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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.83,0:00:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my moment of truth
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.87,0:00:05.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did not come all at once.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.94,0:00:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2010, I had the chance to be considered
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.56,0:00:11.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for promotion from my job
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.89,0:00:13.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as director of policy planning
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.96,0:00:16.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the U.S. State Department.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.72,0:00:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was my moment to lean in,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.45,0:00:23.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to push myself forward
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.33,0:00:26.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for what are really only a handful
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.03,0:00:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the very top foreign policy jobs,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.04,0:00:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had just finished a big, 18-month project
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.12,0:00:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Secretary Clinton, successfully,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.70,0:00:38.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I knew I could handle a bigger job.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.93,0:00:42.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The woman I thought I was
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.76,0:00:44.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would have said yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.93,0:00:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I had been commuting for two years
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.96,0:00:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between Washington and Princeton, New Jersey,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.10,0:00:54.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where my husband and my two teenage sons lived,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.03,0:00:57.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was not going well.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.29,0:01:00.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tried on the idea of eking out another two years
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.100,0:01:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Washington, or maybe uprooting my sons
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.79,0:01:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from their school and my husband from his work
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.93,0:01:08.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and asking them to join me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.51,0:01:11.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But deep down, I knew
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.55,0:01:15.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the right decision was to go home,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.08,0:01:17.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if I didn't fully recognize the woman
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.100,0:01:21.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was making that choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.99,0:01:25.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was a decision based on love
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.50,0:01:27.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and responsibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.44,0:01:30.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I couldn't keep watching my oldest son
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.34,0:01:31.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make bad choices
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.76,0:01:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without being able to be there for him
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.46,0:01:38.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when and if he needed me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.24,0:01:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the real change came more gradually.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.76,0:01:43.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Over the next year,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.51,0:01:46.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while my family was righting itself,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.39,0:01:48.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started to realize
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.05,0:01:50.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even if I could go back into government,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.99,0:01:52.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.77,0:01:56.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to miss the last five years
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.72,0:01:59.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my sons were at home.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.55,0:02:03.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I finally allowed myself to accept
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.44,0:02:06.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what was really most important to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.44,0:02:09.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not what I was conditioned to want
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.85,0:02:14.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or maybe what I conditioned myself to want,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.55,0:02:19.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that decision led to a reassessment
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.61,0:02:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the feminist narrative that I grew up with
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.63,0:02:26.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have always championed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.29,0:02:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am still completely committed
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.14,0:02:35.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the cause of male-female equality,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.33,0:02:40.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but let's think about what that equality really means,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.27,0:02:43.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how best to achieve it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.20,0:02:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I always accepted the idea
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.32,0:02:49.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the most respected and powerful people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.25,0:02:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our society are men at the top of their careers,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.75,0:02:57.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that the measure of male-female equality
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.93,0:03:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ought to be how many women are in those positions:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.15,0:03:05.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,prime ministers, presidents, CEOs,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.07,0:03:10.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,directors, managers, Nobel laureates, leaders.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.17,0:03:14.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I still think we should do everything we possibly can
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.45,0:03:16.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to achieve that goal.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.53,0:03:21.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that's only half of real equality,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.65,0:03:24.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I now think we're never going to get there
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.100,0:03:30.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unless we recognize the other half.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.28,0:03:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suggest that real equality,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.59,0:03:36.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full equality,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.86,0:03:40.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,does not just mean valuing women
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.08,0:03:42.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on male terms.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.24,0:03:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means creating a much wider range
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.86,0:03:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of equally respected choices
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.88,0:03:53.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for women and for men.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.93,0:03:57.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to get there, we have to change our workplaces,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.40,0:04:00.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our policies and our culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.31,0:04:02.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the workplace,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.37,0:04:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,real equality means valuing family
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.68,0:04:07.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just as much as work,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.30,0:04:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and understanding that the two reinforce each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.86,0:04:13.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a leader and as a manager,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.77,0:04:16.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have always acted on the mantra,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.81,0:04:19.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if family comes first,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.09,0:04:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,work does not come second --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.94,0:04:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,life comes together.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.24,0:04:28.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you work for me, and you have a family issue,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.41,0:04:30.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I expect you to attend to it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.84,0:04:32.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I am confident,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.49,0:04:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my confidence has always been borne out,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.18,0:04:39.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the work will get done, and done better.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.17,0:04:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Workers who have a reason to get home
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.58,0:04:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to care for their children or their family members
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.95,0:04:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are more focused, more efficient,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.46,0:04:49.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more results-focused.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.48,0:04:52.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And breadwinners who are also caregivers
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.61,0:04:55.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have a much wider range
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.22,0:04:57.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of experiences and contacts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.75,0:05:00.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about a lawyer who spends part of his time
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.98,0:05:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at school events for his kids
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.58,0:05:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,talking to other parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.40,0:05:07.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's much more likely to bring in
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.46,0:05:09.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,new clients for his firm
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.40,0:05:12.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than a lawyer who never leaves his office.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.66,0:05:14.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And caregiving itself
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.55,0:05:18.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,develops patience --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.34,0:05:20.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of patience --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.80,0:05:26.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and empathy, creativity, resilience, adaptability.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.42,0:05:30.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those are all attributes that are ever more important
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.22,0:05:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a high-speed, horizontal,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.31,0:05:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,networked global economy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.76,0:05:39.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The best companies actually know this.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.95,0:05:41.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The companies that win awards
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.67,0:05:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for workplace flexibility in the United States
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.92,0:05:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,include some of our most successful corporations,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.15,0:05:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a 2008 national study
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.42,0:05:52.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the changing workforce
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.48,0:05:54.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,showed that employees
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.09,0:05:57.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in flexible and effective workplaces
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.59,0:05:59.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are more engaged with their work,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.30,0:06:01.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're more satisfied and more loyal,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.79,0:06:03.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have lower levels of stress
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.63,0:06:06.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and higher levels of mental health.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.03,0:06:09.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a 2012 study of employers
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.74,0:06:12.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,showed that deep, flexible practices
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.59,0:06:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually lowered operating costs
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.98,0:06:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and increased adaptability
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.44,0:06:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a global service economy.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.53,0:06:23.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you may think
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.65,0:06:27.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the privileging of work over family
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.86,0:06:31.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is only an American problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.81,0:06:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sadly, though, the obsession with work
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.35,0:06:38.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is no longer a uniquely American disease.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.51,0:06:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Twenty years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.28,0:06:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when my family first started going to Italy,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.28,0:06:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we used to luxuriate in the culture of siesta.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.88,0:06:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Siesta is not just about avoiding the heat of the day.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.76,0:06:50.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's actually just as much
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.32,0:06:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about embracing the warmth of a family lunch.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.74,0:06:56.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, when we go, fewer and fewer businesses
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.94,0:06:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,close for siesta,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.66,0:07:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reflecting the advance of global corporations
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.20,0:07:05.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 24-hour competition.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.03,0:07:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So making a place for those we love
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.90,0:07:11.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is actually a global imperative.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.99,0:07:14.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In policy terms,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.38,0:07:17.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,real equality means recognizing
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.81,0:07:20.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the work that women have traditionally done
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.77,0:07:22.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is just as important
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.65,0:07:25.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the work that men have traditionally done,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.31,0:07:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no matter who does it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.36,0:07:32.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about it: breadwinning and caregiving
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.11,0:07:35.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are equally necessary for human survival.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.63,0:07:39.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least if we get beyond a barter economy,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.12,0:07:41.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somebody has to earn an income
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.35,0:07:44.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and someone else has to convert that income
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.31,0:07:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to care and sustenance for loved ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.09,0:07:50.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now most of you, when you hear me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.23,0:07:52.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,talk about breadwinning and caregiving,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.96,0:07:56.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instinctively translate those categories
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.40,0:08:00.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into men's work and women's work.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.13,0:08:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we don't typically challenge
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.96,0:08:06.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why men's work is advantaged.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.86,0:08:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But consider a same sex couple
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.45,0:08:11.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my friends Sarah and Emily.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.47,0:08:13.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're psychiatrists.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.34,0:08:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They got married five years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.17,0:08:18.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now they have two-year old twins.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.45,0:08:20.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They love being mothers,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.52,0:08:22.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they also love their work,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.09,0:08:24.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're really good at what they do.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.30,0:08:26.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how are they going to divide up
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.32,0:08:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,breadwinning and caregiving responsibilities?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.80,0:08:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Should one of them stop working
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.88,0:08:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or reduce hours to be home?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.57,0:08:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or should they both change their practices
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.25,0:08:39.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so they can have much more flexible schedules?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.54,0:08:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what criteria should they use
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.66,0:08:42.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make that decision?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.80,0:08:44.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it who makes the most money
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.57,0:08:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or who is most committed to her career?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.35,0:08:52.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or who has the most flexible boss?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.91,0:08:56.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same-sex perspective helps us see
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.24,0:08:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that juggling work and family
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.53,0:09:00.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are not women's problems,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.81,0:09:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're family problems.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.45,0:09:06.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Sarah and Emily are the lucky ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.47,0:09:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they have a choice
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.24,0:09:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how much they want to work.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.78,0:09:13.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Millions of men and women
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.61,0:09:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to be both breadwinners and caregivers
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.94,0:09:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just to earn the income they need,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.48,0:09:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and many of those workers are scrambling.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.03,0:09:25.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're patching together care arrangements
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.92,0:09:27.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are inadequate
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.09,0:09:29.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and often actually unsafe.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.50,0:09:34.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If breadwinning and caregiving are really equal,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.19,0:09:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then why shouldn't a government
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.78,0:09:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,invest as much in an infrastructure of care
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.60,0:09:43.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the foundation of a healthy society
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.45,0:09:46.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as it invests in physical infrastructure
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.57,0:09:50.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the backbone of a successful economy?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.44,0:09:52.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The governments that get it,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.78,0:09:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no surprises here,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.62,0:09:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the governments that get it,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.46,0:10:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Norway, Sweden, Denmark, the Netherlands,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.17,0:10:04.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,provide universal child care,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.10,0:10:06.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,support for caregivers at home,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.22,0:10:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,school and early childhood education,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.39,0:10:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,protections for pregnant women,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.60,0:10:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and care for the elderly and the disabled.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.98,0:10:19.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those governments invest in that infrastructure
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.66,0:10:22.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same way they invest in roads and bridges
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.99,0:10:26.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and tunnels and trains.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.13,0:10:28.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those societies also show you
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.53,0:10:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that breadwinning and caregiving
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.82,0:10:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reinforce each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.21,0:10:39.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They routinely rank among the top 15 countries
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.05,0:10:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the most globally competitive economies,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.38,0:10:44.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but at the same time,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.03,0:10:48.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they rank very high on the OECD Better Life Index.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.72,0:10:52.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, they rank higher than other governments,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.26,0:10:54.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my own, the U.S., or Switzerland,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.93,0:10:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have higher average levels of income
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.86,0:11:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but lower rankings on work-life balance.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.62,0:11:06.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So changing our workplaces
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.30,0:11:09.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and building infrastructures of care
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.59,0:11:11.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would make a big difference,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.07,0:11:15.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we're not going to get equally valued choices
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.55,0:11:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unless we change our culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.06,0:11:21.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the kind of cultural change required
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.20,0:11:23.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,means re-socializing men.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.95,0:11:27.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.63,0:11:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Increasingly in developed countries,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.36,0:11:32.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,women are socialized to believe that our place
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.44,0:11:36.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is no longer only in the home,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.10,0:11:40.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but men are actually still where they always were.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.100,0:11:44.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men are still socialized to believe
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.21,0:11:46.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they have to be breadwinners,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.65,0:11:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that to derive their self-worth
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.53,0:11:52.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from how high they can climb over other men
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.41,0:11:54.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on a career ladder.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.75,0:11:57.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The feminist revolution still has a long way to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.33,0:11:59.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's certainly not complete.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.44,0:12:01.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But 60 years after
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.09,0:12:03.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The Feminine\NMystique" was published,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.40,0:12:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many women actually have
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.70,0:12:08.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more choices than men do.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.68,0:12:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can decide to be a breadwinner,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.41,0:12:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a caregiver, or any combination of the two.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.56,0:12:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a man, on the other hand,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.08,0:12:20.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,decides to be a caregiver,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.97,0:12:24.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he puts his manhood on the line.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.28,0:12:27.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His friends may praise his decision,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.50,0:12:31.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but underneath, they're scratching their heads.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.37,0:12:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Isn't the measure of a man
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.47,0:12:37.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his willingness to compete with other men
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.40,0:12:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for power and prestige?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.78,0:12:43.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as many women hold that view as men do.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.88,0:12:46.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know that lots of women
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.84,0:12:50.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,still judge the attractiveness of a man
Dialogue: 0,0:12:50.16,0:12:52.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based in large part on how successful he is
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.88,0:12:54.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in his career.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.38,0:12:56.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A woman can drop out of the work force
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.73,0:12:58.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and still be an attractive partner.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:58.89,0:13:03.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a man, that's a risky proposition.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.43,0:13:05.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as parents and partners,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.67,0:13:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we should be socializing our sons
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.86,0:13:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our husbands
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.31,0:13:14.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be whatever they want to be,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.64,0:13:18.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,either caregivers or breadwinners.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.25,0:13:21.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We should be socializing them to make caregiving
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.61,0:13:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cool for guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.60,0:13:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.36,0:13:33.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can almost hear lots of you thinking, "No way."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.67,0:13:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in fact, the change is \Nactually already happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.32,0:13:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least in the United States,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.28,0:13:42.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lots of men take pride in cooking,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.50,0:13:45.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and frankly obsess over stoves.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.82,0:13:48.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are in the birthing rooms.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.80,0:13:51.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They take paternity leave when they can.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.45,0:13:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They can walk a baby or soothe a toddler
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.91,0:13:56.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just as well as their wives can,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.55,0:13:58.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are increasingly
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.30,0:14:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doing much more of the housework.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.87,0:14:03.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Indeed, there are male college students now
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.22,0:14:04.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are starting to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.19,0:14:06.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I want to be a stay-at-home dad."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.36,0:14:08.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was completely unthinkable
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.61,0:14:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,50 or even 30 years ago.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.48,0:14:14.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in Norway, where men have
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.37,0:14:17.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an automatic three month's paternity leave,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.16,0:14:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they lose it if they decide not to take it,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.50,0:14:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a high government official told me
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.42,0:14:24.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that companies are starting to look
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.65,0:14:26.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at prospective male employees
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.74,0:14:30.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and raise an eyebrow if they didn't in fact
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.72,0:14:33.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take their leave when they had kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.11,0:14:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That means that it's starting to seem
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.94,0:14:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a character defect
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.14,0:14:42.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to want to be a fully engaged father.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.42,0:14:50.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was raised
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.94,0:14:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to believe that championing women's rights
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.98,0:14:56.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,meant doing everything we could
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.71,0:14:58.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get women to the top.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.48,0:15:01.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I still hope that I live long enough
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.20,0:15:04.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see men and women equally represented
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.47,0:15:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at all levels of the work force.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:07.51,0:15:11.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I've come to believe that we have to value family
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.61,0:15:14.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every bit as much as we value work,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.44,0:15:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that we should entertain the idea
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.96,0:15:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that doing right by those we love
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.51,0:15:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will make all of us better at everything we do.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:24.42,0:15:26.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thirty years ago, Carol Gilligan,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.49,0:15:29.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wonderful psychologist, studied adolescent girls
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.45,0:15:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and identified an ethic of care,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:32.50,0:15:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an element of human nature every bit as important
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.66,0:15:37.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the ethic of justice.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:37.65,0:15:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It turns out that "you don't care"
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.95,0:15:43.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is just as much a part of who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.87,0:15:46.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as "that's not fair."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.15,0:15:47.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bill Gates agrees.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:47.95,0:15:51.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He argues that the two great forces of human nature
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.12,0:15:55.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are self-interest and caring for others.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.33,0:15:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's bring them both together.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.97,0:16:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's make the feminist revolution
Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.63,0:16:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a humanist revolution.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.36,0:16:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As whole human beings,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.11,0:16:08.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we will be better caregivers and breadwinners.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.95,0:16:11.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may think that can't happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.06,0:16:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I grew up in a society
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.76,0:16:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where my mother put out small vases
Dialogue: 0,0:16:14.61,0:16:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of cigarettes for dinner parties,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.77,0:16:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where blacks and whites used separate bathrooms,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.96,0:16:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and where everybody claimed to be heterosexual.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:28.60,0:16:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today, not so much.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:33.04,0:16:36.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The revolution for human equality
Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.68,0:16:38.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.47,0:16:40.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.72,0:16:42.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It will happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:42.100,0:16:47.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How far and how fast is up to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:47.72,0:16:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.86,0:16:53.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)