Hey everybody! Happy Thursday
and since it's Thursday here I actually
have a bunch of different things to
talk about today.
So let's get going! Right?
The first thing is I'm starting to think
that our community is growing and I
know that a lot of you help each other
like in the comments. You talk amongst
yourselves on katimorton.com, my website,
you do the same.
You really help each other and I was
thinking, what should we call ourselves
as a community?
You know, like uhh Miranda Sings has the
Mirfandas and PewDiePie has the Bros.
And uhh, you know Hannah Hart has the
hartosexuals. Hart-o-sexuals.
Um, so what should we call ourselves?
I don't know.
I wish minions wasn't copyrighted.
I was talking to Carly about this on
Twitter and I wish minions had not been
so popular. But then maybe we wouldn't
have talked about minions anyways,
I don't know.
But, let me know. Leave it in the comments
Are there any ideas, any cute catchy
things that we think will be cool as a
community to call ourselves?
Because I think it would be cool to have
that and then when we do meet ups, we get
together, we do things we have a name for
it. Maybe I'll make tee shirts. Hey!
And there are new t-shirts on my
spread shirt thing.
I haven't put the ones up for the men yet
so stay tuned for that.
But I'm putting those together as well.
I'm trying to make them a little more
something that I would want to wear
that's not just a tree, with fun sayings
and things like that. So check them out!
And let me know what you think.
Okay, so that was my first thing.
Now the question that I'm going to answer
today, and I kind of like doing
one question each because then I get to
really talk about it. Kind of like the
olden days, when I just rambled on and on
and on and on and on, you get the idea.
Okay, so the first question and only
question is "Hey Kati, is it normal for
things such as depression, anxiety, etc.
to sort of come and go, like sometimes
they're so bad you really can't function
at all and other times it's like they
barely exist? Also, is it normal for my
self harm to improve my mood so that I
can't even really remember the issue?
I've found that sometimes I have a week
that I feel okay, but then I look back
and I have self harmed every day that week
and I think that's why my week was okay.
Does that make sense? Thanks."
And I wanna talk about this for two
reasons because it touches on two
different things that a lot of people
struggle with.
Number one being depression, anxiety for
those things to come and go.
And I think I may have talked about this
in the past. I've talked about a lot of
things you guys but it's definitely
normal. That's honestly why depression,
anxiety, all that stuff.
Well I guess mainly depression, but all of
those feelings that come along with
depression which can be even like an
anxious feeling is under mood disorders.
And our mood can shift and our mood can
change and some days we feel better than
others and worse and so on. . .
Because different things are going on at
different times, and everyone experiences
that.
I even, as a person who doesn't struggle
with depression, have good days and bad
days. And so you have to always,
I find this is always the issue is that
people think that okay well this person or
if you're talking to yourself, I, have a
mental illness therefore I have no other
normal baseline.
But that's wrong, because even though you
have a mental illness, let's say you
struggle with depression, you're still
going to have the normal person ups and
downs and good days and bad days.
Yours may just be amplified by the fact
that you struggle with depression.
And so taking that into consideration and
thinking, well do other people have this
and like, do they talk about it coming
and going? Does my best friend have good
days and bad days? Or is it normal for
some people to feel really good, then
feel really bad?
The answer is yes. It varies day to day,
moment to moment. Okay.
Second part of this question and another
reason I thought it was really cool to
answer it "is it normal for my self harm
to improve my mood, so I can barely
remember the issue?" Uh, ya! Hello! It's a
coping skill. I don't mean that like duh,
but that's the truth. That's what we talk
about all the time.
I think often people forget that we use
things that are unhealthy, like drugs,
alcohol, self harm, eating disorders,
exercise to the max like over exercise,
obviously some exercise is good, but
we use those things as coping skills and
they're detrimental to us but they help
in the moment.
And sometimes they don't even help any
more and they're still hanging around.
And we're like why the fuck are you still
here? But it's definitely there for a
reason. It serves a purpose.
And for you, whoever asks this question it
improves your mood and makes it so you
don't even remember the issue.
Ta da! Coping skill is working, but you
really don't like it.
And that's why we have to replace our
eating disorders, our self harm,
our alcoholism, whatever it is, why it's
so important to replace it with a
healthy one.
And yes it may take like ten healthy ones
to even barely get to the point where
you're like okay I can tolerate it.
I can tolerate the feelings, the emotions
the issue where it only takes cutting once
I know it doesn't always equate, like one
to one, but know that it's worth the fight
Do you want to be self harming your whole
life? Trying to hide your scars,
trying to hide it from people.
It ends up not really being a good thing
for us. And so, of course it can help in
the moment, but let's think long term.
Let's try to replace it with other
healthy coping skills,
and if you haven't checked it out on my
website katimorton.com I have a
free self harm workbook.
And if any of you have had trouble
downloading it, I know a lot of times it
gets in into junk folders or doesn't come
through. I'm not sure why some of you
have trouble and others don't.
But you can always let me know in the
comments, and I will correct it on my
side and shoot it back out to you.
Okay. I love you all.
I will see you on Saturday with
a journal topic.
And thanks for everybody sending those to
me. And then I'm on my way, well I'll see
you Monday, but then I'm heading up north
to the northwest.
So if you're going to be at VloggerFair,
I can't wait to meet you.
Talk to you soon. Bye!