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Salom. Men sizlarga maqtov, fahrlanish

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va rahmat aytishning muhimligi haqida gapirmoqchiman.

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Shu jumladan, buni mahsus va samimiy ayting.

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Bunga qiziqishim uyg'onganligining sababi

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yillar o'tib, ulg'ayganim sari yaqin yaqin yillarda

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men o'zimda shu narsani sezdim:

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kimgadir rahmat aytgim kelardi,

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kimlarnidir maqtagim kelardi,

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ularning menga bo'lgan maqtovini chuqur anglagim kelardi

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va bu fikrimdan to'xtab qolar edim.

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Nima uchun?, deb o'zimdan so'radim.

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Men uyalardim, o'zimni hijolatda his qilardim.

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So'ngra, menda shunday savol paydo bo'ldi:

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Shunday holatda bo'ladigan faqatgina menmi?

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Shu boisdan, men bu borada izlanishga qaror qildim.

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Men profilaktika klinikasida ishlaganimdan juda omadliman,

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chunki betinim hayot va o'lim bilan yuzlashayotgan insonlarni ko'ra oldim.

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Ba'zan, shunday sodda narsalar bo'ladi, ya'ni kimningdir asosiy jarohati shundaki

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otasi o'g'li bilan faxrlanishini hech ham aytmasdan vafot etgan.

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Lekin, keyinchalik o'g'li oila a'zolari va do'stlaridan shuni eshitadiki,

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otasi boshqalarga u bilan qanday faxrlanishini aytgan,

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ammo o'g'liga hech ham unday demagan.

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Buning sababi, u kishi o'g'lining bu gapni eshitishi muhimligini anglamagandi.

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Mening savolim: Nima uchun biz o'zimizga kerak narsalarni so'ramaymiz?

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Uylanganiga 25 yil bo'lgan bir kishini bilaman,

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u ayolidan shunday gapni eshitishni orzu qilib yuradi:

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"Uyga non olib keluvchi bo'lganingiz uchun rahmat, shu sababli men farzandlarim bilan uyda bo'la olaman,"

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lekin u kishi bu gapni so'ramasdi.

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Bu borada mohir bir ayolni bilan.

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Haftasiga bir marta turmush o'rtogi bilan uchrashib, unga aytadi,

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"Mening uyda bajargan va farzandlarim uchun bajargan hamma narsalar uchun menga rahmat aytishingizni xohlayman."

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U esa aytadi, "Bu juda ham zo'r, juda zo'r."

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Maqtov rostdan ham samimiy bo'lishi kerak,

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ammo u ayol o'sha ish uchun mas'uliyatni o'ziga oladi.

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Mening bog'cha paytimdan beri bo'lgan do'stim, April

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farzandlari o'z vazifalarini bajarganligi uchun ularga rahmat aytadi.

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U shunday dedi, "Shu ishlarni bajarish farzandlarimning vazifalari bo'lishidan qat'iy nazar, nima uchun ularga rahmat demaslgim kerak?"

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Hullas, savol shu: Nimaga men bunga to'sqinlik qilayotgan edim?

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Nimaga boshqa odamlar bunga to'sqinlik qilayotgan edi?

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Nimaga men shunday deb ayta olaman, " men bifshteksning o'rtachasini olaman,

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oltinchi o'lchamdagi oyoq kiyim kerak," lekin bunday deb aytmayman.

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"Shunday desam, siz meni maqtaysizmi?"

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Chunki men sizga o'zim haqimda muhim ma'lumot beryapman.

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Sizga qaysi jihatdan ojizligimni aytyapman.

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Menga yordamingiz kerak bo'lganida sizga aytyapman.

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Shu bilan birga men sizga, ichki mulkimga,

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dushmanimday munosabatda bo'lyapman.

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Chunki ana o'sha ma'lumot bilan nima qila olasiz?

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Menga befarq bo'lishingiz mumkin.

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U ma'lumotni noto'g'ri maqsadda ishlatishingiz mumkin.

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Yoki mening hojatimni bajarishingiz mumkin.

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Va men velosipedimni velosiped do'koniga olib bordim-- buni men yaxshi ko'raman -

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huddi shu velosipedim, ular esa "g'ildiraklarini sozlash" degan narsalarni bajarar edi.

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Shu bir yigit aytdi, "Bilasizmi, g'ildiraklarni sozlasangiz,

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velosiped ancha yaxshi bo'ladi."

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Men ayni o'sha velosipedimni qaytib oldim

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va men ikki yarim yildan beri ishlatayotgan velosiped g'ildiraklaridan

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hamma mayda o'ralashgan arqonu iplarni olib tashladi va velosipedim yangidek bo'ldib qoldi.

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Endi, men hammanglarga murakkab vazifa bermoqchiman.

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"G'ildiraginlarni sozlashingizni" xohlayman:

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eshitishingizni istagan maqtovda samimiy bo'lib.

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Nimani eshitishni xohlaysiz? Uyga borib, ayolingizga ayting,

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undan so'rang, unga nima kerak?

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Uyingizga borib, turmush o'rtog'ingizga ayting -- unga nima kerak?

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Uyga borib, shu kabi savollarni so'rang va atrofingizdagilarga yordam bering.

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Bu juda sodda.

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Nima uchun biz bu haqida o'ylashimiz kerak?

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Biz dunyo tinchligi haqida gapiramiz.

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Turli madaniyatlar va turli tillar bilan biz qanday qilib dunyo tinchligiga erisha olamiz?

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O'ylashimcha, bu har bir uydan, umumiy boshpanadan boshlanadi.

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Ho'sh, bu narsani o'zimizning orqa hovlimizdan boshlaylik.

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Siz tomoshabinlar ajoyib turmush o'rtoq, ajoyib ona,

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do'st, qiz va o'g'il bo'lganinglar uchun

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hammangizga rahmat aytaman.

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Ehtimol, kimdir sizga bu gapni hech qachon aytmagandir,

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lekin sizlar juda ajoyib ishlarni bajardinglar.

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Mana shu yerda bo'lganinglar uchun va g'oyalaringiz bilan

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dunyoni o'zgartirganinglar uchun sizlarga rahmat.

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Rahmat.

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(Qarsaklar)