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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:01.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hola unconventionals. I'm Amelia.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.93,0:00:02.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm JP.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.95,0:00:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we are living our unconventional life\Nhere in Cuenca Ecuador.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.32,0:00:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we encourage you to live yours\Nwhatever that may be.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.50,0:00:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today we're going to talk about\Novercoming your fears
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.08,0:00:15.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or as JP likes to say, \N"Kicking your fears in the butt."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.40,0:00:19.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. We had to overcome a lot of fears\Nto sell all of our stuff
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.43,0:00:22.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and move to another country here\Nto Cuenca Ecuador.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.56,0:00:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're going to talk about\Nsome of the things we did
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.61,0:00:27.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help us overcome those fears\Nin this video.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.04,0:00:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But before we get started, please take\Na moment to subscribe
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.12,0:00:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ring that bell so you get notified on\Nall of our upcoming videos.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.92,0:00:52.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Music]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.29,0:00:56.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to share our 9 tips\Nfor overcoming your fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.42,0:01:00.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are kind of in chronological order\Nbased on the way we did them
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.52,0:01:02.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also kind of how they \Njust fall naturally.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.61,0:01:07.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. And even though we're going to \Ngear our tips around expating like we did,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.46,0:01:11.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we use these for other things as well\Nlike starting our YouTube Channel,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.11,0:01:17.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or speaking Spanish so I think they're\Npretty useful tips regardless of your fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.86,0:01:22.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. And our first one is \Ndefining your big why.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.23,0:01:25.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your big why is probably the most\Nimportant part of this
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.19,0:01:27.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because without that you won't have\Nthe motivation to do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.79,0:01:32.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it can't be the why that your\Nfamily or friends think you should do
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.65,0:01:35.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or society pressures you to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.07,0:01:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It has to really come from the core\Nof who you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.61,0:01:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. Our big why came when JP\Nhad his health scare
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.61,0:01:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the doctor told him\Nhe could have been paralyzed.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.50,0:01:45.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or dead.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.31,0:01:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. That was pretty terrifying.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.62,0:01:51.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,1mm. 1mm he said and I would have\Neither been paralyzed from the neck down
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.66,0:01:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or dead. And that really made us \Nreevaluate our priorities.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.40,0:01:57.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It did. We went through a heck of a lot\Nthat year.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.84,0:02:00.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had already wanted to move \Nto another country
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.24,0:02:03.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that really helped us..
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.60,0:02:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It pushed us right over the edge.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.23,0:02:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. Exactly. It totally pushed\Nus over the edge.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.56,0:02:10.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we realized that tomorrow\Nis no guarantee.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.23,0:02:13.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to live everyday like it could be\Nyour last day on this planet.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.49,0:02:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it could be. You never know.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.54,0:02:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, you never know.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.64,0:02:19.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So a lot of people spend their whole life \Nworking toward retirement,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.59,0:02:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then the retirement never comes.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.82,0:02:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or they have some health issues and\Nthey aren't able to..
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.24,0:02:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,live their retirement dreams.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.58,0:02:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We certainly did not want to wait.\NWe didn't want to put it off.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.06,0:02:32.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm really grateful that we did.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.25,0:02:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It sucks obviously that JP went\Nthrough all of that, but
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.73,0:02:36.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thanks to that we're here.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.52,0:02:40.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. It led us here into this \Nunconventional adventurous life.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.37,0:02:41.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.26,0:02:50.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tip number 2 is to \Nidentify your true fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.51,0:02:52.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are you really afraid of?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.03,0:02:54.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me it was getting rid of everything\Nthat I owned.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.69,0:02:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spent a lot of time and money \Ngetting my house all decked out
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.58,0:03:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just the way I liked it with all the \Nfurniture and everything
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.70,0:03:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the thought of selling it all\Nwas really scary.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.62,0:03:09.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me I think it was a combination \Nof fear of the unknown
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.82,0:03:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also fear of losing control.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.35,0:03:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because there was so many things\NI didn't know about.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.94,0:03:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know anything about Ecuador\Nor Cuenca or living in another country.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.22,0:03:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew I wanted to do it, but we had \Nthought Mexico
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.70,0:03:26.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had already been there so I felt\Na little more comfortable with that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.97,0:03:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what's going to happen once we\Nget there?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.32,0:03:32.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are we going to be able \Nto find a place to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.03,0:03:33.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about the dogs?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.44,0:03:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are we going to like it?\NAre we going to hate it?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.40,0:03:36.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it safe?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.53,0:03:39.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Amelia was very afraid of us\Nfinding a place to live.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.77,0:03:41.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very fearful of that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.33,0:03:44.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think she thought we were going\Nto end up living on the street.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.16,0:03:45.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not think that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.62,0:03:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it was stressful to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.26,0:03:49.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just wanted to get settled.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.77,0:03:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know what? All of it\Nworked out.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.46,0:03:54.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sold all of my stuff and the more\Nof it I got rid of
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.50,0:03:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the more I wanted to get rid of.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.17,0:04:01.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was liberating! I felt like I was free\Nof the weight of my possessions.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.10,0:04:05.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah and I have to say it was a process\Nfor me to let go of my fear
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.95,0:04:09.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and let go of my need to have control\Nover everything because
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.33,0:04:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's just not the way it works here.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.31,0:04:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think I'm pretty chillaxed \Nas a result.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.02,0:04:16.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very tranquilo.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.01,0:04:21.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. I've definitely learned to relax\Nand roll with things better now.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.58,0:04:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number 3 is stop cancel clear.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.38,0:04:31.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right. Think positive.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.59,0:04:33.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Change your thoughts to positive ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.67,0:04:36.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all have negative thoughts running\Nthrough our heads all the time
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.94,0:04:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of us more than others and when\Nyou catch yourself with a negative thought
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.66,0:04:45.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just stop cancel clear and replace it\Nwith a positive one.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.75,0:04:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah and I'm gonna throw worrying \Nin there too because
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.21,0:04:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I worry a lot or I did worry a lot about
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.24,0:04:54.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's going to happen if this doesn't work\Nor that doesn't work
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.53,0:04:56.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was driving myself crazy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.94,0:04:58.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And me too.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.07,0:05:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. I had to remind myself to quit\Nworrying. To be present.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.49,0:05:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to trust the outcome. And I did\Nand it helped a lot.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.52,0:05:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you catch yourself thinking \Nnegative thoughts you just say
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.66,0:05:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's all going to work out.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.82,0:05:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything's going to work out.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.93,0:05:14.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to do what it takes\Nto make this happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.92,0:05:15.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.87,0:05:18.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just change the thought.\NAnd it works for anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.81,0:05:20.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to be really afraid of falling.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.59,0:05:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I was afraid I was going to\Nbreak my back or my neck if I fell.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.17,0:05:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I just changed those thoughts with
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.99,0:05:31.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm healthy. I'm strong. I'm doing my\Nphysical therapy. I'm not going to fall.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.70,0:05:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if I do I'll be ok.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.21,0:05:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think I effectively proved\Nthat I can survive a fall.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.30,0:05:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After a week ago I fell and sprained\Nmy ankle.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.28,0:05:44.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah and when you were lying flat\Non your belly.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.13,0:05:47.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the camera and the gimble\Nin the middle of the street.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.48,0:05:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I survived. My back is fine.\NMy back and neck were fine.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.46,0:05:56.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My ankle wasn't. Neither was my elbow,\Nmy hand or my other wrist.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.56,0:06:00.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My camera got a scratch, \Nbut my back was fine.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.20,0:06:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. Yeah and truly what's the worst \Nthat can happen?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.42,0:06:06.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what I have to remind myself\Nwhen I'm really stressed out.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.83,0:06:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well the worst that can happen\Nwould be if you're dead.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.10,0:06:11.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. So as long as that doesn't happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.96,0:06:15.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we're remarkably good at staying\Nalive, us humage. Us humans.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.64,0:06:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Us humage.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.84,0:06:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Humage! A new word for human: humage.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.29,0:06:24.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, so if you catch yourself thinking \Nthis isn't going to work out
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.96,0:06:28.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I can't do it or I'm scared or whatever
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.17,0:06:29.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just tell yourself you can.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.61,0:06:32.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know maybe that sounds like it's\Neasier said than done
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.55,0:06:37.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it really truly does work. There's\Na lot of power in your thoughts.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.36,0:06:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got this idea from my old \Nbusiness coach, Sandy.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.74,0:06:42.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hi Sandy if you're watching.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.17,0:06:44.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She really helped me with this because
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.11,0:06:47.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to have this issue a lot of dwelling\Non the negative and she used to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.75,0:06:49.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Just say stop cancel clear."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.29,0:06:50.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. It works!
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.79,0:06:51.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It does work.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.71,0:07:00.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our fourth tip is to accept your fear.\NIt is ok to be afraid.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.76,0:07:04.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. Fear is a natural human response\Nto uncertainty.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.09,0:07:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah so don't beat yourself up if you're\Nfeeling insecure, nervous, afraid, etc. etc.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.43,0:07:13.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can actually be a really good thing\Nif you identify that fear
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.18,0:07:17.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channel that into doing your homework,\Ndoing your research,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.42,0:07:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,paying attention to all the details\Nyou need to do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.16,0:07:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make sure everything is in order\NI think you'll be better off.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.17,0:07:28.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fear can actually be a benefit as long as\Nyou don't end up with
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.08,0:07:29.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,analysis paralysis.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.74,0:07:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you don't let the fear paralyze you\Ninto inaction.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.80,0:07:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. That's analysis paralysis.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.35,0:07:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This one right here.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.60,0:07:41.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know! I get overwhelmed sometimes\Nand I can't do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.06,0:07:46.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I research and research and research\Nand then I get to the point where
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.48,0:07:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the switch flips and I'm done.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.57,0:07:50.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've made up my mind and I'm good to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.79,0:07:55.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I spend so much time \Nlaying the groundwork for the decision.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.69,0:07:57.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes that's a really good thing
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.11,0:08:01.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially if it's a very big decision\Nlike moving to another country.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.07,0:08:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, we researched this \Nfor months before we
Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.45,0:08:08.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually we had researched it for about \Na year and a half before we finally moved.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.57,0:08:11.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right we took our time and definitely did \Nour homework and
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.95,0:08:15.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tried to prepare ourselves as much as\Nwe could, but we were still afraid.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.33,0:08:19.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was about 3 months before we\Nactually made the decision to do it
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.42,0:08:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then it took another over a year\Nto actually pull the trigger
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.02,0:08:23.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get it done.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.95,0:08:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.61,0:08:28.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So take your time, but spend that time\Ndoing your research and your homework.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.41,0:08:29.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And getting ready.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.73,0:08:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Accepting your fears leads us into\Ntip number 5 and that is to
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.90,0:08:40.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,educate yourself to reduce your fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.21,0:08:44.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are lots of ways to educate yourself\Ndepending on what you're doing.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.34,0:08:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In terms of becoming an expat, you can\Nwatch YouTube channels like ours.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.74,0:08:54.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Read books, read magazines, \Nread online forums
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.11,0:08:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like International Living \Nhas a helpful forum.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.18,0:08:58.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Facebook has a lot of groups like Ecuador..
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.79,0:09:02.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Expats in Ecuador and Cuenca Expats.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.51,0:09:06.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are forums \Nfor pretty much any destination
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.45,0:09:08.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you're thinking about moving to.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.23,0:09:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can find a lot of support and \Ninformation on social media for sure.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.98,0:09:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of the information isn't necessarily\Naccurate you gotta verify it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.96,0:09:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a lot of people are really helpful and\Nthey really want to share that information
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.10,0:09:25.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with other people who are considering doing\Nwhat they have already done.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.01,0:09:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know we really enjoy helping people do\Nwhat we've done.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.38,0:09:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And live our unconventional life.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.74,0:09:32.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes we do.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.22,0:09:35.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I will say doing the.. starting to do\Nthe research did help.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.37,0:09:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess because it helps take away that\Nfear of the unknown.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.68,0:09:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least it did for me. So I started to\Nrelax once we started to learn more.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.65,0:09:47.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess I felt like I knew what to expect.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.18,0:09:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's one reason we started\Nour YouTube channel.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.60,0:09:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I watched every video \NI could find on Cuenca
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.55,0:09:55.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some of the other places \Nwe were looking at.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.81,0:10:01.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't feel like they really provided\Nenough information, enough detail
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.11,0:10:03.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for me because I'm a very \Ndetailed oriented.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.49,0:10:06.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you've watched any of our videos,\Nyou can probably tell that.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.58,0:10:11.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I want to make sure that we can \Nhelp other people fill in those gaps
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.62,0:10:13.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as much as we can.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.20,0:10:13.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.27,0:10:23.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number 6 on our list of 9 things to do\Nto overcome your fears
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.04,0:10:25.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to talk to people who have already done it.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.58,0:10:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We kinda mentioned this in number 5.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.70,0:10:31.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can see how there's a bit of a \Nmethod to our madness
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.27,0:10:33.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it all works together in harmony.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.43,0:10:35.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is a natural process.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.38,0:10:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a lot of people on \Nthe social media forums
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.88,0:10:41.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially Facebook that will talk to you\Nand help you through this process.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.40,0:10:42.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People are very supportive.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.86,0:10:44.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the ones that aren't, just block them.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.31,0:10:48.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know this tip works,\Nas the other ones do,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.38,0:10:49.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,works for any type of fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.69,0:10:51.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I first started doing \Nbusiness development
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.95,0:10:53.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know what in the heck \NI was doing.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.62,0:10:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I reached out to a couple business \Ndevelopment people
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.84,0:11:00.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I had just gotten an email\Nintroduction through
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.18,0:11:03.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they were really nice and sat\Ndown and chatted with me
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.93,0:11:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how they did things and \Ngave me some advice.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.21,0:11:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that helped me immensely.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.30,0:11:10.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It definitely helped me overcome my fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.35,0:11:12.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did the same thing \Nwhen I started my company.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.88,0:11:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met with SCORE counselors who had\Nalready started their own business.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.86,0:11:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They helped me out quite a bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.14,0:11:21.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met with other business owners \Nin different fields and they helped me out.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.41,0:11:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It just really helps to talk to people \Nwho have already done it.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.18,0:11:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It makes it seem more real\Nand more possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.36,0:11:27.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. Well said.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.82,0:11:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.82,0:11:36.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tip number 7 is to find support.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.32,0:11:38.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People who are already doing right now
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.80,0:11:41.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or in the same stage of the process \Nthat you are.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.72,0:11:45.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly. It's really helpful to have \Nsomebody that you can talk things out with.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.73,0:11:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also as an accountability partner.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.77,0:11:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It helps a lot to have somebody there\Nto hold you accountable
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.46,0:11:53.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make sure you actually do\Nwhat you say you're going to.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.89,0:11:54.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes it does.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.85,0:11:56.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's amazing how that works.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.75,0:11:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It really is. Accountability really helps.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.60,0:12:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can find support on LinkedIn and\NFacebook and those types of groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.40,0:12:05.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Meetup groups are great.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.61,0:12:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Any time you can meet somebody\Nin real life for a coffee.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.96,0:12:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're a guy and you need a wingman.\NWingmen are a great source of support!
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.25,0:12:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ok! Moving on!
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.74,0:12:26.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number 8 on our list of 9 tips\Nto overcome your fears is..
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.49,0:12:28.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make a list and small chunk it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.83,0:12:31.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Small chunking it is a JP-ism.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.51,0:12:35.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. I wrote a book about \Nhow to start a business, a dotcom
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.37,0:12:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after I sold my company.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.76,0:12:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I went around and did\Npublic speaking
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.28,0:12:41.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one of my concepts was\Nsmall chunking it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.40,0:12:44.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It basically just means breaking\Nlarger tasks into smaller ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.75,0:12:46.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you just keep checking stuff\Noff the list.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.84,0:12:49.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that can really help alleviate fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.47,0:12:52.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It gives you that sense of \Naccomplishment as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.09,0:12:54.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're slowly moving towards\Nyour goals
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.42,0:12:56.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's much more manageable that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.53,0:13:00.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are both list masters, list meisters.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.60,0:13:02.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know I love crossing stuff off!
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.66,0:13:04.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's really the list maker.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.35,0:13:06.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's even more so than I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.64,0:13:09.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're always operating our \Nwhole life off a list.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.19,0:13:13.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have about 2 dozen of them\Non my phone right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.11,0:13:16.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The lists are awesome because not only\Ndoes it help you focus
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.50,0:13:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the smaller things that you need\Nto do to get things done,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.44,0:13:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have that sense of accomplishment\Nfor checking stuff off,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.53,0:13:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it really helps alleviate the fear\Nwhen it comes to a really big project
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.40,0:13:28.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like moving to another country.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.95,0:13:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many moving parts and\Nso many tasks to do when you have to leave.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.61,0:13:34.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to sell everything you own.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.28,0:13:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got the estate sale. \NThe house sale. The car sale.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.56,0:13:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You gotta work on your visas. \NYour travel plans. Pet travel.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.62,0:13:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's just so many things on the list\Nthat you have to do
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.74,0:13:48.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that having a list and checking things\Noff as you go through it
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.72,0:13:52.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also writing dates on things and\Nusing a calendar to make sure
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.58,0:13:56.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't miss dates like we did with\None of Alicia's shots.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.82,0:13:58.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh yeah. That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.51,0:14:01.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's really helpful to have\Nall this stuff organized.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.48,0:14:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.01,0:14:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tip number 9. Fake it until you make it!
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.04,0:14:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to lump this in with getting \Nout of your comfort zone
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.22,0:14:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and acting as-if.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.60,0:14:18.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. Acting as-if you've already done it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.42,0:14:19.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:19.39,0:14:22.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know a lot of people are faking it\Nright now you just don't even know it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.72,0:14:23.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.42,0:14:27.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. A lot of people have fears and they\Ndon't let it paralyze them
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.19,0:14:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or stop them from moving forward.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.80,0:14:30.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're just faking it until they make it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.54,0:14:32.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. You definitely gotta \Nbelieve in yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.72,0:14:36.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also accept that you're gonna be\Nuncomfortable at times.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.29,0:14:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's gonna be scary at times.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.90,0:14:41.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may think about changing\Nyour mind at times.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:41.04,0:14:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know we did several times.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.36,0:14:45.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were like, "Do we really want to\Nleave the country?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.40,0:14:48.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You might start second guessing yourself\Nand questioning yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.06,0:14:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that's why all these tips are helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.09,0:14:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So to circle back around, \Nwhen that happens you want to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.75,0:14:54.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's my big why?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.92,0:14:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. Why am I doing this?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.21,0:14:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you can tie all of these into \Nyour big why
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.45,0:15:01.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it keeps you motivated.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.07,0:15:02.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. You've talked to your support group.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.93,0:15:04.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've done your education.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.36,0:15:06.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know you want to do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.13,0:15:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Time to face your fears and\Nfake it until you make it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.98,0:15:11.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can do it. We did it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.27,0:15:13.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we can do it, anybody can!
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.28,0:15:14.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.84,0:15:21.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's all for today unconventionals.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:21.47,0:15:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hopefully you will find this list helpful\Nand useful.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.48,0:15:26.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It helped us out a lot.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.91,0:15:28.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were really afraid.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.27,0:15:31.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We may have looked like we were calm\Nand collected on the outside
Dialogue: 0,0:15:31.28,0:15:33.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but on the inside we were scared to death.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.52,0:15:37.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So doing these things, it's kind of \Nnaturally what we did
Dialogue: 0,0:15:37.63,0:15:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we kind of also figured some of them\Nout along the way
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.75,0:15:42.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they really helped us a lot.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.70,0:15:45.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you like our video, please remember to\Ngive us a thumbs up.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.19,0:15:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let us know if you liked it or not.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.97,0:15:49.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also please remember \Nto share this video
Dialogue: 0,0:15:49.83,0:15:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you know other people going through\Nthe same stuff that we went through
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.03,0:15:54.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that perhaps you're going through now,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:54.91,0:15:57.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please help other people by\Nsharing this with them.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.20,0:16:00.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. And join our group. \NJoin our Facebook group.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.65,0:16:03.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our Facebook group, Amelia And JP's\NUnconventional Community.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.85,0:16:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll put a link to that in our blog post.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.96,0:16:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, we are here to provide you support.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:07.64,0:16:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And everybody else. We've already got\Na lot of members.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.66,0:16:12.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Welcome everybody to the group.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.18,0:16:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hola.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:13.26,0:16:15.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And everybody is willing \Nto help each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.36,0:16:17.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a great place to get support from \Npeople who are going through
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.85,0:16:19.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same thing that you are right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:19.85,0:16:21.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Absolutely.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.30,0:16:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alright, that's it for today.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:22.43,0:16:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See you soon.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.60,0:16:24.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,¡Chao!
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.86,0:16:27.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She sure likes it under there.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.50,0:16:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are you doing Daisy?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.05,0:16:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is just for practice I assume.