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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.05,0:00:03.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone has a story,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.32,0:00:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that story is filled with chapters
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.29,0:00:08.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have made us who we are today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.44,0:00:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those early chapters of that story
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.72,0:00:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes are the ones\Nthat define us the most.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.64,0:00:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Center for Disease Control
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.34,0:00:24.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has estimated that over half\Nof our nation's children
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.13,0:00:28.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have experienced at least\None or two types of childhood trauma.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.39,0:00:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That adversity can have lasting effects.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.15,0:00:37.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I began to have\Nopportunities to speak
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.20,0:00:40.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and advocate for students\Nand for teachers,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.55,0:00:43.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found myself uniquely positioned
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.79,0:00:46.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to speak\Nabout childhood trauma.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.58,0:00:49.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I had to make a decision first.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.98,0:00:51.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to decide,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.78,0:00:55.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did I want to share\Nthe bright and shiny parts of my life,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.36,0:00:58.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, those ones\Nthat we put out on social media
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.35,0:01:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that make us all look perfect,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.05,0:01:05.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or did I want to make myself vulnerable
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.69,0:01:07.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and become an open book?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.45,0:01:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The choice became very clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.11,0:01:13.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In order to make a difference\Nin the life of a child,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.94,0:01:17.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to become transparent.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.82,0:01:21.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I made the commitment\Nto tell my personal story.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.63,0:01:26.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this story is filled\Nwith people that have loved me
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.97,0:01:29.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and taken care of me and grown me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.80,0:01:32.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And have helped me overcome and heal.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.35,0:01:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now it's time for me\Nto help others do the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.97,0:01:43.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I first started school,\NI was the picture of normalcy.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.05,0:01:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was from a good family,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.65,0:01:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was always dressed nicely,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.05,0:01:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had a smile on my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.39,0:01:53.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was prepared for school.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.25,0:01:57.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But my life was anything but normal.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.93,0:02:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this time, I had already become\Na victim of sexual abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.66,0:02:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was still happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.10,0:02:09.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My parents didn't know,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.31,0:02:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had not told anyone else.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.59,0:02:19.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I started school, I felt like\Nthis was going to be my safe place.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.86,0:02:21.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was excited.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.28,0:02:27.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine my dismay when I met my teacher,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.55,0:02:30.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mr. Randolph.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.87,0:02:33.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now Mr. Randolph was not my abuser.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.65,0:02:38.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But Mr. Randolph was an epitome
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.24,0:02:42.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of everything that scared me\Nthe most in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.34,0:02:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had already started these\Nself-preservation techniques
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.47,0:02:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to where I took myself out of positions\Nwhere I was going to be alone with a man.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.36,0:02:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here I was, as a student,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.17,0:03:00.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was going to be in a classroom\Nwith a man every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.44,0:03:02.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a year of school.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.19,0:03:06.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was scared, I didn't trust him.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.14,0:03:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know what,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.36,0:03:12.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mr. Randolph would turn out to be\Nmy greatest advocate.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.39,0:03:15.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in the beginning,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.16,0:03:18.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,oh, I made sure he knew\NI did not like him.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.93,0:03:21.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was non compliant,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.28,0:03:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was that kid that was disengaged.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.77,0:03:29.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also made it really hard\Non my parents too.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.18,0:03:31.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to go to school,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.68,0:03:34.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I fought them every morning,\Ngetting on the bus.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.15,0:03:36.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At night, I couldn't sleep,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.91,0:03:39.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because my anxiety was so high.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.09,0:03:43.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was going into class exhausted.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.75,0:03:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which, exhausted children\Nare cranky children,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.24,0:03:49.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're not easy to teach,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.100,0:03:51.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.16,0:03:56.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mr. Randolph could have\Napproached me with frustration,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.90,0:03:59.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like so many teachers do\Nwith students like me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.66,0:04:02.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But not him.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.48,0:04:07.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He approached me with empathy
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.22,0:04:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and with flexibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.91,0:04:12.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was so grateful for that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.78,0:04:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He saw this six-year-old\Nwas tired and weary.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.72,0:04:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so instead of making me\Ngo outside for recess,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.58,0:04:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he would let me stay in and take naps,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.87,0:04:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he knew I needed rest.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.20,0:04:30.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of sitting\Nat the teacher table at lunch,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.87,0:04:33.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he would come and sit with the students\Nat the student table.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.34,0:04:38.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He would engage me\Nand all my classmates in conversation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.95,0:04:42.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I now look back and I know
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.39,0:04:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he had a purpose for that,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.78,0:04:46.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was listening, he was asking questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.11,0:04:49.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He needed to find out what was going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.06,0:04:53.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He built a relationship with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.90,0:04:55.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He earned my trust.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.58,0:04:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And slowly but surely,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.81,0:05:00.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those walls that I had built around myself
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.46,0:05:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he started chipping away at
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.43,0:05:05.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I eventually realized\Nhe was one of the good guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.92,0:05:13.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that he felt like he wasn't enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.98,0:05:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because he made the move\Nto talk to my mom.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.54,0:05:21.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And got my mom's permission
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.62,0:05:25.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to let me start seeing\Na school guidance counselor,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.28,0:05:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ms. McFadyen.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.99,0:05:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started seeing Ms. McFadyen\Nonce or twice a week
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.82,0:05:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the next two years.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.00,0:05:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a process.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.87,0:05:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,During that time period,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.11,0:05:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never disclosed to her the abuse,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.52,0:05:42.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, it was a secret,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.19,0:05:43.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't supposed to tell.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.45,0:05:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But she connected the dots,\NI know she did,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.01,0:05:50.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because everything that she did with me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.40,0:05:53.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to empower me\Nand help me find my voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.94,0:05:57.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She taught me how to use mental images
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.71,0:06:00.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to push through my fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.57,0:06:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She taught me breathing techniques
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.63,0:06:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help me get through\Nthose anxiety attacks
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.42,0:06:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I would have so often.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.07,0:06:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she role played with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.02,0:06:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she made sure
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.20,0:06:16.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I could stand up\Nfor myself in situations.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.25,0:06:18.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the day came
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.83,0:06:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I was in the room with my abuser
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.38,0:06:23.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one other adult.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.90,0:06:25.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I told my truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.21,0:06:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told about the abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.81,0:06:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Immediately, my abused began to deny,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.89,0:06:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the person I disclosed to,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.93,0:06:40.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they just weren't equipped\Nto handle the bombshell
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.70,0:06:42.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I had just dropped on them.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.60,0:06:47.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was easier to believe the abuser,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.25,0:06:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.20,0:06:54.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was told\Nnever to speak of it again.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.15,0:06:59.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was made to feel\Nlike I had something wrong, again.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.39,0:07:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was devastating.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.26,0:07:06.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know what,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.45,0:07:08.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something good came out of that day.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.41,0:07:11.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My abuser knew that I was no longer\Ngoing to be silent.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.13,0:07:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The power shifted.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.25,0:07:17.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the abuse stopped.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.62,0:07:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.49,0:07:27.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the shame
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.69,0:07:31.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and fear of it happening again
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.13,0:07:32.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remained.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.58,0:07:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it would remain with me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.78,0:07:37.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for many, many years to come.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.59,0:07:42.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mr. Randolph and Ms. McFadyen,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.90,0:07:45.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they helped me find my voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.90,0:07:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They helped me find the light out.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.66,0:07:54.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know what,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.86,0:07:57.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are so many kids\Nthat aren't as fortunate as me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.11,0:08:00.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have them in your classrooms.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.20,0:08:04.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is why it's so important for me\Nto talk to you today,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.82,0:08:06.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you can be aware,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.96,0:08:10.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can start asking the questions\Nthat need to be asked.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.86,0:08:13.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And paying attention to these students,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.82,0:08:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you too can help them find their way.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.57,0:08:21.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a kindergarten teacher,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.66,0:08:23.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I start my year off
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.58,0:08:27.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with my kids making box biographies.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.20,0:08:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are two of my students.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.63,0:08:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I encourage them
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.54,0:08:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to fill those boxes with things\Nthat tell me about them,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.31,0:08:37.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and about their life,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.51,0:08:40.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's important to you, you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.49,0:08:42.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They decorate them,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.09,0:08:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, they really take time,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.25,0:08:48.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they fill them with pictures\Nof their families, and of their pets,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.80,0:08:52.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I let them present them\Nto me and to the class.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.34,0:08:56.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And during that time,\NI'm an active listener.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.41,0:08:59.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the things they say,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.93,0:09:03.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the facial expressions that they give me,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.06,0:09:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the things they don't say,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.71,0:09:09.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can become red flags for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.34,0:09:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and can help me figure out\Nwhat their needs are.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.12,0:09:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is driving them
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.90,0:09:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to maybe have the behaviors\Nthat they're showing me in class.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.38,0:09:22.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I be a better teacher
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.80,0:09:25.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by listening to their voices?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.07,0:09:29.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also make times to develop\Nrelationships with them,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.47,0:09:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,much like Mr. Randolph did with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.80,0:09:33.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sit with them at lunch,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.39,0:09:36.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have conversations with them at recess,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.32,0:09:38.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I go to their games on the weekends,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.99,0:09:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I go to their dance recitals.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.14,0:09:43.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I become a part of their life.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.58,0:09:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because in order to really know a student,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.01,0:09:50.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've got to infuse yourself\Ninto their lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.46,0:09:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I know some of you\Nare middle school teachers,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.26,0:09:56.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and high school teachers
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.14,0:09:58.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you might think that those kids
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.91,0:10:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have already kind of\Ndeveloped, and you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.17,0:10:04.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're on autopilot at that point.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.02,0:10:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But don't be deceived.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.93,0:10:09.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Especially the kids that you think\Nhave it all together,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.58,0:10:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because those are the ones\Nthat might need you the most.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.05,0:10:15.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you were to look at my yearbook,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.84,0:10:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you would see me on about every page,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.09,0:10:21.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was involved in everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.50,0:10:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I even drove a school bus.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.18,0:10:25.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.57,0:10:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was that kid
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.38,0:10:30.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that teachers thought\Nwas the overachiever,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.12,0:10:31.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the popular person,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.66,0:10:33.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one that had it together.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.94,0:10:37.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But guys, I was lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.99,0:10:39.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was lost,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.40,0:10:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I wanted someone to ask me,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.40,0:10:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Lisa, why are you here all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.54,0:10:48.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why are you throwing yourself\Ninto all these things?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.50,0:10:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did they ever wonder,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.69,0:10:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was I running away from someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.02,0:10:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was I running away from something?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.94,0:10:59.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did I not want to be in my community
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.77,0:11:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or in my home?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.20,0:11:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did I want to be\Nat school all the time?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.37,0:11:07.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No one ever asked.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.94,0:11:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now don't get me wrong,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.53,0:11:12.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all overachievers in your schools
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.74,0:11:16.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are not victims of abuse or trauma.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.23,0:11:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I just want you\Nto take the time to be curious.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.24,0:11:23.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ask them why.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.47,0:11:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may find out\Nthat there is a reason behind it.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.22,0:11:33.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You could be the reason\Nthat they move forward
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.50,0:11:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with their story.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.21,0:11:39.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be careful not to assume
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.73,0:11:42.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you already know\Nthe ending to their story.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.61,0:11:45.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't put a period\Nwhere a semicolon should be.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.34,0:11:47.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Keep that story going
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.88,0:11:52.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help them know that even if\Nsomething has happened traumatic to them,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.51,0:11:55.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that their life is still worth telling.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.19,0:11:59.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Their story is worth telling.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.63,0:12:03.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now in order to do that,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.95,0:12:08.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really feel like we have to embrace\Nour own personal stories as educators.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.75,0:12:12.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of you might be sitting there
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.07,0:12:14.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and thinking, "Yeah.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.52,0:12:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That happened to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.52,0:12:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm not ready to share."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.15,0:12:21.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's OK.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.65,0:12:24.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The time will come
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.54,0:12:27.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you will feel it inside your soul
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.59,0:12:31.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it's time to turn your past pain
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.13,0:12:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into purpose for the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.94,0:12:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These children are our future.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.02,0:12:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just encourage you\Nto take it day by day.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.43,0:12:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Talk to someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.58,0:12:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be willing and just open.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.04,0:12:50.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My life story came full circle,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.64,0:12:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the spring of 2018,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.65,0:12:56.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I was invited to speak
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.34,0:12:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a group of beginning\Nteachers and mentors.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.01,0:13:03.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I shared my story,\Nmuch like today with you,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.28,0:13:06.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and afterwards I had a lady approach me.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.33,0:13:11.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had tears in her eyes\Nand she quietly said, "Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.23,0:13:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for sharing.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.66,0:13:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I cannot wait to tell my dad
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.57,0:13:20.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything that I heard today."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.64,0:13:25.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She must have seen\Nthe perplexed look on my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.12,0:13:28.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because she followed up by saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.13,0:13:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Mr. Randolph is my dad."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:30.35,0:13:32.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Audience: Aww.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.68,0:13:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"And he often wonders,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.58,0:13:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did he make a difference.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.82,0:13:41.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today, I get to go home and tell him,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.02,0:13:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'You definitely made a difference.' "
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.84,0:13:47.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a gift.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.59,0:13:49.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a gift.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.62,0:13:51.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that prompted me
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.19,0:13:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to reach out to Ms. McFadyen's\Ndaughter as well,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.27,0:13:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to share with her
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.20,0:13:58.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what an impact her mother had made.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.14,0:14:00.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I wanted her to know
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.97,0:14:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have advocated for more funding
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.89,0:14:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for guidance counselors,\Nfor school social workers,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.14,0:14:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for psychologists, for nurses,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.07,0:14:13.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they are so vital\Nto the mental and physical health
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.50,0:14:14.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of our children.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.40,0:14:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm thankful for Ms. McFadyen.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.43,0:14:21.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.81,0:14:24.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once heard someone say,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.57,0:14:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to find your way\Nout of the darkness,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.20,0:14:29.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to find the light.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.44,0:14:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today, I hope that you leave this place
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.62,0:14:37.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you seek opportunities\Nto be the light.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.90,0:14:39.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For not only students,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.66,0:14:42.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for adults in your classrooms,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.88,0:14:45.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your schools, in your communities.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.30,0:14:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have the gift
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.28,0:14:51.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help someone navigate
Dialogue: 0,0:14:52.92,0:14:55.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through their trauma,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.47,0:14:58.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make their story worth telling.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.60,0:15:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.78,0:15:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)