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Good evening, and welcome to the Boston University Huntington Theater,

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for this, the second part of our course,

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in elementary courting, for men.

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May I say how please I am with tonight's turnout,

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some eight hundred people, which is very gratifying.

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Tonight, we look at the first date.

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Obviously, taking out a girl for the first time, is a very complex issue.

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The first crucial step is, having arranged to pick up your date,

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not to look like a complete idiot when she opens the door.

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Best to look as though your attention has been momentarily distracted.

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But when you do notice her, it is vital to say how pretty she is looking, straight away.

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But don't over do it.

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If at this point you are introduced to her parents,

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attitude is all important.

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You can be too casual...

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or you can be too keen.

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When you said goodbye to the parents,

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again don't overdo it,

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lead her to your car,

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and remember to open the door.

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Once in the car, there are various ways of driving.

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If you drive like this...

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you might lose her respect.

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If you drive like this...

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you should have taken a taxi.

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Before long, you'll arrive at the restaurant.

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Get out of the car...

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and escort her to your table.

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Then tuck her into her seat, yourself...

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and attract the waiter's attention.

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Selecting from the wine list is important,

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complete ignorance is not good.

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When the bottle arrives, there's much to be made in the tasting of it,

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but don't be too professional.

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With eating, again, moderation is the order of the day.

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Don't eat too fast...

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but don't eat too slowly.

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Next, is recieving the bill,

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this is a very important moment.

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You must be sure not to lose your cool.

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This is right...

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...this is wrong.

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The girl, may of couse offer to pay herself,

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in which case you should refuse...

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for a while.

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Next stop, is a fashionable discotheque.

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Once inside, you might look slightly strange

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if you try to talk over the music.

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So just stand casually, and look sexy.

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This is good...this is better...this is starting to be misguided.

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After stance, dance technique is most important.

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Most people don't know how to dance,

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and so do too much...

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Other people do too little.

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Some people dance as if there's something up their bottom,

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and other people dance as if there's something coming out of their bottom.

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When all's said and done, it's best probably to not to dance at all.

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A well-mimed sporting injuring is always useful, and a good excuse for leaving the discotheque.

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If you don't utterly foul it up,

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20 minutes later, you should back at your place.

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It's important to relax, and make your guest feel at home.

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She will probably feel as nervous as you do,

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and there's no need to make any extra special effort.

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Then, putting on the music.

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We can't help you with the choice of CD,

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even though no matter what the circumstances,

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Donny and Marie Osmond's greatest hits would be a mistake.

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At all cost, avoid the temptation to brag about your stereo.

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Now comes the moment you've been waiting for—the seduction.

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This is the subject of next week's lecture.

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However, as a rough guide, this is right...

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...and this is, I think we all agree, disastrous.