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So this group of roommates has cohabited for 21 days so far.
Because it takes a long time
to document their life authentically,
we haven't checked in on them for a while.
Have we forgotten what happened?
Let's recap what happened in week 6.
Binshen went to Carmon's coffee festival to help with odd jobs.
The two's interactions at the festival were like a teen drama.
That night Carmon brought Binshen some waffles.
Binshen replied with a "Thanks" on the blackboard.
So did he mean just "thanks" or, "I love you too"?
It's just a simple thank you.
"Thanks"
It feels like he just shut her down in one word.
The relationship --
He's slow to warm up.
As for our fast-to-warm-up friend, Tianqi,
Too warmed up. And one sided!
Would you like to be my girlfriend?
I feel like right now we wouldn't
be in the most stable position.
If I agreed to be with you right now, it might...
[panelist] He was rejected.
Great, let's see what new developments
will happen this week.
Let's stop talking about it.
Talking about your situation is getting us all down.
Binshen, how are you lately?
How's it going?
Is this like, you using me to cheer him up?
Not using you to cheer up,
just checking in on you, right?
That night we were grilling, you also had some
...romantic developments.
I knew you were going to bring it up.
Why not bring that up?
I think Carmon is pretty great. Yeah?
She's so forward with you.
I feel like
In that moment I was kind of at a loss
I didn't know what to do.
It's all your fault.
How is it my fault?
Just that you didn't have to
make that dare, or say whatever.
No, I just... that was the only thing I said.
That's pretty impressive honestly.
Nice, nice, nice, nice.
No, I just think that we, like, feel like just roommates still.
We're all just living together having a good time, I think.
We're not at that next step yet.
- And you? - Me?
There's nothing with me.
Didn't I just do the whole making amends ordeal with Yujie?
Getting intimate.
No, not getting intimate.
We're just regular friends right now.
We hang out sometimes.
Look at that guy.
He's nodding, he definitely likes Yujie.
What were you up to today?
My coffee festival.
Oh, and Binshen came by to help out.
He went with you?
Though he had something after so he left early.
To be honest, this was kind of my first time alone
One-on-one with him -- oh no, the second time.
And... I sensed that there does seem to be a little sense of
distance between us.
Maybe because of the age gap, I'm not really sure.
It just feels a bit...
It feels like I'm maybe quite a bit older than him.
I'm older, about like six years.
No...
No, why should that matter?
Age is just a number.
Age is not a big deal.
But sometimes with him, I can't parse out his intentions.
Is it possibly because I'm an older girl
I'm his senior and I'm a girl so he's trying to
help me out because he's a gentleman, or what?
Just like, helping a sister out?
It's hard for me to work out.
This is getting... they're getting really deep.
Yujie, just say it!
Honestly I think
it's not a big deal, right?
Don't overthink it.
Right?
Chu Mengna (NaNa) Student, 22 years old
Chen Xiaowei (Binshen) Professional gamer, 23 years old
Jin Yujie Model, 22 years old
Liu Keli (Curry) Entrepreneur, 29 years old
Wu Kawen (Carmon) Designer, 29 years old
Wang Tianqi Salesperson, 26 years old
Episode 7, Week 4 "How Do I Get Close to You?"
Here's a big one.
When does filming start?
I'm not sure, but he already gave me the script.
I skimmed it, it's just...
a little bland. - A little bland.
Maybe because his script isn't fully formed yet.
It's just that the whole premise...
because it starts off with Szechuan dialect--
Hey
You're home? I thought you were gone.
What're you guys eating?
There's more over there.
So you're saying it starts
with a general background and intro?
No, It just jumps straight into it.
The characters aren't fleshed out.
The general plot is about two guys fighting over a girl.
Right?
I'm done.
- So fast. - Can you guys help clean up later?
- You're not having more? - Nope.
[panelist] She's getting out. She doesn't want to be near him.
And she didn't say a word to him.
Water?
Thanks.
[panelist] He's actually taking initiative.
What're you up to?
Just skimming.
[panelist] He can't get the conversation going.
It's over.
So are you going... out today?
Or what?
I'm going out.
I should go back to practice.
Just now at breakfast,
you ate so fast, and then left.
Are you in a bad mood today?
I'm fine, just so so.
Not good, not bad.
Just normal.
[panelist] She seems mad.
- Correct. - Definitely.
I'm going up.
Ok.
Is she that mad?
- So mad? - Of course!
You drank my coffee and whatever
and then you went to breakfast with her behind my back?
And then went to help her with whatever?
Just get away from me then. Just go.
So she's returning his coffee?
Yes, give his coffee back.
I'm leaving this coffee.
[panelist] He got paid. - How much?
[panelist] 3,500 - His balance is a little over 4,000.
When are you getting here?
Sure, sure.
I'll take you out.
Work is...
pretty miserable.
No money, no girl. I can't catch a break.
Anyways
I didn't make much.
They docked two or three thousand.
[panelist] They docked that much?
- Hey. - Hey.
- Hi everyone! - Hi.
You're all busy?
Yeah, the work never ends. I brought it home to do.
I'm chilling. I'm lying here.
- Hi. - You're back?
- You're back! - Hey.
The vibe in this house is
kind of tense.
What's with him?
Don't know.
[panelist] In love and career,
two failed crops (an idiom).
So discouraging.
Get in here, hurry up.
So tired.
What's up with you?
I'll tell you, but don't tell the others.
What is it? So mysterious.
It's not. It's not a big deal. Just...
I got paid today.
And...
I feel like they basically docked my entire pay.
Well not all, but still it was a lot.
And wasn't Nana just saying how
right now both of us aren't
super stable, career-wise.
She wanted us to accomplish things
before we started dating.
So I just don't really want her to know about this.
That's why I said to not tell the others.
How do I put this?
I think when I first started my career I was like you.
When I came back to Shanghai from abroad,
I was the same way.
My behaviors then, including some of my work habits.
weren't too good.
You can try out following their rules.
And then when you find a job that suits you better
you'll feel like a fish in water.
So what happened today is
kind of a
bad thing, but it's also a good thing.
If you think of this money as the price you paid
to learn good work habits,
I think
it's not a bad price.
You're right.
If I can really change for the better
from this, it is good in the long run.
Just think of
this incident as
the push you needed.
I do really want
to improve myself.
And since you now have this girl you like,
you're also improving yourself for her.
So she can see it.
[panelist] Not bad, Teacher Liu. Not bad.
Yeah,
thanks.
Thanks for what?
[panelist] I feel like it's genuine gratitude.
Tianqi got a talking to.
Yes, he's good at taking it.
He's gotten to the point where he'll even listen to Teacher Liu.
He really did listen.
Because what Teacher Liu said
Is actually common sense advice.
- Yeah. - But if you haven't gotten to that point
you just can't process it.
You would just think it's bullshit.
But if you've been pushed to that point, you'll realize
that Teacher Liu is absolutely right. - Yes.
But there's a difference between
understanding and changing.
We have to watch his actions.
I think we have to talk about
Yujie ignoring Binshen.
Is it jealous anger?
Definitely.
She's so jealous.
She feels like, Binshen had coffee with her
and then he decided to be with Carmon.
"We just had one coffee together,"
"but they went to a whole coffee festival."
And Carmon said they hung out twice.
One-on-one, two times.
So Yujie didn't even feel like talking after that conversation.
Yeah.
She'd rather read Curry's shitty script.
These things happen a lot.
I think Binshen and Yujie,
From what I see, are both strong personalities.
So it's a tragedy of personalities.
We're also thinking, why can't Binshen just
express himself, or communicate?
But the people in his life only act this
way because of his personality.
Yujie tends to show her feelings.
Just storms off. I'm done.
- I'm walking out! - Can't even be in the same room.
If this were the other girl, she wouldn't act like this.
Before, we said Carmon was single because she's not assertive.
But actually that's not true. She's very capable of going for her crush.
Maybe she's suffered from own passivity one too many times.
- So now she's full steam ahead. - But Yujie
hasn't suffered like that before.
So she can throw a tantrum and make a scene.
Yes.
I think that girl will totally ignore him now.
- Yujie. - Really?
- Yujie? - Yeah.
Just one chance?
I think -- I believe she's through with him.
- Maybe. - She's through.
She's already seen through him. Seen his true colors.
- She's dropping him. - It was a lie all along.
- No, give him a chance. - Will she?
Let's see.
How are things over there?
I feel like you seem
kind of distracted lately.
There are some...
romantic issues.
Really frustrating.
What romantic issues?
Come on, let's gossip.
There's this girl
and whenever I look at her
I can just tell that
this other girl starts to
act really weird.
So all of it feels
off.
I can tell that they're both
- They care for you. - Yes, they've made it clear.
Then as a man, you should respond.
Have you responded? As of now?
No.
Really?
You weren't like this before.
- It's different! - How is it different?
When it comes to our work, or whatever,
I feel like I can be really decisive.
But with this kind of thing, like, interpersonal things,
I can't seem to get the hang of these relationship issues.
Just... what am I supposed to do exactly
to make everyone stop acting so
...like...
embarrassing, so awkward.
Well, what do you personally think?
Which one
do you like more?
The...
The one who came to my match.
Her name's Yujie,
I hang out with her more.
Then I feel like you can take initiative and respond to her.
With Yujie, you can ask her out to dinner.
And then how am I supposed to express my... thoughts to her?
No, you're making it way too complicated.
It's just friends having dinner. Isn't that normal?
Just have a meal and chat.
I think you're right.
I should...I think I should talk things out with both of them.
Clear the air and lay things out.
Hey
Weren't you going out?
- I'm back. - Oh, you're back.
Do you
Do you have plans tonight?
I'm not sure yet. I don't think so.
Then do you want to
grab a bite to eat
and walk around?
I'm not really hungry.
- [panelist] End of story. - You could just eat two bites.
Maybe you'll feel hungry when you see all the yummy food.
You shouldn't give up on great food just because you're not hungry.
Does that make sense?
That's kind of twisted logic.
The food is waiting for you to eat, or not to eat.
Like, you're deciding its fate. To eat? Or not to eat?
- If you're hungry you can eat. - Ok.
That makes a little sense.
Have you ever had beef stomach?
I've never had beef stomach.
This restaurant does beef stomach, I've visited
before, it's not bad. - Alright.
I'll have a bite. What if it's not good?
Not good? Then we'll go somewhere else.
[panelist] He can't open it, so awkward.
I can't open it.
Embarrassing.
I can do it.
How come you wanted to eat with me suddenly tonight?
I felt like, recently, hasn't something been
bothering you, maybe?
I feel like you've been off.
[panelist] Straight to the point.
I feel like you're intentionally
avoiding me or something.
I don't know if I'm imagining it.
Have I?
What makes you say that?
Because I feel like you're different from you were at first.
It's not as easy to get along.
Just that kind of feeling.
It's fine. It's nothing.
If there's anything, you can tell me.
- He still wants her to say it. - Right.
- Right? - Why doesn't he just say it?
Just say it!
Always talking around things.
Is it really so hard to just say "Me and Carmon aren't a thing"?
We're out so late together...
aren't you afraid what Carmon will think?
- What she'll think? - Won't she get the wrong idea?
I'm scared she'll get the wrong idea
because you two have been so close lately.
Not really. Like...
you're talking about the grilling night?
Just the last few days.
Actually I think the whole truth or dare thing
I guess it was a coincidence because Teacher Liu
just came up with it. And it was out of the blue.
- It was awkward. - I remember Teacher Liu asked
Right? He asked, like, I'll just say it straight--
He asked her to gaze at her crush.
I think in the moment I was surprised that
you two had gotten so close all of a sudden.
Actually there were clues from the start.
I feel like she gives me
the feeling of being my older sister.
And she makes me feel
taken care of, that sort of thing.
I think
My feelings
for you are
more towards the romantic side.
Out of the
people in the house.
So sudden.
No, just
Like,
I'm also just feeling it out. I want to get to know you.
Really?
Because I'm slow to warm up, so
I feel like
the way I'm treating you will be
on the cautious side.
[panelist] Her mood's instantly better.
Seriously.
[Binshen] I do really like you.
For real? So sudden...
When I first met Carmon we did talk about our ideal types,
and as soon as she told me hers, I did think
out of the three guys she probably had a crush
on you, most likely.
So regardless of my feelings or whatever towards you,
I do have to consider
Carmon's perspective and her well-being.
My feelings for you and my feelings about Carmon are different.
Then have you told her?
I haven't told her yet.
So do you want to tell her or are you okay with just this?
I should tell her.
I feel like in this situation I definitely have to talk to her.
Just...at least I should tell her what I'm thinking.
In any case, you take care of this thing with you and Carmon.
But don't hurt our Carmon.
Then let's not overthink it, the two of us.
Go with the flow.
Like you said yourself, you're slow to warm up.
Let's take it slow, I think.
One step at a time.
I'm so full.
Boys should eat a little more. Eat some more.
Look,
I've got big cheeks.
Me too.
Yours aren't so obvious.
Your face is big, it's not obvious.
How come no one ate the chicken feet?
- You haven't. - No, I have one here.
- It's not good? - No, I'm scared to eat it.
- Why? Because I haven't? - Because I'll look ugly.
I'm scared of looking ugly at dinner with you.
- I can't even see it. - Boys eat first!
- Do they have to be so cheesy? - Do kids really date like this?
"Look! I've got big cheeks!"
Actually, a lot of girls would think Yujie is being two-faced here.
- No! No! - How to put it...
Some people would say if she clearly knew your friend likes this guy,
And then you say those words, "Don't hurt her."
To a lot of people, that's pretty two-faced.
Choice words. "When you go reject her,
Be careful, don't hurt her." -Yes.
- That sentence? - Yeah!
I don't agree.
I think the definition of "two faced" is, for example, if you say
"Don't hurt her". But then intentionally do things
to get on Binshen's good side. But Yujie didn't do that.
As soon as she knew Carmon liked him, she completely walked away.
She completely withdrew. She didn't set out to pursue anything.
To steal him away.
Especially after that boy said he didn't like either of them.
He said "I'm slow to warm up", she did nothing.
That's also a good point.
You can only judge her as "one who advances by retreating" [an idiom].
If you want to judge her. But she made a clean retreat.
- Yeah. - But if I were Carmon
and found out they were together, I'd be kind of mad.
- Not kind of. - Very.
Especially when says, "Sister,
he and I are dating." It will hurt.
Whether it's her age or because he just doesn't see her that way,
She'll absolutely be hurt.
But it's 100% unavoidable.
The only way to not hurt her would be to like her back.
He can reject her, that's okay,
- But he'd better not say... - The words, "Older sister."
- He shouldn't say that. - That would really hurt.
But I actually think he could tell Carmon,
Just, like if I were Binshen I would run over there
and tell her like this.
"Hey, I want to confide about something.
I have a dilemma." And then go ahead and say,
"I like Yujie. But I don't know how to confess.
You two seem really close. Can you help me?"
This wording would give her a way out.
So it won't look like he's rejecting her. And she'll also realize
he doesn't have feelings for her, so she'll back off.
- This would be better. - Really? Is this better?
- It's good. - Wouldn't you call that "two-faced"?
- This is really the best way to do it. - Yes.
It will lessen her pain.
Because if he does it that way,
It's like a tactful rejection.
From a girl's standpoint, It's not an outright rejection.
Still, the problem is with Binshen.
Yeah.
Because the root of the issue is this guy
- Yeah, this guy. - He looks over here,
He looks over there, right, and when he's finally chosen
to be with one girl, he should take care of the other side.
- Make things clear. - The kindest method is clarity.
If you drag things on, it actually hurts more in the end.
What would you do in his shoes?
I feel like...
I feel like their options are too limited.
Like, there's two women fighting tooth and nail over a guy who
can't even open a bottle cap.
I don't know what to say.
Then I have a question for Ziqi.
What would you do if you and your best girlfriend
liked the same guy?
I feel like it depends on the situation.
Like romantically. A situation like this one.
But the thing is
are Yujie and Carmon really best girlfriends?
Ok, not a close friend.
Say you and Keni both fell in love with Daxun.
I'll go. I'll back down.
They both back down! Why?
Let's ask Teacher Chen about this.
But I don't have a best girlfriend.
I think this is actually common.
It happens a lot.
Two people, who are best friends,
having the same crush. Or something.
I don't think this will affect things.
In that situation we would, at least between guy friends, I think
it wouldn't affect the friendship.
Because he's made a choice before things got really serious.
It's just that he's the type of guy
who gets people's attention, whom everybody likes.
So whether it's best girlfriends or regular friends
or whatever, it's very normal. It still depends on who he chooses.
I think in this love triangle, Carmon will be the one who can't take it.
She won't be able to handle it. It's not as easy as you say.
Still "staying friends". Or like, she can hang out normally the next day.
If he really said what Ziqi said, "Carmon, I'm in love with Yujie."
"I want to confess to her." Carmon's going to be
dragging her suitcase out the door
- in tears, the next day. - Just gone.
I think he definitely will break up with what's her name -- Yujie.
And then turn around and date what's her name -- Carmon.
Carmon will be waiting for him. He will definitely go looking for her.
That's the future I predict.
I'll bet with Teacher Chen,
That no matter what Binshen thinks, Yujie will force him
to take care of this matter today or tomorrow.
- ASAP. - Let's take a look.
- Hey - Hey
[panelist] Here we go. It's over.
Did you just get back?
- Have you eaten? - I ate.
Ok.
[panelist] Just say one more thing. "I ate with Yujie."
That day at the coffee festival,
Yeah, I feel like I didn't help out very much.
- I feel really bad. - No, you did help.
You did help.
Not really, I barely helped.
After you left, the others, you know how we were hanging kites?
And, well, you hung all the ones that were hard.
You did really well. You hung them well.
- And we sold all the pouches. - They all sold out?
- The ones that you tied - With my logo one them?
Yeah.
But, you also brought me waffles that night.
Were they good?
I saw your note on the blackboard.
Yeah, they were tasty.
What are you eating right now?
This...
That white stuff, what is it?
- Milk. - Milk?
Yeah.
Just, you know, that Cantonese soup
"Vegetable something soup"... They put milk in that.
- Really? - Yeah.
- I've never had that. - Do you want to try?
- I've had dinner. I've eaten. - You're embarrassing me.
- You made this yourself? - Yes.
I'm blessed by my lucky chef's hat today.
- That hat? - Yes.
- It's good! Do you want to try some? - I won't.
[panelist] He's finally learned boundaries. No more eating.
Say it, brother.
[panelist] Stop dragging it on. - I wanted to talk about something.
Do you have anywhere
you really want to visit?
Or like, somewhere you really want to eat?
- A restaurant? - Or an attraction,
Attractions...
There are some exhibitions
that I've always wanted to see but because I was so busy with
the coffee festival, I haven't been able to.
Sure.
Sure what?
Tell me about it after dinner, and I'll get us tickets for the exhibition.
- Today? - No, just confirm which exhibition.
What it's called, and tell me, and I'll buy tickets.
- We'll go together? - Yeah.
Just the two of us?
- Great. - Then you keep eating, I'm heading in.
Then I'll keep eating.
Look at this guy. Giving her more hope.
Can't you just say it right there?
He's just this type of person! He's just this type of person.
No, he's, he definitely wants to tell her at the exhibition.
But that's messed up.
Why would he wait until that day?
- Because he can't say it here. - And he can say it there?
- He wants to get out of this space. - How does that help though?
He won't say it even at the exhibition.
Teacher Chen!
And also, there's more, Teacher Chen.
He blew away my expectations.
There's more. We're not done yet.
Get over here.
Walk on this side.
Why the sighing?
Just tired, recently.
Work's hectic.
How are you?
My work has calmed down a lot.
Come here.
Sit.
But lately I have a new project
designing a new series of loungewear, that kind of thing.
Loungewear?
You're making loungewear?
Yes.
What about you?
We're just busy lately.
You know we're producing our own short film script?
And then there's some business with the office space.
Ok.
I want to talk to you about something.
Is it good or bad?
Just listen to it first. Just...
You know how at the coffee festival Binshen came to help me?
And then he asked me to see an exhibition.
Right.
- That's great! - But...
It is great, but...
I feel like Binshen and I have a little bit of an age gap.
What does an age gap have to do with you guys going to an exhibition?
Those things aren't related, right?
- No--- - Do you think because you're older
I just don't know what Binshen thinks about this whole age thing.
Have you ever talked to him about this?
Are you asking me this because you hope that I'll give you advice
or is it that you're conflicted and you need me to...like...
Just seeing if I can get some insider info from you or anything.
It's kind of awkward for me to ask Binshen,
I mean we've never specifically discussed this. But he has more or less
told me his type.
He's kind of talked to me about it.
For one, he likes girls with a Korean look.
- Korean... - I think you're like that.
Like, more cutesy and adorable.
Right?
His favorite female Kpop idol...
- I think he's mentioned that. - Yeah?
Who does he like?
I don't really remember.
Okay.
Wasn't it IU? [T/N: a Korean singer]
Probably.
Okay.
No, Popsicle.
Sit.
- Oh hell no, this is just-- - He messed up.
A tragedy.
- Carmon's trying so hard. - But she's going to be so sad.
- Heartbroken. - So hurt.
The more she tries the more it'll hurt.
Carmon definitely can't handle this.
And we have to address the fact that there's a "shit-stirrer".
- This guy. - Yeah.
This Curry!
"Korean-like"! What are you saying?
You literally said yourself that Yujie looks Korean.
- They couldn't be more different. - I just don't get it.
He said himself on camera that Yujie is more of a "Korean" beauty.
But put yourself in Curry's shoes and think about it.
Binshen asked her out. He thinks it's a good thing. Right?
- Yes. It makes sense... - "This all works out!"
"Perfect, everyone's paired up so no one has to fight!"
Do you think Binshen asking her to an exhibition was okay?
Is that right, that method?
It's really
a bit cowardly, I think.
- You can say it. - I can't.
You can be harsher.
It's not "a bit cowardly".
Just "very cowardly".
Just, why do you have to make a whole thing of asking someone out,
taking her to an exhibition to hurt her there?
Do you think she won't be hurt?
Honestly it would be better to ignore her.
- Just avoid her. - Just say it!
"I had dinner with Yujie."
"We're getting really close." That would be a better.
But I don't think he has it in him to be that straightforward.
Is that too straightforward?
When he got back Carmon said, have you eaten yet?
"I ate. I ate with Yujie."
To casually slide that in, and gently sting her.
Gently give her the sting,
This is the most, I think it's the most tactful.
Yes.
He actually is treating Carmon like this weak, vulnerable, tender thing.
If he just said it directly, she could actually bear it.
She would accept it, there's not much between us,
just a few interactions.
But he has to make a mess of things
and send her the wrong message.
- Carmon thinks he wants to... - To confess or something.
She asks Curry about it
because to her, the only obstacle between them is age.
Actually, no. The obstacle is, this guy doesn't like her.
But she doesn't know.
But she would think, if he doesn't like me,
why would he be dumb enough to ask me out?
If we give him benefit of the doubt, Binshen thinks
everyone shares this living space, and he doesn't want to make this house
feel awkward for everyone. He wants to do it outside.
Why an exhibition though? There's no good moment.
How could there be?
He's hinting to Carmon, I want to pick your favorite place.
I want to take you to your favorite place to dump you.
I don't think he plans to at all.
He has no plans to really say those words there.
He's just going with whatever that girl wants.
He doesn't want to hurt anyone. Every person has
a great potential to hurt others.
And Binshen's hurt comes from his inability to speak honestly.
He hurts Carmon deeply and Yujie too, just because
he can't say no to people. That's what I think.
Can we predict what will happen on the date?
I think Binshen will
I think he'll say it.
I was actually expecting good things from him.
And then he went home and didn't say it.
And even asked her out.
- He had the perfect chance. - Now I think he doesn't have the guts
to say it. He probably can't. - He won't say it.
Binshen can't handle hurting a girl.
Yes. Can't get the words out.
But he also can't quite give up Yujie.
Then he may as well date neither.
He might just decide to give up,
In order to avoid hurting them. "Whatever, I'll date no one."
Ok, so this episode of Shanghai Share Life ends here.
We can't wait for the next one.
See you next week!
- Goodbye! - Goodbye.
A netizen from Weibo says,
"I've been working in a big city for 10 years."
But it's unlikely that I'll obtain a hukou (resident permit).
I've seen old friends buy homes and thrive in my hometown.
I've thought about moving back, but I don't want to give up
so many years of hard work. Should I keep struggling here?
Or go home while I'm still young?
And seek a more stable life?
I think every person has their own
way of life.
Different things make different people feel at home.
If you feel most comfortable in your hometown, more at ease,
there's no need to force yourself into the city.
But if your dream is the big city,
and a city is the only way to fulfill you,
you have to go to the city.
[Translated and timed by cissy] [Reviewed by liltong97]