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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,<Essence of Friendship Is Equality>
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.16,0:00:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) I want to thank you\Nfor your helpful public sessions.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.84,0:00:25.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My question is about reactions\NI get from my friends when I talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.19,0:00:28.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever I talk, there is a\Nlack of reactions and, in turn,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.07,0:00:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mood of the gathering gets\Nsubdued and feels boring.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.88,0:00:34.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I try my best to get by, but\Nthe more I try, the more
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.51,0:00:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get timid and withdrawn\Nafterwards.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.60,0:00:40.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of going out to meet\Npeople right now,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.96,0:00:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer to spend time\Nalone at home.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.10,0:00:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The more I try to talk with people,\NI feel more withdrawn inside.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.98,0:00:51.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know how to go\Nabout this.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.47,0:00:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's my concern right now\Nand the question for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.02,0:00:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Why do you\Nfeel withdrawn?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.15,0:01:01.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Just happens...\NWhen the response gets tepic
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.57,0:01:08.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like they are indifferent\Nto whatever I am saying.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.25,0:01:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think, "Why am I doing this?"\NI feel deflated and insignificant.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.54,0:01:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) So, you feel discouraged\Naccording to people's reactions?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.56,0:01:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Yes
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.94,0:01:24.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) But they don't have\Nany obligation to respond.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.95,0:01:27.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) They don't.\NBut if they don't react
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.47,0:01:30.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I expected, then\NI feel dispirited.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.68,0:01:33.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Isn't it normal?\N(Questioner) Yes, I agree.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.72,0:01:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) If you think that is normal,\Nyou shouldn't feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.98,0:01:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But rather you expect,\N"If I speak, you should respond."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.25,0:01:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If that expectation isn't met, \Nthen you feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.02,0:01:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether to respond or not,\Nit their choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.88,0:01:54.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't expect,\Nno need to feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.78,0:01:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Speak your piece\Nand be done.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.32,0:01:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are not required\Nto show reactions.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.99,0:02:04.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have to force energetic \Nreactions out of friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.39,0:02:06.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those are not \Ntrue friends, and
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.31,0:02:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not a good way\Nto build friendships.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.50,0:02:13.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) I find myself\Nseparted from the rest of the
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.93,0:02:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people while others \Nare enjoying themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.94,0:02:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Why? I have a\Nfriend who hardly talks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.48,0:02:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever we're together,\Nhe stays quiet but smiles.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.38,0:02:29.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He just says yes here \Nand there with smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.57,0:02:32.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and mingles with \Nthe group very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.91,0:02:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You either want to be\Na leader in control,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.89,0:02:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or desire to be the most popular\Nperson in the group.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.79,0:02:46.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not being a friend.\NYou let your friends have
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.74,0:02:49.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fun, listen, agree and\Nsmile, that's a friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.75,0:02:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's all you need to do.\NWhy do you want to talk so much?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.96,0:03:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What reason is there to always \Ntake the lead amongst friends?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.69,0:03:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Not so much the \Nleadership but more of
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.70,0:03:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a life of the party....
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.58,0:03:16.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Why should you be \Nthe center of the party?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.04,0:03:18.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.20,0:03:20.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Trying to be the life\Nof the party means you want
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.91,0:03:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have the control of your\Nget togethers, it's the same,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.60,0:03:28.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Only difference is you \Nare using different words
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.73,0:03:31.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to describe the same motive.\N(Audience Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.44,0:03:34.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to let go of that desire.\NAmongst friends, you should not
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.85,0:03:41.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to practice or think of\Nwhat to say before you meet.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.71,0:03:47.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you? If you have \Nsomething to say , say it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.44,0:03:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you can listen to others,\Nand smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.88,0:03:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Between friends, one does\Nnot have to lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.24,0:03:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeking to lead, control, or \Ngain popularity, friendships suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.68,0:04:02.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friendship is about equality, \Nthat's what friendship is.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.74,0:04:05.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not drinking doesn't make you \Nany less of a friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.20,0:04:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a lie to say otherwise \Nto a drinking buddy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.54,0:04:10.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't touch a drop, \Nas long as you're paying for it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.64,0:04:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're happy, right? \N(Audience laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.85,0:04:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can go to those gatherings \Nanytime and pay for the drinks
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.40,0:04:20.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without having to drink yourself.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.05,0:04:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But thinking that \Nnot being able to drink
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.08,0:04:26.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes someone a bad friend \Nis completely wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.67,0:04:29.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just as there are friends \Nwho smoke even if you don't,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.46,0:04:31.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there used to be \Nmany who smoked.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.43,0:04:37.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If someone wants to smoke \Nand you don't mind,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.16,0:04:40.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can light their cigarette \Nfor them without smoking yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.53,0:04:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The questioner has\Nthe wrong mindset.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.35,0:04:47.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friendship should be \Nbased on equality.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.41,0:04:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The essence of friendship\Nis equality.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.53,0:04:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether you're a senator\Nor holding a high position,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.46,0:05:00.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,flaunting wealth or status to \Nfriends breeds resentment.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.62,0:05:06.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friendship is rooted in equality, \Nso letting go of such notions
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.08,0:05:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would resolve any issues.\NIt's unnecessary to sulk alone
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.16,0:05:13.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all day or constantly nod along.\NIf you don't feel like speaking,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.32,0:05:16.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,simply make eye \Ncontact and stay silent.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.42,0:05:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Always nodding along \Nand speak if asked
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.31,0:05:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is this difficult to do?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.02,0:05:29.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioer) You're right, thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.83,0:05:42.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Sure.\N(Audience Applause)