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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.04,0:00:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,\NI got a call from a woman in Texas,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.68,0:00:06.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey Baker,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.35,0:00:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she'd seen some of my photographs\Nin an art exhibition
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.12,0:00:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was wondering if she could commission\Nme to take a portrait of her parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.89,0:00:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,\Nand I thought this was some sort of
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.34,0:00:23.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.37,0:00:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it was only later that I found out
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.24,0:00:28.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she'd actually taken out a loan\Nto make this happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.41,0:00:31.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took the picture of her parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.08,0:00:35.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was actually more excited\Nabout photographing Stacey.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.07,0:00:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The picture I made that day
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.83,0:00:39.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ended up becoming\None of my best-known portraits.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.57,0:00:45.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the time I made this picture,\NStacey was working as an attorney
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.03,0:00:46.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the State of Texas.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.69,0:00:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not long after, she left her job\Nto study photography in Maine,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.39,0:00:53.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while she was there,\Nshe ended up meeting
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.65,0:00:56.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the director of photography\Nat the New York Times Magazine
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.79,0:01:00.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was actually offered a job.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.15,0:01:02.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey Baker: In the years since,\NAlec and I have done
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.98,0:01:05.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a number of magazine projects together,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.21,0:01:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we've become friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.16,0:01:11.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A few months ago, I started talking\Nto Alec about a fascination of mine.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.95,0:01:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've always been obsessed\Nwith how couples meet.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.34,0:01:18.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked Alec how he\Nand his wife Rachel met,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.31,0:01:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he told me the story\Nof a high school football game
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.17,0:01:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she was 16 and he was 15,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.09,0:01:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he asked her out.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.18,0:01:28.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He liked her purple hair.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.02,0:01:31.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said yes, and that was it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.17,0:01:35.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I then asked Alec if he'd be interested\Nin doing a photography project
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.47,0:01:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exploring this question.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.28,0:01:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: And I was interested in the question,\Nbut I was actually much more interested
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.32,0:01:44.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.80,0:01:48.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,particularly since I'd never known\NStacey to have a boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.73,0:01:51.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as part of this project,\NI thought it'd be interesting
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.51,0:01:53.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if she tried to meet someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.63,0:01:58.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my idea was to have Stacey here\Ngo speed dating
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.47,0:02:02.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.54,0:02:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.46,0:02:13.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: We ended up at what was advertised\Nas the world's largest speed dating event.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.66,0:02:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had 19 dates
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.68,0:02:18.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and each date lasted three minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.68,0:02:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Participants were given a list of ice-\Nbreaker questions to get the ball rolling,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.62,0:02:26.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,things like, "If you could be any kind\Nof animal, what would you be?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.56,0:02:28.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That sort of thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.44,0:02:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My first date was Colin.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.86,0:02:32.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's from England,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.67,0:02:37.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he once married a woman he met\Nafter placing an ad for a Capricorn.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.82,0:02:40.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec and I saw him\Nat the end of the evening,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.17,0:02:45.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said he'd kissed a woman in line\Nat one of the concession stands.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.09,0:02:48.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zack and Chris came\Nto the date-a-thon together.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.84,0:02:53.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is Carl.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.24,0:02:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked Carl, "What's the first thing\Nyou notice about a woman?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.66,0:03:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Tits."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.75,0:03:03.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.35,0:03:08.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Matthew is attracted to women\Nwith muscular calves.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.55,0:03:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We talked about running. He does\Ntriathlons, I run half-marathons.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.38,0:03:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec actually liked his eyes and asked\Nif I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.24,0:03:20.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I don't think he was\Nattracted to me either.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.35,0:03:24.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Austin and Mike came together.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.72,0:03:27.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.34,0:03:31.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "You're in an elevator\Nrunning late for a meeting.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.96,0:03:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.40,0:03:37.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you hold it open for them?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.35,0:03:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said I would not.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.34,0:03:41.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.77,0:03:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cliff said the first thing he notices\Nabout a woman is her teeth,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.82,0:03:50.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we complimented each other's teeth.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.81,0:03:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.18,0:03:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he says he has to floss more\Nto help prevent gum disease,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.38,0:03:59.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I asked him how often he flosses,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.80,0:04:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, "Every other day."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.40,0:04:04.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.53,0:04:07.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.97,0:04:10.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't really sure that\Nthat was flossing more
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.37,0:04:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I don't think I said that out loud.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.89,0:04:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bill is an auditor,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.94,0:04:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we talked the entire three minutes\Nabout auditing. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.67,0:04:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first thing Spencer notices\Nabout a woman is her complexion.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.64,0:04:29.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He feels a lot of women\Nwear too much makeup,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.33,0:04:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they should only wear enough\Nto accentuate the features that they have.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.16,0:04:35.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.23,0:04:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he seemed to think\Nthat that was a good thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.32,0:04:43.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Craig told me he didn't think\NI was willing to be vulnerable.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.40,0:04:48.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was also frustrated when I couldn't\Nremember my most embarrassing moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.47,0:04:50.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.77,0:04:53.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't think he liked me at all,\Nbut at the end of the night,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.85,0:04:57.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he came back to me and he gave me\Na box of chocolates.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.85,0:05:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,William was really difficult to talk to.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.54,0:05:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think he was drunk.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.68,0:05:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.60,0:05:08.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Actor Chris McKenna\Nwas the MC of the event.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.88,0:05:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He used to be on\N"The Young and the Restless."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.34,0:05:14.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't actually go on a date with him.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.08,0:05:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec said he saw several women\Ngive their phone numbers to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.79,0:05:23.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.62,0:05:27.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't feel a particular connection with\Nany of the men that I went on dates with,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.61,0:05:32.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't feel like they felt\Na particular connection with me either.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.30,0:05:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.04,0:05:41.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) -- as a photographer\Nis the quality of vulnerability.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.63,0:05:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The physical exterior reveals a crack\Nin which you can get a glimpse
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.33,0:05:48.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a more fragile interior.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.51,0:05:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At this date-a-thon event,\NI saw so many examples of that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.88,0:05:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as I watched Stacey's dates\Nand talked to her about them,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.50,0:06:02.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized how different\Nphotographic love is from real love.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.51,0:06:06.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is real love? How does it work?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.16,0:06:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In order to work on this question\Nand to figure out how someone goes
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.50,0:06:15.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from meeting on a date\Nto having a life together,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.08,0:06:17.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.63,0:06:21.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is the largest\Nretirement community in Las Vegas.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.02,0:06:27.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our contact there was George,\Nwho runs the community's photography club.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.64,0:06:32.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He arranged for us to meet other couples\Nin their makeshift photo studio.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.45,0:06:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: After 45 years of marriage,\NAnastasia's husband died two years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.52,0:06:40.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we asked if she had\Nan old wedding picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.67,0:06:44.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She met her husband\Nwhen she was a 15-year-old waitress
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.08,0:06:46.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.56,0:06:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 30.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.24,0:06:50.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd lied about her age.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.51,0:06:53.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was the first person she'd dated.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.32,0:06:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dean had been named photographer of\Nthe year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.78,0:06:59.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this caught Alec's attention,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.66,0:07:02.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as did the fact \Nthat he met his wife, Judy,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.24,0:07:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.77,0:07:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dean admitted that he likes\Nto look at beautiful women,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.74,0:07:12.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he's never questioned\Nhis decision to marry Judy.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.69,0:07:15.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: George met Josephine\Nat a parish dance.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.05,0:07:17.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 18, she was 15.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.56,0:07:21.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like a lot of the couples we met,\Nthey weren't especially philosophical
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.12,0:07:23.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about their early choices.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.46,0:07:26.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George said something\Nthat really stuck with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.04,0:07:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "When you get that feeling,\Nyou just go with it."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.14,0:07:37.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bob and Trudy met on a blind date\Nwhen she was still in high school.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.68,0:07:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They said they weren't particularly\Nattracted to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.44,0:07:41.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the first met.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.86,0:07:44.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nevertheless, they were\Nmarried soon after.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.11,0:07:47.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: The story that stayed with me the most
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.53,0:07:52.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that of George, the photography club\Npresident, and his wife, Mary.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.26,0:07:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was George and Mary's\Nsecond marriage.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.66,0:08:00.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They met at a country-western club\Nin Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.34,0:08:04.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was there alone drinking\Nand she was with friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.08,0:08:09.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they started dating,\Nhe owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.80,0:08:12.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she offered to help him\Nget out of debt,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.33,0:08:16.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so for the next year, he turned\Nhis paychecks over to Mary,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.30,0:08:18.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she got him out of debt.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.80,0:08:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George was actually an alcoholic\Nwhen they married, and Mary knew it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.24,0:08:26.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At some point in their marriage,\Nhe says he consumed
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.07,0:08:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,54 beers in one day.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.60,0:08:32.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another time, when he was drunk,\Nhe threatened to kill Mary
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.43,0:08:33.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and her two kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.97,0:08:38.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they escaped and a SWAT team\Nwas called to the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.41,0:08:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Amazingly, Mary took him back,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.58,0:08:42.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and eventually things got better.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.90,0:08:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George has been involved\Nin Alcoholics Anonymous
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.76,0:08:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.66,0:08:49.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Music)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.78,0:08:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of the day,\Nafter we left Sun City,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.12,0:08:54.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told Alec that I didn't actually think
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.54,0:08:58.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the stories of how these couples met\Nwas all that interesting.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.67,0:09:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was more interesting
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.88,0:09:04.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was how they managed to stay together.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.59,0:09:08.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: They all had this beautiful\Nquality of endurance,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.77,0:09:11.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that was true of the singles, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.05,0:09:14.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The world is hard,\Nand the singles were out there
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.86,0:09:17.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to connect with other people,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.20,0:09:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the couples\Nwere holding onto each other
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.82,0:09:23.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after all these decades.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.84,0:09:27.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My favorite pictures on this trip\Nwere of Joe and Roseanne.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.15,0:09:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.40,0:09:34.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples\Nif they had an old wedding photograph.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.91,0:09:39.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In their case, they simultaneously\Npulled out of their wallets
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.71,0:09:44.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the exact same photograph.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.01,0:09:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's more beautiful,\NI thought to myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.14,0:09:51.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this image of a young couple\Nwho has just fallen in love
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.44,0:09:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the idea of these two people\Nholding onto this image for decades?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.26,0:10:00.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.12,0:10:05.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)