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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,<Essence of Friendship Is Equality>
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.16,0:00:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) I want to thank you\Nfor your helpful public sessions.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.84,0:00:25.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My question is about reactions\NI get from my friends when I talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.19,0:00:28.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever I talk, there is a\Nlack of reactions and, in turn,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.07,0:00:30.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mood of the gathering gets\Nsubdued and feels boring.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.88,0:00:34.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I try my best to get by, but\Nthe more I try, the more
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.51,0:00:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get timid and withdrawn\Nafterwards.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.60,0:00:40.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of going out to meet\Npeople right now,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.96,0:00:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I prefer to spend time\Nalone at home.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.10,0:00:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The more I try to talk with people,\NI feel more withdrawn inside.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.98,0:00:51.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know how to go\Nabout this.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.47,0:00:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's my concern right now\Nand the question for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.02,0:00:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Why do you\Nfeel withdrawn?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.15,0:01:01.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Just happens...\NWhen the response gets tepic
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.57,0:01:08.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like they are indifferent\Nto whatever I am saying.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.25,0:01:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think, "Why am I doing this?"\NI feel deflated and insignificant.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.54,0:01:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) So, you feel discouraged\Naccording to people's reactions?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.56,0:01:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Yes
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.94,0:01:24.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) But they don't have\Nany obligation to respond.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.95,0:01:27.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) They don't.\NBut if they don't react
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.47,0:01:30.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I expected, then I feel\Nawkward and dispirited.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.68,0:01:33.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Isn't it normal?\N(Questioner) Yes, I agree.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.72,0:01:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) If you think that is normal,\Nyou shouldn't feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.98,0:01:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But rather you expect,\N"If I speak, you should respond."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.25,0:01:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If that expectation isn't met, \Nthen you feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.02,0:01:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether to respond or not,\Nit their choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.88,0:01:54.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't expect,\Nno need to feel discouraged.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.78,0:01:58.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Speak your piece\Nand be done.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.07,0:02:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You should not\Nexpect reactions.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.95,0:02:06.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have to force the \Nreactions out of friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.19,0:02:13.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not a good way\Nto build friendships.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.22,0:02:18.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Still, when we are all together, \NI end up being alone separated.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.48,0:02:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Whh? I have a\Nfriend who hardly talks.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.78,0:02:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever we're together,\Nhe stays quiet but smiles.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.38,0:02:33.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He just says yes and mingles\Nwith the group very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.90,0:02:36.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You either want to be\Na leader in control,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.97,0:02:40.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or desire to be the most popular\Nperson in the group.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.17,0:02:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not being a friend.\NYou let your friends have
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.72,0:02:53.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fun, listen, agree and\Nsmile, that's a friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.09,0:02:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's all you need to do.\NWhy do you want to talk so much?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.76,0:02:59.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What reason is there to always \Ntake the lead amongst friends?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.25,0:03:01.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Questioner) Not so much the \Nleadership but more of
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.41,0:03:02.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a life of the party....
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.41,0:03:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Why should you be \Nthe center of the party?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.04,0:03:09.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.91,0:03:14.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sunim) Trying to be the life\Nof the party means you want
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.18,0:03:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have the control of your\Nget togethers, it's the sane,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.56,0:03:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Only difference is you \Nare using different words
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.73,0:03:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to describe the same motive.\N(Audience Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.44,0:03:34.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to let go of that desire.\NAmongst friends, you should not
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.58,0:03:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to practice or think of\Nwhat to say before you meet.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.30,0:03:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you? If you have \Nsomething to say , say it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.68,0:03:46.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you can listen to others,\Nand smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.88,0:03:51.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Between friends, one does\Nnot have to lead.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.76,0:03:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeking to lead, control, or \Ngain popularity, friendships suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.68,0:04:01.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friendship is about equality, \Nthat's what friendship is.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.76,0:04:07.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not drinking doesn't make you \Nany less of a friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.66,0:04:11.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a lie to say otherwise \Nto a drinking buddy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.28,0:04:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you don't touch a drop, \Nas long as you're paying for it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.14,0:04:17.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're happy, right? \N(Audience laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.85,0:04:20.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can go to those gatherings \Nanytime and pay for the drinks
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.32,0:04:24.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without having to drink yourself.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.05,0:04:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But thinking that \Nnot being able to drink
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.08,0:04:30.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes someone a bad friend \Nis completely wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.67,0:04:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.07,0:04:41.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.03,0:04:45.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.38,0:04:49.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.53,0:04:54.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.56,0:04:58.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.25,0:05:01.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.04,0:05:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.62,0:05:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.08,0:05:09.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.12,0:05:13.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,