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Dear Thay,

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I'm very grateful for your teaching
that is helping me over time,

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learn ways to transform my feeling
that I am a victim.

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I realize that I am transmitting the
thinking and behavior of being a victim

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from my Jewish and my Native American 
ancestors who sufferred greatly.

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And from this practise, I have learned 
to cultivate understanding

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and I believe, have loving my heart 
for people who have hurt me

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but my question is, perhaps, 
how you might advice

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that I can act and behave in a way 
that I do not behave as a victim.

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And sometimes it is just a simple thing,
I regret that even times,

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here in the retreat, around many 
wonderful people that are my friends

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but I feel like I have maybe 
some disconnection.

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It is easier for me to just walk away 
and not look at them.

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And then later I think, 
perhaps I am behaving as a victim

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because I want to walk by them
or say hello.

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And perhaps, if you please advice me

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on a better way to not behaving
as a victim.

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The key of the problem is 
how to see the suffering in them.

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Of course there is suffering
in these people.

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If they are happy, 
they would not behave like that.

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Behave in such a way 
that make you suffer

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and feel you are the victim.

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So, look and see that they are victims 
of their own suffering.

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And so far, no one has been able 
to help them to suffer less.

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You may be the first person
who can help them.

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That is process, looking deeply 
to see the suffering in them,

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to see that they don't know 
how to transform the suffering

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that no one so far has helped them 
to transform the suffering

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and they continue to suffer

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and you only suffer with them.

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If you have that kind of insight
and compassion in you

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and you behave not as a victim 
but as a Bodhisatva.

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Instead of trying to run away,
you want to stay and help.

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because you know 
you have the capacity to help.

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Compassion goes together
with happiness.

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A scientist have found out that the energy
of compassion can heal your body,

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reduce inflammation and
pain in your body.

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Not only compassion can heal the mind,
but also heal the body.

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When you are happy,
you are peaceful,

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you have more energy

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and with happiness as energy and
compassion as the other kind of energy,

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you are ready to stay and
to help them suffer less.

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If you have had the experience of helping
other people, you have the confidence

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that in this way, you can help

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and you will not have the idea 
of running away.

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Thank you.

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