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Hey everybody! Happy Thursday

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and since it's Thursday here I actually

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have a bunch of different things to

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talk about today.

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So let's get going! Right?

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The first thing is I'm starting to think

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that our community is growing and I

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know that a lot of you help each other

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like in the comments. You talk amongst

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yourselves on katimorton.com, my website,

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you do the same.

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You really help each other and I was

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thinking, what should we call ourselves

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as a community?

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You know, like uhh Miranda Sings has the

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Mirfandas and PewDiePie has the Bros.

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And uhh, you know Hannah Hart has the

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hartosexuals. Hart-o-sexuals.

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Um, so what should we call ourselves?

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I don't know.

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I wish minions wasn't copyrighted.

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I was talking to Carly about this on

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Twitter and I wish minions had not been

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so popular. But then maybe we wouldn't

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have talked about minions anyways,

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I don't know.

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But, let me know. Leave it in the comments

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Are there any ideas, any cute catchy

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things that we think will be cool as a

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community to call ourselves?

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Because I think it would be cool to have

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that and then when we do meet ups, we get

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together, we do things we have a name for

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it. Maybe I'll make tee shirts. Hey!

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And there are new t-shirts on my

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spread shirt thing.

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I haven't put the ones up for the men yet

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so stay tuned for that.

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But I'm putting those together as well.

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I'm trying to make them a little more

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something that I would want to wear

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that's not just a tree, with fun sayings

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and things like that. So check them out!

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And let me know what you think.

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Okay, so that was my first thing.

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Now the question that I'm going to answer

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today, and I kind of like doing

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one question each because then I get to

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really talk about it. Kind of like the

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olden days, when I just rambled on and on

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and on and on and on, you get the idea.

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Okay, so the first question and only

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question is "Hey Kati, is it normal for

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things such as depression, anxiety, etc.

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to sort of come and go, like sometimes

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they're so bad you really can't function

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at all and other times it's like they

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barely exist? Also, is it normal for my

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self harm to improve my mood so that I

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can't even really remember the issue?

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I've found that sometimes I have a week

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that I feel okay, but then I look back

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and I have self harmed every day that week

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and I think that's why my week was okay.

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Does that make sense? Thanks."

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And I wanna talk about this for two

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reasons because it touches on two

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different things that a lot of people

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struggle with.

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Number one being depression, anxiety for

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those things to come and go.

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And I think I may have talked about this

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in the past. I've talked about a lot of

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things you guys but it's definitely

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normal. That's honestly why depression,

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anxiety, all that stuff.

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Well I guess mainly depression, but all of

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those feelings that come along with

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depression which can be even like an

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anxious feeling is under mood disorders.

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And our mood can shift and our mood can

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change and some days we feel better than

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others and worse and so on. . .

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Because different things are going on at

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different times, and everyone experiences

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that.

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I even, as a person who doesn't struggle

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with depression, have good days and bad

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days. And so you have to always,

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I find this is always the issue is that

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people think that okay well this person or

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if you're talking to yourself, I, have a

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mental illness therefore I have no other

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normal baseline.

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But that's wrong, because even though you

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have a mental illness, let's say you

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struggle with depression, you're still

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going to have the normal person ups and

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downs and good days and bad days.

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Yours may just be amplified by the fact

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that you struggle with depression.

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And so taking that into consideration and

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thinking, well do other people have this

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and like, do they talk about it coming

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and going? Does my best friend have good

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days and bad days? Or is it normal for

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some people to feel really good, then

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feel really bad?

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The answer is yes. It varies day to day,

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moment to moment. Okay.

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Second part of this question and another

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reason I thought it was really cool to

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answer it "is it normal for my self harm

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to improve my mood, so I can barely

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remember the issue?" Uh, ya! Hello! It's a

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coping skill. I don't mean that like duh,

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but that's the truth. That's what we talk

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about all the time.

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I think often people forget that we use

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things that are unhealthy, like drugs,

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alcohol, self harm, eating disorders,

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exercise to the max like over exercise,

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obviously some exercise is good, but

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we use those things as coping skills and

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they're detrimental to us but they help

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in the moment.

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And sometimes they don't even help any

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more and they're still hanging around.

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And we're like why the fuck are you still

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here? But it's definitely there for a

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reason. It serves a purpose.

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And for you, whoever asks this question it

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improves your mood and makes it so you

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don't even remember the issue.

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Ta da! Coping skill is working, but you

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really don't like it.

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And that's why we have to replace our

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eating disorders, our self harm,

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our alcoholism, whatever it is, why it's

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so important to replace it with a

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healthy one.

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And yes it may take like ten healthy ones

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to even barely get to the point where

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you're like okay I can tolerate it.

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I can tolerate the feelings, the emotions

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the issue where it only takes cutting once

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I know it doesn't always equate, like one

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to one, but know that it's worth the fight

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Do you want to be self harming your whole

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life? Trying to hide your scars,

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trying to hide it from people.

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It ends up not really being a good thing

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for us. And so, of course it can help in

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the moment, but let's think long term.

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Let's try to replace it with other

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healthy coping skills,

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and if you haven't checked it out on my

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website katimorton.com I have a

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free self harm workbook.

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And if any of you have had trouble

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downloading it, I know a lot of times it

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gets in into junk folders or doesn't come

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through. I'm not sure why some of you

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have trouble and others don't.

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But you can always let me know in the

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comments, and I will correct it on my

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side and shoot it back out to you.

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Okay. I love you all.

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I will see you on Saturday with

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a journal topic.

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And thanks for everybody sending those to

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me. And then I'm on my way, well I'll see

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you Monday, but then I'm heading up north

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to the northwest.

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So if you're going to be at VloggerFair,

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I can't wait to meet you.

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Talk to you soon. Bye!