1 00:00:02,117 --> 00:00:02,547 Hey everybody! Happy Thursday 2 00:00:02,547 --> 00:00:04,534 and since it's Thursday here I actually 3 00:00:04,534 --> 00:00:06,663 have a bunch of different things to 4 00:00:06,663 --> 00:00:07,391 talk about today. 5 00:00:07,391 --> 00:00:08,987 So let's get going! Right? 6 00:00:08,987 --> 00:00:11,306 The first thing is I'm starting to think 7 00:00:11,306 --> 00:00:12,978 that our community is growing and I 8 00:00:12,978 --> 00:00:14,714 know that a lot of you help each other 9 00:00:14,714 --> 00:00:16,948 like in the comments. You talk amongst 10 00:00:16,948 --> 00:00:20,244 yourselves on katimorton.com, my website, 11 00:00:20,244 --> 00:00:21,344 you do the same. 12 00:00:21,344 --> 00:00:22,725 You really help each other and I was 13 00:00:22,725 --> 00:00:25,172 thinking, what should we call ourselves 14 00:00:25,172 --> 00:00:26,333 as a community? 15 00:00:26,333 --> 00:00:29,310 You know, like uhh Miranda Sings has the 16 00:00:29,310 --> 00:00:31,318 Mirfandas and PewDiePie has the Bros. 17 00:00:31,318 --> 00:00:34,797 And uhh, you know Hannah Hart has the 18 00:00:34,797 --> 00:00:37,718 hartosexuals. Hart-o-sexuals. 19 00:00:37,718 --> 00:00:40,051 Um, so what should we call ourselves? 20 00:00:40,051 --> 00:00:42,427 I don't know. 21 00:00:42,427 --> 00:00:43,713 I wish minions wasn't copyrighted. 22 00:00:43,713 --> 00:00:45,283 I was talking to Carly about this on 23 00:00:45,283 --> 00:00:47,886 Twitter and I wish minions had not been 24 00:00:47,886 --> 00:00:49,845 so popular. But then maybe we wouldn't 25 00:00:49,845 --> 00:00:52,138 have talked about minions anyways, 26 00:00:52,138 --> 00:00:52,872 I don't know. 27 00:00:52,872 --> 00:00:54,660 But, let me know. Leave it in the comments 28 00:00:54,660 --> 00:00:56,656 Are there any ideas, any cute catchy 29 00:00:56,656 --> 00:00:58,166 things that we think will be cool as a 30 00:00:58,166 --> 00:00:59,685 community to call ourselves? 31 00:00:59,685 --> 00:01:02,381 Because I think it would be cool to have 32 00:01:02,381 --> 00:01:04,323 that and then when we do meet ups, we get 33 00:01:04,323 --> 00:01:06,178 together, we do things we have a name for 34 00:01:06,178 --> 00:01:08,000 it. Maybe I'll make tee shirts. Hey! 35 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:09,697 And there are new t-shirts on my 36 00:01:09,697 --> 00:01:11,328 spread shirt thing. 37 00:01:11,328 --> 00:01:12,524 I haven't put the ones up for the men yet 38 00:01:12,524 --> 00:01:13,410 so stay tuned for that. 39 00:01:13,410 --> 00:01:14,509 But I'm putting those together as well. 40 00:01:14,509 --> 00:01:16,172 I'm trying to make them a little more 41 00:01:16,172 --> 00:01:17,877 something that I would want to wear 42 00:01:17,877 --> 00:01:21,113 that's not just a tree, with fun sayings 43 00:01:21,113 --> 00:01:22,344 and things like that. So check them out! 44 00:01:22,344 --> 00:01:24,181 And let me know what you think. 45 00:01:24,181 --> 00:01:25,712 Okay, so that was my first thing. 46 00:01:25,712 --> 00:01:27,043 Now the question that I'm going to answer 47 00:01:27,043 --> 00:01:28,606 today, and I kind of like doing 48 00:01:28,606 --> 00:01:30,586 one question each because then I get to 49 00:01:30,586 --> 00:01:32,033 really talk about it. Kind of like the 50 00:01:32,033 --> 00:01:34,135 olden days, when I just rambled on and on 51 00:01:34,135 --> 00:01:37,017 and on and on and on, you get the idea. 52 00:01:37,017 --> 00:01:38,425 Okay, so the first question and only 53 00:01:38,425 --> 00:01:41,441 question is "Hey Kati, is it normal for 54 00:01:41,441 --> 00:01:44,294 things such as depression, anxiety, etc. 55 00:01:44,294 --> 00:01:46,677 to sort of come and go, like sometimes 56 00:01:46,677 --> 00:01:48,495 they're so bad you really can't function 57 00:01:48,495 --> 00:01:49,912 at all and other times it's like they 58 00:01:49,912 --> 00:01:52,128 barely exist? Also, is it normal for my 59 00:01:52,128 --> 00:01:55,420 self harm to improve my mood so that I 60 00:01:55,420 --> 00:01:58,250 can't even really remember the issue? 61 00:01:58,250 --> 00:01:59,731 I've found that sometimes I have a week 62 00:01:59,731 --> 00:02:01,800 that I feel okay, but then I look back 63 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,611 and I have self harmed every day that week 64 00:02:03,611 --> 00:02:05,723 and I think that's why my week was okay. 65 00:02:05,723 --> 00:02:06,851 Does that make sense? Thanks." 66 00:02:06,851 --> 00:02:08,716 And I wanna talk about this for two 67 00:02:08,716 --> 00:02:10,291 reasons because it touches on two 68 00:02:10,291 --> 00:02:12,094 different things that a lot of people 69 00:02:12,094 --> 00:02:12,967 struggle with. 70 00:02:12,967 --> 00:02:16,073 Number one being depression, anxiety for 71 00:02:16,073 --> 00:02:18,399 those things to come and go. 72 00:02:18,399 --> 00:02:19,680 And I think I may have talked about this 73 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:21,063 in the past. I've talked about a lot of 74 00:02:21,063 --> 00:02:23,257 things you guys but it's definitely 75 00:02:23,257 --> 00:02:26,041 normal. That's honestly why depression, 76 00:02:26,041 --> 00:02:27,296 anxiety, all that stuff. 77 00:02:27,296 --> 00:02:29,181 Well I guess mainly depression, but all of 78 00:02:29,181 --> 00:02:30,438 those feelings that come along with 79 00:02:30,438 --> 00:02:32,321 depression which can be even like an 80 00:02:32,321 --> 00:02:36,650 anxious feeling is under mood disorders. 81 00:02:36,650 --> 00:02:38,856 And our mood can shift and our mood can 82 00:02:38,856 --> 00:02:41,370 change and some days we feel better than 83 00:02:41,370 --> 00:02:43,510 others and worse and so on. . . 84 00:02:43,510 --> 00:02:45,521 Because different things are going on at 85 00:02:45,521 --> 00:02:48,500 different times, and everyone experiences 86 00:02:48,500 --> 00:02:49,389 that. 87 00:02:49,389 --> 00:02:51,367 I even, as a person who doesn't struggle 88 00:02:51,367 --> 00:02:53,946 with depression, have good days and bad 89 00:02:53,946 --> 00:02:56,076 days. And so you have to always, 90 00:02:56,076 --> 00:02:58,266 I find this is always the issue is that 91 00:02:58,266 --> 00:03:01,220 people think that okay well this person or 92 00:03:01,220 --> 00:03:03,543 if you're talking to yourself, I, have a 93 00:03:03,543 --> 00:03:06,235 mental illness therefore I have no other 94 00:03:06,235 --> 00:03:08,870 normal baseline. 95 00:03:08,870 --> 00:03:10,660 But that's wrong, because even though you 96 00:03:10,660 --> 00:03:12,243 have a mental illness, let's say you 97 00:03:12,243 --> 00:03:13,690 struggle with depression, you're still 98 00:03:13,690 --> 00:03:15,555 going to have the normal person ups and 99 00:03:15,555 --> 00:03:16,848 downs and good days and bad days. 100 00:03:16,848 --> 00:03:18,757 Yours may just be amplified by the fact 101 00:03:18,757 --> 00:03:20,298 that you struggle with depression. 102 00:03:20,298 --> 00:03:22,623 And so taking that into consideration and 103 00:03:22,623 --> 00:03:24,757 thinking, well do other people have this 104 00:03:24,757 --> 00:03:26,647 and like, do they talk about it coming 105 00:03:26,647 --> 00:03:29,092 and going? Does my best friend have good 106 00:03:29,092 --> 00:03:31,361 days and bad days? Or is it normal for 107 00:03:31,361 --> 00:03:32,757 some people to feel really good, then 108 00:03:32,757 --> 00:03:34,139 feel really bad? 109 00:03:34,139 --> 00:03:37,177 The answer is yes. It varies day to day, 110 00:03:37,177 --> 00:03:38,839 moment to moment. Okay. 111 00:03:38,839 --> 00:03:40,672 Second part of this question and another 112 00:03:40,672 --> 00:03:41,901 reason I thought it was really cool to 113 00:03:41,901 --> 00:03:44,910 answer it "is it normal for my self harm 114 00:03:44,910 --> 00:03:46,661 to improve my mood, so I can barely 115 00:03:46,661 --> 00:03:49,763 remember the issue?" Uh, ya! Hello! It's a 116 00:03:49,763 --> 00:03:53,185 coping skill. I don't mean that like duh, 117 00:03:53,185 --> 00:03:56,438 but that's the truth. That's what we talk 118 00:03:56,438 --> 00:03:58,165 about all the time. 119 00:03:58,165 --> 00:04:00,111 I think often people forget that we use 120 00:04:00,111 --> 00:04:02,116 things that are unhealthy, like drugs, 121 00:04:02,116 --> 00:04:04,191 alcohol, self harm, eating disorders, 122 00:04:04,191 --> 00:04:07,671 exercise to the max like over exercise, 123 00:04:07,671 --> 00:04:09,563 obviously some exercise is good, but 124 00:04:09,563 --> 00:04:12,600 we use those things as coping skills and 125 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:16,024 they're detrimental to us but they help 126 00:04:16,024 --> 00:04:17,471 in the moment. 127 00:04:17,471 --> 00:04:19,416 And sometimes they don't even help any 128 00:04:19,416 --> 00:04:21,139 more and they're still hanging around. 129 00:04:21,139 --> 00:04:23,207 And we're like why the fuck are you still 130 00:04:23,207 --> 00:04:25,585 here? But it's definitely there for a 131 00:04:25,585 --> 00:04:26,872 reason. It serves a purpose. 132 00:04:26,872 --> 00:04:30,319 And for you, whoever asks this question it 133 00:04:30,319 --> 00:04:31,962 improves your mood and makes it so you 134 00:04:31,962 --> 00:04:33,422 don't even remember the issue. 135 00:04:33,422 --> 00:04:36,433 Ta da! Coping skill is working, but you 136 00:04:36,433 --> 00:04:37,790 really don't like it. 137 00:04:37,790 --> 00:04:40,147 And that's why we have to replace our 138 00:04:40,147 --> 00:04:41,458 eating disorders, our self harm, 139 00:04:41,458 --> 00:04:43,783 our alcoholism, whatever it is, why it's 140 00:04:43,783 --> 00:04:46,040 so important to replace it with a 141 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:46,980 healthy one. 142 00:04:46,980 --> 00:04:48,635 And yes it may take like ten healthy ones 143 00:04:48,635 --> 00:04:51,067 to even barely get to the point where 144 00:04:51,067 --> 00:04:53,438 you're like okay I can tolerate it. 145 00:04:53,438 --> 00:04:55,415 I can tolerate the feelings, the emotions 146 00:04:55,415 --> 00:04:58,618 the issue where it only takes cutting once 147 00:04:58,618 --> 00:05:01,818 I know it doesn't always equate, like one 148 00:05:01,818 --> 00:05:04,629 to one, but know that it's worth the fight 149 00:05:04,629 --> 00:05:06,955 Do you want to be self harming your whole 150 00:05:06,955 --> 00:05:07,929 life? Trying to hide your scars, 151 00:05:07,929 --> 00:05:09,495 trying to hide it from people. 152 00:05:09,495 --> 00:05:11,783 It ends up not really being a good thing 153 00:05:11,783 --> 00:05:13,513 for us. And so, of course it can help in 154 00:05:13,513 --> 00:05:15,032 the moment, but let's think long term. 155 00:05:15,032 --> 00:05:16,901 Let's try to replace it with other 156 00:05:16,901 --> 00:05:18,554 healthy coping skills, 157 00:05:18,554 --> 00:05:20,786 and if you haven't checked it out on my 158 00:05:20,786 --> 00:05:21,911 website katimorton.com I have a 159 00:05:21,911 --> 00:05:23,544 free self harm workbook. 160 00:05:23,544 --> 00:05:25,049 And if any of you have had trouble 161 00:05:25,049 --> 00:05:26,303 downloading it, I know a lot of times it 162 00:05:26,303 --> 00:05:28,409 gets in into junk folders or doesn't come 163 00:05:28,409 --> 00:05:30,556 through. I'm not sure why some of you 164 00:05:30,556 --> 00:05:31,759 have trouble and others don't. 165 00:05:31,759 --> 00:05:33,612 But you can always let me know in the 166 00:05:33,612 --> 00:05:35,656 comments, and I will correct it on my 167 00:05:35,656 --> 00:05:38,103 side and shoot it back out to you. 168 00:05:38,103 --> 00:05:39,481 Okay. I love you all. 169 00:05:39,481 --> 00:05:41,833 I will see you on Saturday with 170 00:05:41,833 --> 00:05:42,867 a journal topic. 171 00:05:42,867 --> 00:05:44,211 And thanks for everybody sending those to 172 00:05:44,211 --> 00:05:46,534 me. And then I'm on my way, well I'll see 173 00:05:46,534 --> 00:05:48,602 you Monday, but then I'm heading up north 174 00:05:48,602 --> 00:05:49,866 to the northwest. 175 00:05:49,866 --> 00:05:51,494 So if you're going to be at VloggerFair, 176 00:05:51,494 --> 00:05:52,625 I can't wait to meet you. 177 99:59:59,999 --> 99:59:59,999 Talk to you soon. Bye!