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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,\NI got a call from a woman in Texas,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey Baker,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she'd seen some of my photographs\Nin an art exhibition
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was wondering if she could commission\Nme to take a portrait of her parents.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,\Nand I thought this was some sort of
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it was only later that I found out
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she'd actually taken out a loan\Nto make this happen.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took the picture of her parents,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was actually more excited\Nabout photographing Stacey.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The picture I made that day\Nended up becoming
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of my best known portraits.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the time I made this picture,\NStacey was working as an attorney
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the State of Texas.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not long after, she left her job\Nto study photography in Maine,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while she was there,\Nshe ended up meeting
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Director of Photography\Nat the New York Times Magazine
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and was actually offered a job.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey Baker: In the years since,\NAlec and I have done
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a number of magazine projects together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we've become friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A few months ago, I started talking\Nto Alec about a fascination of mine.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've always been obsessed\Nwith how couples meet.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked Alec how he\Nand his wife Rachel met,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he told me the story\Nof a high school football game
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she was 16 and he was 15,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he asked her out.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He liked her purple hair.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said yes, and that was it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I then asked Alec if he'd be interested\Nin doing a photography project
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exploring this question.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: And I was interested in the question,\Nbut I was actually much more interested
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,particularly since I'd never known\NStacey to have a boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as part of this project,\NI thought it'd be interesting
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if she tried to meet someone.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my idea was to have Stacey here\Ngo speed dating
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: We ended up at what was advertised\Nas the world's largest speed dating event.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had 19 dates
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and each date lasted 3 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Participants were given a list of ice-\Nbreaker questions to get the ball rolling,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,things like, "If you could be any kind\Nof animal, what would you be?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That sort of thing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My first date was Colin.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's from England,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he once married a woman he met\Nafter placing an ad for a capricorn.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec and I saw him\Nat the end of the evening,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said he'd kissed a woman in line\Nat one of the concession stands.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Zack and Chris came\Nto the dating fun together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is Karl.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked Karl, "What's the first thing\Nyou notice about a woman?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Tits."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Matthew is attracted to women\Nwith muscular calves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We talked about running. He does\Ntriathlons, I run half-marathons.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alec actually liked his eyes and asked\Nif I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I don't think he was\Nattracted to me either.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Austin and Mike came together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "You're in an elevator\Nrunning late for a meeting.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you hold it open for them?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said I would not.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cliff said the first thing he notices\Nabout a woman is her teeth,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we complimented each others' teeth.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he says he has to floss more\Nto help prevent gum disease,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I asked him how often he flosses,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, "Every other day."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't really sure that\Nthat was flossing more
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I don't think I said that out loud.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bill is an auditor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we talked the entire\Nthree minutes about auditing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first thing Spencer notices\Nabout a woman is her complexion.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He feels a lot of women\Nwear too much makeup,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they should only wear enough\Nto accentuate the features that they have.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he seemed to think\Nthat that was a good thing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Craig told me he didn't think\NI was willing to be vulnerable.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was also frustrated when I couldn't\Nremember my most embarrassing moment.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't think he liked me at all,\Nbut at the end of the night,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he came back to me and he gave me\Na box of chocolates.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,William was really difficult to talk to.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think he was drunk.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Actor Chris McKenna\Nwas the MC of the event.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He used to be on\N"The Young and the Restless."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't actually go on a date with him.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alex said he saw several women\Ngive their phone numbers to him.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't feel a particular connection with\Nany of the men that I went on dates with,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I didn't feel like they felt\Na particular connection with me either.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-- (Laughter) -- as a photographer
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the quality of vulnerability.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The physical exterior reveals a crack\Nin which you can get a glimpse
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a more fragile interior.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At this date-a-thon event,\NI saw so many examples of that,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as I watched Stacey's dates\Nand talked to her about them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized how different\Nphotograph love is from real love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is real love? How does it work?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In order to work on this question\Nand to figure out how someone goes
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from meeting on a date\Nto having a life together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is the largest\Nretirement community in Las vegas.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our contact there was George,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who runs the community's photography club.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He arranged for us to meet other couples\Nin their makeshift photo studio.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: After 45 years of marriage,\NAnastasia's husband died two years ago,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,s owe asked if she had\Nan old wedding picture.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She met her husband\Nwhen she was a 15-year old waitress
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 30.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd lied about her age.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was the first person she'd dated.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dean had been named Photographer of\Nthe Year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this caught Alec's attention,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as did the fact that he met his wife Judy
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dean admitted that he likes\Nto look at beautiful women,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he's never questioned\Nhis decision to marry Judy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: George met Josephine\Nat a parish dance.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 18, she was 15.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like a lot of the couples we met,\Nthey weren't especially philosophical
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about their early choices.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George said something\Nthat really stuck with me. He said,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"When you get that feeling\Nyou just go with it."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bob and Trudy met on a blind date\Nwhen she was still in high school.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They said they weren't particularly\Nattracted to each other when the first met.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nevertheless, they were\Nmarried soon after.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SB: The story that stayed with me the most
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that of George, the photography club\Npresident, and his wife Mary.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was George and Mary's\Nsecond marriage.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They met at a country/western club\Nin Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was there alone drinking\Nand she was with friends.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they started dating,\Nhe owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she offered to help him\Nget out of debt,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so for the next year, he turned\Nhis paychecks over to Mary,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she got him out of debt.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George was actually an alcoholic\Nwhen they married and Mary knew it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At some point in their marriage,\Nhe says he consumed
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,54 beers in one day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another time, when he was drunk,\Nhe threatened to kill Mary
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and her two kids,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they escaped
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a SWAT Team was called to the house.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Amazingly, Mary took him back,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and eventually things got better.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,George has been involved\Nin Alcoholics Anonymous
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Music)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of the day,\Nafter we left Sun City,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told Alec that I didn't actually think
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the stories of how these couples met\Nwas all that interesting.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was more interesting
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was how they managed to stay together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AS: They all had this beautiful\Nquality of endurance,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that was true of the singles, too.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The world is hard,\Nand the singles were out there
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to connect with other people,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the couples\Nwere holding onto each other
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after all these decades.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My favorite pictures on this trip\Nwere of Joe and Roseanne.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples\Nif they had an old wedding photograph.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In their case, they simultaneously\Npulled out of their wallets
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the exact same photograph.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's more beautiful,\NI thought to myself,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this image of a young couple\Nwho has just fallen in love
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the idea of these two people\Nholding onto this image for decades?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)