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Have you ever felt emotionally overwhelmed [br]and just wanted to be comforted

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or have someone tell you that they understand?

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It’s ok, these are natural things to want!

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This is called validation.

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As we begin today’s lesson, if it feels comfortable,[br]take the deepest breath you have taken all day

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and gently stretch from side to side.

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To validate is to recognize how someone is feeling [br]and let them know that their feelings

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are acceptable and ok.

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Here is the thing…

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The someone we are validating can be ourselves!

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This is called self-validation.

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That’s right, the statements of validation[br]you might offer to a friend, family member,

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or significant other, you can offer to yourself.

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For example, if you are feeling anxious [br]before a big exam, you might tell yourself:

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“I am feeling really nervous right now,”

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“it is common to feel anxious before tests.”

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Giving self-validation can sometimes[br]ease how we are feeling

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and gives us permission to be human.

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It can be a great way to have compassion [br]when we are too critical

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of ourselves.

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Have you ever given yourself some helpful statements of validation?

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How do you think it would impact your mood?

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Next time you feel yourself needing[br]some extra comfort,

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maybe see how it feels [br]to give some self-validation.

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Have a good one.