00:20.554 I looked around and realised 00:00:20.554 --> 00:00:23.290 that this media we call social is anything but. 00:00:23.313 --> 00:00:25.173 When we open our computers 00:00:25.173 --> 00:00:26.998 and it's our doors we shut. 00:00:26.998 --> 00:00:30.724 All this technology we have is just an illusion. 00:00:30.724 --> 00:00:33.369 Community, companionship, a sense of inclusion 00:00:33.369 --> 00:00:36.574 yet when you step away from this device of delusion, 00:00:36.574 --> 00:00:40.293 you awaken to see a world of confusion. 00:00:40.293 --> 00:00:43.111 A world where we're slaves to technology we mastered 00:00:43.111 --> 00:00:46.274 where information gets sold by some rich greedy bastard. 00:00:46.274 --> 00:00:49.090 A world of self-interest, self-image, self-promotion 00:00:49.090 --> 00:00:52.876 where we all share best bits but leave out the emotion. 00:00:52.876 --> 00:00:57.277 We're uttermost happy within experience we share 00:00:57.277 --> 00:00:59.824 but is it the same if no one is there? 00:00:59.824 --> 00:01:02.868 Be there for your friends and they'll be there, too. 00:01:02.868 --> 00:01:05.533 But no one will be if a group message will do. 00:01:05.533 --> 00:01:09.318 We edit and exagerrate, crave adulation 00:01:09.318 --> 00:01:12.029 We pretend not to notice the social isolation. 00:01:12.029 --> 00:01:15.034 We put words into order until our lives are glistening. 00:01:15.034 --> 00:01:17.299 We don't even know if anyone is listening. 00:01:17.299 --> 00:01:19.998 Being alone isn't a problem, let me just emphasize 00:01:19.998 --> 00:01:22.206 if you read a book, paint a picture or do some exercise, 00:01:22.206 --> 00:01:23.901 you're being productive and present, 00:01:23.901 --> 00:01:25.406 not reserved and recluse. 00:01:25.406 --> 00:01:26.782 You're being awake and attentive 00:01:26.782 --> 00:01:28.471 and putting your time to good use. 00:01:28.471 --> 00:01:30.960 So when you're in public and you start to feel alone, 00:01:30.960 --> 00:01:33.293 put your hands behind your head, step away from the phone. 00:01:33.293 --> 00:01:35.900 You don't need to ?? or wipe your contact list. 00:01:35.900 --> 00:01:38.710 just talk to one another. Learn to coexist. 00:01:38.710 --> 00:01:41.589 I can't stand to hear the silence of a busy commuter train 00:01:41.589 --> 00:01:44.042 where no one wants to talk for the fear of looking insane. 00:01:44.042 --> 00:01:45.982 We're becoming unsocial, 00:01:45.982 --> 00:01:48.431 we're no longer satisfied to engage with one another 00:01:48.431 --> 00:01:50.880 and looking into someone's eyes. 00:01:50.880 --> 00:01:53.330 We're surrounded by children, who since they were born, 00:01:53.330 --> 00:01:55.772 have watched us living like robots and think it is norm. 00:01:55.772 --> 00:01:57.949 It's not very likely you make world's greatest dad 00:01:57.949 --> 00:02:00.946 if you can't entertain a child without using an iPad. 00:02:00.950 --> 00:02:03.219 When I was a child I'd never be home. 00:02:03.219 --> 00:02:05.311 Be out with my friends on our bikes ??? 00:02:05.311 --> 00:02:07.620 I had holes in my trainers and graize up my knees 00:02:07.620 --> 00:02:09.755 building our club house up in the trees. 00:02:09.755 --> 00:02:12.298 Now the park's so quiet it gives me a chill. 00:02:12.298 --> 00:02:15.066 See no children outside and the swings hanging still. 00:02:15.066 --> 00:02:18.958 There is no skipping, no hop-scotch, no ? and no steeple. 00:02:18.958 --> 00:02:20.973 We're generation of idiots: 00:02:20.973 --> 00:02:24.109 Smartphones and dumb people. 00:02:26.145 --> 00:02:29.577 So look up from your phone, shut down display. 00:02:29.577 --> 00:02:32.441 Take in your surroundings, make the most of today. 00:02:32.441 --> 00:02:35.133 Just one real connection - - it's all it can take 00:02:35.133 --> 00:02:38.779 to show you the difference that being there can make. 00:02:40.738 --> 00:02:43.321 Be there in the moment that she gives you the look 00:02:43.321 --> 00:02:45.816 that you remember forever as when love overtook. 00:02:45.816 --> 00:02:48.737 Time she first hold your hand, or first kiss your lips, 00:02:48.737 --> 00:02:51.384 the time you first disagree but still love her to bits. 00:02:51.384 --> 00:02:54.521 The time you don't have to tell hundreds of what you've just done, 00:02:54.521 --> 00:02:57.528 because you want to share this moment with just this one. 00:02:57.528 --> 00:03:00.304 The time you sell your computer so you can buy a ring 00:03:00.304 --> 00:03:03.228 for the girl of your dreams who's now the real thing. 00:03:03.228 --> 00:03:06.273 The time you want to start a family and the moment when 00:03:06.273 --> 00:03:09.580 you first hold your little girl and get to fall in love again. 00:03:09.580 --> 00:03:13.504 The time she keeps you up at night and all you want is rest 00:03:13.504 --> 00:03:17.532 and the time you wipe away the tears as your baby flees the nest. 00:03:17.532 --> 00:03:21.843 The time your baby girl returns with a boy for you to hold 00:03:21.843 --> 00:03:25.570 and the time he calls you grand-dad and makes you feel real old. 00:03:25.570 --> 00:03:30.292 The time you're taking all you've made just by giving life attention 00:03:30.292 --> 00:03:32.153 and how you're glad you didn't waste it 00:03:32.153 --> 00:03:35.144 by looking down to some invention. 00:03:35.144 --> 00:03:37.395 The time you hold your wife's hand, 00:03:37.395 --> 00:03:38.766 sit down beside her bed, 00:03:38.766 --> 00:03:41.898 You tell her that you love her, lay a kiss upon her head. 00:03:41.898 --> 00:03:45.971 She then whispers to you quietly as her heart gives a final beat 00:03:45.971 --> 00:03:50.117 that she is lucky she got stopped by that lost boy in the street. 00:03:54.518 --> 00:03:56.771 But none of these times ever happened. 00:03:56.771 --> 00:03:59.524 You never had any of this. 00:03:59.524 --> 00:04:01.294 When you're too busy looking down, 00:04:01.294 --> 00:04:05.331 you don't see the chances you miss. 00:04:07.324 --> 00:04:11.224 So look up from your phone, shut down those displays. 00:04:11.224 --> 00:04:13.988 We have a finite existence, a set number of days. 00:04:13.988 --> 00:04:16.286 Don't waste your life getting caught in the net 00:04:16.286 --> 00:04:18.991 as when the end comes, nothing's worse than regret. 00:04:18.991 --> 00:04:21.546 I'm guilty too of being part of this machine, 00:04:21.546 --> 00:04:24.046 This digital world we're heard but not seen, 00:04:24.046 --> 00:04:26.306 where we type as we talk and we read as we chat, 00:04:26.306 --> 00:04:30.049 where we spend hours together without making eye contact. 00:04:30.049 --> 00:04:33.103 Just don't give in to the life where you follow the hype. 00:04:33.103 --> 00:04:34.585 Give people your love. 00:04:34.585 --> 00:04:36.127 Don't give them your like. 00:04:36.127 --> 00:04:38.510 Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined. 00:04:38.510 --> 00:04:41.964 Go out into the world and leave distractions behind. 00:04:45.312 --> 00:04:48.329 Look up from your phone, shut down that display. 00:04:48.329 --> 00:04:51.386 Stop watching this video and live life the real way.