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Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.24,0:00:09.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine that you've just received\Nsome negative information about me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.76,0:00:11.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just before this talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.01,0:00:18.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe he or she who's with you today\Nhas heard some rumors about me,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.95,0:00:22.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some rumors about me being incompetent,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.98,0:00:26.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being a liar, being a bragger,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.71,0:00:29.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I wear women's underwear -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.80,0:00:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.73,0:00:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How much do you think that would affect\Nyour image of me right now?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.59,0:00:45.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a psychotherapist,\Nworking with occupational health,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.35,0:00:48.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've met countless employees and leaders
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.13,0:00:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are suffering from a toxic\Nand unhealthy working environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.06,0:00:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are struggling\Nbecause they're lacking knowledge
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.14,0:01:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to change the environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.42,0:01:03.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need outside help.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.38,0:01:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've tried to help them and failed,\Ntimes and times again.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.45,0:01:13.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've tried conflict resolutions,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.48,0:01:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,group discussions, individual interviews,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.34,0:01:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,leadership coaching,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.62,0:01:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,failing time and time again to change\Nthis unhealthy working environment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.29,0:01:29.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.70,0:01:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ten years ago, I started\Na little investigation of my own.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.35,0:01:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was trying to figure out\Nwhy it is so hard to change,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.60,0:01:46.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I found out that a great number\Nof employees and leaders
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.31,0:01:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were talking negatively\Nabout their colleagues
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.03,0:01:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they were not present.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.38,0:01:53.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Namely, backbiting.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.21,0:01:59.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, the definition of backbiting\Nis talking negatively
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.35,0:02:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about a third person who's not present.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.18,0:02:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a question for you all.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.71,0:02:10.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please raise your hand
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.37,0:02:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you think backbiting takes place\Nat your workplace or place of study.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.82,0:02:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please raise your hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.05,0:02:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wow! OK. Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.55,0:02:27.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not exact, but I think\Nabout 90% of you raised your hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.03,0:02:32.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In ancient Greece,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.07,0:02:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the great philosopher Socrates\Nmet an acquaintance on the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.88,0:02:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the acquaintance said,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.34,0:02:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hey, Socrates, have you heard\Nthe latest news about your friend?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.05,0:02:47.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Socrates says,\N"No, but before you tell this news,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.54,0:02:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to pass a little test.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.86,0:02:52.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's called the triple-filter test."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.93,0:02:56.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The triple-filter test?", he said. "OK."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.05,0:02:57.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"First question:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.02,0:03:01.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you're going to tell me\Nabout my friend, is it true?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.53,0:03:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, no. I just heard it. I don't know."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.30,0:03:08.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK. You can still pass the test.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.100,0:03:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second question:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.43,0:03:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is it anything good you're going\Nto tell me about my friend?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.75,0:03:18.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, no. On the contrary,"\Nhe said. "Nothing good."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.57,0:03:22.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK. You may still pass the test.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.06,0:03:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The third question:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.03,0:03:27.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you're going to tell me,\Nis it useful?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.97,0:03:29.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, no. It's not useful."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.35,0:03:32.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"OK," Socrates said.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.34,0:03:35.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"First of all, \Nyou don't know if it's true.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.39,0:03:38.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, it's nothing good.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.31,0:03:41.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Third of all, it's nothing useful.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.87,0:03:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why bother tell me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.64,0:03:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know who,\Nin our society today, that backbites?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.02,0:03:56.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. Women.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.16,0:03:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.82,0:04:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's women.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.14,0:04:01.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.17,0:04:08.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's another major group, as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.97,0:04:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Namely, men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.00,0:04:12.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.51,0:04:16.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And why do we backbite?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.18,0:04:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I backbite,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.48,0:04:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got this feeling of elevating myself,\Nwhile talking other people down.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.39,0:04:29.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In an additional bonus,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.87,0:04:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I seem interesting because I've got some\Njuicy information that you don't have.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.82,0:04:43.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is how we, as adults,\Nare bullying each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.92,0:04:50.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a second question for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.97,0:04:55.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please raise your hand\Nif you want to work in a place
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.15,0:04:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where there is no backbiting going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.75,0:05:00.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No gossip.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.64,0:05:03.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK. Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.98,0:05:06.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's interesting, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.08,0:05:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to get a permanent end to backbiting?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.67,0:05:19.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have done one genius thing in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.14,0:05:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.18,0:05:21.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think this is it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.37,0:05:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call it "Gossip 2016,"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.18,0:05:30.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is how you can all apply it\Nin your workplace, if you want to.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.84,0:05:33.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First of all, you gather a group.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.26,0:05:35.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Perhaps, not as many as you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.02,0:05:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second of all, \Nyou ask the first question:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.88,0:05:42.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Do you believe backbiting\Ntakes place here?",
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.25,0:05:44.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they will raise their hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.14,0:05:49.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Third, you need to define\Nwhat backbiting is.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.57,0:05:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Use this triple-filter test.\NIt's good, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.39,0:05:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fourth, ask the second question:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.96,0:06:01.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Would you like to work in a workplace\Nwhere there's no backbiting?",
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.22,0:06:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they will raise their hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.09,0:06:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, you get a good\Nold-fashioned flipboard,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.08,0:06:13.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you capitalize "Gossip 2016,"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.98,0:06:18.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you ask your group\Nif they want to join a project
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.24,0:06:22.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will last for six months:\N"No Backbiting Takes Place Here."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.04,0:06:28.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they will sign.\NThis is what obligates them.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.76,0:06:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After they sign it, you [put] this sheet\Nin a glass and frame,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.08,0:06:38.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you put it on a wall\Nwhere everybody can see it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.47,0:06:41.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and every week, for next six months,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.73,0:06:46.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you ask the group, \N"How are we doing with Gossip 2016?"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.08,0:06:54.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This may seem simple, maybe naive.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.25,0:06:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Too good to be true, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.37,0:07:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it works! I know!
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.16,0:07:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I have over -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.66,0:07:09.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't have, but it's over 250 CEOs\Nin different companies
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.22,0:07:11.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that could verify this.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.56,0:07:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It works.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.00,0:07:18.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They could also tell you that absenteeism,\Nsick leave, goes down,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.45,0:07:23.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and fractionation is minimized,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.51,0:07:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and productivity is increasing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.26,0:07:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you take this concept a bit further,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.86,0:07:39.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you all heard about the discussions\Nabout how young people and children
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.54,0:07:43.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are being bullied at school\Nand on social media.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.54,0:07:50.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that I, as an adult,\N[have] the responsibility
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.65,0:07:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be a good role model.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.74,0:07:59.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have to stop talking negatively\Nabout my uncle, about my neighbor,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.81,0:08:04.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about my colleague,\Nabout my mother-in-law,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.10,0:08:07.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,around the dinner table at home,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.95,0:08:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, if I don't do that,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.44,0:08:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm actually saying to my children\Nit's OK to talk negatively
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.60,0:08:17.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the third person that's not there.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.07,0:08:22.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,New consciousness commits.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.00,0:08:24.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for your attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.66,0:08:27.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) (Cheers)