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It's hard to overstate the massive[br]cultural impact of the Barbie movie

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"Hi Barbie"[br]"Hi Ken"

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The film Enchanted audiences, wowed critics,[br]sparked heated debates

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and made a truly obscene amount of money[br]at the Box Office

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"Barbie continues breaking records[br]with over 1 billion dollars at The Global Box Office"

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It's an impressive cultural achievement

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especially considering that the film doubles as[br]a featured-length for a line of plastic dolls

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There was, however, one group[br]who were decidedly unenthusiastic

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"Despite all the bubbly pink fun,[br]the movie's become a target"

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"of some right-wing personalities"

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"They are preaching empowerment[br]by making men look weak and dumb"

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"Feminist diet tribe about the evils of[br]the modern patriarchy"

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"It's a trojan horse to to teach girls[br]daddy is really a dummy"

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"or domineering idiots"

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"It's feminist garbage and[br]it's really about hating men"

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And Ken is like stupid and unlikable"

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"This is an assault on not just Ken,[br]but all men"

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If you've seen the movie[br]you might be confused

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because the Barbie script goes[br]out of it's way

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to show Ken in a sympathetic light

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If anything the movie might[br]be a little too sympathetic to Ken

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"I think I owe you an apology"[br]"Huh?"

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Now it's tempting to dismiss this[br]clearly performative outrage

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as just another attempt to fan the flame[br]of the culture war

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But there is something really poisonous

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under-pinning this backlash[br]that I do think is worth taking seriously

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One word in particular[br]seem to touch a nerve

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"Well, I haven't seen Barbie yet, um"

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"but I've seen people talking about[br]the number of times they use"

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"the word patriarchy in it"

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"Feminism and the patriarchy[br]and fighting it, and all that"

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"And actually to call it the patriarchy in[br]the film that phrase is used many times"

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"If you take a shot every time[br]Barbie says the word 'patriarchy',

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you will pass out before the movie ends"

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"As we learned that the use of word[br]'patriarchy' no less than ten times in this film"

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"The patriarchy is a big part of[br]this Barbie film"

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"The word is used endlessly in the movie[br]even though most people"

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"even me actually, have no real idea of[br]what patriarchy really means"

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That is a truly staggering[br]level of defensiveness

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especially coming from people who

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don't really seem to understand [br]what the word even means

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While there are many legitimate criticisms[br]of the Barbie movie's feminism or lack thereof

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this video essay is not going to[br]address those questions

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Instead, we're going to use the movie[br]as a sort of primary

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to help explain[br]what patriarchy actually is

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what it isn't and how it ends up[br]harming everyone including men

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"Watch your flank"

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To have any kind of[br]productive conversation

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we have to get over that defensiveness

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that so many mem feel whenever[br]they come across the word patriarchy

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"This is a real hornets nest in here"

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Contrary to popular belief[br]patriarchy is not a synonym for men

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nor is it a code word for masculinity

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and it certainly has nothing to do[br]with hating men

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"yeah I am confused about that"

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General confusion about what[br]patriarchy means

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is perhaps not surprising

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given that the word[br]very rarely appears in popular media

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When the term has been used[br]it's traditionally been as a joke

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to mock feminists or feminism

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"Let's take off our brows and burn them[br]in defiance of the misogynistic patriarchy"

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"you know what I think[br]I have to meet Harvey, but um"

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"maybe we can burn[br]our underwear together later"

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"When the last time we had a conversation[br]over 3 minutes it was about"

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"the patriarchal bias of[br]the Mr. Roger's show"

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"Well with King Friday lording it[br]over all the Lesser puppets"

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"What did I miss?"

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"The oppressive patriarchal values[br]that dictate our education"

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"good"

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It's only after the rise of[br]the me too movement

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that we begin to see[br]a shift in this pattern

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"Stay out of it Courtney"

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"You stay out of it.[br]I'm dismantling the patriarchy this year"

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"and I'm not afraid to start with you"

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These days the word is most often[br]written for snarky teenage characters

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"So you were Guided by Lon chivalry"

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"a tool of the patriarchy to extract[br]my undying gratitude?"

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"Mhm, you know[br]most people just say thank you"

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It's meant to identify them as brash,[br]rebellious or naively idealistic

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though not necessarily wrong[br]in their observations

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"I think marriage is just a patriarchal system[br]designed to make women less autonomous"

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"You become your husband's property,[br]you have to bear his children"

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"you even have to take his name"

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"Hey, didn't you say that prom was a..."[br]"A postcolonial patriarchal construct"

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"It is"

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"But we would go as a group[br]as a form of protest"

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"Hey hey, ho ho,[br]patriarchy has got to go"

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"Hey hey, ho ho,[br]patriarchy has got to go"

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Even in this new limited context the[br]word is still delivered as a punch line

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"I'm jus... I mean is that it?"

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and its meaning is left[br]intentionally vague

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"it's called Little Women[br]and it's about four sisters"

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"who overcome poverty[br]and the patriarchy..."

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"Nope, dolls"

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The lack of specificity guarantees that

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only those who are already in the know[br]will get the joke

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"Down with the patriarchy!"

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"Idiot, ah"

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Everyone else is left[br]either bewildered or extremely threatened

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"Why didn't Barbie tell me[br]about patriarchy?"

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"Which to my understanding is where men[br]and horses run everything?"

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"I'll silver away!"

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Sorry, Ken, but there are no horses involved

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Although, it does kind of make sense[br]why he might think that

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"That's not fair is it? You know[br]is it the fault of the patriarchy?"

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"Also, what is a patriarchy?"

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In its modern usage[br]patriarchy refers to a type of society

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that's constructed to promote[br]male power and authority

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In sociological terms it's what's called[br]a social system

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rooted in four distinct principles

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a society is patriarchal to the degree[br]that it's male-dominated

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male centered, male identified and[br]organized around an obsession with control

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We're going to go over[br]what all of that means in detail

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but the important thing to remember[br]about social systems

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is that we are not those systems[br]and those systems are not us

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"Because Barbie land, is now Kenland"

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So in the Barbie movie The Kens have a coup[br]and Implement patriarchy

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But the Kens as a group are[br]not patriarchy itself

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"Here I'm just a dude"

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The Kens make patriarchy happen[br]by doing it

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When they stop participating the[br]social system effectively ceases to exist

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In the same way that we can describe[br]a board game and its rules

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without saying anything about[br]the personality of the individual players

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so, too, can we talk about[br]the system of patriarchy and how it works

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without condemning every individual man

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Now keep in mind that the Barbie movie[br]focuses mostly on Straight White characters

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but patriarchy impacts people in[br]different ways based on their sexuality

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and race, class or geographical location

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"Is there a problem officers?"

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Moving forward in this video

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I'm going to be heavily borrowing from a[br]book called The Gender Knot

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by sociologist Alan G Johnson

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Since the devil is in the details,[br]let's use Kenland

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"Kendom"

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"Kendom"

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"Kendom Land"

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"Land of the..."[br]"Land of the free of the men"

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"Right. Well, this place"

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Let's use Kendom land to help illustrate[br]how patriarchy works

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"I shall seek my fortune there"

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"Alright"

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The first characteristic of a patriarchal[br]society is that it's male dominated

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This is relatively straightforward

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All it means is that positions of authority[br]are generally reserved for men

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Basically when you look up in[br]the various hierarchies of society

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you'll tend to see more and more men

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The Barbie movie gives us a vivid illustration[br]of what male dominance looks like

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We are presented with a montage of images[br]featuring powerful and important men

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It's notable that up until recently

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women have largely been[br]excluded from these fields

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"I'll take a high level,[br]high paying job with influence, please"

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"Okay you'll need at least an NBA"

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Ken also learns an important lesson

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when he demands to be given[br]a powerful position

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he has unceremoniously rejected

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"No I won't let you do[br]just one appendectomy"

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"But I'm a man"

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"But not a doctor"

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"Please"

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"No"

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This is because male dominance does not[br]mean that every individual man is powerful

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"I'm a man with no power[br]does that make me a woman?"

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In fact most men living in patriarchy

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will never acquire[br]a formal position of power

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"This is bad. This is really bad"

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"What?"

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Instead they'll spend their entire lives[br]laboring under the boot of

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other more powerful men

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"Are any women in charge?"

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Despite what this[br]Mattel boardroom scene implies

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It's not impossible for a woman to[br]ascend to the top in patriarchy

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It just means it'll be much much harder[br]for women to gain and maintain power

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and she will be tokenized and regarded as[br]a special exception to the rule

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"I love you guys"

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Unlike in the fantasy world of Barbie land

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there has never been[br]a female president of the United States

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"How come you're so amazing?"

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"No comment. Ah ha ha ha"[br]

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But even when a woman eventually[br]does win that position

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it will not mean that patriarchy is over

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Because patriarchy is a dynamic[br]and resilient system

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It has evolved and changed[br]over the decades

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and indeed centuries

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thanks to countless women who have fought[br]hard for a few seats at the table

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but the table is still male-dominated

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"You guys are clearly[br]not doing patriarchy very well"

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"No. Ha ha. No, we're uh,[br]we're doing it well, yeah"

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"We're just uh, hide it better now"

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The second aspect of a patriarchal society[br]is that it's male centered

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This simply means[br]that the focus of attention

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is primarily on men and boys[br]and what they do

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One of the reasons Barbie land[br]is so visually startling

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is because it's a rare vision of[br]a female centered world

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It's something we almost never[br]see in Hollywood

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outside of cheesy Sci-Fi movies[br]from the 1950s

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"Landing on an unknown planet"

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"they are captured by long limb beauties"

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"When they say take me to your leader

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"and they take them to[br]a creature like this"

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"you know they're on planet Venus"

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"Hi Barbie"

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"Yeah, space!"

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In Barbie Land the focus of[br]attention is naturally

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placed on the Barbies and what they do

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but after the coup, the Kens immediately[br]push the Barbies aside

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and put themselves and masculinity[br]at the center of absolutely everything

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"Everything basically everything"

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"exists to expand and elevate[br]the presence of men"

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This is an exaggerated reflection of[br]our own male centered world

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All you have to do is turn on the news[br]or go to the movies

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and you'll be inundated[br]with endless stories centering men

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"A symbol to the nation"

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"a hero to the world"

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"The beacon of hope, shining up"

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Obviously, this doesn't mean that[br]women are never centered under patriarchy

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But when they are[br]it's often framed as a woman's story

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rather than a human story

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The Barbie movie for example

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is very specifically a story about the[br]gendered experience

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of being a woman in society

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"Anxiety, panic attacks [br]and OCD sold separately"

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We can contrast that[br]with a movie like Oppenheimer

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which is a story about becoming death[br]the destroyer of worlds

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Yes this destroyer of worlds[br]happens to be a man

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But notice the story isn't focused on the[br]gendered experience

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of being a man in society

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In fact, all of Christopher Nolan's film[br]center very important men

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but none are about their gender

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They are built as stories representative[br]of the human experience writ large

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Greta Gerwig's movies on the other hand[br]all center women

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and are very explicitly about being a[br]woman trying to navigate a man's world

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"Very well"

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[Inaudible]

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That's not a criticism of[br]either director by the way

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It's just a stark illustration of what[br]male centered means

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In patriarchy men are viewed as[br]the default for human

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and therefore, male experiences are framed[br]as an exploration of the human condition

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While women's experiences are

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first and foremost, framed as[br]being about womanhood

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"Okay"

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Incidentally this deep-seated [br]cultural expectation of male centrality

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helps explain the waves of [br]backlash against any entertainment

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that's made for a general audience [br]but doesn't center men or masculinity

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Male identification [br]is a little more complicated

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but it is a critical piece [br]of the patriarchal puzzle

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It means that core cultural ideas [br]about what is considered good,

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desirable, preferable or normal[br]are culturally associated

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with how we think about men,[br]manhood and masculinity

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This is why professions that elevate [br]qualities like toughness, competitiveness

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strength, control, rationality [br]and invulnerability are so highly valued

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and highly paid in our society

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"Monsters"

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While occupations that revolve[br]around qualities

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thought of as feminine like[br]compassion, sharing or caregiving

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tend to be systematically[br]devalued and underfunded

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"You know Greg's in medicine too, Larry"

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"Oh, really what field?"

0:14:23.746,0:14:24.438
"Uh, nursing"

0:14:24.739,0:14:25.510
[Laughter]

0:14:27.620,0:14:31.832
In the Barbie movie, The Kens establish[br]an aggressively male identified society

0:14:32.878,0:14:36.259
They do this by stripping [br]Barbie land of its feminine identity

0:14:36.259,0:14:40.999
and superimposing a version of hyper[br]masculinity that seems to have been

0:14:40.999,0:14:43.181
lifted from 1980s action movies

0:14:44.654,0:14:48.177
They replace all the pink furniture with[br]black leather recliners

0:14:48.531,0:14:51.833
drape everything in obnoxious [br]cowboy motifs

0:14:51.833,0:14:54.919
and litter the landscape with gym[br]equipment and sporting gear

0:14:55.211,0:14:57.377
"Don't question it [br]just roll with, tiny baby"

0:14:58.622,0:14:59.847
"He call me baby?"

0:14:59.847,0:15:03.769
But male identification goes[br]much deeper than aesthetics

0:15:04.174,0:15:08.999
When Ken decides to embrace patriarchy[br]his behavior shifts accordingly

0:15:08.999,0:15:12.285
as he tries to project[br]male identified values

0:15:12.421,0:15:15.500
"You can stay if you want,[br]as my bride wife"

0:15:15.500,0:15:18.020
"or my long-term low commitment[br]distant girlfriend"

0:15:18.020,0:15:21.401
He buries self-doubt and hides [br]his hurt feelings

0:15:21.401,0:15:23.566
behind a layer of false bravado

0:15:23.566,0:15:24.938
"Bruski beer me?"

0:15:25.163,0:15:27.743
"I will not Bruski beer you"

0:15:27.743,0:15:29.644
"Ha ha ha, that's fine"

0:15:29.980,0:15:34.438
Under patriarchy the concept of leadership[br]and indeed power itself

0:15:34.438,0:15:37.856
is closely identified with masculinity

0:15:38.812,0:15:43.551
It follows then that all men are[br]socially elevated by default

0:15:43.935,0:15:48.428
while women and feminine things[br]are devalued and seen as inferior

0:15:48.730,0:15:50.390
"Oh you got fries with that shit?"

0:15:50.390,0:15:52.038
"If I said you had a hot body[br]would you hold it instead?"

0:15:52.038,0:15:56.350
This means that even men[br]who don't hold any institutional power

0:15:56.350,0:15:59.349
can still see themselves[br]as superior to women

0:16:00.497,0:16:02.238
That point is underscored

0:16:02.238,0:16:05.930
when we see that the Kens[br]are generally inept at running society

0:16:05.930,0:16:08.163
"Go face day drunk right now"[br][laughter]

0:16:08.371,0:16:09.632
[inaudible]

0:16:09.832,0:16:14.013
They spend their time day drinking,[br]playing games, and goofing off

0:16:14.691,0:16:16.400
"Every night is boy's night"

0:16:16.621,0:16:19.932
And yet they still see themselves [br]as superior

0:16:19.932,0:16:23.539
simply by virtue of being men [br]living in a patriarchy

0:16:23.951,0:16:26.928
"You're like I can't believe how great [br]this place is"

0:16:26.928,0:16:29.907
In Kendom land all the Barbies [br]are reduced to servants

0:16:29.907,0:16:33.354
"Where are my hungry boys who want snacks"

0:16:33.704,0:16:37.306
But in the real world a small number of [br]women can gain power

0:16:37.306,0:16:40.218
even inside of male identified systems

0:16:40.618,0:16:44.663
However, in order to do so they[br]must prove themselves worthy

0:16:44.663,0:16:49.579
by appearing to be just as aggressive[br]competitive and even less emotional

0:16:49.579,0:16:52.356
than any man in that same position

0:16:52.785,0:16:56.988
In other words, even though they are women[br]they must adopt and perform

0:16:56.988,0:16:59.966
male identified patriarchal values

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The fourth and final feature of patriarchy[br]is an obsession with control

0:17:07.145,0:17:11.877
as a core value around which social and [br]personal life are organized

0:17:11.877,0:17:16.967
Men maintain their privilege by [br]controlling both women and other men

0:17:16.967,0:17:18.579
who might threaten it

0:17:20.478,0:17:23.926
The Barbie movie downplays it [br]but men's violence against women

0:17:23.926,0:17:26.141
and the everpresent threat thereof

0:17:26.141,0:17:27.558
"Give us a smile, blondie"

0:17:27.558,0:17:30.670
is a critical element in maintaining [br]patriarchal control

0:17:30.670,0:17:34.698
"I'm not getting any of that. I feel[br]that can only be described as admired"

0:17:35.425,0:17:39.236
"but not ogled and there's no [br]undertone of violence"

0:17:39.236,0:17:41.703
"Mine very much has an [br]undertone of violence"

0:17:41.873,0:17:44.295
Control can also be achieved in other ways

0:17:44.295,0:17:46.741
and since the Kens don't really [br]understand violence

0:17:46.741,0:17:51.112
they use coercion and manipulation[br]to control daily life in Barbie land

0:17:51.429,0:17:52.759
"What is wrong with them?"

0:17:52.759,0:17:55.784
"We just explain to them the immaculate[br]impeccable seamless gaunlet of logic"

0:17:55.784,0:17:57.566
"that is patriarchy and they crumbled"

0:17:57.566,0:18:00.360
Not the Kens take over [br]every institution

0:18:00.360,0:18:02.493
they also take control of the Dream Houses

0:18:02.493,0:18:07.566
"This shall henceforth be known as [br]Ken's Mojo Dojo Kasa house"

0:18:07.566,0:18:11.680
and they manipulate the Barbies into [br]embracing their new status

0:18:11.680,0:18:12.682
as objectified servants

0:18:12.682,0:18:14.874
"Anyone need a Bruski beer?"

0:18:15.054,0:18:17.585
"What are you doing? You're a doctor"

0:18:17.585,0:18:19.601
"I like being a helpful decoration"

0:18:19.601,0:18:23.063
The illusion of intellectual[br]and rational superiority

0:18:23.063,0:18:28.100
is critical to enforcing the myth [br]that men are in control of every situation

0:18:28.100,0:18:29.734
"Let me show you"[br]"Here, let me show you"

0:18:29.734,0:18:32.008
"Here, let us show you"

0:18:32.008,0:18:35.293
and therefore deserve their [br]privilege status

0:18:35.546,0:18:36.826
"Now you listen to me"

0:18:36.826,0:18:39.436
This is emblematic of how men [br]in the real world

0:18:39.436,0:18:42.974
will often compensate for feelings of [br]personal inadequacy

0:18:42.974,0:18:46.494
by exercising extreme control[br]over those closest to them

0:18:46.494,0:18:49.330
"You are going to be home at 6 o'clock [br]every night"

0:18:49.330,0:18:52.238
"and you are going to have dinner[br]ready on this table"

0:18:52.424,0:18:55.258
Especially women and children

0:18:55.432,0:18:56.254
"No"

0:18:56.552,0:18:59.085
"I don't want to push you around"

0:18:59.957,0:19:03.805
Returning to The Gender Knot:[br]"Men are assumed and expected

0:19:03.805,0:19:09.172
to be in control at all times[br]to be unemotional except for anger and rage

0:19:09.172,0:19:13.519
to present themselves as invulnerable,[br]autonomous, independent

0:19:13.519,0:19:19.030
strong, rational, logical, dispassionate,[br]knowledgeable, always right

0:19:19.030,0:19:24.115
and in command of every situation[br]especially those involving women"

0:19:24.115,0:19:25.445
[Laughter]

0:19:25.829,0:19:27.301
"Who are you texting?"

0:19:27.351,0:19:29.031
"Huh?"[br]"Who are you texting?"

0:19:30.069,0:19:30.729
"No one"

0:19:30.729,0:19:32.324
"Hmm, let me just"

0:19:32.473,0:19:33.347
[giggle]

0:19:33.455,0:19:34.321
"Ken!"

0:19:34.321,0:19:37.299
This obsession with control is[br]so strong in our culture

0:19:37.299,0:19:42.471
that any man who is perceived[br]as not exerting enough control over women

0:19:42.917,0:19:46.096
is likely to be ridiculed as [br]pussy whipped, packed

0:19:46.096,0:19:48.867
or tethered to the old balling chain

0:19:49.858,0:19:53.181
Notice that there are no equivalent [br]derogatory terms for men

0:19:53.181,0:19:57.908
who do control women[br]only for men who don't

0:19:59.877,0:20:05.240
The obsession with control manifests[br]in countless ways, big and small

0:20:05.240,0:20:10.930
"We would love it, if you could just[br]get into that giant box"

0:20:10.549,0:20:14.419
But, control over women, their bodies[br]and their sexuality

0:20:14.429,0:20:16.937
is a core tenant under patriarchy

0:20:17.635,0:20:19.829
"Get in the box! You Jezebel"

0:20:20.689,0:20:23.411
Recall that the Kens take control[br]of the government

0:20:23.411,0:20:27.729
and use its power to actively exclude[br]the Barbies from civic life

0:20:27.729,0:20:30.388
"That's right. In just 48 hours [br]all the Kens will head to the polls"

0:20:30.388,0:20:34.276
"and vote to change the Constitution to [br]a government for the Kens of the Kens,"

0:20:34.276,0:20:35.621
"and by the Kens!"

0:20:36.538,0:20:40.330
Since these are children's toys[br]the Barbies can't reproduce

0:20:40.633,0:20:42.565
Well, aside from Midge that one time

0:20:42.777,0:20:45.357
But, the rest of the Barbies[br]can't have babies

0:20:45.736,0:20:48.305
but if they could the Kens[br]would have no doubt

0:20:48.305,0:20:52.816
curtailed their reproductive rights[br]just like in the real world

0:20:54.545,0:20:59.560
The social system I've just described[br]is very obviously oppressive to women

0:20:59.928,0:21:02.899
But while patriarchy definitely[br]benefits men

0:21:02.899,0:21:08.360
it's paradoxically a poison chalice[br]because it robs men of their full humanity

0:21:08.360,0:21:11.214
"Okay, here's the deal.[br]It's not just about how they see us"

0:21:11.214,0:21:13.458
"it's about how they see themselves"

0:21:13.458,0:21:16.740
We only have time to scratch the surface[br]on this topic

0:21:16.740,0:21:19.319
but embedded in Ken's story,[br]we can find a few hints

0:21:19.319,0:21:22.170
as to how patriarchy ends up harming men

0:21:23.772,0:21:28.240
Even though Hollywood loves to play on[br]themes of a war between the genders

0:21:28.352,0:21:30.590
that framing misses a critical point

0:21:30.590,0:21:34.522
because patriarchy is not[br]a competition between men and women

0:21:35.329,0:21:38.880
Rather, it's an endless competition[br]for dominance

0:21:38.880,0:21:42.997
wherein men are pitted against each other[br]for a place in what RW Connell calls:

0:21:42.997,0:21:45.743
"the hierarchy of masculinities"

0:21:47.199,0:21:50.216
The white heterosexual hyper[br]masculine ideal

0:21:50.216,0:21:52.334
is at the top of the hierarchy

0:21:52.844,0:21:56.550
All other forms of manhood especially[br]those in any way associated with

0:21:56.550,0:22:01.426
homosexuality or femininity[br]are pushed further down on the hierarchy

0:22:01.426,0:22:03.857
"When you're slapped, you'll[br]take it and like it"

0:22:06.117,0:22:10.297
Recall that when the Kens go to war[br]it isn't against the Barbies

0:22:10.971,0:22:12.773
it's against the other Kens

0:22:13.029,0:22:14.111
"We go to war"

0:22:15.358,0:22:16.277
"Against the Barbies?"

0:22:16.277,0:22:17.100
"No, against the Kens"

0:22:17.100,0:22:18.101
"But we are the Kens"

0:22:18.101,0:22:19.259
"The other Kens"

0:22:19.397,0:22:22.919
Up until this point, I've been mining[br]the Barbies movie to help illustrate

0:22:22.919,0:22:24.756
how patriarchy works

0:22:25.012,0:22:27.961
But the usefulness of the film's[br]narrative is limited

0:22:27.961,0:22:30.483
especially when it comes to[br]male competition

0:22:30.632,0:22:33.101
"Looks this beach is a little[br]too much beach for you, Ken"

0:22:33.101,0:22:36.281
"If I wasn't severely injured,[br]I would beach you off right now, Ken"

0:22:36.281,0:22:37.927
" I'll beach you up with you any day, Ken"

0:22:37.927,0:22:39.417
You may remember for example

0:22:39.417,0:22:43.665
that long before they ever discover[br]what patriarchy even is

0:22:43.665,0:22:47.390
Ken and Ken are engaged[br]in a bitter competition

0:22:47.390,0:22:50.442
over control of Barbie's[br]time and attention

0:22:51.082,0:22:53.074
"Bet you can't do a flip like that, Ken"

0:22:53.436,0:22:55.467
This is where the Barbies script[br]is perhaps

0:22:55.467,0:22:57.527
a little too clever for its own good

0:22:57.747,0:23:01.323
Because it's many overlapping[br]metaphors and allegories

0:23:01.323,0:23:04.975
leave us with some mixed messages[br]about the Kens

0:23:05.819,0:23:09.503
the rivalry between the Kens[br]may work as a sort of gender flipped

0:23:09.503,0:23:13.705
commentary on how women are taught[br]to seek validation through male attention

0:23:13.705,0:23:19.091
"I only exist within [br]the warmth of your gaze"

0:23:19.091,0:23:24.406
It is less successful however, as part of [br]the film's larger critique of patriarchy

0:23:24.840,0:23:28.502
Because the Ken's competitive rivalry [br]carries with it some uncomfortable

0:23:28.757,0:23:29.904
echoes of male entitle

0:23:30.435,0:23:32.588
"I bet you're scared and [br]I bet she doesn't even wanted to go"

0:23:33.050,0:23:37.306
And that behavior is not attributed to[br]patriarchy in the first half of the movie

0:23:37.891,0:23:40.097
which is confusing because it[br]definitely should be

0:23:40.361,0:23:41.040
"Hi, Barbie"

0:23:41.652,0:23:42.253
[grunt]

0:23:42.472,0:23:42.766
"Hi, Ken"

0:23:43.016,0:23:43.389
"Hi, Ken"

0:23:44.088,0:23:45.967
The thing about being obsessed[br]with control

0:23:46.159,0:23:47.884
is that it traps men in a cycle of fear

0:23:48.378,0:23:49.223
"Hi, Barbie"

0:23:50.372,0:23:50.833
"Hi, Ken"

0:23:51.378,0:23:55.105
The more men value control,[br]the more they're afraid of losing it

0:23:57.054,0:24:00.776
This leaves men riddled with anxiety[br]about not measuring up to other men

0:24:02.262,0:24:06.441
which means they can never truly feel[br]secure in their own masculinity

0:24:07.345,0:24:11.206
"I made a double bet with Ken and you can't[br]make me look uncool in front of Ken"

0:24:11.672,0:24:12.751
"Ken's not cool"

0:24:13.314,0:24:14.063
"He is to me"

0:24:14.410,0:24:16.225
In the movie the patriarchal battle[br]for dominance

0:24:16.543,0:24:18.736
culminates in an absurdest dream ballet

0:24:19.219,0:24:23.076
but in reality the consequences[br]can be deadly serious

0:24:25.606,0:24:29.757
Most violence in the real world[br]is perpetrated by men against other men

0:24:32.406,0:24:37.092
This Grim reality is part of why the[br]Barbie's plan to overthrow patriarchy

0:24:37.434,0:24:41.807
by tricking the Kens into fighting[br]each other is so wildly misguided

0:24:42.535,0:24:45.205
"You play on their egos and their[br]petty jealousies"

0:24:45.551,0:24:47.364
"and you turn them against each other"

0:24:47.692,0:24:51.806
While the scene is undoubtedly funny[br]and the song choice, absolutely perfect

0:24:52.152,0:24:56.573
aggressive competitive male behavior is[br]a core feature of patriarchy

0:24:57.843,0:24:59.639
Not a bug that can be exploited

0:25:01.089,0:25:02.620
"And now they destroy themselves"

0:25:03.141,0:25:06.419
And for the record, men's violence[br]is definitely not something

0:25:06.672,0:25:08.835
that women manipulate men into doing

0:25:09.359,0:25:11.891
Something else the movie doesn't show

0:25:12.691,0:25:16.837
is how the enormous pressures patriarchy[br]places on men can lead to self harm

0:25:17.475,0:25:20.975
either directly or indirectly through[br]addiction and other risky behaviors

0:25:24.275,0:25:27.658
The prohibition on expressing vulnerability[br]compounds the problem

0:25:28.354,0:25:31.490
by making it difficult, if not impossible,[br]for men to ask for help

0:25:32.203,0:25:33.835
or build emotional support networks

0:25:34.390,0:25:35.345
"Ken?"

0:25:35.904,0:25:36.624
"Oh hey, Barbie"

0:25:36.892,0:25:37.394
"Hi"

0:25:37.581,0:25:38.486
"How much of that did you see?"

0:25:39.039,0:25:42.919
Of course all people need love,[br]intimacy and nurture

0:25:44.890,0:25:49.257
But since patriarchy devalues caregiving[br]and labels it as feminine

0:25:49.723,0:25:53.357
many men feel compelled to sacrifice[br]their emotional sides

0:25:53.690,0:25:56.626
in order to preserve [br]their identity as real men

0:25:58.235,0:26:00.668
As a result, many guys, especially[br]straight guys

0:26:01.005,0:26:04.102
falsely believe that women are[br]somehow responsible

0:26:04.795,0:26:06.322
"Oh, but I don't want you here"

0:26:06.942,0:26:07.486
"Is it Ken?"

0:26:08.561,0:26:09.656
"Ken's just a really good friend"

0:26:10.559,0:26:11.085
"Goodnight"

0:26:11.346,0:26:15.589
That being rejected is tantamount to[br]women holding emotional intimacy hostage

0:26:16.457,0:26:19.803
when in reality it's not women[br]but patriarchy

0:26:20.407,0:26:24.137
that's blocking men's access to[br]emotional and physical intimacy

0:26:25.709,0:26:29.200
So when Barbie refuses Ken's advances[br]he becomes resentful

0:26:29.694,0:26:30.451
he lashes out

0:26:30.835,0:26:32.245
"No you failed me"

0:26:33.275,0:26:36.394
And he ends up harming everyone,[br]including himself

0:26:36.870,0:26:38.328
[Cry]

0:26:38.809,0:26:39.483
"Don't look at me"

0:26:40.555,0:26:43.641
In her excellent book: The Will to[br]Change

0:26:44.088,0:26:47.593
Bell Hooks doesn't mince words when[br]describing what happens to men

0:26:47.902,0:26:49.157
inside of patriarchy

0:26:49.773,0:26:54.220
"Teaching boys to despise their[br]vulnerability is one way to socialize them"

0:26:54.604,0:26:57.420
"to engage in self-inflicted soul murder"

0:26:59.705,0:27:03.716
It's no wonder then that Ken isn't really[br]happy living in patriarchy

0:27:04.458,0:27:08.378
In fact, in Kendom land he was even further[br]alienated from Barbie

0:27:08.952,0:27:11.719
From his own feelings and[br]from the other Kens

0:27:14.454,0:27:16.613
Part of this interview with Julia Fox

0:27:16.855,0:27:18.778
where she's hooked up to[br]a polygraph machine

0:27:18.983,0:27:20.914
became a viral meme on Tik Tok

0:27:21.229,0:27:23.997
"I hate the patriarchy there's[br]a lot of really good men"

0:27:24.602,0:27:25.274
"Answer the question"

0:27:25.651,0:27:26.283
"Do I hate men? No"

0:27:27.712,0:27:28.368
"That's a lie"

0:27:29.770,0:27:31.545
The viral audio snippet stopped there

0:27:32.371,0:27:36.229
But when we play the rest of it her answer[br]is Illuminating and nuanced

0:27:37.222,0:27:41.737
"There's a lot of men that benefit from[br]the systemic oppression of women"

0:27:42.311,0:27:47.279
"in our culture and society [br]and religions and I do wish that"

0:27:47.463,0:27:49.767
"more men could stand up for us"

0:27:50.115,0:27:53.720
She explains that she obviously does[br]not hate all individual men

0:27:54.233,0:27:58.129
What she hates is the fact that most men [br]do absolutely nothing

0:27:58.480,0:28:00.878
to help end the oppression of women

0:28:01.529,0:28:05.368
So what can men do to make a difference[br]in ending this system?

0:28:05.663,0:28:06.901
"The Kens.[br]They found us"

0:28:07.203,0:28:11.483
Let's use Allan as our proxy for this[br]part of the discussion

0:28:12.149,0:28:14.663
since he's the only guy who joins[br]the Barbies' revolution

0:28:15.485,0:28:17.597
Well, aside from these two brief cameos

0:28:17.929,0:28:18.614
"Sugar daddy?"

0:28:18.847,0:28:22.354
"No no no no, I'm not a sugar daddy.[br]This is sugar and I'm her daddy"

0:28:23.231,0:28:24.662
"And I have an earring, a magic earring"

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Notice that all three of these[br]characters are queer coded

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and despite being men, [br]they're marginalized

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in the hierarchy of masculinities

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Allan in particular, embodies a bunch of[br]common mistakes

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that men make when trying to disentangle[br]themselves from the system of patriarchy

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The first thing Allan does is nothing

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He is a bystander who is nonetheless[br]still afforded

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a measure of privilege in Kendom Land

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that the Barbies are not

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"And Alan likes to help me give[br]all the Kens foot massages"

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"No, I don't, I don't like that"

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"We love it"

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Like some men in the real world,[br]Alan might not be actively or consciously

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participating in the oppression of women

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but he doesn't speak out against it either

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The next thing Allan does is[br]try to escape

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As soon as he spies a way out for himself,[br]he tries to take it

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"How are you?"

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"I'm Allan.[br]Don't tell the Ken I'm trying to escape"

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"I cannot sit on one more leather couch[br]it's going to break my spirit"

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The problem is man can't just[br]opt out of patriarchy

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because it's been woven into the very[br]fabric of our whole society

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"What, what do we do?"

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"Just get in the car and keep it singing"

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The next thing Allan tries is to engage[br]in displays of chivalrous violence

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After learning the extent of the[br]injustice women face

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some men try to distance themselves[br]from the problem

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and from any personal culpability[br]by going after particularly, bad men

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But patriarchy isn't a person

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and you can't punch a a social system[br]in the face

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as much as you might want to

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"Guess what happened?"

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"I, I got into a fight I'm fine but I..."

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"I think we solved feminism"

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"Yeah! once and for all"

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"It was just like a a total melee,[br]like on the news"

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And most of the time men lashing[br]out in violence isn't helpful

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as it simply replicates[br]the core values of patriarchy

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Allan fumbles around for a while, but[br]eventually he joins the Barbies' revolution

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and figures out how to stand with[br]them in solidarity

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Notably though, Allan never tries to[br]confront the Kens

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about what they're doing

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And that's unfortunate because[br]the most important thing men can do

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is challenge other men[br]on their behavior

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and encourage them to rebel [br]against patriarchal expectations

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Despite all the harm it does to women[br]and to men's well-being

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the system of patriarchy remains[br]invisible to most people

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And the Barbie movie for all its flaws,[br]makes it visible

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This is, I'd argue, at the root of why[br]so many right-wing pundits

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were so extremely threatened[br]by this cartoony fantasy land

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Not only does the film acknowledge[br]the existence of patriarchy

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it dares to suggest that it's not a[br]natural or inevitable institution

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And in doing so it lays bare the[br]fundamental truth about all social systems

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they can be dismantled

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"No Barbie or Ken should be[br]living in the shadows"

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"Or Allan"

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Choosing to confront such an[br]entrenched system

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can be risky for men and[br]extremely dangerous for women

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Nonetheless, all over the world women[br]are challenging patriarchy

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like never before in modern history

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And the reality is that every day[br]more and more men

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are choosing to stand with those women[br]to join the struggle for liberation

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and to reclaim their full humanity

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