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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK, so today I want to talk about\Nhow we talk about love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And specifically,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to talk about what's wrong\Nwith how we talk about love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us will probably fall in love\Na few times over the course of our lives,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in the English language,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this metaphor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Falling,"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is really the main way that we\Ntalk about that experience.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I don't know about you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when I conceptualize this metaphor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I picture is straight\Nout of a cartoon.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like there's a man,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's walking down the sidewalk,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without realizing it he cross over\Nand open manhole,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he just plummets\Ninto the sewer below.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I picture it this way because\Nfalling is not jumping.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Falling is accidental,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's uncontrolable.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's something that happens to us\Nwithout our consent.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is the main way we talk\Nabout starting a new relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I am a writer and I'm also\Nand English teacher,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which means I think about\Nwords for a living.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you could say that I get paid\Nto argue that the language we use matters,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would like to argue that many\Nof the metaphors we use
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk about love --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe even most of them --
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are a problem.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, in love we fall.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're struck,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are crushed,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we swoon,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we burn with passion.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Love makes us crazy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it makes us sick.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our hearts ache,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then they break.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)