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Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.16,0:00:15.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Can one be mindful while being connected\Nto social media and smartphone applications?]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.02,0:00:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[How does this affect\Nour deep listening skills?]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.48,0:00:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My other question regards\Nthe use of media in general.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.09,0:00:37.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wonder if one can be mindful
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.31,0:00:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while at the same time one is connected,\Nas most of us are nowadays,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.93,0:00:49.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the social media,\Nsmartphone applications, etcetera.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.71,0:00:55.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also wonder how this is affecting\Nour deep listening skills.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.65,0:01:07.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We believe that the smartphones,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.46,0:01:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the internet, and the emails
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.57,0:01:18.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can help us connect with each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.78,0:01:25.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But communication\Nhas become more difficult,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.32,0:01:30.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even with these electronic devices.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.26,0:01:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if we hear the news\Nseveral times a day,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.70,0:01:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if we communicate with each other\Nseveral times a day,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.96,0:01:46.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that does not mean\Nthat real communication is possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.80,0:01:49.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We still do not understand each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.02,0:01:54.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we still do not understand\Nthe suffering en difficulties of others,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.10,0:01:59.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we still continue to blame each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.82,0:02:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.42,0:02:13.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many electronic devices
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.65,0:02:20.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are helping us to get away from ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.56,0:02:30.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and do not give us\Na chance to be with ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.51,0:02:37.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is suffering, there is fear,\Nanger in ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.55,0:02:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we not have\Nthe time and the way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.40,0:02:50.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to handle the suffering inside of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.58,0:02:56.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can not communicate with ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.44,0:03:00.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fact we're trying\Nto run away from ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.52,0:03:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can not listen to ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.97,0:03:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can not help ourselves to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.91,0:03:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, how can we understand another person,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.06,0:03:15.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help him or her suffer less,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.30,0:03:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if he has a lot of electronic devices?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.94,0:03:25.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why mindfulness is very important.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.73,0:03:29.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It helps us release\Nthe tension in our body,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.27,0:03:31.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help us to go home\Nto our self without fear,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.07,0:03:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to recognize\Nthe suffering inside,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.95,0:03:38.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,embrace it, and begin to understand it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.83,0:03:40.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Understanding our suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.59,0:03:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we understand the suffering\Nof our father, our mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.48,0:03:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our ancestors, our people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.99,0:03:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That understanding brings about compassion\Nthat has the power to heal, to transform.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.35,0:04:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we get lighter,\Nwhen we get healed,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.72,0:04:06.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can help other people\Naround us to do the same,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.37,0:04:10.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get the healing and transformation,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.76,0:04:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can do that\Nwithout any electronic devices.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.60,0:04:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The power to listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.44,0:04:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to understand and to restore communication
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.62,0:04:32.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reconcile
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.47,0:04:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.28,0:04:40.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you understand your own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.71,0:04:43.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you reconcile with yourself easily,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.66,0:04:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you reconcile with your father,\Nyour mother, your ancestors easily,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.48,0:04:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because your suffering\Ncarries within itself
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.100,0:04:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering of your father,\Nmother, and ancestors.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.81,0:05:00.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you understand your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.92,0:05:03.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you have reconciled with yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.64,0:05:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then it's much easier to understand\Nthe suffering of the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.09,0:05:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the world, and reconcile with them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.52,0:05:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at them, you're able\Nto see the suffering in them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.61,0:05:18.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They do not have the capacity
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.61,0:05:20.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to handle the suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.61,0:05:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They continue to suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.10,0:05:26.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is why they make\Npeople around them suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.09,0:05:32.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even when the people around them\Nare those they love.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.69,0:05:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, when you look at them,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.68,0:05:39.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you see the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.68,0:05:45.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that so far there is no one\Nwho has helped them
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.43,0:05:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to handle the suffering\Nin him or in her,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.72,0:05:52.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suddenly an understanding arises in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.03,0:05:55.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and compassion is born in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.91,0:05:58.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you can look at him or her\Nwith compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.80,0:06:00.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't suffer anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.49,0:06:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to do something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.32,0:06:06.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help that person suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.74,0:06:10.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to say something\Nto help him or her suffer less,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.97,0:06:16.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you have some amount\Nof compassion within yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.88,0:06:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With compassion in your heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.52,0:06:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can talk to him or to her
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.71,0:06:25.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in such a way that can\Nhelp him or her suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.73,0:06:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can say: "Darling, my friend,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.06,0:06:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that you have suffered a lot\Nin the past ten years.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.05,0:06:38.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a lot of suffering in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.21,0:06:42.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a lot of difficulties in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.53,0:06:49.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in the past I have not been able\Nto help you to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.85,0:06:53.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact I have reacted angrily
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.80,0:06:56.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and with stubbornness\Nthat made you suffer more.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.06,0:06:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sorry.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.20,0:07:02.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not my intention to make you suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.59,0:07:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dear, it's just because\NI did not see the suffering in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.32,0:07:13.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not understand the suffering in you,\Nthe difficulties in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.04,0:07:16.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, please darling, help me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.29,0:07:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell me what is in your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.24,0:07:23.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell me about your suffering,\Nyour difficulties,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.70,0:07:25.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that I will understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.61,0:07:28.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that,\Nif I understand your suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.04,0:07:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will not react the way I have\Nin the past, and make you suffer anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.15,0:07:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please help me, tell me\Nwhat is in your heart."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.72,0:07:42.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That kind of speaking,\Nwe call loving speech,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.82,0:07:47.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can do that if you have\Ncompassion in your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.17,0:07:53.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion is possible when you\Nunderstand the suffering in that person.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.04,0:08:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you speak like that, the other person\Nwill open his heart to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.74,0:08:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With the tool of loving speech, you can\Nopen the heart of the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.76,0:08:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she will tell you the suffering,\Nthe difficulties in her.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.06,0:08:19.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you practice deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.92,0:08:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and compassionate listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.44,0:08:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you listen with compassion,\Nyou help the other person suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.20,0:08:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One hour of compassionate listening\Ncan help someone suffer much less,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.54,0:08:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you may be the first person\Nin the world to listen to him or to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.05,0:08:47.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are a Bodhisattva of deep listening. \NYou are Avalokiteshvara.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.11,0:08:54.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To listen with compassion,\Nyou have to learn in order to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.36,0:09:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you sit and listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.69,0:09:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to keep compassion alive\Nin your heart in order to do so.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.60,0:09:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because while speaking
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.08,0:09:14.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the other person may have\Na lot of bitterness
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.11,0:09:17.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or accusation or blaming,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.75,0:09:20.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and may touch off the irritation,\Nthe anger in you,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.81,0:09:24.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you loose the capacity of listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.43,0:09:29.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you have to clean yourself\Nfor many days.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.67,0:09:36.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you listen to him or to her,\Nyou have to practice mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.47,0:09:41.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and remind yourself that the purpose\Nof listening to that person
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.44,0:09:44.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is only to help him or her suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.87,0:09:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, even if what the other person says\Nis full of wrong perception,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.52,0:09:53.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will not interrupt and correct
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.85,0:09:56.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that will ruin the session.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.18,0:09:58.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You tell yourself:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.38,0:10:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, he is full of wrong perceptions,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.65,0:10:04.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full of bitterness and anger,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.68,0:10:07.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I am not going to interrupt him.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.14,0:10:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just listen to help him to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.27,0:10:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several days later,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.01,0:10:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I may provide him with some information
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.60,0:10:25.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that he can correct his perception,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.97,0:10:27.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not now.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.100,0:10:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So breath in and out,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.54,0:10:32.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and remember to keep\Nyour compassion alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.38,0:10:36.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can listen for one hour\Nor more with compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.52,0:10:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That can be very healing.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.99,0:10:40.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,According to our experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.48,0:10:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,practicing four or five days\Nof mindful breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.41,0:10:50.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and looking into the suffering of yourself\Nand of the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.86,0:10:54.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can already allow you\Nto practice deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.19,0:10:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate listening\Nand loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.71,0:11:04.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we have organized\Nso many retreats in the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.14,0:11:06.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in every retreat
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.55,0:11:12.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people learn the art of deep listening\Nand loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.61,0:11:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The miracle of reconciliation\Nalways happens in our retreats.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.90,0:11:22.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the fifth day,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.42,0:11:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have to put into practice
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.88,0:11:30.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the teaching of deep listening\Nand loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.64,0:11:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the other person\Nis in the retreat, that is easy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.16,0:11:37.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if the other person is at home
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.74,0:11:40.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can use your telephone
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.42,0:11:44.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to practice\Nloving speech and deep listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.64,0:11:48.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in our experiences\Nmany have used their phone,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.18,0:11:54.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reconcile with their father\Nor mother at home, after the retreat.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.94,0:11:57.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very effective,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.38,0:12:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the practice of loving speech\Nand deep listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.84,0:12:08.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is the object of\Nthe fourth mindfulness training
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.96,0:12:12.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that many of us\Nhave received from the sangha.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.39,0:12:18.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the art\Nof restoring communication.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.71,0:12:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is the art of reconciling, and --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.84,0:12:31.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't need\Na lot of electronic devices,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.76,0:12:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need only your in-breath,\Nyour out-breath,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.99,0:12:42.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your capacity of looking deeply\Ninto your own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.26,0:12:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into the suffering of the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.42,0:12:51.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and finally you need\Nloving speech, tender speech,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.100,0:12:54.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and deep listening,\Ncompassionate listening,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.30,0:12:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can transform the whole situation
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.31,0:13:00.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in just a few days
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.44,0:13:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Connect, be inspired, be nourished]