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Mizaan- Javed Ahmad Ghamidi

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The Social Shariah,
Part- 46

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All praise is due to Almighty Allah,
And may the peace and blessings of

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Almighty Allah be upon his trustworthy
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh),

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I seek refuge with Allah from the
accursed Satan,

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In the name of Allah,
most gracious and merciful.

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Ladies and Gentlemen, In 'Mizaan', Part 2,
we are discussing Social Shariah.

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This is the second part
of this series.

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This matter is clear from every 
aspect that,

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the Shariah of Islam has established
marriage as the foundation of society.

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As a result of this, the most significant,
valuable and divine relationship on earth

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is the relationship of parents.

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How we should behave with our parents,
ethically speaking,

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has already been discussed in the chapter
on morality.

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Here, certain legal aspects of this will 
be understood.

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I have made the 14th and 15th verse of
Surah Luqmaan as the introduction

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to this topic. Surah Luqmaan is
the Quran's 31st Surah.

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Wa wassainal insaana bi waalidaihi 
hamalat hu ummuhoo wahnan ‘alaa

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wahninw wa fisaaluhoo fee ‘aamaini 
anishkur lee wa liwaalidaika

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ilaiyal maseer Wa in jaahadaaka ‘alaaa an
tushrika bee maa laisa laka bihee ‘ilmun

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falaa tuti’humaa wa saahib humaa 
fid dunyaa ma’roofanw

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wattabi’ sabeela man anaaba ilayy; 
summa ilaiya marji’ukum fa unabbi’ukum

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bimaa kuntum ta’maloon.

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It has been translated as:

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And We enjoined man to show 
kindness to his parents,

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with much pain his mother bears him 
and he is not weaned before

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he is two years of age. We advised him,
be grateful to Me and to your parents.

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To Me shall all things return.
But if they press you to serve besides Me,

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that of which you have no knowledge, 
do not obey them.

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Remain kind to them in this world, 
and turn to Me with all devotion.

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To Me you shall all return, and I will 
declare to you everything you have done.

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I have written that all divine 
revelations instruct man to show kindness

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to their parents.
i.e., In Islam, being kind to parents

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has always been the utmost standard 
of ethical behavior.

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No one should be worshiped besides Allah,

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and parents should be treated with
kindness.

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These are the most important commands
in the religion of Islam.

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Therefore, all messengers have
instructed the same.

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All divine scriptures have also 
emphasized it.

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All divine scriptures instruct man to 
show kindness to the parents.

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Various verses of the Qur’ān also 
direct the believers,

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to be kind to their parents.

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In the 23rd and 24th verse of the
Surah Bani Israel,

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the 8th verse of 
Surah Ankabut,

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and the 15th verse of Surah Ahqaf,
this topic is stated in these verses

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by using the same terms 
approximately speaking.

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The verse which i have used as the
introduction to the topic of

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directives relating to parents,
that verse is the 14th and

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15th verse of Surah Luqman.

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These verses have also more or less
emphasized the same thing in similar words

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The above quoted verses however 
specifically determine the limits of

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good behavior with the parents.

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i.e., as long as the ethical instruction
was in consideration.

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a man was enjoined
to show kindness to his parents,

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show kindness to your parents,

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and in order to show kindness,

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a man is made aware of what is the role
of parents in his upbringing,

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what hardships they go through.
And as a child, if you indeed have some

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humanity, what should be your 
behavior towards your parents.

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With respect to ethics,

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like I said, this topic has been discussed
in Surah Bani Israil, Surah Ankabut

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and Surah Ahqaf.

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All of these verses, from an ethical 
point of view, have stated the importance

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of this, and narrate Almighty Allah's 
instructions, warn people,

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and raise awareness among them.

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And the importance of showing
kindness,

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to parents which is present in 
human nature has been mentioned ,

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and we are also being reminded of it.

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In the verses of Surah luqman,
some limitations have been appointed,

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and this is the difference on the 
basis of which I have selected these

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verses for this discussion.

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i.e., in case of morality,

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only principles will be under discussion,
and in case of laws, the limitations,

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warnings, and terms and conditions
are discussed.

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This difference should be considered

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i.e., one being a law which can be passed
on state level,

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that has its own limitations,

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but when Almighty Allah states that

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something is shariah and the other
is hikmah.

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I have mentioned it earlier and explained 
with evidences that the whole content

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of Islam, everything included in this 
religion has been divided into two parts,

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Hikmah which means faith and virtues,
that is the true religion,

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and Al-Kitaab i.e., upon which laws 
are based.

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So, what is the thing that 
sets law apart?

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The answer is that law is 
based on ethical values but

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what law does is that it confines it.

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Let's understand this by using 
an example.

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The Quran has mentioned it in many 
instances that adultery is a great sin.

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People are told 'la taqrabuz-zina',
do not even go close to it.

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This is a moral instruction,
a fundamental principle,

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it is the foundation that withstands 
the religion of Islam.

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But when Quran states in Surah Nur 
that the sinner will be punished

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for his acts in a certain way,
or be dealt with in a particular manner,

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it will be a part of the law or shariah.

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I have contemplated this difference
in the entire book,

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that what things should
be discussed under the rubric of ethics,

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and they have been discussed under
the same.

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Therefore, showing kindness to parents
has also been discussed,

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in terms of moral values in that part.

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Here, some of its limitations are 
discussed,

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and that is the reason i haven't 
spoken about it under that topic,

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I have included it here,

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i.e., in the series of law, which is in
Al-Kitaab.

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This has been mentioned in the second
part of Mizaan, which is social shariah,

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for which I was giving this 
explanation.

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The above quoted verses however 
specifically determine the limits of

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good behavior with the parents.

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The details of this directive as stated 
in these verses are:

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i.e., the verses mentioned above from
Surah Luqman, the 14th and 15th verse,

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their translation has already 
been mentioned,

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the limitations which has been fixed
in those verses,

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now I'm going to discuss them 
in the manner of laws.

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The details of this directive as stated 
in these verses are:

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1. It is the parents who bring into 
existence a new life and

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become the means to nourish it.

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It is an indisputable fact.

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No doubt, the care and affection 
of the father is quite a lot,

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however the hardships a mother 
encounters in bringing up the child

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starting from her pregnancy, 
to childbirth and then breast-feeding

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the child are unmatched and 
no child can repay her

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for this great service.

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i.e., in these three stages,

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from pregnancy to childbirth,

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a mother braves through a life & death
kind of a situation,

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and then for two or more years she 
breast feeds the child,

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and even after that she plays a 
significant role in nurturing the child.

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It is the parents who bring into 
existence a new life and

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become the means to nourish it. 
No doubt, the care and affection

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of the father is quite a lot, 
however the hardships a mother encounters

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in bringing up the child starting from her
pregnancy, to childbirth and

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then breast-feeding the child are
unmatched and no child can repay her

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for this great service.

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If a person is courteous, and he hasn't
contaminated his natural disposition,

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he has not changed for the worse,

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he has not detached himself in the pride
of adolescence from the past or present,

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then he would never suggest something
different from what has been advised.

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On these very grounds, the Prophet (pbuh)
has regarded the right of the mother

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as three times that of the father.

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In the narrations of Sahih Al-Bukhari
and Sahih Muslim,

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Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) answered a 
question in such a way,

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that it was made clear that the rights
of the mother far surpass,

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the rights of the father.

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Consequently, the Almighty exhorts man 
to be the most grateful to his parents

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after his Lord.

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i.e., no doubt you have to be partial
towards your mother,

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however both of them
should be given their due.

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The care and affection of the father 
is no less, his role is also significant

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in a child's life.

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He does everything
to support his family financially,

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sometimes even starve himself
to provide resources for his children.

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Consequently, the Almighty exhorts man 
to be the most grateful to his parents

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after his Lord.

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This gratitude must not be expressed
merely by the tongue.

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Its essential corollary is that it should 
manifest in good behavior towards them.

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Listen to each and every word of this 
with attention.

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Its essential corollary i.e., the Quran
presented this as the first preposition,

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it begins its argument from here,

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that the most important virtue among
people is gratitude.

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There is a narrative which states
'man lam yash kurunnasa lam yash kurullah'

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i.e., if a person is ungrateful to
to other people who have been kind to him

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in this world, he won't ever be grateful 
to Allah as well.

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It is known that, philosophically,
the foundation of the entire religion

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is based upon the emotion of gratitude.

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i.e., when i look at myself, and when I 
observe the surrounding world,

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and acknowledge the presence of my Lord,

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gain knowledge about Him,

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and get introduced to Him as 
the true benefactor,

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for this the feeling of gratitude 
is manifested in me and,

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this same feeling of gratitude should be
towards your parents as instructed

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by the Quran.

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However, everyone should
understand, this does not mean that,

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you just say sometimes that i am grateful
to my parents,

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it should not be expressed merely in
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one should act upon it and behave
in a certain manner.

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This gratitude must not be expressed 
merely by the tongue.

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Its essential corollary is that it should
manifest in good behavior towards them.

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He should respect them and 
never become fed up of them.

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He must not utter a single word
of disrespect to them.

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Instead, he should be soft, sympathetic, 
loving and obedient to them.

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i.e., even if the parent's behavior is bad
towards the child,

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or the parent is being unjust to
the child,

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the child should be soft, sympathetic,
and obedient to them.

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He should listen to them and

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be caring and affectionate to them 
in the tenderness of old age.

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The parents need their children the most
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into the tenderness of old age.

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An infirmity manifests in them that makes
them act like children.

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So during that time, it is important to 
take good care of them,

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spend some time with them,
be affectionate to them,

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and take their hard work and pains
into consideration.

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It has been stated in the 
Surah Bani Israil:

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Wa qadaa Rabbuka allaa ta'budooo 
illaaa iyyaahu wa bilwaalidaini ihsaanaa

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immaa yablughanna 'indakal kibara 
ahaduhumaaa aw kilaahumaa falaa

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taqul lahumaaa uffinw wa laa tanharhumaa 
wa qullahumaa qawlan kareemaa

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Wakhfid lahumaa janaahaz zulli 
minar rahmati wa qur Rabbir hamhumaa

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wa qur Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa 
rabbayaanee sagheera

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Rabbukum a'lamu bimaa fee nufoosikum;
in takoonoo saaliheena fa innahoo

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kaana lil awwaabeena Ghafoooraa.

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This is from the 17th Surah, Bani Israil,
and above quoted verses are the

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23rd, 24th and 25th verse of this surah.

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And your Lord has enjoined you to 
worship none but Him,

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i.e., when only He is the one true God,

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then only he should be worshipped and
served.

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And your Lord has enjoined you to 
worship none but Him, and

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to show great kindness to your parents.
If either or both of them in your presence

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i.e., the reason why I mentioned that we
should show great kindness,

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is because of how the Quran has 
composed this verse.

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i.e., the Quran has concealed the verb, 
but kept the noun.

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Instead of Ahsinu bil waledainy ihsaana,
wa bil walidainy ihsaana is there.

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The people who know the arabic language,
will understand,

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that there is an element of hyperbole in 
this verse.

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And your Lord has enjoined you 
to worship none but Him, and

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to show great kindness to your parents.
If either or both of them attain old age

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in your presence, 
show them no sign of impatience.

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This sentence in arabic that do not show
a sign of impatience to your parents,

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this means that if a parent says something
to his son, the son will shrug and

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respond rudely.

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The Quran instructs that things should 
never reach this point,

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one should not behave like this,

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the behaviour towards your parents should
be loving, affectionate, kind,

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and sympathetic.

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If either or both of them attain old age 
in your presence,

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show them no sign of impatience, 
nor rebuke them.

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Why is this thing being said and 
why is it that only the rights of parents

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are being discussed with respect to 
this law and not the children.

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If you give it some thought 
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the parents have such extraordinary
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they do not need to be instructed 
through religious texts.

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Almighty Allah's method is such, that in
instances where things are clear,

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and instincts are intensely strong,

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the possibility of violating a law 
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it is left to the person's wisdom and
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i.e., It is obvious that 
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nurture them, guide and 
educate them,

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and they will do anything that's
in their control.

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Generally, these things are expected.

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i.e., children have passions, 
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they have their
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and when parents have also fallen
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they might not make sense sometimes,

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it is possible that sometimes 
they might be unjust to their children,

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it is also possible that sometimes 
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i.e., there are thousands of problems
that come into consideration,

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for this very reason, this chapter
is being discussed in Social Shariah,

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because there is a possibility 
of contravention here,

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here instincts are not so strong
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This becomes a matter of rationale and
wisdom,

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So there is a possibility that 
something might go severely wrong.

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So know the rights of your parents, 
show kindness to your parents,

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and it's limitations are being stated,
and it is being explained in detail,

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so that a child can understand 
when his parents become old,

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what kind of situations he would encounter
during which he should show kind, loving,

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and sympathetic behavior towards them.

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If either or both of them attain old age 
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show them no sign of impatience, 
nor rebuke them,

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but speak to them kind words.

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Treat them with humility and tenderness.

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i.e., just like we have a connection of 
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and a connection of humility 
with Allah,

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the same kind of humility should be
shown to parents as well.

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We should bow with humility in front 
of our parents.

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i.e., when a person attains puberty,
they start to behave arrogantly.

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This should not happen while dealing
with parents.

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But speak to them kind words.

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Treat them with humility and tenderness 
and say,

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'Lord, be merciful to them the way they
nursed me when I was an infant.'

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This is a very special and 
gracious prayer.

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There is a teaching concealed 
in this prayer.

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It reminds a person of the rights of his
parents that are incumbent upon him,

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and the old age of his parents reminds him
of his childhood.

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This method of reminding and 
giving an advice is very profound.

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The dua is: 'Lord, be merciful to them the
way they nursed me when I was an infant.'

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i.e., clearly when parents will be 
in the tenderness of old age,

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they might sometimes do something
that will antagonize their child,

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it is possible that the child might 
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or might react to their unjustness
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So, the child is being reminded about
how he behaved in his childhood,

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i.e., your parents took care of you
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you were stubborn and sometimes did not
obey your parents, you were weak,

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you used to wake up your parents 
when they were tired and asleep.

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In order to guide, educate and 
nurture you, your parents have put their

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own lives at risk.

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So, for this very reason, you 
should also pray,

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that like they nurtured you during
your childhood,

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Allah should also look favourably upon
them.

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'Lord, be merciful to them the way they 
nursed me when I was an infant.'

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Your Lord best knows what is in 
your hearts.

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If you remain obedient, He will forgive 
those who turn to Him.

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In this profound and pleasing style,

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which the Quran has used to
draw our attention,

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with respect to our behavior towards the
parents.

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This was the first directive.

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Now, the second one is:

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In spite of the status that Islam 
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i.e., first the subject has been
introduced,

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and we are being reminded of the favour
our parents do us.

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Hence, observe the verse which we have
used as the introduction to this chapter.

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Wa wassainal insaana bi waalidaihi 
hamalat hu ummuhoo wahnan 'alaa wahninw

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wa fisaaluhoo fee 'aamaini.

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i.e., first the beneficence of our parents
has been emphasised,

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Its your mother who has kept you in her 
womb for a period of nine months,

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and then went through a lot of trouble
while breastfeeding you for two years,

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In spite of the status that Islam 
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they do not have the right,

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i.e., first their status was fixed,

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then the same was stated,

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the ethical values were made clear,

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that is the beauty of the 
entire society,

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and people were instructed how 
they should treat their parents

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and what should be their behavior
towards them.

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After stating the above,
now what is being said is that,

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In spite of the status that Islam 
confers upon parents,

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i.e., this is the favour of our parents,

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one should be grateful to them for this,

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one should always pray for them,

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one should never show disobedience, 
no matter how insignificant,

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nor rebuke them,
and never disrespect them in any way.

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It is their right.

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But even after having such a status,
in spite of that..

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In spite of the status that Islam 
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they do not have the right to force 
their children to baselessly associate

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someone with the Almighty.

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Here, it is clear that in this verse 
polytheism is being mentioned,

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that is because the people who are being
addressed,

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this issue is the bone of contention
among them.

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But as a result this principle emanates,

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that the rights of Allah, take precedence 
over the rights of the parents.

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i.e., the first and foremost right that
should be fulfilled is the right of Allah.

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Therefore, if someone is obligated to do
something which deals with Allah

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and his religion,

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his parents can't
force him to show disobedience to Allah.

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Keeping their rights aside, and their
love,

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and showing hospitality towards them, 
and also gratitude towards them,

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but when Allah's rights come into picture,
it is the highest of all.

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On what basis have the rights
of the parents been established?

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They has been established because they
brought us into this world,

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they nurtured us, they guided and 
educated us, they took good care of us

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when we were weak.

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Likewise, the right of Allah,

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He is the reason of the existence of this 
entire universe, He gave a life to us,

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gave us the capability of understanding,

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and promised that an eternal life is
awaiting us.

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He filled this world with all sorts and
kinds of blessings and favors.

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Count them if you can, a verse in the 
Quran states,

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Wain tauddoo niaamata Allahi la tuhsooha,

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which means, You cannot count 
the favors of Allah,

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So the one true benefactor should take 
precedence over everything else.

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We should to be grateful to Him most of
all.

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Consequently, the Quran has made this 
thing clear that in case of the parents,

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Allah instructs you about the rights 
of your parents,

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how you should treat your parents,
what should be your behavior towards them.

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But this does not mean that
if your parents force you to baselessly

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associate someone with Almighty Allah,

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or do not let you fulfil
the rights of Allah,

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No, the parents do not have these rights.

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The Prophet (pbuh) has said that 
showing disobedience to parents

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is the greatest sin after polytheism.

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The Prophet (pbuh) has stated this 
and,

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these are the narratives from 
Sahih Al- Bukhari and Sahih Muslim,

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their reference is mentioned in the
footnotes below.

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However, the above quoted verses 
of Surah Luqman say that

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the children should openly disobey 
their parents with regard to polytheism

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and should follow the way of those 
who follow Allah.

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i.e., your exemplar, your leader,
your mentor, your teacher,

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should be only those people 
who follow and obey Almighty Allah,

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and call you towards Him.

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Parents are worthy of showing kindness,
they deserve to be treated with kindness,

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and this right of theirs' should 
be fulfilled.

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But they do not have the right to take 
place of a cleric or a guide.

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They should not be the one to say
that,

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you can or cannot fulfill 
the rights of Allah.

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When you know Allah's rights,

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they would be given precedence over
everything else.

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And showing kindness to parents
is also one of Allah's rights.

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He has given this as a directive,

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and it has been mentioned in 
various verses in the Quran.

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Prophet (pbuh) has said that showing 
disobedience to parents

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is the greatest sin after polytheism.
However, the above quoted verses of

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Surah Luqman say that the children 
should openly disobey their parents

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with regard to polytheism and should 
follow the way of those who follow God,

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i.e., the prophets, the righteous, 
those scholars who have the

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true knowledge of religion,
they should tell people about

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Allah's rights, they should tell people
about Allah's command,

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they should inform people about the
religion, these people should be followed.

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Any calls to evade the Almighty must not 
receive any positive response

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even if it is the parents who are 
giving the call.

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Any calls to evade the Almighty,
i.e., even if parents who have been

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given such a status, ask you to leave 
the way of Allah,

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and show disobedience to Him,

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they must not receive any 
positive response.

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Laa ta'ata fil maasiah innamal
ta'ata fil ma'aruuf.

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No one can be obeyed if he calls to
disobey the Almighty,

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one can only obey what is virtuous.

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It is a hadith mentioned in 
Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim.

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It's reference has also been mentioned 
in the footnotes.

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The same principle has been mentioned
in this,

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i.e., in the way of Allah's disobedience,
neither can the parents be obeyed,

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nor a leader, 
or head of the society,

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or the scholars, 
or preachers,

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or guides.

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Within the circle of Allah's obedience, 
people will be respected, and honoured,

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and listened to.

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The Prophet (pbuh) has stated this 
on the same basis.

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Consequently, all other directives of the 
Almighty Allah shall also be considered

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subservient to this directive, and 
one cannot disobey these directives

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if the parents ask them to do so.

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i.e., the Prophet (pbuh) has also, 
granted that polytheism was mentioned,

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but it was given a form of a principle, 
and that is correct,

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that is because the circumstances against 
which this has been stated,

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that makes it clear, that the actual thing
to take into consideration is,

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that where Allah's right is in question,

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and the demands of His worship
are at stake,

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and the demands of His obedience are at
stake,

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nothing else will matter in such 
circumstances.

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The third limitation:
Even if the parents force their children

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to commit a sin as heinous as polytheism,

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i.e., if the parents are old, or there are
differences of opinion over something,

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one being that they are instructing to 
indulge in polytheism,

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which is the greatest sin of all, 
they are supporting polytheism.

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They want their children 
to follow this path.

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These were the circumstances during
that era.

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This happens nowadays as well.

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i.e., the parents have undertaken certain 
religious things with respect to a

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particular context and they think of it
as a part of religion

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and then want their children to 
follow the same.

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Even if the parents force their children 
to commit a sin as heinous as polytheism,

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they must always be treated 
in a befitting manner.

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i.e., on one hand it has been stated 
that the right of the parents

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is very significant, but they do not
have any right when it comes to

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disobeying Almighty Allah.

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And on the other hand, it has been
instructed that

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even if the parents are teaching their 
children to disobey Allah,

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making them follow the path of polytheism,
and are persistent about it,

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in spite of all these things,
they must always be treated with kindness.

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Their needs should be met
met as far as possible and

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a prayer of guidance be continued
to be made for them.

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This is what the words 
'Wa saahib humma fiddunya ma'aruufa'

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(remain kind to them in this world)
of the verse quoted above entail.

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i.e., in the Quran, where it has been 
mentioned that do not obey your parents

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when they force you to follow polytheism,
do not obey them when they tell you to

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disobey Almighty Allah, with this it has 
also been mentioned that,

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with respect to worldly affairs,
? be affectionate and kind to them.

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The children may have a right to disobey 
their parents if they insist upon

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upon disobedience to the directives
of religion but they must still

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not be slack or indifferent in any way 
to their duty towards their parents.

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i.e., even if the parents are forcing 
their child to disobey Allah,

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and forcing him to commit a sin 
which is the greatest of all,

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he must still show kindness 
to his parents.

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The last part of the verses 
caution both the child and the parents,

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The last part of the verses caution both 
the child and the parents,

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one day he has to return to the Almighty 
to give an account of his deeds.

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This is Quran's special approach,

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i.e., you can observe that it first stated

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what your parents do to nurture you,
then it stated that consequently it is

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necessary to be grateful to them,
then it instructed what should be the

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behavior towards the parents for same,
determined certain limits of good behavior

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and then it warned them that,
'summa ilayyi marjiukum

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fa unabbiukum bimaa kuntum ta'amaluun.
This is the last part of the verse.

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The last part of the verse caution
a person that one day

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he has to return to the Almighty 
to give an account of his deeds.

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This is usually how Quran warns people.

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One day we have to return to our Lord,

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a day has been ascertained for us
when we will have to answer,

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Whenever He commands to do something,
or whenever he guides us,

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He always draws our attention 
to this fundamental fact,

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this is the base of the invitation to
Islam.

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i.e., the hereafter, the day when we
will have to give an account of our deeds,

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the day when we will meet our Lord,
in preparation of this.

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The last part of the verses caution 
a person that one day

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he has to return to the Almighty 
to give an account of his deeds,

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Summa ilayyi marjiukum fa unabbiukum 
bimaa kuntum ta'amaluun.

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While commenting upon this part of the
verse, Imam Amin Ahsan Islahi writes,

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this addresses,

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i.e., the verse mentioned above, 
summa ilayyi marjiukumm,

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one has to return to Almighty Allah,

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This part of the verse addresses 
both the parents and the children

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and carries both a warning and 
an assurance.

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It carries both the aspects,
a warning and an assurance.

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The implication is that one day,

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each person will have to return
to the Almighty.

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Whatever he would have done
would be brought before him.

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A believer should keep this in mind
while living his life.

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i.e., My deeds are being compiled,

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each and everything is being put on
record,

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ma yalfizu min qawlin illa ladayhi
raqeebun ateed,

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Man does not utter any word except that

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with him is an observer prepared 
to record.

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His deeds, his intentions, everything 
will be brought before him on that day,

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Until a person does not comprehend the
enormity of this fact,

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he cannot truty follow through on the laws
of shariah,

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nor can he fulfill the objectives of this
system.

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Whatever he would have done 
would be brought before him.

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If some parents had violated the rights 
given to them regarding their children

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by making them deviate from 
the path of the Almighty,

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they will have to face punishment 
for this attitude and

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if children duly recognized the rights
of the Almighty together with those

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of their parents as well as remaining
steadfast in following the obligations

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these rights entail, they will be 
rewarded for their perseverance.

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I say this saying of mine, and I seek
forgiveness from Allah for me and for you.