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Hi, we're here with the 21Convention

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Melbourne, Australia with James Marshall.

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Fantastic speech, as always. Love all your speeches.

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So, we had a couple questions and

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one of them was

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The importance of knowing what you want,

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in a relationship. How important is that ?

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Well,...

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fundamental because if you don't know

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what you want in a relationship, then

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you're at the dictates of what

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somebody else wants. Instantly. Or if neither

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of you know what either of you wants then

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you tend to. (chaos) Yes, absolute chaos :)

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Hum,...

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and it's really important in terms of

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being able to choose the right path, in life.

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Hum...

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There's lots of people, guys and girls

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doing relationships with people they shouldn't be.

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Cuz they're not even really sure of what

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they want out of a partner.

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And so getting your values clear about what,

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are you deal breakers ?

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What are you not going to put up with ?

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Cuz,...

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another thing people put up with really awful relationships.

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Hum,...

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Often because they feel like they don't have any choice.

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But if you understand those,

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and then you understand what are the elements that you,

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are most important in your relationship

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Let's say they're the top 3 things that you need to have

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to feel satisfied, to feel loved,

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to feel appreciated, to feel excited,

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in a relationship.

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Hum,....and you communicate those

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then you're gonna follow the right path.

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And the title of your speech was:

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" What women want "

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So, can you tell me briefly what, what do I want ?

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What if, what do women want ?

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Well, that...the thing is there.

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That brings it up.

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I wanted to say, firstly I didn't know

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what every woman wants all the time.

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Hum,... and it's more of a question for men

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to start asking themselves.

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Hum,...Because I think

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many men just don't think about or don't care.

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They're so centered on,

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"Ok, what do I want ?

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Which is, "I want hot chicks and I want this and that."

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The most important thing to understand that is...

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If you want to get what you want, then you

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have to make sure that those who are

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with you, around you get what they want.

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And so,

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the most important aspect I think is

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to understand how to communicate,

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to find out what the woman's needs are.

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Hum,...

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There's something as a generic, or sorry, not generic.

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There's general principals.

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Things such as being a good leader

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and, and one

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I'd elaborate by saying a leader

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who's worthy, is one who's, those who follow, benefit.

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So, every time you want to lead a woman

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to do something, whether that's escalating or

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go in car with you or have a drink with you,

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or whatever.

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She needs to feel that's gonna benefit her.

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Hum,...

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If it's just you trying to robotically lead

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or tug her somewhere. And she doesn't enjoy it.

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Then, it's not proper leading.

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Hum,...

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I also looked at the idea of emotional variation

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whether a woman likes drama,

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in a positive sense of, of feeling like

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hum,...

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there's expectation, there's uncertainty, there's

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excitement leading to pleasurable releases

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or resolutions.

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And, the other thing,

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I guess that a woman really wants, is a man

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who is able to stand up to her tests.

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Hum,...and

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I look at the tests that woman give

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as a very positive thing.

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Not as, like them being bitchy and just trying to

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belittle men. But as something,

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where she is trying to see what is his

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reactions to things that, uh...he isn't mindful.

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Because if she sees that he's not reactive,

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in situations which he wasn't planning for,

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then he's going to be easy-going, he's gonna

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be fun, he's going to be adaptable and all these

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things she's gonna enjoy.

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Fantastic.

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And the other thing was, so,

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once you meet a girl, you know that you like her.

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You described, ah...effort. And the right sort of effort

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and the wrong sort of effort.

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Can you tell me what kinda it is the right sort of effort

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that you want to put forward ?

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Well,...

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The, the effort that you put into, hum,...

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pursuing a woman

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Uh,...

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needs to be based on a reality checks.

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And,...

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And, it's not, it's not men's fault. In the sense that

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there's so much incorrect or wasted effort that's being put in.

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Let's say the typical one would be.

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There's two.

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There's on either spectrums. You have,

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firstly being arrogant and overbearing and pushy.

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Because, there's some schools of thought or

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some ideas that man needs to be alpha,

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needs to go for what he wants, or whatever.

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Which is true, but in temperance to the

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response of people around him.

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Hum,...

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So, if you're constantly trying to push,

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and hum,...

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be aggressive about what you want,

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and you noticed that's not working.

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Then you really need to look at the fact that well, if it's not

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benefiting her, to, when you try to get what you want.

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She's not going to do it.

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On the other side, we have this application of

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huge amounts of, kind of, passive wimpy

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effort that a man will do to be

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really nice and pleasant and accommodating.

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always agreeing, being polite and so on

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and so to a woman. Thinking that he's kinda

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building up these, these credit points, in terms of

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certain girls eventually gonna go,

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"Wow, he's actually really a great guy. "

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She might go, " Wow, he's really a great guy "

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But she's not gonna go,

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" plus, I want to have sex with him."

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She's just gonna go," Cool, there's my friend guy."

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Hum, so.

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And I, this is such a common thing for

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guys I work with. These are men who have

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exerted huge amounts of effort in attempting to

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create relationships.

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And they have.

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But they have so shown the person,

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demonstrated through their actions,

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that what they wanted was, a friendship.

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Because they acted like that.

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And, and then they're surprised,

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when they're trying to switch that over

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to being romantic or sexual.

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And the girl is like, "Uh, no."

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Yeah ?

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So, I think it's really important to look at.

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Yes, you must apply effort, as

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a man to get a woman. Yeah ?

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But,...

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it needs to be very clear from the,

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basically the beginning. That you are

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sexually interested in her.

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And,..

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that you are interested in her desires as well.

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You're interested in finding out what is it she wants.

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And then you are able to take decisive leadership steps,

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where she benefits.

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And she follows. As a,...

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When you have authority to lead,

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towards that.

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Because that's gonna save huge amounts of time, because,

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if you do it, and she's like, not interested,

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you've saved yourself months of

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or years of, like, you know, painful wasted effort.

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So I hear you are running a tour.

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Hmhm.

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Through uh, like an adventure tour through Europe.

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How would I go about. Or, well, how

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would you go about, getting on to that ?

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Ok, so, yes. I...

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Every summer, European summer

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I run two of these tours that are

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ten day traveling seduction workshops.

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So they are very unique program where we

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travel through three of the best countries,

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in my opinion, in terms of the most beautiful woman.

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Interesting places.

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Hum,...and

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fantastic places for me to teach guys to learn.

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Ah,...

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And, so this is primarily an infield workshops

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So, it's like every day we are out there, constantly

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fine-tuning as well as working

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with our female coaches. There's a lot of, you know,

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relevant theory to make this a complete transformation.

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It's also really a man's initiations.

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It's like, not just a bootcamp.

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It's a very deep internal-external journey.

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Hum,...

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The events start running

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29th of may to the 10th of june.

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And, anyone interested can check out theeurotour.com

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and get in contact with me and

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I'll call you and talk to you about it.

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Fantastic.

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So this is Jamie Marshall and

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we're here at The 21 Convention.

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Bye guys :)

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Thank you.