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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.28,0:00:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What an intriguing\Ngroup of individuals you are ...
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.74,0:00:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a psychologist.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.44,0:00:08.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.44,0:00:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've had the opportunity\Nover the last couple of days
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.68,0:00:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of listening in on some\Nof your conversations,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.98,0:00:17.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watching you interact with each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.05,0:00:19.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think it's fair to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.16,0:00:20.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,already,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.16,0:00:25.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there are 47 people in this audience,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.63,0:00:27.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at this moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.64,0:00:31.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,displaying psychological symptoms\NI would like to discuss today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.89,0:00:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.05,0:00:36.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I thought you might like\Nto know who you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.29,0:00:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.42,0:00:39.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead of pointing at you --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.56,0:00:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which would be gratuitous and intrusive --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.97,0:00:45.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I would tell you\Na few facts and stories
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.97,0:00:49.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which you may\Ncatch a glimpse of yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.34,0:00:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm in the field of research\Nknown as Personality Psychology,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.58,0:00:58.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is part of a larger\Npersonality science
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.02,0:01:03.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which spans the full spectrum\Nfrom neurons to narratives.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.50,0:01:05.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what we try to do,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.78,0:01:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our own way,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.44,0:01:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to make sense of how each of us --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.99,0:01:12.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,each of you --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.71,0:01:17.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is in certain respects\Nlike all other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.10,0:01:19.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like some other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.33,0:01:21.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and like no other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.68,0:01:25.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now already you may be saying of yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.93,0:01:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm not intriguing ...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.89,0:01:35.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am the 46th most boring person\Nin the Western hemisphere."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.03,0:01:38.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you may say of yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.32,0:01:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am intriguing ...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.47,0:01:45.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if I am regarded by most people\Nas a great, thundering twit."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.51,0:01:46.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.51,0:01:51.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it is your self-diagnosed boringness\Nand your inherent "twitiness"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.50,0:01:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that makes me as a psychologist\Nreally fascinated by you.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.40,0:01:59.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let me explain why this is so.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.51,0:02:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the most influential\Napproaches in personality science
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.84,0:02:06.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is known as trait psychology,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.41,0:02:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it aligns you along five dimensions\Nwhich are normally distributed
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.82,0:02:18.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that describe universally held\Naspects of difference between people.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.82,0:02:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They spell out the acronym OCEAN.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.39,0:02:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, O stands for open to experience
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.44,0:02:27.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,versus those who are more closed;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.79,0:02:30.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,C stands for conscientiousness
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.91,0:02:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in contrast to those with a more\Nlackadaisical approach to life;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.66,0:02:39.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,E, extroversion in contrast\Nto more introverted people;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.15,0:02:45.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A, agreeable individuals in contrast\Nto those decidedly not agreeable;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.79,0:02:46.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and N --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.79,0:02:51.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,neurotic individuals in contrast\Nto those who are more stable.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.43,0:02:55.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of these dimensions have\Nimplications for our well-being,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.95,0:02:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for how our life goes.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.91,0:03:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so we know that for example,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.38,0:03:06.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,openness and conscientiousness\Nare very good predictors of life success,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.93,0:03:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the open people achieve that success\Nthrough being audacious,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.50,0:03:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and occasionally odd.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.20,0:03:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The conscientious people\Nachieve it through sticking to deadlines,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.65,0:03:22.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to persevering as well as\Nhaving some passion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.84,0:03:30.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroversion and agreeableness are both\Nconducive to working well with people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.07,0:03:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverts for example,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.98,0:03:34.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I find intriguing with my classes,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.84,0:03:37.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sometimes give them a basic fact
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.18,0:03:39.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that might be revealing\Nwith respect to their personality.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.47,0:03:44.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tell them that it is\Nvirtually impossible
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.84,0:03:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for adults to lick the outside\Nof their own elbow.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.02,0:03:52.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did you know that?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.59,0:03:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Already, some of you have tried to lick\Nthe outside of your own elbow,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.86,0:03:59.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but extroverts amongst you
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.79,0:04:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are probably those who've not only tried,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.40,0:04:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they have successfully licked
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.20,0:04:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the elbow of the person\Nsitting next to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.46,0:04:07.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.46,0:04:09.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those are the extroverts.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.30,0:04:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me deal in a bit more detail\Nwith extroversion,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.76,0:04:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's consequential\Nand it's intriguing,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.79,0:04:19.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it helps us understand\Nwhat I call our three natures.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.27,0:04:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, our biogenic nature,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.52,0:04:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our neurophysiology.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.02,0:04:26.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, our sociogenic or second nature,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.55,0:04:29.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which has to do with the cultural\Nand social aspects of our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.85,0:04:32.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And third,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.44,0:04:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what makes you individually you --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.70,0:04:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,idiosyncratic --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.38,0:04:41.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I call your "idiogenic" nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.68,0:04:42.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me explain.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.08,0:04:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the things that characterizes\Nextroverts is they need stimulation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.15,0:04:53.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that stimulation can be achieved\Nby finding things that are exciting:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.88,0:04:55.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loud noises,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.16,0:04:56.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,parties
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.14,0:04:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and social events here at TED.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.04,0:05:01.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see the extroverts forming\Na magnetic core,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.11,0:05:02.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they all gather together,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.86,0:05:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've seen you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.39,0:05:07.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The introverts are more likely\Nto spend time in the quiet spaces,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.71,0:05:09.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,up on the second floor,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.54,0:05:13.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they are able\Nto reduce stimulation --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.33,0:05:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and may be misconstrued\Nas being antisocial,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.23,0:05:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you're not necessarily antisocial.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.46,0:05:25.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It may be that you simply realize\Nthat you do better
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.60,0:05:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you have a chance\Nto lower that level of stimulation.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.06,0:05:34.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it's an internal stimulant,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.65,0:05:35.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from your body --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.68,0:05:40.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caffeine for example works much better\Nwith extroverts than it does introverts.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.19,0:05:43.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When extroverts come into the office\Nat nine o'clock in the morning
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.37,0:05:46.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and say, "I really need a cup of coffee,"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.30,0:05:47.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not kidding,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.57,0:05:48.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they really do.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.79,0:05:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Introverts do not do as well,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.60,0:05:55.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,particularly if the tasks\Nthey're engaged in --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.06,0:05:56.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they've had some coffee --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.74,0:05:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if those tasks are speeded,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.88,0:06:00.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if they're quantitative,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.76,0:06:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,introverts may give the appearance\Nof not being particularly quantitative.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.69,0:06:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's a misconstrual.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.33,0:06:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So here are the consequences\Nthat are really quite intriguing.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.57,0:06:12.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not always what seem to be,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.52,0:06:15.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that takes me to my next point.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.30,0:06:17.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.68,0:06:18.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before getting to this,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.98,0:06:21.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something about sexual intercourse.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.65,0:06:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Although I may not have time.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.90,0:06:26.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so if you would like me to --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.73,0:06:27.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yes, you would?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.73,0:06:28.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.73,0:06:29.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.06,0:06:31.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are studies done
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.12,0:06:36.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the frequency with which\Nindividuals engage in the conjugal act.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.54,0:06:39.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's broken down by male, female;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.37,0:06:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,introvert, extrovert.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.22,0:06:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I ask you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.22,0:06:45.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many times per minute ...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.36,0:06:47.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh, I'm sorry, that was a rat study --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.53,0:06:49.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.32,0:06:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many times per month ...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.00,0:06:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do introverted men engage in the act?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.75,0:07:00.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,3.0.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.05,0:07:01.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverted men?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.75,0:07:03.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More or less?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.78,0:07:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, more.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.76,0:07:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,5.5 --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.85,0:07:08.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,almost twice as much.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.45,0:07:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Introverted women: 3.1.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.10,0:07:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverted women --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.70,0:07:17.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,frankly speaking as an introverted male,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.10,0:07:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I will explain later --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.90,0:07:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are heroic.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.16,0:07:22.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,7.5.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.00,0:07:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They not only handle\Nall the male extroverts,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.36,0:07:28.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they pick up a few introverts as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.45,0:07:30.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.20,0:07:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.08,0:07:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We communicate differently,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.28,0:07:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,extroverts and introverts.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.20,0:07:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverts when they interact,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.16,0:07:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,want to have lots of social encounters\Npunctuated by closeness.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.92,0:07:52.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They'd like to stand close\Nfrom comfortable communication.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.74,0:07:54.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They like to have a lot of eye contact,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.12,0:07:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your mutual gaze.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.53,0:07:58.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We found in some research
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.80,0:08:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they use more diminutive\Nterms when they meet somebody.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.17,0:08:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when an extrovert meets Charles,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.98,0:08:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it rapidly becomes Charlie and then Chuck,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.04,0:08:09.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then Chuckles Baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.82,0:08:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.58,0:08:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where as for introverts,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.60,0:08:16.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it remains Charles until he's given\Na pass to be more intimate
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.57,0:08:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the person he's talking to.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.30,0:08:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We speak differently.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.13,0:08:30.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Extroverts prefer black and white,\Nconcrete, simple language.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.04,0:08:33.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Introverts prefer --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.95,0:08:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I must again tell you
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.85,0:08:40.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I am as extreme an introvert\Nas you could possibly imagine --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.10,0:08:42.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we speak differently,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.17,0:08:50.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we prefer contextually complex,\Ncontingent, weasel word sentences --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.25,0:08:52.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.25,0:08:53.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More or less.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.66,0:08:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.29,0:08:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As it were ...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.73,0:08:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to put too fine a point upon it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.44,0:09:00.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.17,0:09:03.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we talk,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.77,0:09:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we sometimes talk past each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.00,0:09:08.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a consulting contract\NI shared with a colleague,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.77,0:09:11.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's as different from me as two\Npeople can possibly be.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.14,0:09:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, his name is Tom.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.28,0:09:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mine isn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.82,0:09:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.26,0:09:19.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Secondly, he's six foot five,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.42,0:09:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a tendency not to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.57,0:09:22.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.52,0:09:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And thirdly,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.80,0:09:25.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's as extroverted\Na person as you could find,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.19,0:09:28.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am seriously introverted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.00,0:09:30.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I overload so much
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.61,0:09:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't even have a cup of coffee\Nafter three in the afternoon
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.77,0:09:37.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and expect to sleep in the evening.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had [seconded] to this project\Na fellow called Michael.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Michael almost brought\Nthe project to a crashing halt.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the person who [seconded] him\Nasked Tom and me,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What do you make of Michael?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, I'll tell you\Nwhat Tom said in a minute.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He spoke in classic "extrovertese."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here is how extroverted ears\Nheard what I said,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is actually pretty accurate.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Well Michael does have\Na tendency at times
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of behaving in a way that some of us\Nmight see as perhaps more assertive
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than is normally called for."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tom rolled his eyes and he said,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Brian, that's what I said ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's an asshole!"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now as an introvert,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I might gently allude to certain\N"assholic" qualities
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this man's behavior,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm not going to lunge for the a-word.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the extrovert says he walks like one,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he talks like one,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if he talks like one I call him one.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we go past each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now is this something\Nthat we should be heedful of?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's important that we know this.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that all we are?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are we just a bunch of traits?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No we're not.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember you're like some other people\Nand like no other person.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How about that idiosyncratic you?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As Elizabeth or as George,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you may share you extraversion\Nor your neuroticism,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but are their some distinctive Elizabethan\Nfeatures of your behavior,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or Georgian of yours,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that makes us understand you\Nbetter than just a bunch of traits?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That make us love you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not just because you're\Na certain type of person.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm uncomfortable putting\Npeople in pigeon holes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't even think pigeons\Nbelong in pigeon holes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what is it that makes us different?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the doings that we have in our life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The personal projects.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have a personal project right now,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but nobody may know it here.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It relates to your kid --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've been back three\Ntimes to the hospital
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they still don't know what's wrong.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or it could be your mom.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you'd been acting out of character.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are free traits.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're very agreeable,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you act disagreeably in order\Nto break down those barriers
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of administrative torpor in the hospital,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get something for you mom ...
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or your child.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are these free traits?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're where were enact a script
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to advance a core\Nproject in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they are what matters.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't ask people what type you are,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ask them:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are your core projects in your life?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we enact those free traits.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm an introvert,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I have a core project,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is to profess.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a professor.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I adore my students,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I adore my field.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I can't wait to tell them\Nabout what's new,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's exciting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I can't wait to tell them about.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I act in an extroverted way,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because at eight in the morning,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the students need a little bit of humor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a little bit of engagement\Nto keep them going
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in arduous days of study.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we need to be very careful
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we act protractedly out of character.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we may find\Nthat we don't take care of ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I find,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example after a period\Nof pseudo-extroverted behavior,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I need to repair somewhere on my own.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As Susan Cain said in her Quiet book,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a chapter that featured\Nthe strange Canadian professor
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was teaching at the time at Harvard,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sometimes go to the men's room
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to escape the slings and arrows\Nof outrageous extroverts.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one particular day,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I was retired to a cubicle\Ntrying to avoid overstimulation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a real extrovert came beside --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not right in my cubicle,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but in the next cubicle over --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I could hear various\Nevacuatory noises,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which we hate --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even our own,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's why we flush during\Nas well as after --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I heard\Nthis gravelly voice saying,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hey is that Dr. Little?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If anything is guaranteed\Nto constipate an introvert for six months,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's talking on the john.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's where I'm going now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)