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♪I won't lie I was terrified
when the doctor said those words♪

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♪My feet went from beneath me
could not believe what I just heard♪

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♪If I judged my condition
from what I saw on television♪

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♪I'd give up♪

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S1 944 ,000 people are estimated to be
currently living with dementia in the UK

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Dementia killed almost double
the number of women than men in 2020

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Dementia has been the leading cause of death
in women since 2011

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9% of people over 65 have dementia.

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Dementia will impact 50% of us

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either through a personal diagnosis or
by caring for someone who has it.

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1.6 million people will be living
with dementia in the UK by 2040

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Dementia is the most feared
health condition by 60% of people over 65.

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Dementia care costs in Northern Ireland
are projected to increase 192%

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from 800 million in 2019
to 2.4 billion in 2040.

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Wayfinding in unfamiliar places
can be more challenging

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for people living with dementia.

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Environment may affect people living
with dementia more than most.

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Noisy and chaotic spaces can feel
disorientating and overwhelming,

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may increase anxiety or frustration,
causing changes in behaviour.

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Everyday life for people living
with dementia can be exhausting

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though it may not be obvious to you.

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It takes longer for people living
with dementia to process information.

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Our brains have to work harder
to filter out external stimuli

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often leaving us feeling depleted,
exhausted and spent.

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This makes our symptoms of dementia
more evident.

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74,000 800 people are estimated
to be living with young onset dementia

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in the UK and Ireland

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Young onset dementia is when symptoms
of dementia start before the age of 65

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Dementia NI members formed a working group
in 2022

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that included eight individuals
living with dementia like me,

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supported by four staff members
working collaboratively together:

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one from dementia NI

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and three from the Southern and Southeast
Health and Social Care Trusts.

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The members of dementia NI are always
looking for opportunities to engage

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with hospital and social care staff
to describe what it's like

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to live with dementia and to share
with them our challenges as well as ways

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we can best be supported in both
clinical and hospital environments.

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However, speaking to every trust member
in person is an impossible task.

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So we decided to create a documentary
to help us interact

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with members of the Health and Social Care
services to help bridge this gap.

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Over the course of 22 months we met 
regularly to decide the content

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of this film, sharing our own personal
experiences across the spectrum,

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both positive and challenging experiences.

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We thought it would be beneficial
to provide staff with 10 top tips

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for supporting people like us
living with dementia.

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We believe these these practices
can be easily implemented

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without adding an extra burden to staff

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and will lead to an improved
staff-patient interaction

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and in the long run will save time;
Many people have commented:

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"What is good for people living
with dementia is good for everyone."

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And we the members of dementia NI
are sure you will find this to be so too.

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We know you will find the following
individual experiences engaging

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even if somewhat emotional at times,

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and that you will be able to put some
of the practical tips into action

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[Introducing members of Dementia NI --
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and their experiences within health and
social care settings]

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S2 I'm Davie Michael McElhinney
from County Fermanagh

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I was diagnosed with
frontal temporal dementia 7 years ago

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I was aged 54.

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S3 My name is Martin Murtagh

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My dementia is Alzheimer's dementia

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S4 So my name is Peter Alexander
I was born in England, Twickenham,

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so the good old rugby place.

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S5 My name is Gerard Doran, I was
diagnosed with dementia when I was 61.

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S6 Yes, I'm Christopher Higgins

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and my dementia was discovered
just two years ago.

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S7 Yes, my name's Allison,
Allison Bachelor, I live in Dundonald

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and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's
in April 2017

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S8 I'm a newly diagnosed person
with dementia.

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My past knowledge of dementia was
that I was a social worker in hospital

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S9 Hi, my name is Tom, Tom Heatly,
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I have dementia, I've been diagnosed

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with dementia with Lewy bodies

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that was back about just over a year now.

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Treat us with common courtesy.

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S8 Treat us with respect,
as valued, capable adults

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Be aware of your facial expression,
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and your non-verbal communication

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"Oh I see here this person has dementia,

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I don't know how to speak to dementia."

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They think they're speaking
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speak to the person first.

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You will hear a little bit when they reply
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but just keep speaking to the person
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because it's the person
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S9 Basically you talk about
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basic values are the primary
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if I was to write a book from a person
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it would be to say I'm hurting inside too.

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I might not be able to express it,

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but I'm still the same person as I was
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I am still that today,

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it's just that the person I am is getting
locked away more and more inside me.

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So don't treat me any differently.

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I'm still the same person as I was

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even though you might have 
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that because I got dementia,
I'm an incontinent old person.

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but I'm not: I was diagnosed
at the age of 49

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and at that time I was told that
I shouldn't work anymore

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and that I shouldn't drive anymore
because of my judgment being impaired.

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S8 Give us time

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We need more time to process than you.

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Allow us to respond before you move on.

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Don't bombard us with questions.

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S? We're just normal human beings with 
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and just normal people.

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The dementia does bring up
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you know, such a speech: now my speech,
while I'm sitting here talking to you,

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there's -- words just disappear
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and that's why you could see me
struggling there a couple of wee bits

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that's because a normal
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whenever it disappears I have to fish
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in the slot in this place,

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but your mind's going around like
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and it can't pick the words out sometimes.

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S? Yeah it still sticks with me that
that day I felt very rushed

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and uh it was very blunt.

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There's no easy way to deliver bad news
but it was very very blunt I thought

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and we left with no information at all
that Friday afternoon.

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We went out for the weekend
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I thought, I thought with only weeks
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So I did and I think more time
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and maybe a bit more compassion
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S8 Don't make assumptions about us.

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Don't presume you know what we want,
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or what we might be able to understand
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Discuss us with us directly.

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Give our loved ones the "This is me"
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to help you care for me effectively.

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S? Yeah I had gone to a local
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This would be a few years ago now.

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And I had said to the nurse who had after
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been called into the back area, you know,

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to be waiting to be seen by a doctor
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some sort of bloods or whatever done,

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and I had said to her that I had
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and she instantly dismissed it and told me
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And I have to say that put me
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because I sort of thought,
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I sort of thought that she should
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even just by saying:
"Okay we've taken note of that

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but if you need us to go to the toilet or
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you know, just give one of us a shout."

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that it, and I thought it was something,
that she did need to know, you know,

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I thought it was something that
she had needed to take note of

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and to be aware of and, you know,
as I say, I just sort of felt

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a bit more unsafe than if
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cuz I sort of thought if I need
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or I need, you know, who do I say to, 
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I could say to any other nurse
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"By the way, I have a dementia diagnosis"

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because of the way she had treated me.

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S? I learned more about dementia

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I worked with people who were
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who were truly impressive
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and who helped me so much
to identify what I could do

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as opposed to all the all these things
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S? Notes help us to remember.

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Provide written information
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to help us to understand.

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Help us to keep notes so that
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S? For example when I attended a hospital,

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I needed to meet an individual staff
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and helped me support

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on a regular basis throughout my stay
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explaining and noting the key aspects
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and how to cope well in the ward itself

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S? So if you have someone who has dementia

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ensure that you are making clear
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what is being agreed,

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and that there is someone with them
that can either take notes for them

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if they do not have the ability
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any decisions that are taken,

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to make clear anything that has been,
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S? Environment may affect us more than you

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The environment we are in
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Provide a calming environment
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in activities that mean something to us.

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to tailor activities to meet my needs,

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specifically designed quiet places
and murals can help.

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S? There are also important issues
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unfamiliar surroundings, noises and
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and lead the agitation and confusion.

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it's important for a dementia person
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away from others, I think.

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Navigation and way finding
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and it is helpful to have
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Ideally they should be slightly large,

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with clear words placed
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ideally colors that aren't too dark,
such as red and green

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I recently found it difficult to find
tight uh, toilet near my bed

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until the Staff member helped me find it
as it didn't have a sign.

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S? But the biggest thing would be
disorientation and confusion, you know,

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of coming out of a room and knowing
which way to turn and what way to go

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and that's why for me signage is vital,
you know, in all situations

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and if there's good signage
I'm much more confident

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and I can live much more independently

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but I would describe my head

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as like a washing machine you know of so
much can trying

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to process things, you know, that would be
the biggest challenge.

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It's even more confusing,
cuz you're already not well, you know,

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you're already worried
about what's going on, why you're there

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and the noise and you know yourself
anybody is sort of affected,

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in an E&A Department.

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There's so much banging and cluttering
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on either side of you in front of you

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behind you, you know,
there's so many conversations going on,

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you know, quite often you're planted
quite close to the nursery station

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because there's no cubicles, you know,
and there's all the noise

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and all the movements
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and it it can become very very confusing

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and you know, it's a hard thing
to process any information

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and then when they come
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you know there's so much noise going on

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there's so much background noise
and conversations going on around you

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that is hard to process
what's actually being said to you

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whereas again a very simple thing
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that, once they know you have
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and to ask the person, you know,
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and I think most people would say:

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"If I could have a quiet room to have
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I think that would make a big difference,
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you would sort of know that
during that important time

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when you're meant to be able to take
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you know, that they would
take you somewhere that,

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that could happen easier
than it does in the busy A&E Department

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It was a game which I mentioned
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It was a new hospital absolutely
beautiful like an into a NDFI 20 (?) hotel

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but you go in there
you're not coming back out

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there is no signage anywhere and
every corridor looks exactly the same

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and you sort of have to go up in the lift
and go along a bit then

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go down in a lift and go along a bit and

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then come back up again, you know,
because of the way they're intertwined

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and as I say, you come out of a lift but
there's no signage to tell you

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to turn left, turn right
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you know, and that was
a horrible experience

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S? Well, I have had the experience
of going into hospital

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under an am.. with an ambulance
during the times of Covid

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and the ambulance team were fantastic

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because they were aware of my challenges.

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They thought I had a triple A but it
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but when they took me into the hospital,
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in the general area, they accelerated
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to being on a a bed in one of the cubicles

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because they knew that with my behavioural
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the frontal temporal dementia,
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I would say things as I felt about them,
I would swear,

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which I wouldn't have done in the past,
but frustration,

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the feeling of not being able
to express yourself as as I once did,

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these things lead to
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And it's not that you're being unkind
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it's just how things come across.

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So it's important that the staff
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build a rapport with the patient,
build the trust and the confidence

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where they can exchange
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S? And the second time I developed
scintillitis (?) in my eye

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and I went to the patient portal (?)
late in the evening

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and he rang the casualty to say
they should expect me,

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so, they were expecting them and again
they knew at that time

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I was living with dementia,
so the consultant actually saw me

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and the emergency department
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So she actually took me
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away from the the emergency department

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and they did all they had to do
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And her care and even the nursing care
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With really noise and a lot of people,
yeah I find people's faces just blur

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and the noise just, it really
scrambles my brain.

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I can't think or focus on anything
with noise.

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A quiet place would be ideal yeah, yeah

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assume we have capacity don't make

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assumptions about our level of capacity

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or ability to engage in our care

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planning and decision

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making I may not have capacity to make

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every decision but there will be some

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decisions I can still make and want to

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make don't speak to our family members

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and ignore us speak directly to us first

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and allow us to defer to our support

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person if we need to

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ask me what you

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need what sorry I would want them to ask

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me what I needed or wanted not to

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presume they know because they might

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have had somebody in earlier that day or

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the day before or the week before with

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the dementia diagnosis he needs

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something different to what I would need

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you know so I would always say you

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know treat that person as an individual

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and find out what you can do that will

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make them them more comfortable feel

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safer and and in the turn that will ease

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your workload because if the person with

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the dementia diagnosis feels relaxed and

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feels at ease they're less likely to be

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given hustle or be kicking off about

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something I'm a sitting in the outside

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wetting room when she asked me could it

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come into the room and I SP to you if

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you want your son to come in you can

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come and I says no I'll just going

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myself and when I went into the room she

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was going shook my hand and says to me

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Martin I'm sorry to tell you I'm not

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sure the exact words but you have

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Alzheimer's

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dementia well you're you're taken back

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you're just shock she says you want me

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to get your son bring him in and I I

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says no not definitely not to my son I

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get my sons together when to go home and

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I'll tell them when to go home I got

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them settled down and things I says look

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I feel gr I still feel the same thing

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I'm still your daddy I'm still the thing

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and I'm still get carrying on and two of

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my sons are two

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M Twins and there there we go oh God not

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be able to tell him anything now not

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keep a secret he can't keep anything but

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it was it was good the experience was

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good be aware of our details don't make

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us repeat our story multiple times it

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makes us feel like we are being tested

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Ed read your colleagues assessments

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repeating information is

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exhausting for us yeah again I think

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that's it you know the nurse comes in

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you see the nurse and Tre eyes you tell

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them the story you then see whoever you

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move to into the cubicles or into the

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back bit of the any you tell them your

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story the doctor then comes in or a

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doctor comes in and you tell them it but

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there may be not the particular doctor

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you need to see if it's something

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specific you're there for you know if it

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was for example something to do with

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your heart you know you would get a

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general doctor come in talk oh you need

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to you know we need to get something

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done from Cardiology or whatever they

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can die and you have to repeat the whole

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thing again uh and that can become quite

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frustrating and you sort of think you

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know can you not read you know can you

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not actually look at the notes that have

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been taken um 10 times beforehand uh and

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you s of are they're trying to trick you

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right here you know trying to get you to

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say something different to what you had

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said before I think it is I think it's a

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challenge you know because as I say by

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you're that stage you're already in a

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real state of confusion and panic

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and um a bit more unsettled you know so

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to be asked the same story over again

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can become very frustrating and I think

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at times in I think you can become a bit

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sharper than maybe that what you would

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normally be but it's because you sort of

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you're fed up with the length of time

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you sort of have sitting there probably

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waiting anyway and you haven't seen

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anybody and then the next person come

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say ask the exactly the same question

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again you s think like this has moved on

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nowhere you know you

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haven't you know you're asking me what

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the person asked me two hours ago but

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you're doing nothing different but yes I

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think it is a challenge you know with I

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think it's a challenge for anybody but I

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think for somebody with a dementia

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diagnosis yesterday is more of a

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challenge you use Clear

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language if you are going to perform an

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intervention talk to us

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beforehand and explain each step in

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clear words or with gestures if our

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understanding is very

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limited give us

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time explaining the procedure will help

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us to

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participate if I need reassurance

404
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reassure me I'm not saying you have to

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have dementia to understand it what I'm

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saying is what I said to students is

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take it easy at the beginning don't

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bombard them with a rapid release of

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questions and don't L link questions

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together make the subject if it is

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driving something like

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that say are you driving your

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car wait for the answer and then if they

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say no I'm not then you can discuss it

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with them but I think if you go into

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something you know it only makes them I

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can't interrupt this but I don't agree

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with her so very gently say l thank you

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very much for coming to talk to me and I

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know very little uh about how you're

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feeling at the moment so can you tell me

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how you felt when you got your diagnosis

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what went before did you think you had

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dementia and how you felt when you

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actually were told you have

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dementia makes a

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difference Health and Social Care

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staff working with any form of

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dementia

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need to

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communicate

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clearly with any

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individual with any form of

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dementia they

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need to give clear

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instructions their need

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to

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ensure that

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people with whom they are

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working

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have a clear

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understanding of

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what is being

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discussed and that they

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have made clear

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here

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exactly what is being

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shared what is being

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said maintain our confidentiality and

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dignity share information with us

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sensitively and take into

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consideration our confidentiality

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privacy and dignity are

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important we may not want other patients

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visitors to know we have

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dementia yeah within the hold of

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dementia I find myself falling apart I

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find

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myself

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unable to be the person I was

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to

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communicate the

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way I should be able to

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communicate I

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lost my

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skills I lost a lot

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of what was

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what being

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me as a

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person

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was I

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was I was

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lost well for for myself or anybody of

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the just P his like hard if I come in as

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a

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patient they don't know why I've got the

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Mana unless I tell them I've got the

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Mana don't don't have me

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to have to say that I've got the Manion

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just treat me where courtesy of of think

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most most sitting rooms in the hospital

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you know are like they're Havoc if it

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comes to a thing many of places been in

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I've turned around and says look I'm in

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the early stages of the Mana could you

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give me a we bit of time

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here and just things get mixed up for I

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think could just if my name would come

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up in that

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computer without me having to say and

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200 people or 100 people behind me

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listening he's got the Mana list he's

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different it's different just just come

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up on the computer they made away they

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know they I've got the Mana where we're

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just talking about a blue heart or

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purple or something like that and see

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what were the attitude changes that

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those change have used are have used our

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we th card or we IDE I've used to be

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smart card not the smart card uh JN card

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I've used the JN card the difference

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those things make and change people's

504
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,920
attitude it's wonderful wonderful

505
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,319
provide a support

506
00:36:53,319 --> 00:36:56,640
person having a designated support

507
00:36:56,640 --> 00:37:01,160
person can help to keep us calm and

508
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:04,960
reassured one key person who supports us

509
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:09,079
through our stay makes a huge difference

510
00:37:09,079 --> 00:37:12,359
to our Hospital experience I had to go

511
00:37:12,359 --> 00:37:14,880
and get an operation to take out a tumor

512
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:16,920
on my

513
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,680
leg and uh it was quite difficult

514
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:21,599
because the specialist even though she

515
00:37:21,599 --> 00:37:26,160
was uh taking the the tumor out she was

516
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,000
quite um a lot of words that she was

517
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,079
using was very difficult for me to

518
00:37:31,079 --> 00:37:33,000
understand because they were quite

519
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,920
Technical and she then got a a a young

520
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:40,920
nurse to come in and help me because she

521
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:44,079
also knocked me out for six hours she

522
00:37:44,079 --> 00:37:47,040
put me asleep for 6 hours where she was

523
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:49,640
on a lot of things she was help the the

524
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,680
the other lady was helping me she met me

525
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:56,560
I was there for about um a full full day

526
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:57,960
overnight

527
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,079
and that young lady was a major help to

528
00:38:01,079 --> 00:38:03,560
me in the hospital because she helped me

529
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:07,319
even write down my words she helped me

530
00:38:07,319 --> 00:38:11,599
even find places and she also said uh

531
00:38:11,599 --> 00:38:14,359
even tomorrow when you go home now that

532
00:38:14,359 --> 00:38:17,119
you've been operated this is what you do

533
00:38:17,119 --> 00:38:20,440
so even though the specialist operated

534
00:38:20,440 --> 00:38:24,040
me well that lady was a massive helper

535
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:27,160
she made the difference and I I because

536
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,480
I spoke to the specialist and you even

537
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:32,319
use my card and said I know you're going

538
00:38:32,319 --> 00:38:35,800
to help me but I've got Alzheimer's and

539
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,480
I need someone to talk to me that give

540
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,319
me advice and um because some of the

541
00:38:41,319 --> 00:38:43,280
things you've said you're going to do I

542
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:46,599
haven't really understood fully what's

543
00:38:46,599 --> 00:38:48,319
going to happen or even how I help

544
00:38:48,319 --> 00:38:51,240
myself so and when that other lady came

545
00:38:51,240 --> 00:38:53,680
in she was massively helpful to me

546
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,280
possibly like other people with Dem

547
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,640
Mantia I find that sometimes the

548
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:59,760
difficult to understand if I haven't

549
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:03,760
heard about things for a while so that

550
00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,440
other lady was a bit more explaining and

551
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:11,240
also helped me make notes to write down

552
00:39:11,240 --> 00:39:13,280
a great understanding of what was going

553
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,119
to happen to me and particularly how I

554
00:39:15,119 --> 00:39:17,200
dealt with myself the next few days when

555
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,839
I got home having that interface between

556
00:39:19,839 --> 00:39:20,680
the

557
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:24,880
consultant and also uh uh uh uh the

558
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:29,640
patient with that specialist nurse was

559
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:33,400
invaluable and that I think is something

560
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,680
which can be really helpful to other

561
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,840
people one thing that I would insist

562
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:41,319
[Music]

563
00:39:41,319 --> 00:39:44,880
on would be

564
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:48,720
that I

565
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:52,240
had someone with

566
00:39:52,240 --> 00:39:56,680
me that I trust

567
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,920
someone with me

568
00:40:03,359 --> 00:40:06,359
that

569
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:09,200
could be

570
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:12,200
there

571
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:17,160
to like say I would either be taking my

572
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,319
own

573
00:40:19,319 --> 00:40:23,839
notes that's another thing I'd lost my

574
00:40:23,839 --> 00:40:28,400
writing skills i' had lost I mean

575
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:32,680
as well as losing my

576
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,960
verbosity I had

577
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:40,000
lost my ability to

578
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:44,640
write and I have been practicing

579
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:49,560
writing just to get myself back off to

580
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:53,040
speed to be able

581
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:58,160
to communicate effectively

582
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:01,000
I've also been

583
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:04,200
reading a

584
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:10,079
lot to try

585
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:15,880
and ensure that my communication

586
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:19,319
is as it should

587
00:41:19,319 --> 00:41:24,920
be as I consider it should

588
00:41:25,839 --> 00:41:30,079
be cuz I'm a hard

589
00:41:32,359 --> 00:41:35,680
Taskmaster the following scene is based

590
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:37,839
on our real life

591
00:41:37,839 --> 00:41:41,599
experiences of poor health care

592
00:41:41,599 --> 00:41:42,830
interactions

593
00:41:42,830 --> 00:42:01,659
[Music]

594
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:04,800
without a clear

595
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:08,119
introduction we may feel rushed or

596
00:42:08,119 --> 00:42:11,040
panicked unsure of what is

597
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,800
happening which may unnecessarily

598
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:15,640
increase our

599
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:19,650
anxiety and generate unexpected

600
00:42:19,650 --> 00:42:20,839
[Music]

601
00:42:20,839 --> 00:42:24,559
reactions insufficient support with wayf

602
00:42:24,559 --> 00:42:27,760
finding could leave us disoriented ated

603
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:28,920
and

604
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:32,359
Confused ultimately reducing our powers

605
00:42:32,359 --> 00:42:33,440
of

606
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,830
concentration for the following

607
00:42:35,830 --> 00:42:37,160
[Music]

608
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:40,599
appointment disorganized and chaotic

609
00:42:40,599 --> 00:42:44,760
clinical space may be distracting or

610
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:48,800
overwhelming for us reducing ability to

611
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,839
focus and

612
00:42:51,839 --> 00:42:55,480
communicate not explaining procedures or

613
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,359
interventions clearly in advance can

614
00:42:58,359 --> 00:43:00,920
cause us upset or

615
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:05,880
distress especially as our dementia

616
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:09,640
advances not explaining next steps in

617
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,400
advance increases our

618
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:15,880
anxiety and

619
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:20,300
[Music]

620
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,440
confusion uh Hazel and baby is that

621
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:25,240
right yeah I'm

622
00:43:25,240 --> 00:43:27,960
Dr tonight

623
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:30,720
without a clear and full

624
00:43:30,720 --> 00:43:33,760
introduction we may not realize the

625
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,480
purpose of the

626
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:38,440
appointment

627
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,240
um no I'm not I'm not really seeing

628
00:43:41,240 --> 00:43:43,640
anything there there's no results back

629
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:47,839
just yet poor positioning can hinder

630
00:43:47,839 --> 00:43:51,520
effective communication with

631
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,520
us not to

632
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:59,319
good we'll maybe asking as repetitive

633
00:43:59,319 --> 00:44:01,640
questions without

634
00:44:01,640 --> 00:44:05,559
context can make us feel like we are

635
00:44:05,559 --> 00:44:08,040
being

636
00:44:08,319 --> 00:44:12,240
tested speaking to a carer instead of

637
00:44:12,240 --> 00:44:16,720
directly to us shows a presumption about

638
00:44:16,720 --> 00:44:18,079
our

639
00:44:18,079 --> 00:44:21,640
capacity the following scene is based on

640
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:25,599
our real life experiences of positive

641
00:44:25,599 --> 00:44:29,040
healthc care interaction

642
00:44:30,370 --> 00:44:33,240
[Music]

643
00:44:33,240 --> 00:44:36,480
thank you

644
00:44:39,900 --> 00:45:03,800
[Music]

645
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:05,440
the consultant comes okay and I'll F

646
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:09,680
this across the H yeah all

647
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:15,359
right there we go like the wait the

648
00:45:15,359 --> 00:45:16,960
consultant will be right in through the

649
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:21,079
door thank you

650
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,400
how are you I'm Dr sville I'm one of the

651
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,119
Consultants it's nice to meet you it's

652
00:45:33,119 --> 00:45:35,240
Davey is that right Dave yeah Davey I I

653
00:45:35,240 --> 00:45:37,440
haven't met you before um I understand

654
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:39,040
that you're you're here to talk about

655
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,640
some results that's right is that

656
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,599
correct be okay yeah sure I I haven't

657
00:45:43,599 --> 00:45:46,160
been to doing too bad been keeping busy

658
00:45:46,160 --> 00:45:47,559
and very

659
00:45:47,559 --> 00:45:52,079
active so I do and uh yeah just keep

660
00:45:52,079 --> 00:45:54,359
keep busy okay okay how have you been

661
00:45:54,359 --> 00:45:57,119
sleeping recently sleep's been a bit on

662
00:45:57,119 --> 00:46:01,200
off um but uh I always get caught up

663
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,160
sometimes away quite early right but uh

664
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:05,760
I can get caught up the next night okay

665
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,800
and what time would you go to bed at

666
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,440
roughly normally try half time 11:00 um

667
00:46:11,440 --> 00:46:13,839
probably a bit overeen of anything right

668
00:46:13,839 --> 00:46:16,240
I started sweet stuff I Can't Get Enough

669
00:46:16,240 --> 00:46:19,200
at the whatever's uh going on you know

670
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:21,960
right okay and then just about some of

671
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:24,760
your medications um has anything changed

672
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,440
recently at all no they've kept it

673
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:30,280
they kept the medication as it is right

674
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:32,000
we can maybe spend a bit more time

675
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,240
looking at well really not not too bad

676
00:46:34,240 --> 00:46:36,599
just how how how do you see things

677
00:46:36,599 --> 00:46:40,200
progressing for for myself okay okay so

678
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,680
if you've got that Rapport it makes a

679
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:45,920
real difference and show appreciation

680
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:49,760
cuz the staff do an amazing thing and in

681
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:52,520
very difficult environment and I have to

682
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:55,760
say thank you to the nursing staff and

683
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,440
to the medics who do take such good care

684
00:46:58,440 --> 00:46:59,319
of

685
00:46:59,319 --> 00:47:02,400
us thank you for staying with us

686
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,200
throughout this

687
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:07,079
documentary we hope it has provided you

688
00:47:07,079 --> 00:47:10,119
with a deeper understanding of what it

689
00:47:10,119 --> 00:47:13,559
is like to live with dementia and has

690
00:47:13,559 --> 00:47:17,160
offered practical tips that you can now

691
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:18,680
put into

692
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:22,720
practice finally a big thank you from

693
00:47:22,720 --> 00:47:25,880
all the members at dementa ni for the

694
00:47:25,880 --> 00:47:27,559
work that you do

695
00:47:27,559 --> 00:47:30,880
that has a positive impact on the daily

696
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,880
lives of real people like

697
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:37,160
us matter have to assume we have

698
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:40,480
capacity mhm is that the size of my

699
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,359
bladder the size of my

700
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:54,200
nose those words my feet went from

701
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:58,839
beneath me could not believe what I

702
00:47:59,180 --> 00:48:00,800
[Music]

703
00:48:00,800 --> 00:48:03,359
I I

704
00:48:03,359 --> 00:48:06,720
saw I

705
00:48:09,559 --> 00:48:15,400
give it's a slippy R but I keep my feet

706
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:19,359
bled I have the strength to hold the C

707
00:48:19,359 --> 00:48:21,559
I've been

708
00:48:21,559 --> 00:48:25,800
handed If I Stumble if my feet fall or

709
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:27,680
if I need

710
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:31,880
assistance I know the journey is long

711
00:48:31,880 --> 00:48:36,040
but it's so wor

712
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:39,880
that my voice is mind I don't need

713
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:43,800
someone to say what's on my mind though

714
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:47,480
the love I have to help me is the best

715
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:51,400
that you could find and I worry for my

716
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:55,559
loved ones cuz the future is so wonder I

717
00:48:55,559 --> 00:48:58,720
stay strong

718
00:49:01,520 --> 00:49:02,200
it's

719
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:06,240
ay but I keep

720
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:10,359
my I have the strength to hold the C

721
00:49:10,359 --> 00:49:12,559
I've been

722
00:49:12,559 --> 00:49:17,400
handed If I Stumble my feet fall or if I

723
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:21,480
need some assistance I know the journey

724
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,040
long

725
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:28,000
but it's the wor that distance

726
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:33,079
[Music]

727
00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:39,559
[Music]

728
00:49:39,559 --> 00:49:41,200
I found my

729
00:49:41,200 --> 00:49:44,240
place surrounded by

730
00:49:44,240 --> 00:49:49,400
faces who understand

731
00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:53,200
me our worries and

732
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:58,640
fears so disappear after

733
00:49:59,140 --> 00:50:02,079
[Music]

734
00:50:02,079 --> 00:50:07,559
Aver and a warm cup of tea