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(Asking question in foreign language)

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If one of the basis[br]of the Buddhist religion,

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is love for Mother Nature.

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Why isn't this also[br]equally true of romantic love

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between two people

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and their demonstration[br]of love for each other.

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Can someone repeat?

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Seems to be an interesting question.

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(Laughter)

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She asks if Buddhism[br]supports love for Mother Nature,

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why doesn't it also support [br]romantic love between two people

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and demonstrations of affection[br]between two people.

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The Buddha is a teacher of love,[br]true love.

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Love for Mother Earth,[br]should be true love.

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And if it is true love[br]it can bring a lot of happiness

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to you and to Mother Earth.

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And romantic love,[br]if it is true love,

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it can also bring a lot of happiness.

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But if it is not true love, [br]it will make you suffer,

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and make the other[br]suffer as well.

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In the teaching of the Buddha,

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true love needs four elements.

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First of all:[br]Maitri - loving-kindness

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that is the capacity to offer happiness.

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If you cannot offer happiness,[br]that is not true love.

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In romantic love,[br]

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if you are not able to help[br]the other person to be happy,

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that is not true love.

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So you should train yourself[br]in order to be able

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to offer happiness[br]

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to you and to him,[br]or to her.

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Without that, both will suffer.

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The second element of true love [br]is compassion.

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Compassion is the kind of energy [br]that can help remove suffering;

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that can help transform suffering[br]in you and in the other person.

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If you cannot transform [br]

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and take care of the suffering[br]in you and the other person

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that is not true love.

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That is why "Karuna",[br]the second element of true love,

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should be cultivated[br]by you and the other person.

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Romantic and not romantic,[br]that is not important.

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What is important is[br]whether it is true love,

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or not true love, right?

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The third element of true love

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is Joy.

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If by loving,

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you make the other person[br]cry all the time,

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and you cry all the time,

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That is not true love.[br](Laughter)

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Romantic or not romantic.

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True love is inclusiveness.

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You do not exclude,

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his suffering is your suffering,

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his happiness is your happiness,

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There is no individual suffering[br]and happiness anymore.

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In true love,

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there is the element[br]of inclusiveness, non-discrimination.

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There's no separation,[br]no barrier,

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Between you and the other person.

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In that spirit you cannot say,

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"That's your problem!"[br]No.

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Your problem is my problem

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My suffering is your suffering.

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So this is the fourth element[br]of true love.

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And if romantic love[br]has all these four elements,

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it can bring[br]a lot of happiness also.

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The Buddha did not say, never any[br]negative things about true love

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In romantic love[br]if you are successful.

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You will cultivate a lot of [br]loving-kindness and compassion.

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And very soon[br]your love will be all-embracing.

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The other person is no longer[br]the only object of your love.

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Because your love[br]will continue to grow.

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Your love will embrace[br]all of us!

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And happiness [br]will become limitless.

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That is the love[br]of the Buddha.

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That is the meaning[br]of the fourth element

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of true love:[br]Inclusiveness

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If it is true love,[br]it will continue to grow,

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and include more and more.[br]Not only humans...

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but also animals, vegetables,

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and minerals.

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And that is a great love.

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"Maha Karuna"[br]"Maha Maitri"

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And that is the love of the Buddha.

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