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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.18,0:00:02.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey everybody! Happy Thursday!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.71,0:00:03.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's a new year.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.87,0:00:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got a new do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.15,0:00:07.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've got new decorative items on the wall.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.74,0:00:09.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some many things are changing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.03,0:00:10.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're actually painting some stuff in our bedroom.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.85,0:00:14.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm very excited. It's exciting!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.11,0:00:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so Thursdays, if you haven't heard my previous video,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.44,0:00:20.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are kind of gonna be a whatever I want to do video.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.41,0:00:23.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is because often times I feel restricted
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.99,0:00:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by it has to be an #FAQ
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.74,0:00:26.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it needs to be a journal topic
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.75,0:00:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I have to talk about the media
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.96,0:00:31.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or honesty any of the things that we've done in the past.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.24,0:00:32.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kind of want the ability,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.90,0:00:39.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think my greatest hope is that I can do more like coffee and a chats with Kati.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.45,0:00:41.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where maybe I sit down with a friend,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.01,0:00:44.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I talk about a topic that I think is a good conversation to have.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.45,0:00:48.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or I just get to riff on the things that maybe are happening in the media,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.40,0:00:50.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm not giving you mental health advice.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.51,0:00:52.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just talking about how I feel about things,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.48,0:00:55.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in the end we're all human.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.08,0:00:57.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that might be something really cool.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.03,0:00:59.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And let me know in the comments if you think that's a good idea.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.03,0:01:04.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just kind of looking for new ways to communicate to you guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.26,0:01:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So yeah, so without further adieu today's topic is going to be just a regular Q & A,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.27,0:01:11.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I really think this question is important.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.38,0:01:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I really want all of you to hear it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.58,0:01:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if my voice sounds funny, it's because I'm fighting a cold.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.68,0:01:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm actually all better, but my voice isn't quite better.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.10,0:01:22.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So without further adieu.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.35,0:01:25.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The question says "Hey Kati. If you go into therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.05,0:01:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but don't know where to start when talking to them,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.58,0:01:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you ask your therapist to lead the conversation
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.56,0:01:32.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or ask you questions?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.13,0:01:36.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they do, what type of questions will they ask to get the information out of you?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.24,0:01:37.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thanks heaps."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.47,0:01:38.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now first of all I like that they're like
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.89,0:01:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"what will they ask to get the information out of you"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.90,0:01:43.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like we're just retrieving this information.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.49,0:01:50.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And first of all, yes it's very very normal to not know where to start.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.47,0:01:51.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To not know what to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.59,0:01:53.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't tell you how many times I get a new client in
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.42,0:01:55.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my first question will be something like
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.34,0:01:58.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Well, you called me a couple weeks ago to set up this appointment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.13,0:02:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you want to tell me what's going on or what brought you in today?'
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.95,0:02:04.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very general, like what would you like to work on?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.89,0:02:06.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's your struggle right now?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.68,0:02:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they'll be like 'Uhh things are kind of stressful. I don't know'
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.76,0:02:13.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's fine. That's very normal.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.80,0:02:15.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It happens all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.52,0:02:20.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so at that point it's the therapist's job to read people well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.66,0:02:22.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'll notice, and be like hey, you know, okay
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.98,0:02:25.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not quite sure how to verbalize what they're feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.49,0:02:27.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And maybe it will take a little time.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.12,0:02:31.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I will start off by going through your intake paperwork with you.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.64,0:02:34.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Almost every therapist will have you come 10 minutes before
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.62,0:02:36.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your first appointment to fill out some basic paperwork.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.65,0:02:39.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's usually like have you been to see a therapist before,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.56,0:02:42.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have you been on medication, have you worked on things,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.93,0:02:45.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just basic information.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.08,0:02:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And some of it's like sign here to,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.38,0:02:48.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are your rights, blah blah blah, legal stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.93,0:02:51.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'll go through that with them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.18,0:02:52.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And say 'it says you've been to a therapist or not.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.79,0:02:54.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what was your experience?'
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.25,0:02:57.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I'll start asking about general life things.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.67,0:03:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Tell me about school. Are you in school or do you have a job?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.46,0:03:03.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you in a relationship with anyone?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.85,0:03:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you want to tell me a little bit about that?'
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.30,0:03:07.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friends, I'll ask about friends and family.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.77,0:03:12.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'll usually, you know, get to kind of putting together
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.50,0:03:16.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a little bit about who this person is and what they're about.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.01,0:03:17.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it can take a little time,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.92,0:03:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but usually in asking those questions I will run into some road block,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.28,0:03:27.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they'll be like 'Oh my mom, oh I don't, I don't want to talk about my mom,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.39,0:03:29.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but my sister … ' and they'll go on.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.81,0:03:32.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right, so there's, mom may be an issue of concern.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.57,0:03:33.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe bring it up later.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.85,0:03:35.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or they'll say something like
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.31,0:03:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Oh I just got fired from my job. I've been really stressed out.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.03,0:03:41.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did want to talk to you about sliding scale, so I can afford this.'
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.72,0:03:45.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Boop, another red flag. Job. Just lost their job.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.02,0:03:46.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It might be an issue of concern.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.59,0:03:47.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It might be why they called.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.78,0:03:51.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are all things that I'm trained to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.40,0:03:55.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's okay to not know how to start, because that's my job.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.06,0:03:57.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those are the kind of questions I would ask.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.33,0:03:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now every therapist is gonna be different,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.32,0:04:00.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're gonna have a different way of
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.73,0:04:03.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,making you feel comfortable and starting the conversation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.71,0:04:05.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And just getting to know you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.94,0:04:09.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But think of the first therapy appointment as kind of like a first date.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.57,0:04:12.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I as a therapist don't know anything about you,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.24,0:04:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I'm gonna try my best to get to know you. Okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.44,0:04:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's just how it works.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.83,0:04:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you ever feel uncomfortable like they're moving too fast.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.96,0:04:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're asking too many questions about this certain thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.90,0:04:28.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just starting to freak out or dissociate or anything, tell them.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.10,0:04:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can stop it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.39,0:04:30.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're in control as a client.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.71,0:04:32.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've had many clients be like
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.08,0:04:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I don't want to do that. Don't want to talk about that. Hard stop. Hard pass.'
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.08,0:04:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've heard all of these different phrases and all these different ways,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.34,0:04:41.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even visibly, some of my clients will like curl up
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.95,0:04:43.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they don't want to talk about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.48,0:04:45.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can express that 'cause that's okay too.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.52,0:04:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is your therapy. We go at your pace.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.56,0:04:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We talk about the things you want to talk about when you wanna talk about them.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.94,0:04:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yeah, I'm gonna challenge you, but it's all within reason.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.26,0:04:58.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So make sure you express that if that's how you're feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.14,0:05:01.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But otherwise we're just gonna try to get to know you and take notes,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.63,0:05:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can remember the little red flags that popped up.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.29,0:05:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And help you better communicate, better manage your life,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.87,0:05:10.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,better overcome stress, better manage your eating disorder or urges,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.68,0:05:12.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever it may be.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.78,0:05:14.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to do our best to find out and help you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.76,0:05:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hope you found this helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.24,0:05:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have any advice of things
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.74,0:05:20.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that have happened in your first therapy appointment.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.36,0:05:23.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you remember how they got the information out of you, leave it below.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.78,0:05:25.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And like I said, don't forget to subscribe
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.26,0:05:26.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'cause I put out videos all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.63,0:05:27.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't want to miss them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.55,0:05:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you like this kind of setup
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.96,0:05:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you like the idea of Thursdays being kind of whatever,
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Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.92,0:05:33.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, I love you all.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.79,0:05:35.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll see you on Monday. Bye!