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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.15,0:00:02.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- Hey everybody, happy Monday.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.45,0:00:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now today we're going to talk about
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.98,0:00:06.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why we can hate being alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.97,0:00:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But before we jump into that,\Nare you new to my channel?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.20,0:00:10.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Welcome!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.03,0:00:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a licensed therapist\Nand I create videos
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.30,0:00:13.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all about mental health.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.63,0:00:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I am now releasing\Nvideos only on Mondays
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.20,0:00:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I can put more time\Nand effort into them.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.04,0:00:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So make sure you're subscribed\Nand every notifications
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.02,0:00:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,turned on (bell dings)\Nso you don't miss out.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.72,0:00:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay now let's talk about\Nthe fear of being alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.20,0:00:30.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,otherwise known as monophobia.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.29,0:00:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Monophobia like all phobias\Nfalls under anxiety disorders,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.42,0:00:37.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,under that umbrella, which is\Nreally important to remember.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.72,0:00:41.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because phobia itself\Nis defined as an extreme
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.01,0:00:44.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or irrational fear or\Naversion to something.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.78,0:00:47.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that in many ways,\Nobviously these fears
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.89,0:00:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can lead to symptoms of anxiety.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.02,0:00:53.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can feel on edge, wired or worried
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.97,0:00:56.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about what's going to happen\Nif you have to face that fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.93,0:01:00.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So just remember that all\Nphobias fall under the category
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.44,0:01:02.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of anxiety disorders.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.59,0:01:04.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The specific fear of being alone can have
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.75,0:01:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,many causes and risk factors.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.90,0:01:10.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The most common of those are past trauma,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.06,0:01:12.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,abusive or just unavailable parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.84,0:01:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and lack of proper attachment as a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.77,0:01:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because there are so\Nmany different causes,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.01,0:01:21.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there will obviously be many\Nvariations of monophobia.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.27,0:01:24.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But today, I wanna talk about\Nthe three that I see most.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.25,0:01:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the first is that we could\Nfear being alone in public.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.92,0:01:32.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like many with social anxiety\Nor agoraphobia experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.28,0:01:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can worry that other\Npeople are talking about us,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.00,0:01:37.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that we won't be able\Nto get out of there quickly
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.14,0:01:39.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we feel a panic attack coming on.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.52,0:01:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whatever the trigger or worry,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.30,0:01:45.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having someone supportive\Nwith us can offer some relief.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.28,0:01:47.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's why I'm always\Ntalking about the importance
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.25,0:01:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of having a support system in person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.89,0:01:52.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that you can have them\Nwith you at a very stressful
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.35,0:01:55.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or maybe even any social event.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.67,0:01:59.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the second is that we could\Nbe too scared to live alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.36,0:02:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I find this to be most\Ncommon when we have experienced
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.29,0:02:07.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,abuse or violence, or\Nhad parents who were way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.01,0:02:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,too involved in our lives growing up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.98,0:02:13.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hello diffused boundaries,\NAKA no boundaries at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.12,0:02:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that kind of upbringing\Ncan stifle our ability
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.74,0:02:18.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to feel secure, be on are own,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.75,0:02:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stand up for, and if\Nneeded, protect ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.60,0:02:23.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know it can seem odd
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.92,0:02:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that two totally different situations
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.79,0:02:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can lead to this similar response,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.94,0:02:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's really because both instances
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.80,0:02:33.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take away our confidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.41,0:02:37.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Either by hurting us,\Nor being overbearing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.32,0:02:40.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We never get a chance to\Nreally figure out who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.27,0:02:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without someone else being involved in it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.30,0:02:45.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does that make sense?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.34,0:02:47.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the third, and the one variation
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.22,0:02:50.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanna really dig into, is the fear
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.04,0:02:52.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of not being in a romantic relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.93,0:02:55.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've all known these\Npeople or been these people,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.89,0:02:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who jump from one relationship to another,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.53,0:03:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without much of a break in between.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.75,0:03:04.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we usually do this\Nfor one of two reasons.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.67,0:03:08.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number one, we may not know who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.16,0:03:11.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without someone else's influence.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.01,0:03:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This can occur because of\Naddiction in the family,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.76,0:03:16.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if you didn't\Nknow addiction causes
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.11,0:03:18.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everyone else in the\Nfamily to dance around
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.06,0:03:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the person with the problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.53,0:03:21.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we can spend our whole lives
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.29,0:03:23.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,letting someone else's actions dictate
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.67,0:03:25.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we do or don't do.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.97,0:03:28.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In therapy, we call this co-dependence.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.51,0:03:31.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I have a whole video about\Nthat if you wanna learn more.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.86,0:03:34.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this can also occur if\Nwe have someone in our family
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.43,0:03:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who requires a lot of attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.36,0:03:39.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe we had a sibling\Nthat required extra care.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.03,0:03:41.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or a parent who didn't act like a parent,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.71,0:03:43.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and treated us like a friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.60,0:03:46.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or I've called this before,\Nlike being the parentified child
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.23,0:03:47.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're responsible for your siblings
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.79,0:03:48.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and stuff like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.62,0:03:50.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yes, I have a video about that too.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.25,0:03:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can watch that if you're curious.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.96,0:03:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But whatever it is, we have\Nnever been given the chance
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.58,0:03:58.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to figure out who we are, or what we want
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.07,0:04:00.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without having someone\Nelse weigh in on it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.70,0:04:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the second reason\Nis that we may not like
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.56,0:04:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being alone with ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.28,0:04:09.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that would mean that\Nwe have to recognize or address
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.05,0:04:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's really going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.31,0:04:13.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can use relationships\Nas a way to distract
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.53,0:04:15.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from working on ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.29,0:04:17.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which really just means\Nthat our relationships
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.15,0:04:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,aren't ever built on a solid foundation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.10,0:04:22.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's why we hear that\Nphrase all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.34,0:04:25.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can't love someone else if\Nyou don't love yourself first.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.15,0:04:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's not as cut and dried as that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.74,0:04:30.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there is a lot of\Ntruth to that statement
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.50,0:04:34.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we can't find someone\Nwho is good and healthy for us
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.23,0:04:38.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we don't know what that\Nlooks and feels like, you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.21,0:04:39.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I don't want you to judge yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.73,0:04:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of this or think\Nthat makes you a bad person,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.28,0:04:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or a bad partner or anything like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.51,0:04:46.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just something to be aware of,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.55,0:04:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because once we know it's happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.96,0:04:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can overcome it and\Ngo on to build healthy
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.81,0:04:54.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and happy relationships.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.41,0:04:55.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Trust me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.34,0:04:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So without further ado, let's get into
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.97,0:05:00.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how we can work through this.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.09,0:05:03.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the obvious first step\Nis to get into therapy,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.42,0:05:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and start figuring out
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.56,0:05:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what triggers your fear of being alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.86,0:05:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it your parents were\Ntoo involved in your life?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.92,0:05:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or perhaps you were abused?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.72,0:05:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you had to be the\Nadult in your household
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.94,0:05:17.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from a very young age.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.80,0:05:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you aren't sure what\Ncaused it, or just the thought
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.40,0:05:22.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of trying to figure it\Nout feels overwhelming,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.66,0:05:25.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe consider what role you played
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.06,0:05:27.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your family growing up.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.17,0:05:30.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That can sometimes help\Nyou see patterns or issues
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.09,0:05:32.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that maybe you wouldn't\Nhave noticed otherwise.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.59,0:05:35.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you are in therapy, already,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.64,0:05:38.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can let them know that\Nyou're trying to figure this out.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.68,0:05:40.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They may have some clever\Nquestions they can ask
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.78,0:05:42.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help you see things more clearly.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.86,0:05:45.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once we know what triggers\Nit, therapy can help us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.48,0:05:48.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,find ways to heal or overcome it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.89,0:05:51.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could be through\Nreparenting yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.54,0:05:53.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,processing the abuse you sustained,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.92,0:05:56.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or building up your self confidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.57,0:05:59.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we have to know what caused it first.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.76,0:06:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my next tip, and it kinda connects
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.29,0:06:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with my first one is to\Nstart noticing your triggers.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.66,0:06:06.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are there certain times\Nyou wanna reach out
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.37,0:06:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to that old boyfriend or girlfriend?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.49,0:06:10.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Specific situations that\Ncause you to get online
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.89,0:06:14.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to flirt or go out with the\Ngoal of meeting someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.15,0:06:16.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The more we know about our triggers,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.39,0:06:18.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the better we will get to know ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.80,0:06:22.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know that sounds\Nodd, but if we aren't able
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.01,0:06:24.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to pinpoint what it is that's causing us
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.01,0:06:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to hate being alone, tracking\Nwhat triggers the impulse
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.49,0:06:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can lead us right to it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.39,0:06:30.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I just have to insert this here
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.94,0:06:34.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it really needs to be said.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.05,0:06:37.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But who said being in\Na romantic relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.05,0:06:39.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is in any way better?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.36,0:06:41.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who said being single is bad?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.67,0:06:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because those are complete lies.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.63,0:06:46.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So just notice the\Nstories you tell yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.94,0:06:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about being alone, or with someone.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.54,0:06:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And remember, that only\Nyou can give yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.94,0:06:54.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the love you need and deserve.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.93,0:06:58.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone else in your\Nlife can only add to that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.29,0:06:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But they won't be able to do that
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.50,0:07:02.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we don't know how\Nto do it for ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.74,0:07:04.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I just get annoyed\Nof people feeling like
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.55,0:07:07.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should be married by now, or\Nbe in a serious relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.79,0:07:09.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or have kids, or whatever.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.31,0:07:12.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who said there's a timeframe on happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.17,0:07:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would you really be\Nhappier if you had settled
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.60,0:07:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a relationship that isn't\Nwhat you really want or need?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.88,0:07:19.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Probably not.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.57,0:07:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's so much better to wait\Nuntil you feel good about you
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.23,0:07:25.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and are able to find\Nsomeone who's deserving
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.35,0:07:27.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of all you have to offer.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.17,0:07:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay back into the tips,\NI just had to add that in.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.08,0:07:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay third, build up a\Nnon-romantic support system.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.76,0:07:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since we may have a habit of hiding away
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.34,0:07:40.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our romantic relationship,\Nfocus most of your energy
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.31,0:07:42.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on building up your other supports.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.80,0:07:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This could be online or in person,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.56,0:07:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just as long as it's\Nplatonic and supportive
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.27,0:07:50.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to both people involved.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.31,0:07:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And just try to be aware\Nof whether you're treating
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.74,0:07:54.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your friends like they\Nare your romantic partner
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.93,0:07:57.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like expecting them to hang\Nout with you all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.18,0:07:58.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or return texts right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.91,0:08:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could be hard for us\Nto have healthy boundaries
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.26,0:08:02.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in any relationship at this point.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.91,0:08:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So just be aware of this, and do your best
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.52,0:08:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be okay with your friends\Nhaving other friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.30,0:08:09.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'cause that's normal.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.68,0:08:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And having their own life\Nbecause they can still
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.18,0:08:14.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make time for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.32,0:08:16.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They just have time for\Nother things as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.41,0:08:18.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's really healthy.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.09,0:08:22.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my final tip, spend some\Ntime getting to know yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.57,0:08:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we have always been in\Na romantic relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.04,0:08:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or letting others decide things for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.50,0:08:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we may not know who we are or\Nwhat we like or don't like.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.24,0:08:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you could start about\Njournaling about the goals you have
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.15,0:08:37.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or things that you like and don't like.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.57,0:08:39.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Going for walks by yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.48,0:08:41.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or even taking yourself out for dinner.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.86,0:08:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know, imagine that.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.67,0:08:45.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that one actually used to\Nbe one of my favorite things
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.28,0:08:48.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you know, it can be so freeing\Nand just feel really nice,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.49,0:08:49.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and give it a try.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.80,0:08:52.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can also track\Nyour feelings each day.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.29,0:08:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, use a feelings\Nchart and try to circle
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.68,0:08:57.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three to five that you felt that day.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.11,0:08:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or pick a few things\Nout that you wanna try.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.99,0:09:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like learning a new instrument, or joining
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.33,0:09:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an adult sports team.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.12,0:09:06.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See what you like and do\Nyour best to try something
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.61,0:09:08.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you haven't thought of before.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.64,0:09:11.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know many people who's\Nparents are overbearing
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.17,0:09:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or abusive, push their own\Nbeliefs on to their children.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.51,0:09:16.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So even if you've been\Ntold your whole life
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.73,0:09:19.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you aren't creative\Nor you aren't athletic.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.46,0:09:21.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Know that you most definitely could be.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.85,0:09:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just never were given\Nthe chance to try it out.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.92,0:09:27.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hope you found that\Ninsightful and helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.43,0:09:29.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's so common to hate being alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.73,0:09:31.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there are things we can do to ensure
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.68,0:09:33.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we don't jump into relationships
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.62,0:09:36.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just to fill a void from our past.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.22,0:09:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as always, was there\Nanything you felt I left out?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.50,0:09:41.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you think there are other reasons
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.01,0:09:42.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we can hate being alone?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.25,0:09:44.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me know in the comments down below.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.08,0:09:46.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I will see you next time, bye!
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Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.43,0:09:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(bell dings)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.27,0:09:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(pleasant instrumental music)