there is a bug
I can not realy on clicking on the terminal to open a link in a browser
because there is currently a bug in konsole with a k
that opens link in random browsers
and i learned that i have a browser installed that i didnt know existed
its called eric6
and if you have the eric python graphical development environment installed
it contains a browser and it maps it to mine
and if you have a terminal that for some reason open browsers at random
you get links to open in that
so ill copy and paste the urls
it will be slighly slower
i think i have 5 minutes still to go
time passes quickly when you have fun
audience: install terminator!
enrico: no
if look at my blog, there is a list of my requirements for terminal emulators
and the reason they all suck
all the bits that do not work
now terminator is in that list, it has things that dont work for me
but we have the upstream for lxterminal at the conference
that has seen the list and went like
that i implemented 2 days ago
that is in my todo list now
that, let me have a look at the code, yes i can do it
im working on it
and so thank you
3 minutes i believe
2
well, in the meantime, i will read something
that i guess everyone should had read before entering
which is, i will ramble freely about debian
and everything else i care about
and you are going to have the misfortune
of figuring out what it is that i also care about
i will cover topics including
but specially, not limited to,
anarchism, relationships, sex, violence
society, stereotypes and expectations
and i will always be talking about debian
really
i expect that this talks will be both
unsuitable and insightful for pretty much
any kind of audience that i can think of
and first 3 minutes of it are about making sure
you understand what will be the remaining 27
and have a chance to leave
after 3 minutes if you leave
you are kinda seen by everyone or something
but some shy people might
i dont know
no, at any point in the talk
if anybody want to safe word out
and ill explain what the safe word is
but if anybody want out and
lalala i dont want to hear anymore
raise your hand, i will stop
black the screen
?? my ?? file will show up in my clumsy attempt
to black the screen, and waiting for you to leave
the room before resuming, so
??
quotations that are famous anarchists have said
hundreds of years ago about debian
like this could be about mailing list discussions
for example
i guess i can begin
chapter one: disclaimers
sorry, I was supposed to be introduced
I was born...
is it on? okay
it gives me great pleasure to introduce a man that
that pushed me into the maintainers process about
seven years ago
Enrico Zini
so, chapter one: disclaimers
i will let people know my better introducer
Aida: anyhow if you are still a little dark
in the end, just ask a young person or google
i mean, dont take your computer for a ??
i mean ?? afterwards
Enrico: that songs talks about dogging
which is an interesting topic to kind of give
an idea about the rest of the thing
its good to give you an idea about the level
of the rest of the discussion
so you know what is going to happen
dogging redirect to public sex
its one of the famous
anyone safewording outs?
you okay?
its a british thing apparently
a british are famous for steam engines
and dogging and a bunch of other things
hot and cold water, ?? but dogging in this case
and dogging like debian has
a code of conduct
its good that we found a liquor tap
which people who are doing things seriously
there is more if you goggle
but yeah, its always sex in public spaces
its usually done with cars
in cars, im not sure someone might
but i personally wouldnt recommend it
its not my thing
theres a code that if you would like to be seen
while you do it, you leave the light on
inside the car
if you want to be followed into another's place
you flash your lights
i think there was a thing about raising the windows
but im not sure about that
theres a wonderful documental from BBC
where you can find
ask the british
so this set
Aida: theres a sense of dispossition
leave now
right, we can begin
about the debian social contract
and Emma Goldman said once that
Every daring attempt to make a great change
in existing conditions, every lofty vision of
new possibilities for the human race
has been labeled Utopian
we do
im going to talk about many topics
that we all know have so much in common
Anarchism, poliamory, BSDM and free software
and after all, they are about people
consensually, doing things together, right?
people consensually doing things together
so its different communities, with some overlaps
they are different communities of people
consensually doing things together and
there a lot to talk, theres a lot to learn
from each other, because for a reason
or another all this communities are focus on
different aspects of aspects of consensually
doing things together
anarchism might focus more on the political side
BDSM might focus more on the consensual side
and on the things that you do, free software
and poliamory have a lot of focus on the political
the doing things, the consensual and ?? everything else
chapter 2: BDSM
Lysander Spooner talking about proprietary cloud
service providers said that
A person is no less a slave because they are allowed
to choose a new master once in a term of years
so, BDSM
we freesoftware people think that we are clever
because we have recursive acronyms
BDSM stands for
Bondage disco is an interesting concept
we could expanded later im sure it can go somewhere
Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission
who was in the debian contributors this afternoon
has worked on code that submits debian developers
sorry, submit debian contributors to the site
but its not the same thing
so its a chained acronym
BD, DS, SM (Bondage Discipline, Dominance Submission, Sado Masochism)
so thats the first thing we have in common
clever acronyms
so its about some of those things
i think BDSM is really interesting not just because
of whips but also for having develop over the years
a lot of awareness about power relationships
its in the acronym, dominance-submission-discipline
with that in mind i have a BDSM freesoftware definition
i refuse to be bound by software
i cannot negotiate with
and how i negotiate with software
well, if i have the source code i can come to terms
with it and nogiating my interaction and if i dont
the source code or i dont have the ability to change it
then im stuck, right?
so i think thats a pretty good definition of freesoftware
im very proud of that
so thats another way to coceptualize freesoftware that
i think that can be understood really well by people
who may struggle with the four freedoms or the 10 points
of the ??
so thats one thing that could be carried across
theres another acronym that i would like to submit
to your consideration which is this
Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is Okay (YKINMKBYKIOK)
which i said but i should expand it for those that dont
find it obvious
kink is something people do
and something that some other people might not want to do
in the BSDM community is costumary to say
your kink is not my kink but your kink is okay
the idea is to be non judgamental but at the same time
to pull oneself out from somebody that one doesnt want to do
in my opinion, this is the final solution
for the VI vs EMACS problem
im really eager to carry this into the freesoftware
community, it would solve a lot of things
other interesting things about BDSM is awareness about
confort zones i know when im doing something im confortable with
i know my limits i know the limits i have i do not want to push
i learned to communicate all this
otherwise dissaster happens
there are safewords to prevent dissater to happen
safeword means a word that means stop everything right now
no matter what
there is even level of safe words
common standard traffic lights green, yellow, red
green means yeah, bring it on
yellow means this is getting intense, but do go on
red means stop right now or i will call the police
once i manage to manage to wiggle free of this
incidentally safe words are something we dont have in debian
and i would be interested to have
there are things that i see in mailing lists that i would like
to safeword out
there is the clause the mail browser option yes
it works pretty well, but then some people might take decisions
and then... well, its a concept i think should be explored
theres this nice gift that tell me that i can zoom, yes
"No means no", unless there has been a long discussion first,
and a safeword is in place, in which case "Fuzzy purple unicorn" means "no"
thats the idea of safewords and "no means no" is an important
concept in most of the BSDM community
theres the some fringes in there but i think is unimportant
theres an interesting thing coming from the BDSM comunity
is the awereness that really, when no means no
is easier to say yes
if im around a person that says, would you like to have tea
and i say mmm nooo?
and i go like: but do have tea, tea is good
and im like no
and it goes: but its really good tea
then i start feeling really unconfortable and chances are
i dont want to drink anymore tea in my whole life
which is a shame, because i might like tea
incidentally, you can have consent explain with tea
video: if you are still struggling with consent
just imagine instead of iniciating sex, you are making them a cup of tea
you said: hey, would you like a cup of tea?
they go: omg, fuck yes, i would fucking love a cup of tea
thank you
then you know they want a cup of tea
if you say: hey would you like a cup of tea?
they are like: hmmm, you know, im not really sure
but you could make him a cup of tea or not
you could make him a cup of tea... or not
but be aware they might not drink it
and if they dont drink it, then if they dont drink it
then, and this is the important part, dont make them drink it
just because you made it, doenst mean you are entitled to watch them
drink it
and if they say: no thank you
then, dont make them tea. That is all
enrico: i highly recommend this video
consent is important, ill come back to it later
theres another thing that i really like about BDSM
its a concept wich is aftercare
the idea is that after you are having a person, bound... whatever
and you both have push your comfort zones a little further than usual
when the whole thing ends, there's a moment of recovering
getting back inside the comfort zones of love, of celebration
which is called aftercare, which is something
that we dont do much in debian
we do debian release parties. Aftercare for release
we are out of the bindings of the free spirit
and then we get back into the comfort zone
of freedom and gcc transition and breaking unstable
but there could be moments of celebration
after each vote on something
there could be solidarity towards the people
that werent represented on the results of the election
or high fives after springs and lots of efforts
thats another thing that, in part we do,
but could do more, because more hacks is nice
except if one does not like hacks
at first, approach people at front if you want to hug
and signal that you want a hug, before entering their personal space
do not hug people from the back, that short of things
chapter previous + 1: poliamory
Emma Goldman said:
If love does not know how to give and take without restrictions,
it is not love, but a transaction that never fails to lay stress
on a plus and a minus
poliamory is according to wikipedia
the practice, desire or acceptance of intimate relationships
that are not exclusive with respect to
other sexual intimate relationships, and, this is important,
with knowledge and consent from everyone involved
so, a fling on the side dont ask, dont tell
its generally not considered poliamory
unless, theres knowledge and consent about the dont ask dont tell part of it
that is the concept
the poliamory community has some interesting things for us to learn
one was pointed out in Vaumarcus a couple of years ago
nod if you want to be credited
that wasnt a nod, i can take it as a ?? consense
Rhonda pointed out something along the line of
if somebody takes good care of one of your packages
you should be happy, rather than angry
the poliamorous community uses the word compersion a lot
which is exactly the feeling you get when somebody else also takes good care
of one of your packages
talking about that
we currently allow only one value in the maintainer field in debian control
which means that packages takes over are traumatic experiences
because the previous maintainer is dump in favor of a new one
and values can only be replaced
if values could be added instead and removed when they dont make sense anymore
then the whole concept of somebody not maintaining a packages ?? and so on
could be solved by other people joining in and relationships evolving, right?
so thats a proposal for policy
another interesting thing that comes out of the poliamorous greater cloud of people
is that different people have different definitions of love
different needs, different definitions of love even
so it happened to me to have a conversation with a person and say
so, how do you define love? whats love for you?
oh, great you asked me that is fantastic because
its not an standard thing
if you ask a random person what is love often the result is... its love, right?
so, the definition ive adopted recently and im still very happy about is this
[I love you:] [my world is better with you in it]
with and idea like that, you can see how it is possible
to love several people at once
it does not mean that one has specific expectations
towards the people one loves
otherwise, life becomes difficult and theres only 24h in a day
there are people that makes my world better but they dont smell in a way that i like
and stuff like that
[laughs]
and the distinction between romantic love and sexual love could be made
you can see how the whole concept of relationship gets deconstructed
and one can have sexual, romantic sexual and romantic
no sexual, no romantic but plans for life
??
life gets really interesting
and fortunately theres only 24h in a day and i like ?? every night
but we were talking about anarchism as well
so i have done my ?? as well
the readical idea than relationships can be something that is negotiated
between the people involved
thats so radical
why isnt like that all the time?
to me is a big problem if a relationship is something that is bound by rules
that are not mutually agreed on by the people involved, right?
but, some call it, relationship anarchy
so, going on, im 4 minutes behind
Voltairine de Cleyre about new debian contributors
and trusting lintian warmings said:
anarchism, to me, means not only the denial of authority, not only a new economy,
but a revision of the principles of morality
It means the development of the individual as well as the assertion of the individual
It means self-responsible, and not leader whorship
so self-reponsability before blinding trusting lintian warmings
back to consent, i thought a lot about consent because, having a person mildly say yes
does not feel like right
when things get complicated you need to know what you are doing
what situation you are putting yourself into
which isnt often easy. Especially, if you dont know the person
you have in front of you. And if you dont know the person you have in front of you
you might not know what situation you are putting yourself into
and you deny consent until you feel some trust
you need to know that the person asking a question really is able to acept
any answer and take it seriously
that is not necessarily true if you have an application manager
that asks a question to an applicant some applicants go... [i dont know]
what do you think of the social contract and the applicant goes like...
its perfect! i have no problem with it but... can you trust that?
and you need to feel that you have alternatives, because if an applicant thinks
if they say, i really do not understand why in the DFSG we have an article about ??
they might feel like if they say that they will not become debian developers
because something
so if one doesnt feel theres an alternative
if things go wrong, there is ways out and so on
then consent is hard
sometime ago, i came up with the idea of
be selfish when you ask, honest when you reply, and when others reply
take them seriously, and if any of this does not stand, i find it hard to trust
that we are in a consensual situation
and unfortunately i see little education for consent
in standard education, there is not much consent
dear child, this is what you would like to do today
this is what is important for you today
otherwise, bad things happen
or in the workplace, there is often little consensuality
the whole thing begins with, i need to buy part of your consent with money
some people are lucky to get paid for what they really want to do
some people not
we will be followed by the cheese and wine BOF, so there will be alcohol
alcohol is not an excuse for breaking consent
and incidentally i heard reports of borderline situations happening
at debconf, if something makes you uncomfortable, you can talk to people
at frontdesk
if people in frontdesk makes you uncomfortable, you can talk to me
if both me and frontdesk makes you uncomfortable, call the police
audience: [inaudible] good point
thats a very good point
can i have 5 more minutes?
practical advice
suppose you want relationship advice or work advice
they are pretty much the same, like this is a nice article about
how to deal with abusive relationship or bad work places
keep them tired, keep them too busy to think
keep them emotionally involved reward intermittently
keep the crises rolling, things will be better when...
we figured some time ago that if you go on a situation thinking, it will be better
it never will
keep real rewards distant, and so on
more practical advice i can give links later
this is an excellent article
[what technical recruiters can learn from online dating]
i highly recommend it, because then you can really see the recruiter email
very similar to some shady person somewhere coming from behind
and saying: do you come here often?
more relationship advice from 99 ways to ruin an open source project
how to ruin the trust of the community
exert excessive control
never give anyone else commit access
i dont know what that was, require an unparseable unicode character
ignore concerns voiced in issues
do any of this in a relationship and it wont last long, right?
and so on
i highly also recommend this thing making relationships suck
its a wonderful read, i can provide links somehow later
i dont know where to publish them but we can work it out
theres also this
BSDM advice, tips for new dominants
so, tips for new packages maintainers
you will fuck up
and so on
i guess is time to close, i hope i gave an idea on how to carry across
advise thought quite a lot over the years between one domain to another
when theres an interesting point that will overlap
and id like to close recalling my definition of love
dear debian and dear everyone contributing to debian
my world is better with you in it <3
thank you, thank you, thank you
talkmaister: any questions?