WEBVTT 00:00:00.880 --> 00:00:03.576 About six months into my career as a therapist, 00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:06.896 I was working at a drug and alcohol rehab facility. 00:00:06.920 --> 00:00:10.496 I got a call from one of the nurses down at the detox unit. 00:00:10.520 --> 00:00:13.376 She asked me to come down and assess one of the new patients 00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:15.256 that had arrived earlier in the day. 00:00:15.280 --> 00:00:18.696 So I went down to the unit and had the pleasure of meeting Anne. 00:00:18.720 --> 00:00:22.176 Anne's a transgender female, and as her and I started talking, 00:00:22.200 --> 00:00:25.216 she was sharing with me about what brought her into treatment, 00:00:25.240 --> 00:00:27.976 but I could hear this fear in her voice, 00:00:28.000 --> 00:00:29.896 and I could see this worry in her eyes, 00:00:29.920 --> 00:00:32.896 and she began to tell me that she didn't fear coming into rehab 00:00:32.920 --> 00:00:35.296 and having to give up drugs and alcohol. 00:00:35.320 --> 00:00:38.336 Her fear was that the doctors that were going to be treating her 00:00:38.360 --> 00:00:40.240 would not treat her as her female self. NOTE Paragraph 00:00:41.360 --> 00:00:45.176 She then told me about this ongoing pain that she has experienced her whole life 00:00:45.200 --> 00:00:47.656 of being assigned male but knowing she's female. 00:00:47.680 --> 00:00:50.976 And what she meant by that is, when she was born, 00:00:51.000 --> 00:00:53.136 the doctor held her up to her parents 00:00:53.160 --> 00:00:55.056 and based on her genitalia said, 00:00:55.080 --> 00:00:56.816 "It's a boy." 00:00:56.840 --> 00:00:58.480 She always knew she wasn't a boy. 00:00:59.920 --> 00:01:02.536 Many years passed and the feelings that she was feeling 00:01:02.560 --> 00:01:04.575 and holding all this in grew and grew, 00:01:04.599 --> 00:01:06.896 and she knew she had to come out to her family. 00:01:06.920 --> 00:01:09.576 And when she did, it didn't go over so well. 00:01:09.600 --> 00:01:12.136 Her parents said, "Absolutely not. You're not a girl. 00:01:12.160 --> 00:01:15.416 This is not how we raised you. We don't know what you're thinking. 00:01:15.440 --> 00:01:16.640 Get out." 00:01:17.560 --> 00:01:21.256 So Anne then found herself on the streets and in and out of homeless shelters, 00:01:21.280 --> 00:01:24.456 and it's here where she started using drugs and alcohol 00:01:24.480 --> 00:01:26.480 to numb this pain she felt inside. 00:01:27.720 --> 00:01:31.216 She told me about her journey of being in and out of hospitals and rehabs 00:01:31.240 --> 00:01:32.496 trying to get sober, 00:01:32.520 --> 00:01:35.456 and when she did, the health care providers and doctors 00:01:35.480 --> 00:01:38.536 wouldn't use the correct female name or pronouns. 00:01:38.560 --> 00:01:39.920 This caused her pain. NOTE Paragraph 00:01:41.120 --> 00:01:43.536 You see, when I was studying to become a therapist, 00:01:43.560 --> 00:01:46.120 I wasn't taught how to work with transgender patients. 00:01:47.120 --> 00:01:50.040 I had no idea these would be the patients I'd be working with. 00:01:50.800 --> 00:01:54.096 But the more I worked with Anne and other patients like Anne, 00:01:54.120 --> 00:01:56.416 I began to see my mission evolve, 00:01:56.440 --> 00:01:59.496 and that was to make sure that the transgender community 00:01:59.520 --> 00:02:01.280 got their health care needs met. 00:02:02.320 --> 00:02:06.456 The more I looked into this, I saw how this very real fear 00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:10.256 of violence, discrimination and this lack of acceptance 00:02:10.280 --> 00:02:14.416 caused so many of these patients to turn to alcohol and drugs. 00:02:14.440 --> 00:02:17.016 And I also heard these horror stories 00:02:17.040 --> 00:02:19.976 of when these patients were seeking medical care 00:02:20.000 --> 00:02:21.416 and how they were treated, 00:02:21.440 --> 00:02:23.774 and how a lot of their medical needs were ignored. NOTE Paragraph 00:02:25.480 --> 00:02:27.536 Now let me tell you about Leah. 00:02:27.560 --> 00:02:30.736 I had the pleasure of meeting Leah a few years back. 00:02:30.760 --> 00:02:34.040 She's a female and she has a wife and a child. 00:02:34.920 --> 00:02:37.856 See, Leah was also assigned male at birth 00:02:37.880 --> 00:02:41.696 and she knew since she was a young child that she was not a male, 00:02:41.720 --> 00:02:42.920 that she was a female. 00:02:43.720 --> 00:02:46.856 She hid it from herself and from everyone she knew, 00:02:46.880 --> 00:02:49.496 especially from her wife, until the age of 50. 00:02:49.520 --> 00:02:50.936 She couldn't take it anymore. 00:02:50.960 --> 00:02:53.056 She was like, I can't keep living like this. 00:02:53.080 --> 00:02:54.296 I gotta get honest. 00:02:54.320 --> 00:02:56.976 She was extremely scared to tell her wife. 00:02:57.000 --> 00:02:58.256 What if her wife said, 00:02:58.280 --> 00:03:01.000 "This is unacceptable, I want a divorce, get out"? 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:05.136 To her surprise, her wife was accepting. 00:03:05.160 --> 00:03:08.176 She said, "I love you regardless of who you are. 00:03:08.200 --> 00:03:10.080 I want to help you in every way I can." 00:03:10.960 --> 00:03:12.296 So she talked with her wife, 00:03:12.320 --> 00:03:16.496 and she made the decision that she wanted to medically transition, 00:03:16.520 --> 00:03:19.976 and she was interested in being assessed for hormone replacement therapy, 00:03:20.000 --> 00:03:21.280 otherwise known as HRT. 00:03:22.320 --> 00:03:24.360 So she made an appointment with her doctor. 00:03:25.560 --> 00:03:28.136 She arrived on the day of her appointment early. 00:03:28.160 --> 00:03:29.776 She filled out all the paperwork, 00:03:29.800 --> 00:03:32.400 put the name correctly down there and waited patiently. 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:37.560 A little bit of time passed and a nurse called her back to the exam room. 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:40.976 When she got back there, she took a deep breath, 00:03:41.000 --> 00:03:42.880 and the doctor and the nurse walked in. 00:03:44.160 --> 00:03:47.040 She extended her hand to the doctor and said, "Hi, I'm Leah." 00:03:47.840 --> 00:03:51.136 The doctor looked at her, didn't shake her hand and said, 00:03:51.160 --> 00:03:52.360 "Why are you here?" 00:03:53.600 --> 00:03:55.520 She took another deep breath and said, 00:03:57.040 --> 00:03:58.976 "Well, I'm a transgender female. 00:03:59.000 --> 00:04:01.696 I've known this my whole life, I've hid it from everyone, 00:04:01.720 --> 00:04:03.016 but I can't do it anymore. 00:04:03.040 --> 00:04:05.816 My wife's supportive, I can financially afford it, 00:04:05.840 --> 00:04:07.336 I've got to make these changes. 00:04:07.360 --> 00:04:10.880 Please consider me, and let's evaluate me for HRT." 00:04:11.600 --> 00:04:13.736 The doctor said, "We can't do anything today. 00:04:13.760 --> 00:04:15.320 You need to go get an HIV test." NOTE Paragraph 00:04:17.160 --> 00:04:18.360 She couldn't believe it. 00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:20.375 She was furious. 00:04:20.399 --> 00:04:22.200 She was angry. She was disappointed. 00:04:23.040 --> 00:04:26.896 If her doctor treated her this way, how would the rest of the world treat her? 00:04:26.920 --> 00:04:29.296 First, he wouldn't shake her hand, 00:04:29.320 --> 00:04:32.456 and second, when he heard she was transgender, 00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:35.776 all he cared about was getting an HIV test and ending the appointment. 00:04:35.800 --> 00:04:37.840 He didn't even ask her any other questions. NOTE Paragraph 00:04:38.520 --> 00:04:41.256 See, I can understand where Leah's coming from, 00:04:41.280 --> 00:04:43.856 because the years that I've worked with the community, 00:04:43.880 --> 00:04:47.456 I hear myths every single day that aren't true at all. 00:04:47.480 --> 00:04:49.416 A couple of those are: 00:04:49.440 --> 00:04:54.056 every transgender person wants to transition with medication or surgery; 00:04:54.080 --> 00:04:56.976 transgender people are mentally ill, this is a disorder; 00:04:57.000 --> 00:04:59.480 and: these people aren't real men and women. 00:05:00.480 --> 00:05:02.200 These are all myths and untrue. 00:05:03.240 --> 00:05:06.256 As this community expands and grows older, 00:05:06.280 --> 00:05:09.416 it is imperative that all health care providers be trained 00:05:09.440 --> 00:05:12.136 on how to take care of their health care needs. NOTE Paragraph 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:14.656 Back in 2015, a survey was done 00:05:14.680 --> 00:05:18.216 and found that 72 percent of health care providers 00:05:18.240 --> 00:05:20.656 did not feel well-informed 00:05:20.680 --> 00:05:23.480 on the health care needs of the LGBT community. 00:05:25.120 --> 00:05:27.640 There's a huge gap in the education and training. NOTE Paragraph 00:05:28.880 --> 00:05:30.336 Today, in this talk, 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:33.536 I want to offer a new way of thinking for three groups of people: 00:05:33.560 --> 00:05:37.856 doctors, the transgender community and, well, the rest of us. 00:05:37.880 --> 00:05:40.616 But before we do, I want to cover a couple of definitions 00:05:40.640 --> 00:05:44.496 that's going to help you wrap your head around gender identity a little bit more. 00:05:44.520 --> 00:05:48.176 So I hope you've got your paper and pen. Get ready to take some notes. NOTE Paragraph 00:05:48.200 --> 00:05:51.496 So let's start out with this idea of a binary system. 00:05:51.520 --> 00:05:52.776 And what this means is, 00:05:52.800 --> 00:05:55.736 before, we always thought there was only two, male and female. 00:05:55.760 --> 00:05:57.416 Get it? Binary? Right? 00:05:57.440 --> 00:06:00.000 So we've come to find out that this isn't true. 00:06:00.680 --> 00:06:03.456 Gender identity is a spectrum 00:06:03.480 --> 00:06:05.416 with maleness on one side 00:06:05.440 --> 00:06:07.816 and femaleness over here on the other side. 00:06:07.840 --> 00:06:10.296 This spectrum of identities 00:06:10.320 --> 00:06:13.696 include identities such as gender-nonconforming, 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:15.016 gender-affirming, 00:06:15.040 --> 00:06:16.336 gender-nonbinary, 00:06:16.360 --> 00:06:18.616 two-spirited, three-spirited, 00:06:18.640 --> 00:06:20.360 as well as people that are intersex. 00:06:21.120 --> 00:06:23.976 The term transgender is this umbrella term 00:06:24.000 --> 00:06:27.160 that encompasses all these different types of identities. 00:06:27.880 --> 00:06:30.696 But for today's talk, I want you to think about transgender 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:34.256 as someone who is assigned a sex at birth that doesn't match 00:06:34.280 --> 00:06:37.136 with who they are as a person and their sense of self. NOTE Paragraph 00:06:37.160 --> 00:06:39.416 Now, this is very different than biological sex. 00:06:39.440 --> 00:06:41.816 So gender identity is sense of self. 00:06:41.840 --> 00:06:45.136 So think of it as what's between your ears: 00:06:45.160 --> 00:06:47.016 sense of self, who you are. 00:06:47.040 --> 00:06:49.776 This is very different than biological sex, right? 00:06:49.800 --> 00:06:51.736 Hormones, genitalia, chromosomes: 00:06:51.760 --> 00:06:53.400 that's what's between our legs. NOTE Paragraph 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:58.776 Now, you may be thinking, "Dr. Kristie, I have never questioned who I am. 00:06:58.800 --> 00:07:01.496 I know I'm a man, or I know I'm a woman." 00:07:01.520 --> 00:07:03.120 I get it. You know who you are. 00:07:04.200 --> 00:07:06.536 This is how many transgender individuals feel. 00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:08.216 They just know who they are 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:10.320 with that same conviction. NOTE Paragraph 00:07:12.320 --> 00:07:15.776 It's important to know that there are many different types of identities, 00:07:15.800 --> 00:07:18.816 and I identify as a cisgender female. 00:07:18.840 --> 00:07:22.016 Now, for all y'all out there that like to know how to spell things, 00:07:22.040 --> 00:07:24.736 cis is spelled "c-i-s." 00:07:24.760 --> 00:07:27.696 It's the Latin term for "on the same side of." 00:07:27.720 --> 00:07:29.176 When I was born, 00:07:29.200 --> 00:07:31.296 the doctor held me up to my parents and said, 00:07:31.320 --> 00:07:32.576 "It's a girl." 00:07:32.600 --> 00:07:34.656 All this, based on my genitalia. 00:07:34.680 --> 00:07:37.456 Even though I grew up in a small farm town in Georgia, 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:40.696 very much a tomboy, 00:07:40.720 --> 00:07:42.736 I never questioned that I was a female. 00:07:42.760 --> 00:07:44.296 I've always known I was a girl, 00:07:44.320 --> 00:07:46.736 regardless of how I was as a kid. NOTE Paragraph 00:07:46.760 --> 00:07:49.576 Now, this is very different than someone who's transgender. 00:07:49.600 --> 00:07:53.736 Now, trans is a Latin term for "on the other side of" -- 00:07:53.760 --> 00:07:55.616 think about transcontinental airlines, 00:07:55.640 --> 00:07:57.496 across, on the other side of -- 00:07:57.520 --> 00:08:00.536 someone that's assigned a sex at birth 00:08:00.560 --> 00:08:03.000 and they identify on the other side of the spectrum. 00:08:03.680 --> 00:08:07.696 A transgender male is someone who was assigned female at birth, 00:08:07.720 --> 00:08:11.056 but their sense of self, who they are, how they live their life, 00:08:11.080 --> 00:08:12.616 is as a male. 00:08:12.640 --> 00:08:14.696 And the opposite is, as we talked earlier, 00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:17.536 a transgender female, someone that's assigned male at birth 00:08:17.560 --> 00:08:20.616 but lives their live and sense of self as a female. 00:08:20.640 --> 00:08:22.456 It's also important to point out here 00:08:22.480 --> 00:08:25.496 that not everyone that has a nonbinary identity 00:08:25.520 --> 00:08:27.440 identifies with the term "transgender." NOTE Paragraph 00:08:28.680 --> 00:08:32.256 Just so nobody gets confused, I want to point out sexual identity, 00:08:32.280 --> 00:08:33.816 or orientation. 00:08:33.840 --> 00:08:36.576 That is simply who we're attracted to, 00:08:36.600 --> 00:08:39.480 physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually. 00:08:40.640 --> 00:08:42.736 It's got nothing to do with gender identity. 00:08:42.760 --> 00:08:45.096 So just for a quick recap, before we continue on: 00:08:45.120 --> 00:08:46.816 gender identity between the ears, 00:08:46.840 --> 00:08:50.016 biological sex, just think of it between your legs, 00:08:50.040 --> 00:08:52.856 and then sexual identity, well, sometimes we use our heart, 00:08:52.880 --> 00:08:54.296 but it's here. 00:08:54.320 --> 00:08:57.120 Three very different identity spectrums. NOTE Paragraph 00:08:59.000 --> 00:09:01.296 Now, the average medical student 00:09:01.320 --> 00:09:06.616 spends about five hours learning about the LGBT health-related needs 00:09:06.640 --> 00:09:08.456 while they're in medical school. 00:09:08.480 --> 00:09:12.296 Now, this is despite us knowing that there are unique health risks 00:09:12.320 --> 00:09:13.520 to this community. 00:09:15.320 --> 00:09:19.096 And there's an estimated 10 million American adults 00:09:19.120 --> 00:09:20.520 that identify as LGBT. 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:24.416 Most doctors that work with transgender patients, 00:09:24.440 --> 00:09:26.480 they learn trial by fire. 00:09:27.280 --> 00:09:29.496 That means they figure it out as they go along, 00:09:29.520 --> 00:09:31.816 or the patient ends up spending their time 00:09:31.840 --> 00:09:34.280 trying to teach the doctor how to take care of them. 00:09:35.200 --> 00:09:38.696 Many doctors don't feel comfortable asking about gender identities. 00:09:38.720 --> 00:09:42.016 Some don't feel like it's relevant at all to their medical care 00:09:42.040 --> 00:09:44.600 and others just don't want to say the wrong thing. 00:09:46.400 --> 00:09:48.816 Many doctors who say something inappropriate 00:09:48.840 --> 00:09:50.336 or they say something negative, 00:09:50.360 --> 00:09:53.936 they may not be coming from a malicious or mean place, 00:09:53.960 --> 00:09:57.776 they may have never been trained on how to care for these individuals. 00:09:57.800 --> 00:10:00.560 But this can't be accepted as a norm anymore either. NOTE Paragraph 00:10:02.080 --> 00:10:05.496 So what happens to a transgender male -- 00:10:05.520 --> 00:10:08.576 for a quick recap, that's someone who is assigned female at birth 00:10:08.600 --> 00:10:10.216 but lives their life as a male -- 00:10:10.240 --> 00:10:14.720 what happens when this transgender male goes for their yearly gynecological visit? 00:10:16.440 --> 00:10:19.216 How that doctor treats that patient 00:10:19.240 --> 00:10:21.496 will set the whole tone for the office. 00:10:21.520 --> 00:10:26.096 If that doctor treats that male with the correct pronouns, correct name, 00:10:26.120 --> 00:10:28.336 gives dignity and respect, 00:10:28.360 --> 00:10:30.960 it's highly likely that the rest of the staff will too. NOTE Paragraph 00:10:32.080 --> 00:10:34.536 So that's a little bit about my thoughts on doctors, 00:10:34.560 --> 00:10:37.256 and now let's move on to the transgender community. 00:10:37.280 --> 00:10:39.536 I'm here talking about fear, 00:10:39.560 --> 00:10:42.696 but y'all know who is really fearful, right? 00:10:42.720 --> 00:10:45.096 It's the transgender community. 00:10:45.120 --> 00:10:46.936 Earlier I shared the story about Anne 00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:49.456 and how she was so worried about going into treatment 00:10:49.480 --> 00:10:51.536 and not being respected as her female self, 00:10:51.560 --> 00:10:54.496 and then Leah who was scared about how her doctor would react, 00:10:54.500 --> 00:10:56.576 and the second that he didn't shake her hand 00:10:56.600 --> 00:10:59.200 and ordered that HIV test, her fears came true. 00:11:00.680 --> 00:11:03.336 The transgender community needs to be empowered 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:06.056 to speak up for their health care needs. 00:11:06.080 --> 00:11:10.200 The days of remaining silent and taking whatever treatment you can get are over. 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:13.856 If you don't speak up for your health care needs, 00:11:13.880 --> 00:11:15.440 no one's going to do it for you. NOTE Paragraph 00:11:17.080 --> 00:11:18.480 So what about the rest of us? 00:11:20.040 --> 00:11:22.936 A lot of y'all, maybe in the next week or a couple of months, 00:11:22.960 --> 00:11:25.216 are going to have a doctor's appointment, right? 00:11:25.240 --> 00:11:27.576 So let's say you go to your doctor's appointment 00:11:27.600 --> 00:11:28.936 and when it's over, 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:31.760 you feel worse than you did when you got there. 00:11:32.800 --> 00:11:35.176 What if you felt dismissed by the doctor, 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:36.816 that they ignored your needs, 00:11:36.840 --> 00:11:38.920 or you even felt judged? 00:11:40.360 --> 00:11:44.936 That's what happens for many of the 1.4 million transgender adults 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:46.216 here in the US 00:11:46.240 --> 00:11:48.400 if they're lucky enough to get an appointment. NOTE Paragraph 00:11:49.880 --> 00:11:52.856 Now, you may be thinking, "Why is this important to me? 00:11:52.880 --> 00:11:55.776 I'm not transgender. I don't know anybody that's transgender. 00:11:55.800 --> 00:11:57.040 Why should I even care?" 00:11:58.080 --> 00:11:59.656 Think of it this way. 00:11:59.680 --> 00:12:02.296 A transgender individual is human, 00:12:02.320 --> 00:12:03.520 just like you and me. 00:12:04.480 --> 00:12:07.456 They deserve competent and trained health care providers, 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:08.720 just like you and me. NOTE Paragraph 00:12:10.120 --> 00:12:12.616 So let me ask, if you don't mind raising your hand: 00:12:12.640 --> 00:12:16.376 Do you know or have you met anyone who is transgender, 00:12:16.400 --> 00:12:20.736 gender-nonconforming, agender, intersex, two-spirited, three-spirited? NOTE Paragraph 00:12:20.760 --> 00:12:23.080 Thank y'all so much. Lovely. Thank y'all. 00:12:23.840 --> 00:12:26.336 Every one of y'all who did not raise your hand, 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:28.656 in the very near future 00:12:28.680 --> 00:12:30.416 you will get the opportunity to meet 00:12:30.440 --> 00:12:34.136 someone that falls into one of these identities, I guarantee it. 00:12:34.160 --> 00:12:36.640 The number of this community is increasing. 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:40.280 That's not because it's a fad or the new thing to do. 00:12:41.120 --> 00:12:43.000 It's safer to come out. 00:12:43.680 --> 00:12:46.656 There's more awareness. There's more visibility. 00:12:46.680 --> 00:12:49.896 There's more safety, so people are speaking up about their true self 00:12:49.920 --> 00:12:51.160 like never before. 00:12:52.160 --> 00:12:56.136 That's why it's so important that our health care system get on board 00:12:56.160 --> 00:12:59.976 and make sure that our doctors and health care providers are trained 00:13:00.000 --> 00:13:03.256 to approach these patients with dignity and respect, 00:13:03.280 --> 00:13:05.200 just like we expect. NOTE Paragraph 00:13:06.640 --> 00:13:09.056 I remember being in my 11th grade literature class, 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:11.256 with one of my favorite teachers, Mr. McClain, 00:13:11.280 --> 00:13:14.896 and he shared this quote by Heraclitus that sticks with me to this day. 00:13:14.920 --> 00:13:16.576 Y'all may have even heard it. 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:20.600 It's, "The only thing that is constant is that things will change." 00:13:22.600 --> 00:13:23.800 Familiar, right? 00:13:24.640 --> 00:13:27.776 Every single one of us face changes in our lives, 00:13:27.800 --> 00:13:30.136 and often when we're faced with these changes, 00:13:30.160 --> 00:13:32.200 we've got some difficult decisions to make. 00:13:33.320 --> 00:13:36.936 Will we remain in fear, stay stuck 00:13:36.960 --> 00:13:38.616 and not grow? 00:13:38.640 --> 00:13:43.016 Or, will we face fear with bravery, 00:13:43.040 --> 00:13:45.600 evolve, take the opportunity to grow? 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:49.856 Every one of us face new things. 00:13:49.880 --> 00:13:51.080 What will you do? 00:13:51.920 --> 00:13:54.176 Will you remain in fear, 00:13:54.200 --> 00:13:56.080 or will you grow? 00:13:57.040 --> 00:14:00.696 I invite each of you, doctors, the transgender community 00:14:00.720 --> 00:14:02.056 and you and I, 00:14:02.080 --> 00:14:03.776 to face fear together 00:14:03.800 --> 00:14:06.536 as we walk into this brave new world. NOTE Paragraph 00:14:06.560 --> 00:14:07.776 Thank you. NOTE Paragraph 00:14:07.800 --> 00:14:12.200 (Applause)