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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.38,0:00:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Half Bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.63,0:00:26.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Full Bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.31,0:00:35.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(tearfully, she asks)\NDear Thay, dear Sangha
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.59,0:00:39.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a friend
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.90,0:00:44.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is now in deep pain
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.49,0:00:49.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is married to a man
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.30,0:00:53.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has a manic-depressive,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.48,0:00:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a kind of mood disorder.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.92,0:01:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This man has betrayed her
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.76,0:01:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,several times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.50,0:01:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He not only slept with women
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.26,0:01:11.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he also had a child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.59,0:01:13.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which ended up
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.41,0:01:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in abortion.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.24,0:01:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is now in despair.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.44,0:01:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This man refuses to take
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.73,0:01:26.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,any medication
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.43,0:01:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to treat his problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.28,0:01:34.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He now doesn't know what to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.12,0:01:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sorry, SHE doesn't know what to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.10,0:01:41.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To end the relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.20,0:01:48.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and contact another person \Nto help heal this man
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.70,0:01:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to stay in the relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.12,0:01:56.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hoping that nothing is permanent;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.90,0:01:59.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this may come to an end.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.65,0:02:05.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or to stay with the relationship \Nand accept this man
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.70,0:02:10.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as he is?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.37,0:02:15.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And from this, \NI do not know what to say to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.52,0:02:19.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it: \Nwhen there is marriage, there is betrayal;
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.86,0:02:25.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like when there is left, there is right.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.26,0:02:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Thay responds)\NWhere there is betrayal,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.18,0:02:40.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is faithfulness.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.64,0:02:44.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't know,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.62,0:02:47.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we did not know,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.16,0:02:51.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we still don't know \Nhow to water the seed of faithfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.76,0:02:54.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in that person.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.11,0:02:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone of us has the seed of betrayal
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.04,0:03:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the seed of faithfulness.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.24,0:03:06.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are always there as a couple.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.35,0:03:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem is watering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.88,0:03:12.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are mindful,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.11,0:03:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you are loving,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.43,0:03:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can water
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.75,0:03:16.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the seed of faithfulness in him or in her
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.07,0:03:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everyday,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.62,0:03:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that seed could become very strong
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.02,0:03:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the other seed \Nnever has the chance to manifest.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.52,0:03:29.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we are, somehow, responsible
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.31,0:03:31.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to some degree
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.25,0:03:32.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.01,0:03:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we should not blame everything
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.42,0:03:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.20,0:03:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the first thing \Nyou should see.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.15,0:03:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are... if you know the practice
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.56,0:03:48.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you stay fresh,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.54,0:03:51.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and loving and compassionate
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.76,0:03:55.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have more chance to \Npersuade him or her to
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.49,0:03:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to follow our way
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.52,0:04:01.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because our life is a teaching.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.46,0:04:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The way you speak,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.83,0:04:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way you look, \Nthe way you act is full of compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.83,0:04:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and loving kindness.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.44,0:04:13.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are so pleasant.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.82,0:04:17.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when someone is
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.48,0:04:19.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate and pleasant
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.17,0:04:20.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people like to come and sit
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.63,0:04:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,close to her.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.02,0:04:25.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is natural.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.24,0:04:29.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like a Linden tree;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.79,0:04:31.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people like to come and sit
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.07,0:04:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the foot of the Linden tree,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.18,0:04:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the Linden tree
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.30,0:04:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has the kind of energy
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.63,0:04:39.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of peace and relaxation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.51,0:04:43.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if we know the practice
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.89,0:04:47.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if we can stay fresh,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.17,0:04:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate, loving, patient,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.42,0:04:53.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can help transform,\Nthe other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.87,0:04:57.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the other person represents
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.50,0:04:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the suffering of the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.01,0:05:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you help him, you help the whole world.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.67,0:05:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you are not solid enough, \Nfresh enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.13,0:05:10.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassionate enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.93,0:05:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you should meet a Sangha:
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.41,0:05:16.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community of practice
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.23,0:05:18.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,behind you and backing you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.04,0:05:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.98,0:05:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have a resource.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.74,0:05:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe in the beginning \Nyou have enough peace,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.25,0:05:27.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,enough patience,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.51,0:05:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,enough compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.85,0:05:37.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but because you don't know how to
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.17,0:05:43.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,preserve and nourish these qualities,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.71,0:05:45.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and because this situation
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.23,0:05:46.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is so difficult for you,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.48,0:05:49.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that is why you run out
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.20,0:05:52.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of these resources.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.52,0:05:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you cannot continue \Nto help him or her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.92,0:05:59.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that is why a good practitioner
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.76,0:06:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always has a Sangha behind her.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.20,0:06:07.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she can draw\Na tremendous source
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.35,0:06:09.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mindfulness, compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.27,0:06:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,forgiveness,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.90,0:06:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to be able to continue\Nhelping the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.48,0:06:19.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially helping\Nthe other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.63,0:06:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you look and see,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.97,0:06:25.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see that the other person suffers,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.99,0:06:31.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and does not know the way\Nout of suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.100,0:06:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you who know the way out,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.46,0:06:43.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should be able to show him.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.02,0:06:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If he has not followed you
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.29,0:06:48.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(followed your advice)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.24,0:06:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[it is] because your way of telling him
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.44,0:06:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is not compassionate enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.11,0:06:56.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,skillful enough, fresh enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.28,0:06:58.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should be a true Bodhisattva,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.53,0:07:04.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full of compassion,\Nloving-kindness and freshness.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.81,0:07:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And everyone needs a Bodhisattva
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.76,0:07:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.11,0:07:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the practice of mindfulness is to become
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.02,0:07:17.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a person like that: a Bodhisattva,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.29,0:07:19.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as fresh as Mother Earth.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.100,0:07:22.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have that example.\NMother Earth,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.56,0:07:26.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always forgiving.\NMother Earth
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.46,0:07:28.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is always patient.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.85,0:07:30.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every time you come back to her,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.53,0:07:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get the nourishment,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.77,0:07:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nourishment and healing that you need.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.80,0:07:38.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you are a daughter of Mother Earth.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.11,0:07:39.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You should learn \N
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.77,0:07:45.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from Mother Earth how to stay \Nfresh, forgiving, compassionate.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.09,0:07:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then you will not lose hope,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.86,0:07:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially when you have a Sangha,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.82,0:07:54.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community of practice, behind you
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.37,0:07:56.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,supporting you and you can draw
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.98,0:08:01.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of resources from that community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.47,0:08:05.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So continue to practice in order to
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.35,0:08:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nourish your compassion, your freshness,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.77,0:08:17.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you will suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.14,0:08:19.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because with compassion in our heart
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.12,0:08:24.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we suffer very little.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.78,0:08:31.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because compassion has the power to heal,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.90,0:08:34.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with compassion we suffer less
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.11,0:08:39.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are strong enough \Nto help him or help her.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.37,0:08:41.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And helping him means to help
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.32,0:08:43.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yourself first.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.52,0:08:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the teaching of the Buddha\Nis very clear:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.77,0:08:49.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you cannot love yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.31,0:08:51.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot love someone else
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.06,0:08:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help him or her suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.40,0:08:56.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the answer is clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.59,0:08:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take care of yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.62,0:09:00.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nourish compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.70,0:09:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,patience, freshness in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.51,0:09:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take refuge in the Sangha
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.02,0:09:09.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to keep being nourished.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.80,0:09:12.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then you can help him \Nand help the world.