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Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.77,0:00:12.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Letting go can make you unstoppable.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.27,0:00:17.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know because I let go\Nof a relationship and reclaimed my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.04,0:00:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know that letting go\Ncan create the best of change
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.48,0:00:23.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for each and everyone of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.92,0:00:25.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me tell you a story.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.34,0:00:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was 41, the death of a relationship\Nshowed me how to truly let go
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.32,0:00:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of what wasn't working.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.57,0:00:39.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, up until that time,\NI didn't really think about the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.77,0:00:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kind of lived my life like a dog -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.92,0:00:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,moment to moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.12,0:00:45.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chased balls, I ate\Nwhatever I could find on the ground.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.91,0:00:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.96,0:00:48.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And life was good.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.68,0:00:52.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a great job, great friends,\Na great apartment,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.11,0:00:56.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a great actual dog, and a great boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.68,0:00:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, sort of.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.38,0:01:04.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, Hector didn't have any skin\Nin the game, and I felt that.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.09,0:01:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He danced around\Nthe very idea of marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.38,0:01:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and after 12 years,\Nwe didn't even live together.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.00,0:01:13.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Still, he gave me hope.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.29,0:01:16.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, sometimes.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.86,0:01:21.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More like living in a situation\Nthat had no hope just felt normal.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.35,0:01:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't get me wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.64,0:01:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stayed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.73,0:01:29.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because Hector was a good looking, smart,\Nreliable, and sensitive guy who cared,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.06,0:01:33.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while our relationship\Nwasn't perfect, it worked in theory.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.35,0:01:38.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Until a wake-up call from a friend\Nchanged everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.56,0:01:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my realtor friend called\Nto tell me about a condo
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.14,0:01:44.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,coming up for sale\Nin my Chicago neighborhood.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.79,0:01:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She knew that I was looking\Nfor Hector to commit and thought,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.38,0:01:52.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,''Well, maybe this could inspire\Na little forward motion.''
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.42,0:01:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Still, my first inclination was to say,\N"We're not ready. Not yet."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.38,0:02:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Haha, "Not yet."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.80,0:02:04.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was Hector's favorite catchphrase.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.50,0:02:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say, ''I want to get married.''
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.67,0:02:09.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He'd say, ''Not yet.''
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.20,0:02:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd say, ''Let's live together.''
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.82,0:02:13.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Not yet."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.12,0:02:15.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,''Not yet'' was a hair\NI couldn't get out of my eye
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.13,0:02:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a bad song\NI couldn't get out of my head.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.40,0:02:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you could imagine my surprise\Nwhen he said "Sure''
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.100,0:02:25.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to meeting me at the condo at noon.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.97,0:02:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I arrived early and eager.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.01,0:02:29.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But Hector?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.03,0:02:31.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Haha, well that was another story.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.93,0:02:33.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,12:15 came.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.65,0:02:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,12:30.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.04,0:02:36.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,12:45.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.60,0:02:38.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,1:00 pm.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.11,0:02:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No Hector.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.58,0:02:41.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eventually, he called,\Nsomething had come up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.72,0:02:47.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we agreed to reconvene at three,\Nbut Hector was a no-show again.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.74,0:02:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was in that moment that I decided,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.75,0:02:58.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after 12 years, it was time to let go.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.01,0:03:05.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, I had to let go of Hector\Nand of the idea of marrying him or anybody
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.17,0:03:08.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because at 41, my options were scary.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.03,0:03:11.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could either stay with a man\Nwho couldn't commit,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.71,0:03:14.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but was great on\Nall the holidays and birthdays,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.36,0:03:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I could break up with him and be alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.55,0:03:23.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not that letting go of a good man\NI truly loved was easy.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.52,0:03:28.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, no. I had to survive\Nthe consequences of my epiphany,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.31,0:03:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's when the pain stage kicked in.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.90,0:03:34.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You and Hector\Nwon't be together forever.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.03,0:03:35.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You won't be his person.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.40,0:03:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, he'll probably\Nmeet somebody else fast,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.32,0:03:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,marry her, and she'll be his person.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.93,0:03:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then you're going to have to live\Nwith the fact that you made a mistake."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.30,0:03:51.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ugly cried, ate a lot of pizza,\Nlistened to a lot of Joni Mitchell.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.85,0:03:52.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.90,0:03:56.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, when I couldn't rub\Nmy eyes anymore without hitting bone
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.90,0:03:59.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or imagine Hector in a wedding photo\Nwith another woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.38,0:04:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,probably in a size-6 dress,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.92,0:04:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I brushed myself off.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.22,0:04:10.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, I let go of the fear\Nthat I would grow old and die alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.43,0:04:14.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my friends would use me\Nas a cautionary tale,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.90,0:04:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was too late for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.62,0:04:19.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, no. In that moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.64,0:04:23.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to finally admit\Nwhat I really wanted,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.15,0:04:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was more.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.50,0:04:28.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, Hector not showing up,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.30,0:04:29.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was a gift,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.57,0:04:32.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it gave me freedom\Nbecause let's face it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.52,0:04:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd been chasing that ball for 12 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.47,0:04:40.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, no. It was time to move on,\Neven if I risked rejection.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.61,0:04:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I made a plan,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.22,0:04:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one that got clearer with every step.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.11,0:04:52.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, Hector had an excuse\Nfor his no-show.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.61,0:04:54.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But by then, it didn't matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.53,0:04:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told him it was over.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.71,0:04:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I quit my job, I hugged my friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.68,0:05:02.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sold my beautiful condo\Nin the same neighborhood
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.82,0:05:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that delivered me\Nthat life-changing epiphany.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.60,0:05:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I let go of everything to start a whole\Nnew life in New Hope, Pennsylvania.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.67,0:05:17.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To which he said,\N''Don't go, we'll get married.''
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.60,0:05:22.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To which I said, ''You had twelve years.''
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.57,0:05:25.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To which he said, ''I'll come visit.''
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.94,0:05:30.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To which I said, ''Not yet.''
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.60,0:05:32.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.78,0:05:34.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Was it hard?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.82,0:05:36.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ha ha, you bet.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.11,0:05:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Was it worth it?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.93,0:05:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Within a year of leaving,\NI met my husband Dan online.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.41,0:05:46.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.92,0:05:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew when he showed up\Nfor our first date,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.94,0:05:52.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the most wrinkled shirt\NI have ever seen,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.46,0:05:53.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.49,0:05:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a rain hat to keep me dry\Nwalking from the restaurant to the car,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.90,0:05:59.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this was my guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.84,0:06:00.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.08,0:06:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, umbrellas were for people\Nwho wanted distance.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.38,0:06:06.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Too heavy a wind, you know,\Nturned them inside out,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.00,0:06:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even the best of them\Nonly lasted so long.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.58,0:06:11.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a rain hat,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.13,0:06:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, the kind with a string,\Nand you tie it under your chin,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.22,0:06:16.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.61,0:06:18.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, that's personal.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.68,0:06:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after four dates, it turned to love.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.31,0:06:27.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Finally, I understood\Nwhy I had to wait so long.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.23,0:06:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dan was handsome and wise\Nand soulful and kind,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.30,0:06:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he made me feel\Nlike I could do and be anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.94,0:06:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We could.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.29,0:06:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we got married a year later.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.13,0:06:42.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.63,0:06:47.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I turned 50, Hector died of cancer.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.86,0:06:54.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as you can imagine,\NI grieved for a very long time.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.38,0:06:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But his death reaffirmed for me
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.35,0:07:00.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the promise I made\Nto myself when I was 41:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.53,0:07:04.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I would never\Ntake time for granted again.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.84,0:07:10.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, I would use it\Nto let go, to create space
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.57,0:07:14.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the things I really wanted\Nand for what mattered most.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.06,0:07:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here are five ways\Nto let go I know work
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.38,0:07:21.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I still use them every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.45,0:07:23.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.55,0:07:26.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of taking things personally.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.85,0:07:31.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spent a lot of time wondering why Hector\Ndidn't love me enough to marry me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.62,0:07:36.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until I realized that his inability\Nto commit had less to do with me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.24,0:07:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and more to do\Nwith his duty to his family.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.59,0:07:42.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I'm not saying that was not\Na hard pill to swallow,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.24,0:07:43.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there was a lot of peace
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.82,0:07:47.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in knowing that it was his issue\Nand not some defect in me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.77,0:07:53.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If people aren't giving you what you want,\Nor if they're just behaving badly,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.18,0:07:56.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most times, that's their problem,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.62,0:07:58.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not yours.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.55,0:07:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.34,0:08:03.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of what other people think.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.69,0:08:07.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So after my husband and I\Ndated for a couple of months,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.30,0:08:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took him home to meet my parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.32,0:08:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.83,0:08:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,''He's very good-looking,''\Nmy mother said.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.67,0:08:17.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,''You know, Ted Bundy\Nis very good looking.''
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.23,0:08:18.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.17,0:08:24.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I could've let this\Ninfluence my actions,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.38,0:08:25.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.49,0:08:27.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,could have let my imagination run wild\N
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.52,0:08:30.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with thoughts of my new beau\Nstabbing me while I slept.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.74,0:08:31.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.82,0:08:34.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead, I just\Nchalked it up to my mother.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.02,0:08:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a rule in business that states:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.64,0:08:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever you are putting\Nsomething out there,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.37,0:08:43.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,10% of people will hate it,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.56,0:08:46.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,80% will be indifferent,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.47,0:08:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 10% will be your raving fans.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.81,0:08:51.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And raving fans are awesome,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.17,0:08:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if somebody's not a raving fan,\Nlet that be okay too.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.11,0:08:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Three.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.62,0:09:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of trying\Nto be something you're not.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.32,0:09:08.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I have this crazy big personality\Nthat I actually call "the Big."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.34,0:09:11.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people really like the Big.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.38,0:09:12.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.50,0:09:15.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some people are fascinated by it,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.38,0:09:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kind of the way they are\Nfascinated by jugglers.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.51,0:09:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.41,0:09:25.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And others just run away.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.91,0:09:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it’s who I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.37,0:09:31.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have tried to turn down\Nthe current on the Big,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.43,0:09:33.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but hard as I try, there it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.27,0:09:37.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are some things\Nwe just can't change about ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.59,0:09:39.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's a good thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.21,0:09:41.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Four.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.08,0:09:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of the need to be perfect.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.41,0:09:50.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many years ago, I wrote\Na column for Shape Magazine,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.68,0:09:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got a lot of mail from readers,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.08,0:09:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including a very sad letter\Nfrom this teenage girl
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.38,0:09:59.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,asking for my advice\Non how to improve herself
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.90,0:10:03.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after her absolutely horrid boyfriend\Nhad her strip down
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.89,0:10:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he could critique her body.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.35,0:10:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a true story.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.28,0:10:10.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, ''Dump him immediately,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.23,0:10:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and never let anybody\Nmake you feel bad about yourself again."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.71,0:10:17.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we all know that feeling\Nthe need for perfection
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.20,0:10:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is not just about our weight.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.50,0:10:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also about keeping the house clean\Nand the dogs groomed
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.91,0:10:25.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the kids healthy\Nand the bosses happy
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.59,0:10:27.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all the balls in the air.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.60,0:10:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's even about keeping our youth intact.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.61,0:10:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet, who wants to be friends\Nwith someone who's perfect?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.57,0:10:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.26,0:10:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And lastly, five -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.34,0:10:43.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my favorite!
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.67,0:10:48.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of ''Not yet.''
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.97,0:10:52.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, when I left Chicago,\Nmy life was pretty good,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.90,0:10:55.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it just wasn't good enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.64,0:10:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there is something you want to do,\Nmake a plan and act, but don't wait.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.36,0:11:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I still grieve for Hector, you know,\Nit just comes in waves now.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.73,0:11:08.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it’s the phone call I can't make
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.28,0:11:12.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that reminds me to make every day count.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.100,0:11:15.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I encourage you all to do the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.62,0:11:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whatever that is, I say,\N''Let go for it.''
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.38,0:11:20.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.83,0:11:23.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)