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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.03,0:00:01.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When your kid tells you that they are
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.21,0:00:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transgender,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.95,0:00:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what do you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.71,0:00:05.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Forty-one percent of transgender adults
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.75,0:00:07.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have attempted suicide,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.17,0:00:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mostly as an adolescent or young adult.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.58,0:00:11.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Parental support can dramatically reduce
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.70,0:00:12.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the risk of suicide
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.80,0:00:14.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three and a half times,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.60,0:00:16.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but many parents are terrified of doing
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.17,0:00:16.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the wrong thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.57,0:00:18.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what should you do when your child
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.86,0:00:20.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tells you that they are transgender?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.24,0:00:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first thing to realize is that there
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.63,0:00:24.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a very good chance the child is right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.70,0:00:26.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In nearly all the studies I am aware of,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.85,0:00:28.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no child regretted transitioning.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.15,0:00:31.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've spoken with two nationally recognized
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.32,0:00:33.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,endocrinologists that work with trans kids
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.50,0:00:35.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are aware of only one case of
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.32,0:00:36.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,regret in the thousands they have treated.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.100,0:00:39.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Additionally, I have never met a single
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.33,0:00:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,person who has transitioned and
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.93,0:00:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,regretted it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.66,0:00:43.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have never a parent of a trans kid
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.19,0:00:44.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who regretted letting their kid
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.49,0:00:45.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transition.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.50,0:00:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've only ever met parents who regretted
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.96,0:00:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not letting their kid transition sooner.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.98,0:00:51.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Regardless of their identity, in the end
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.65,0:00:52.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have two choices:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.83,0:00:55.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reject or accept their declaration.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.15,0:00:56.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you reject them,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.32,0:00:57.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no matter the end result,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.65,0:00:59.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will contribute to their harm
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.58,0:01:01.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and increase the risk of mental illness.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.62,0:01:03.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Studies have shown that regardless of
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.33,0:01:04.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens outside the home,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.61,0:01:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,familial support can literally
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.38,0:01:07.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,save your kid's life!
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.65,0:01:09.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Familial support reduces suicide
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.54,0:01:10.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three and a half times
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.91,0:01:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and substance abuse
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.66,0:01:12.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by two and a half times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.64,0:01:14.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you as the parent
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.67,0:01:16.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reject your child's identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.25,0:01:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are the largest
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.24,0:01:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and most negatively-impactful bully
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.36,0:01:20.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your child's life,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.92,0:01:23.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more so than any and potentially ALL of
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.14,0:01:24.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the bullies at school.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.32,0:01:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is, when your child says something
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.24,0:01:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to you about their identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.92,0:01:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you say no,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.00,0:01:30.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are telling them that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they cannot trust how they feel,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they cannot trust you to listen
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hear them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they cannot trust themselves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That creates an
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,invalidating childhood environment,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and invalidating environments are hotbeds
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the formation of many serious
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mental illnesses that can last a lifetime.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you choose to affirm their identity
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no matter the end result,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are telling your child that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can trust you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they can confide in you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they are allowed to trust themselves
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their own feelings,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that you trust them to learn
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and figure themselves out.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is part of how you build
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a healthy parent-child relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A reminder:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Up to forty-one percent of trans adults
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have attempted suicide at least once,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most as kids.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you reject their
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,declaration of identity,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you increase this risk of suicide.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you affirm them, you reduce the risks.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so much so that in one study,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,socially transitioned children
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with supportive families
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reported depression rates
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,indistinguishable from cisgender youth.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is also important to keep in mind
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that by the time your kid
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brings this to you, the parent,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have probably spent months
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or maybe years
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,crying themselves to sleep at night
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wondering if you will still love them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This declaration to you is not a whim.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a well thought-through statement,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in this moment you have
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a rare opportunity to show your kid that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can trust you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they can confide in you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the end,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you as the parent have the choice:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can either increase the risk for harm
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and suicide by rejecting them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you can dramatically reduce that risk
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by affirming their identity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is your choice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't be your child's first bully.