[FBR] Okay. This is another video on face and body reading.
Although I personally have no interest in the royal family,
or the overall usefulness of having one.
Here, I want to talk about
Prince Harry and Meghan Markle,
about the recent engagement,
and the interview they gave,
with BBC.
Let's get started.
[Mishal Husain, BBC] Your Royal Highness,
and Meghan Markle,
congratulations to you both.
[MM] Thank you.
[BBC] Can we start with the proposal,
and the actual moment of your engagement?
[FBR] I don't know the BBC interviewer,
but she is probably not the best person
to conduct this, um,
sort of 'happy couple' interview.
She has this asymmetric expression on her face,
which indicates superiority.
She might be very cynical about the whole thing.
She might not think that it will last,
or she might be cynical about love, in general.
She has also these angular eyebrows,
which means that
she is very mentally in control,
she wants to be right.
Also, on one side, the left side,
you can see the white of her eye,
underneath her pupil.
That indicates, um, mental instability,
or potentially, even, depression.
There is something
not particularly positive, about her.
And then, personally,
I don't like the purple. [Scoffs]
It has nothing to do with the interview,
but, um, purple is a royal color.
I personally don't like it,
because it is a mixture
of a warm color, red; and a cold color, blue.
In Christian religion, it has to do
with the birth and death of Christ.
It's a little bit, um, in between life and death color.
It's not my favorite color.
Makes her look very cold, like the Ice Queen.
Okay.
Let's go back to the... happy couple.
[BBC] When did it happen? How did it happen?
[PH] Uh...it happened, uh, a few weeks ago.
Um, earlier this month... year...at our cottage.
[FBR] Cottage? Understatement. I think it is quite big.
[PH] A standard, typical night for us.
[MM] A cozy night. It was...
what were we doing?
Just roasting...chicken, and having...
[PH] Roasting chicken. Trying to roast chicken.
[MM] Trying. [Laughs] Trying to roast a chicken.
And it was just an amazing surprise.
It was so sweet, and... [Inhales]
[FBR] A lot of eye contact. A lot of touching.
A lot of mirroring.
Also, she has his hand on her side.
Grasping it with two hands.
She doesn't want to let go of him.
[MM] A natural, and very romantic.
He got on one knee. [Laughs]
[PH] Of course.
[BBC] Was it an instant yes, from you?
[MM] Yes!!
As a matter of fact,
I could barely let you finishing proposing.
[PH] Uh...
[MM] "Can I say yes, now?"
[PH] She didn't even let me finish.
[MM laughs]
[PH] "Can I say yes, can I say yes?"
[FBR] They finish each other's sentences.
That's also very typical for people in love.
[PH] So then, there was hugs, and I had the ring in my --
[FBR] There's a lot of illustrators.
He uses the arm to illustrate the act.
He is overall in the interview using a lot of illustrators.
Which is generally a good sign.
There is a lot of congruency
between the body language, and what he is saying.
[PH] I was like, "Can I give you the ring?"
She was like, "Oh yes! The ring!"
So, no, it was a really nice moment.
It was just the two of us.
And, um, I think I managed to catch --
[FBR] Again, eye contact.
This is certainly the first stage of love.
There is a lot of smiling,
gazing into each other's eyes.
Also, the attraction is caused
by a neurotransmitter, dopamine.
And, it gets people excited.
It's like a drug.
Suppression of serotonin,
which can even lead to obsessive behavior.
So, there is no reasoning at this moment.
They are just in love.
This is the first stage of love.
Later stages would be:
Becoming a couple.
That's what they are starting to do, now.
Everything is very fast.
And, then, there is the stage of
disillusionment.
This is the stage when
the couple often breaks apart.
And, the relationship ends.
And this is the key:
to get beyond this stage.
The following stage would be:
to create a real, lasting love.
Often, years later,
and it often is accompanied by marriage.
Potentially, having kids.
And this is based off,
not a physical attraction,
necessarily, but of respect.
And, um, to make this work,
at this stage, it is ideal
if the two people have similar backgrounds.
Because, when it's about upbringing of a child,
the couple will look at their own parents,
and their own background,
because it's all they know,
and if they are compatible,
it makes it much easier.
Of course, they have
very different backgrounds,
which might lead to difficulties, later.
Particularly, it's so unequal.
It's going to be
all about the royal family.
And very little about her background.
This unequal background
will make it very hard, later,
to succeed in a relationship.
[Mishal Husain, BBC] Quite a whirlwind.
Is that how it felt to you?
[Prince Harry sniffs.]
[FBR] The whirlwind? Both are thinking.
[MM] I don't think --
[FBR] He is smiling.
He thinks, certainly,
it has been like a whirlwind.
And that's also
what he likes about the whole thing.
About being with someone
very unconventional.
From an American background.
Being very different from the stiff royal family.
He is really excited.
[MM] I don't think that I would call it a whirlwind.
[FBR] And she's...
She is the responsible one.
She is saying it hasn't been like a whirlwind.
But, you know --
here, they don't agree.
[MM] And, uh,
in terms of our relationship,
obviously, there have been layers,
[PH sniffs.]
[FBR] Now, he doesn't like that.
He sniffs.
He has a little bit of contempt,
with this asymmetric facial expression.
This is, of course,
not what he likes about the relationship.
He likes the spontaneous, the unconventional.
And now she is, um,
explaining how it hasn't been whirlwind.
[MM] Um, after we had a good five, six --
[FBR] So he has --
sometimes when she speaks,
and she is sort of the responsible one,
he is blinking, and he has this
sort of serious expression on his face.
So this is, of course,
not what he really likes about her, and the relationship.
[MM] five or six months
with just privacy, which was amazing.
[Inhales] Um...
But, no. I think we were really
able to have so much time [gulps]
just to connect --
[FBR] So here, sometimes, when she looks at him,
and she is explaining something,
she looks very worried.
She has these wrinkles on her forehead.
So, I don't know what this is.
It might be that she is sort of worried
at this stage in the relationship,
that she is worried she might lose him.
She is also holding onto his hand, here,
with her two hands.
[MM] And we never went longer than two weeks,
without seeing each other,
even though we were obviously
doing a long-distance relationship.
So...
[FBR] Here, he smiles, a little bit.
[MM] It's, um...we made it work.
[BBC] How did you first meet?
[PH] Uhhhh...
Yes, we first met --
[FBR] Seem to have been good.
[PH] We were introduced by a mutual friend.
Who, um, we will --
[MM] We should protect her privacy.
[FBR] She is the responsible one.
She wants to protect her privacy, of course.
[PH, MM] Protect our privacy, yeah. Little too much of that.
[PH] And, um, but....
It was, it was literally... it was through her.
And, then, we met
once, twice, back to back, two dates in London.
Last...July?
[MM] Yes.
[FBR] Lot of back and forth. Helping each other out.
Let's move a little later.
[MM] And then, I'm, you know --
because I'm from The States, you don't grow up
with the same understanding of the royal family.
[FBR] When she says "royal family," he moves away.
Seems to be displeased with the idea of the royal family.
[PH sniffs.]
[FBR] And he makes this sniffing sound, again.
This seems to be an indicator of, potentially, elements of contempt.
Something unpleasant. He did this before.
[PH] So, a week, and then going back,
and then, starting to film the next day,
four A. M. wake up call, straight into set.
[MM] Right off the plane, and straight --
[FBR] So she is basically mirroring, now.
She is doing the same.
She is repeating what he said,
and using similar, mirrored language.
[MM] -- to set, just coming back, and doing it again.
[PH] I'm just trying to --
stay as close as possible.
[MM] There is a misconception,
that because I have worked
in the entertainment industry,
that this would be something that I am familiar with.
But, even though I've been on my show --
[FBR] He makes this, uh, little mouth shrug.
He doesn't seem to like too much
when she talks about her background,
and her independent work, and so on.
And, she was married before.
So, it's probably not the most pleasant thing to think about.
[MM] -- for, I guess, about six years, at that point.
And, working before that,
I've never been part of tabloid culture.
I've never been in pop culture to that degree, and --
[FBR] See, he doesn't like that,
when she talks about her background.
[MM] And lived... a relatively quiet life.
[FBR] Blinking a lot.
[MM] I didn't focus so much on my job, and, um...
[FBR] That's very American,
to talk about a job.
He later talks a lot about 'team.'
He uses 'team' language.
Tackling, and so on.
And she often talks about herself,
and her job, and so on.
Which is also a difference in cultures.
It's very American.
[MM] Nurturing our relationship.
[PH] On us.
[MM] On us, yeah.
[FBR] When they talk about 'us,' you know,
they like to live in the moment.
But, he doesn't want to think about her past.
He likes thinking about them, as a couple.
[MM] Of course it's disheartening.
You know, it's -- it's, ummm....
It's a shame, that that is the climate,
in this world,
to focus on that, that would be discriminatory
in a sense. But, I mean --
[FBR] He doesn't look pleased, again.
But, maybe that is about the racial discrimination.
[MM] You know, at the end of the day
I am really just proud of who I am,
and where I come from, and
[FBR] See, he makes this little mouth shrug, again.
Somehow, he doesn't like too much
when she talks about her, her background.
This might also mean
that he is worried that his dad does not approve of her,
that she is not interviewing
like a royal bride.
[MM] I think it makes it really easy
to just enjoy being together, and
[PH] Hmm.
[FBR] Yeah. Together. That's what both like.
There is no doubt, they are in love.
Question is, does it last.
[BBC] Now that it is all official,
Prince Harry, do you have that sense,
that the combination of the two of you,
and your different backgrounds,
that you, together, represent something new?
[FBR] Different backgrounds. He is pressing his lips together.
There is something he is hiding.
Something he is afraid of saying, potentially.
[BBC] Something new, for the royal family?
[PH] Um, I don't think it is something new.
[FBR] So, she smiled. She likes it,
that there is something new to the royal family.
And now she is looking down, when he says it is nothing new.
[PH] For me, it's uh....
an added member of the family.
It's uh, it's a -- another team player,
part of the bigger team.
[FBR] He uses a lot of this 'team' language.
Maybe he likes rugby, or cricket, or something.
[PH] All of us, we...
[FBR] I don't know anything about him.
[PH] Everything, everything...
all the stars were aligned.
Everything was just perfect.
It was this beautiful woman,
just,m sort of literally tripped and fell into my life.
[MM laughs]
I fell into her life.
[PH] And the fact that --
[FBR] Very nice animation.
[PH] She will be unbelievably good at the job part of it, as well.
[BBC] Children?
[FBR] Interesting -- again a pause.
Doesn't look like they talked about it.
Otherwise, they might have looked at each other.
So, I don't think they planned too much ahead.
[PH] Not currently, no. [MM laughs]
[FBR] He is very humorous.
I mean, you have to give it to him.
He is very humorous and funny.
A little quirky, and, um, goofy,
but you know, he is quite likeable.
She is also good character.
Very outgoing, very friendly.
Very refreshing.
[BBC] You've been at home a lot.
[PH, MM] Yes.
[PH] We've, uh -- well, we had to
sort of reverse the whole process.
And, cozy nights in, in front of the television.
Cooking dinner, with, uh,
just the two of us, by ourselves.
In our little cottage.
Um, rather than going out for dinner,
and being seen in public.
To be with each other,
without other people looking,
trying to take photos on their phones,
[FBR] She looked away.
She might have liked it better,
to have done more in public.
[MM] And we were able to really get to know each other.
[FBR] So she is repeating, essentially, what he said.
[PH] He looks slightly annoyed, with the eye blinking.
[MM] Also to have friends over --
[FBR] Eye blinking.
Now she talks about friends, and family.
He looked away.
[MM] Any of those were, you know --
[BBC] Have you met the Queen?
[MM] I have, yes.
[PH] A couple times.
[BBC] What was she like?
[FBR] So now. What was interesting,
when she asked "What was she like,"
he looked at her,
to make her answer the question very quickly.
The Queen, his grandmother, certainly very important to him.
And it's not very unusual.
Grandkids are often very close to their grandparents.
These are often easier relationships
than with the parents directly.
[MM] It's incredible.
I think, you know, A, to be able to meet her,
through his lens,
not just with his honor, respect for her
as the Monarch, but
the love that he has for her, as his grandmother.
[BBC] What was it like,
introducing Meghan to your father and brother?
[PH] Ummm...
[FBR] Oh!
Big pause, here, and closing the eyes.
[PH] Uh...
[FBR] Oh, no.
[PH] What was it like?
It was...exciting.
[FBR] So now, he is going back
to the sort of standard P. R. routine.
"Exciting, everything fine."
This certainly shows that
he has not a good relationship
with his father and his brother, and his family, even.
[PH] You know, I've been --
[FBR] He is scratching.
He is dissipating some anxiety.
[PH] A period of time when I literally didn't tell anybody at all.
[FBR] He misspoke, even now.
So there is certainly an issue here.
If you want to have a lasting relationship with a woman,
you have to be on good terms with your dad.
You have to become a man
to have a proper relationship.
Otherwise, you are just a player.
And so this will be certainly an issue, in the future.
[PH] William was longing to meet her.
[FBR] He is certainly his mama's boy, here.
If she is daddy's girl, the issue is twice as big.
[PH] As has William as well. Fantastic support.
And then, my father --
[FBR] Shaking his head, a little bit,
when he talks about such fantastic support.
[PH] Um, the family together --
[FBR] He pulls the mouth back,
means it's a little unpleasant thing
to talk about.
He is slightly embarrassed.
[PH] Solid support.
[FBR] Shaking his head. Solid support. Apparently not.
[PH] And my grandparents, as well,
have been wonderful throughout this whole process.
And they've known for quite some time.
[FBR] So now, he's much more still,
when he talks about the grandparents.
So, he has certainly a good relationship
to the grandparents.