1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,932 Hola unconventionals. I'm Amelia. 2 00:00:01,932 --> 00:00:02,950 And I'm JP. 3 00:00:02,950 --> 00:00:06,317 And we are living our unconventional life here in Cuenca Ecuador. 4 00:00:06,317 --> 00:00:09,496 And we encourage you to live yours whatever that may be. 5 00:00:09,496 --> 00:00:12,076 Today we're going to talk about overcoming your fears 6 00:00:12,076 --> 00:00:15,401 or as JP likes to say, "Kicking your fears in the butt." 7 00:00:15,401 --> 00:00:19,432 Yes. We had to overcome a lot of fears to sell all of our stuff 8 00:00:19,432 --> 00:00:22,559 and move to another country here to Cuenca Ecuador. 9 00:00:22,559 --> 00:00:24,612 And we're going to talk about some of the things we did 10 00:00:24,612 --> 00:00:27,036 to help us overcome those fears in this video. 11 00:00:27,036 --> 00:00:30,116 But before we get started, please take a moment to subscribe 12 00:00:30,116 --> 00:00:33,577 and ring that bell so you get notified on all of our upcoming videos. 13 00:00:33,917 --> 00:00:52,510 [Music] 14 00:00:53,294 --> 00:00:56,419 We're going to share our 9 tips for overcoming your fears. 15 00:00:56,419 --> 00:01:00,515 These are kind of in chronological order based on the way we did them 16 00:01:00,515 --> 00:01:02,612 and also kind of how they just fall naturally. 17 00:01:02,612 --> 00:01:07,462 Exactly. And even though we're going to gear our tips around expating like we did, 18 00:01:07,462 --> 00:01:11,109 we use these for other things as well like starting our YouTube Channel, 19 00:01:11,109 --> 00:01:17,856 or speaking Spanish so I think they're pretty useful tips regardless of your fear. 20 00:01:17,856 --> 00:01:22,231 Exactly. And our first one is defining your big why. 21 00:01:22,231 --> 00:01:25,189 Your big why is probably the most important part of this 22 00:01:25,189 --> 00:01:27,792 because without that you won't have the motivation to do it. 23 00:01:27,792 --> 00:01:32,648 And it can't be the why that your family or friends think you should do 24 00:01:32,648 --> 00:01:35,074 or society pressures you to do. 25 00:01:35,074 --> 00:01:37,614 It has to really come from the core of who you are. 26 00:01:37,614 --> 00:01:41,606 Exactly. Our big why came when JP had his health scare 27 00:01:41,606 --> 00:01:44,497 and the doctor told him he could have been paralyzed. 28 00:01:44,497 --> 00:01:45,306 Or dead. 29 00:01:45,306 --> 00:01:46,617 Yeah. That was pretty terrifying. 30 00:01:46,617 --> 00:01:51,657 1mm. 1mm he said and I would have either been paralyzed from the neck down 31 00:01:51,657 --> 00:01:55,400 or dead. And that really made us reevaluate our priorities. 32 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,844 It did. We went through a heck of a lot that year. 33 00:01:57,844 --> 00:02:00,579 We had already wanted to move to another country 34 00:02:01,239 --> 00:02:03,048 and that really helped us.. 35 00:02:03,598 --> 00:02:05,230 It pushed us right over the edge. 36 00:02:05,230 --> 00:02:07,560 Yeah. Exactly. It totally pushed us over the edge. 37 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,230 Because we realized that tomorrow is no guarantee. 38 00:02:10,230 --> 00:02:13,491 You have to live everyday like it could be your last day on this planet. 39 00:02:13,491 --> 00:02:15,536 Because it could be. You never know. 40 00:02:15,536 --> 00:02:16,635 Yeah, you never know. 41 00:02:16,635 --> 00:02:19,593 So a lot of people spend their whole life working toward retirement, 42 00:02:19,593 --> 00:02:21,820 and then the retirement never comes. 43 00:02:21,820 --> 00:02:25,243 Or they have some health issues and they aren't able to.. 44 00:02:25,243 --> 00:02:27,577 live their retirement dreams. 45 00:02:27,577 --> 00:02:30,056 We certainly did not want to wait. We didn't want to put it off. 46 00:02:30,056 --> 00:02:32,251 And I'm really grateful that we did. 47 00:02:32,251 --> 00:02:34,728 It sucks obviously that JP went through all of that, but 48 00:02:34,728 --> 00:02:36,522 thanks to that we're here. 49 00:02:36,522 --> 00:02:40,370 Yeah. It led us here into this unconventional adventurous life. 50 00:02:40,370 --> 00:02:41,925 Yes. Exactly. 51 00:02:47,265 --> 00:02:50,508 Tip number 2 is to identify your true fear. 52 00:02:50,508 --> 00:02:52,029 What are you really afraid of? 53 00:02:52,029 --> 00:02:54,692 For me it was getting rid of everything that I owned. 54 00:02:54,692 --> 00:02:58,582 I spent a lot of time and money getting my house all decked out 55 00:02:58,582 --> 00:03:01,703 just the way I liked it with all the furniture and everything 56 00:03:01,703 --> 00:03:04,615 and the thought of selling it all was really scary. 57 00:03:04,615 --> 00:03:09,821 For me I think it was a combination of fear of the unknown 58 00:03:09,821 --> 00:03:13,350 and also fear of losing control. 59 00:03:13,350 --> 00:03:15,940 Because there was so many things I didn't know about. 60 00:03:15,940 --> 00:03:21,217 I didn't know anything about Ecuador or Cuenca or living in another country. 61 00:03:21,217 --> 00:03:23,703 I knew I wanted to do it, but we had thought Mexico 62 00:03:23,703 --> 00:03:26,974 and I had already been there so I felt a little more comfortable with that. 63 00:03:26,974 --> 00:03:30,317 And what's going to happen once we get there? 64 00:03:30,317 --> 00:03:32,032 Are we going to be able to find a place to live? 65 00:03:32,032 --> 00:03:33,435 What about the dogs? 66 00:03:33,435 --> 00:03:35,395 Are we going to like it? Are we going to hate it? 67 00:03:35,395 --> 00:03:36,529 Is it safe? 68 00:03:36,529 --> 00:03:39,768 Amelia was very afraid of us finding a place to live. 69 00:03:39,768 --> 00:03:41,330 I was very fearful of that. 70 00:03:41,330 --> 00:03:44,156 I think she thought we were going to end up living on the street. 71 00:03:44,156 --> 00:03:45,615 I did not think that. 72 00:03:45,615 --> 00:03:48,260 But it was stressful to me. 73 00:03:48,260 --> 00:03:49,768 I just wanted to get settled. 74 00:03:49,768 --> 00:03:51,462 But you know what? All of it worked out. 75 00:03:51,462 --> 00:03:54,503 I sold all of my stuff and the more of it I got rid of 76 00:03:54,503 --> 00:03:56,170 the more I wanted to get rid of. 77 00:03:56,170 --> 00:04:01,100 It was liberating! I felt like I was free of the weight of my possessions. 78 00:04:01,100 --> 00:04:05,954 Yeah and I have to say it was a process for me to let go of my fear 79 00:04:05,954 --> 00:04:09,328 and let go of my need to have control over everything because 80 00:04:09,328 --> 00:04:11,312 that's just not the way it works here. 81 00:04:11,312 --> 00:04:15,023 And I think I'm pretty chillaxed as a result. 82 00:04:15,023 --> 00:04:16,006 Very tranquilo. 83 00:04:16,006 --> 00:04:21,243 Yes. I've definitely learned to relax and roll with things better now. 84 00:04:26,583 --> 00:04:29,380 Number 3 is stop cancel clear. 85 00:04:29,380 --> 00:04:31,592 That's right. Think positive. 86 00:04:31,592 --> 00:04:33,673 Change your thoughts to positive ones. 87 00:04:33,673 --> 00:04:36,945 We all have negative thoughts running through our heads all the time 88 00:04:36,945 --> 00:04:41,658 some of us more than others and when you catch yourself with a negative thought 89 00:04:41,658 --> 00:04:45,746 you just stop cancel clear and replace it with a positive one. 90 00:04:45,746 --> 00:04:48,207 Yeah and I'm gonna throw worrying in there too because 91 00:04:48,207 --> 00:04:52,240 I worry a lot or I did worry a lot about 92 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:54,530 what's going to happen if this doesn't work or that doesn't work 93 00:04:54,530 --> 00:04:56,937 and I was driving myself crazy. 94 00:04:56,937 --> 00:04:58,067 And me too. 95 00:04:58,067 --> 00:05:02,493 Yes. I had to remind myself to quit worrying. To be present. 96 00:05:02,493 --> 00:05:07,522 And to trust the outcome. And I did and it helped a lot. 97 00:05:07,522 --> 00:05:10,660 If you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts you just say 98 00:05:10,660 --> 00:05:11,822 It's all going to work out. 99 00:05:11,822 --> 00:05:12,927 Everything's going to work out. 100 00:05:12,927 --> 00:05:14,915 I'm going to do what it takes to make this happen. 101 00:05:14,915 --> 00:05:15,870 Right. 102 00:05:15,870 --> 00:05:18,813 You just change the thought. And it works for anything. 103 00:05:18,813 --> 00:05:20,591 I used to be really afraid of falling. 104 00:05:20,591 --> 00:05:25,170 Because I was afraid I was going to break my back or my neck if I fell. 105 00:05:25,170 --> 00:05:27,990 And I just changed those thoughts with 106 00:05:27,990 --> 00:05:31,697 I'm healthy. I'm strong. I'm doing my physical therapy. I'm not going to fall. 107 00:05:31,697 --> 00:05:33,209 And if I do I'll be ok. 108 00:05:33,209 --> 00:05:37,106 And I think I effectively proved that I can survive a fall. 109 00:05:38,296 --> 00:05:41,283 After a week ago I fell and sprained my ankle. 110 00:05:41,283 --> 00:05:44,128 Yeah and when you were lying flat on your belly. 111 00:05:44,128 --> 00:05:47,478 On the camera and the gimble in the middle of the street. 112 00:05:47,478 --> 00:05:51,457 And I survived. My back is fine. My back and neck were fine. 113 00:05:51,457 --> 00:05:56,557 My ankle wasn't. Neither was my elbow, my hand or my other wrist. 114 00:05:56,557 --> 00:06:00,202 My camera got a scratch, but my back was fine. 115 00:06:00,202 --> 00:06:04,423 Exactly. Yeah and truly what's the worst that can happen? 116 00:06:04,423 --> 00:06:06,828 That's what I have to remind myself when I'm really stressed out. 117 00:06:06,828 --> 00:06:09,098 Well the worst that can happen would be if you're dead. 118 00:06:09,098 --> 00:06:11,960 Yeah. So as long as that doesn't happen. 119 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:15,636 And we're remarkably good at staying alive, us humage. Us humans. 120 00:06:15,636 --> 00:06:16,839 Us humage. 121 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:19,294 Humage! A new word for human: humage. 122 00:06:19,294 --> 00:06:24,964 Yeah, so if you catch yourself thinking this isn't going to work out 123 00:06:24,964 --> 00:06:28,172 or I can't do it or I'm scared or whatever 124 00:06:28,172 --> 00:06:29,614 just tell yourself you can. 125 00:06:29,614 --> 00:06:32,548 And I know maybe that sounds like it's easier said than done 126 00:06:32,548 --> 00:06:37,357 but it really truly does work. There's a lot of power in your thoughts. 127 00:06:37,357 --> 00:06:40,738 I got this idea from my old business coach, Sandy. 128 00:06:40,738 --> 00:06:42,167 Hi Sandy if you're watching. 129 00:06:42,167 --> 00:06:44,113 She really helped me with this because 130 00:06:44,113 --> 00:06:47,750 I used to have this issue a lot of dwelling on the negative and she used to say, 131 00:06:47,750 --> 00:06:49,289 "Just say stop cancel clear." 132 00:06:49,289 --> 00:06:50,786 Yeah. It works! 133 00:06:50,786 --> 00:06:51,692 It does work. 134 00:06:56,712 --> 00:07:00,765 Our fourth tip is to accept your fear. It is ok to be afraid. 135 00:07:00,765 --> 00:07:04,092 Yes. Fear is a natural human response to uncertainty. 136 00:07:04,092 --> 00:07:09,434 Yeah so don't beat yourself up if you're feeling insecure, nervous, afraid, etc. etc. 137 00:07:09,434 --> 00:07:13,177 It can actually be a really good thing if you identify that fear 138 00:07:13,177 --> 00:07:17,415 and channel that into doing your homework, doing your research, 139 00:07:17,415 --> 00:07:21,162 paying attention to all the details you need to do 140 00:07:21,162 --> 00:07:25,171 to make sure everything is in order I think you'll be better off. 141 00:07:25,171 --> 00:07:28,085 Fear can actually be a benefit as long as you don't end up with 142 00:07:28,085 --> 00:07:29,738 analysis paralysis. 143 00:07:29,738 --> 00:07:32,799 And if you don't let the fear paralyze you into inaction. 144 00:07:32,799 --> 00:07:35,346 Exactly. That's analysis paralysis. 145 00:07:35,346 --> 00:07:37,596 This one right here. 146 00:07:37,596 --> 00:07:41,060 I know! I get overwhelmed sometimes and I can't do anything. 147 00:07:41,060 --> 00:07:46,481 And I research and research and research and then I get to the point where 148 00:07:46,481 --> 00:07:48,567 the switch flips and I'm done. 149 00:07:48,567 --> 00:07:50,791 I've made up my mind and I'm good to go. 150 00:07:50,791 --> 00:07:55,689 But I spend so much time laying the groundwork for the decision. 151 00:07:55,689 --> 00:07:57,111 And sometimes that's a really good thing 152 00:07:57,111 --> 00:08:01,073 especially if it's a very big decision like moving to another country. 153 00:08:01,073 --> 00:08:04,454 Yeah, we researched this for months before we 154 00:08:04,454 --> 00:08:08,569 actually we had researched it for about a year and a half before we finally moved. 155 00:08:08,569 --> 00:08:11,950 Right we took our time and definitely did our homework and 156 00:08:11,950 --> 00:08:15,327 tried to prepare ourselves as much as we could, but we were still afraid. 157 00:08:15,327 --> 00:08:19,421 And it was about 3 months before we actually made the decision to do it 158 00:08:19,421 --> 00:08:23,019 and then it took another over a year to actually pull the trigger 159 00:08:23,019 --> 00:08:23,953 and get it done. 160 00:08:23,953 --> 00:08:24,608 Exactly. 161 00:08:24,608 --> 00:08:28,410 So take your time, but spend that time doing your research and your homework. 162 00:08:28,410 --> 00:08:29,854 And getting ready. 163 00:08:34,733 --> 00:08:37,902 Accepting your fears leads us into tip number 5 and that is to 164 00:08:37,902 --> 00:08:40,212 educate yourself to reduce your fears. 165 00:08:40,212 --> 00:08:44,345 There are lots of ways to educate yourself depending on what you're doing. 166 00:08:44,345 --> 00:08:48,741 In terms of becoming an expat, you can watch YouTube channels like ours. 167 00:08:48,741 --> 00:08:54,106 Read books, read magazines, read online forums 168 00:08:54,106 --> 00:08:56,180 like International Living has a helpful forum. 169 00:08:56,180 --> 00:08:58,790 Facebook has a lot of groups like Ecuador.. 170 00:08:58,790 --> 00:09:02,510 Expats in Ecuador and Cuenca Expats. 171 00:09:02,510 --> 00:09:06,448 There are forums for pretty much any destination 172 00:09:06,448 --> 00:09:08,232 that you're thinking about moving to. 173 00:09:08,232 --> 00:09:11,977 You can find a lot of support and information on social media for sure. 174 00:09:11,977 --> 00:09:16,959 Some of the information isn't necessarily accurate you gotta verify it. 175 00:09:16,959 --> 00:09:21,102 But a lot of people are really helpful and they really want to share that information 176 00:09:21,102 --> 00:09:25,013 with other people who are considering doing what they have already done. 177 00:09:25,013 --> 00:09:28,385 I know we really enjoy helping people do what we've done. 178 00:09:28,385 --> 00:09:30,739 And live our unconventional life. 179 00:09:30,739 --> 00:09:32,220 Yes we do. 180 00:09:32,220 --> 00:09:35,950 But I will say doing the.. starting to do the research did help. 181 00:09:37,370 --> 00:09:39,680 I guess because it helps take away that fear of the unknown. 182 00:09:39,680 --> 00:09:44,649 At least it did for me. So I started to relax once we started to learn more. 183 00:09:44,649 --> 00:09:47,721 I guess I felt like I knew what to expect. 184 00:09:48,181 --> 00:09:50,603 That's one reason we started our YouTube channel. 185 00:09:50,603 --> 00:09:53,551 I watched every video I could find on Cuenca 186 00:09:53,551 --> 00:09:55,813 and some of the other places we were looking at. 187 00:09:55,813 --> 00:10:01,109 I didn't feel like they really provided enough information, enough detail 188 00:10:01,109 --> 00:10:03,487 for me because I'm a very detailed oriented. 189 00:10:03,487 --> 00:10:06,576 If you've watched any of our videos, you can probably tell that. 190 00:10:06,576 --> 00:10:11,623 And I want to make sure that we can help other people fill in those gaps 191 00:10:11,623 --> 00:10:13,203 as much as we can. 192 00:10:13,203 --> 00:10:13,868 Exactly. 193 00:10:19,267 --> 00:10:23,036 Number 6 on our list of 9 things to do to overcome your fears 194 00:10:23,036 --> 00:10:25,582 is to talk to people who have already done it. 195 00:10:25,582 --> 00:10:28,703 We kinda mentioned this in number 5. 196 00:10:28,703 --> 00:10:31,274 You can see how there's a bit of a method to our madness 197 00:10:31,274 --> 00:10:33,428 and it all works together in harmony. 198 00:10:33,428 --> 00:10:35,385 It is a natural process. 199 00:10:35,385 --> 00:10:37,879 There are a lot of people on the social media forums 200 00:10:37,879 --> 00:10:41,403 especially Facebook that will talk to you and help you through this process. 201 00:10:41,403 --> 00:10:42,860 People are very supportive. 202 00:10:42,860 --> 00:10:44,309 And the ones that aren't, just block them. 203 00:10:44,309 --> 00:10:48,375 And you know this tip works, as the other ones do, 204 00:10:48,375 --> 00:10:49,688 works for any type of fear. 205 00:10:49,688 --> 00:10:51,946 When I first started doing business development 206 00:10:51,946 --> 00:10:53,624 I didn't know what in the heck I was doing. 207 00:10:53,624 --> 00:10:56,842 So I reached out to a couple business development people 208 00:10:56,842 --> 00:11:00,175 that I had just gotten an email introduction through 209 00:11:00,175 --> 00:11:03,928 and they were really nice and sat down and chatted with me 210 00:11:03,928 --> 00:11:06,211 about how they did things and gave me some advice. 211 00:11:06,211 --> 00:11:08,304 And that helped me immensely. 212 00:11:08,304 --> 00:11:10,352 It definitely helped me overcome my fears. 213 00:11:10,352 --> 00:11:12,879 I did the same thing when I started my company. 214 00:11:12,879 --> 00:11:16,863 I met with SCORE counselors who had already started their own business. 215 00:11:16,863 --> 00:11:18,143 They helped me out quite a bit. 216 00:11:18,143 --> 00:11:21,411 I met with other business owners in different fields and they helped me out. 217 00:11:21,411 --> 00:11:24,183 It just really helps to talk to people who have already done it. 218 00:11:24,183 --> 00:11:26,362 It makes it seem more real and more possible. 219 00:11:26,362 --> 00:11:27,822 Exactly. Well said. 220 00:11:27,822 --> 00:11:28,800 Thank you. 221 00:11:33,820 --> 00:11:36,316 Tip number 7 is to find support. 222 00:11:36,316 --> 00:11:38,805 People who are already doing right now 223 00:11:38,805 --> 00:11:41,719 or in the same stage of the process that you are. 224 00:11:41,719 --> 00:11:45,729 Exactly. It's really helpful to have somebody that you can talk things out with. 225 00:11:45,729 --> 00:11:47,766 Also as an accountability partner. 226 00:11:47,766 --> 00:11:51,463 It helps a lot to have somebody there to hold you accountable 227 00:11:51,463 --> 00:11:53,894 to make sure you actually do what you say you're going to. 228 00:11:53,894 --> 00:11:54,846 Yes it does. 229 00:11:54,846 --> 00:11:56,754 It's amazing how that works. 230 00:11:56,754 --> 00:11:59,603 It really is. Accountability really helps. 231 00:11:59,603 --> 00:12:04,397 You can find support on LinkedIn and Facebook and those types of groups. 232 00:12:04,397 --> 00:12:05,614 Meetup groups are great. 233 00:12:05,614 --> 00:12:08,960 Any time you can meet somebody in real life for a coffee. 234 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:13,023 If you're a guy and you need a wingman. Wingmen are a great source of support! 235 00:12:15,253 --> 00:12:17,620 Ok! Moving on! 236 00:12:22,741 --> 00:12:26,493 Number 8 on our list of 9 tips to overcome your fears is.. 237 00:12:26,493 --> 00:12:28,829 make a list and small chunk it. 238 00:12:28,829 --> 00:12:31,514 Small chunking it is a JP-ism. 239 00:12:31,514 --> 00:12:35,371 Yes. I wrote a book about how to start a business, a dotcom 240 00:12:35,371 --> 00:12:36,755 after I sold my company. 241 00:12:36,755 --> 00:12:39,275 And I went around and did public speaking 242 00:12:39,275 --> 00:12:41,398 and one of my concepts was small chunking it. 243 00:12:41,398 --> 00:12:44,750 It basically just means breaking larger tasks into smaller ones. 244 00:12:44,750 --> 00:12:46,841 And you just keep checking stuff off the list. 245 00:12:46,841 --> 00:12:49,466 And that can really help alleviate fear. 246 00:12:49,466 --> 00:12:52,088 It gives you that sense of accomplishment as well. 247 00:12:52,088 --> 00:12:54,423 And you're slowly moving towards your goals 248 00:12:54,423 --> 00:12:56,529 but it's much more manageable that way. 249 00:12:56,529 --> 00:13:00,601 We are both list masters, list meisters. 250 00:13:00,601 --> 00:13:02,665 I know I love crossing stuff off! 251 00:13:02,665 --> 00:13:04,346 She's really the list maker. 252 00:13:04,346 --> 00:13:06,640 She's even more so than I am. 253 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:09,290 We're always operating our whole life off a list. 254 00:13:10,190 --> 00:13:13,114 I have about 2 dozen of them on my phone right now. 255 00:13:13,114 --> 00:13:16,495 The lists are awesome because not only does it help you focus 256 00:13:16,495 --> 00:13:19,436 on the smaller things that you need to do to get things done, 257 00:13:19,436 --> 00:13:22,528 you have that sense of accomplishment for checking stuff off, 258 00:13:22,528 --> 00:13:27,402 but it really helps alleviate the fear when it comes to a really big project 259 00:13:27,402 --> 00:13:28,953 like moving to another country. 260 00:13:28,953 --> 00:13:32,609 There are so many moving parts and so many tasks to do when you have to leave. 261 00:13:32,609 --> 00:13:34,279 You have to sell everything you own. 262 00:13:34,279 --> 00:13:37,565 You've got the estate sale. The house sale. The car sale. 263 00:13:37,565 --> 00:13:41,622 You gotta work on your visas. Your travel plans. Pet travel. 264 00:13:41,622 --> 00:13:44,737 There's just so many things on the list that you have to do 265 00:13:44,737 --> 00:13:48,719 that having a list and checking things off as you go through it 266 00:13:48,719 --> 00:13:52,575 and also writing dates on things and using a calendar to make sure 267 00:13:52,575 --> 00:13:56,817 you don't miss dates like we did with one of Alicia's shots. 268 00:13:56,817 --> 00:13:58,507 Oh yeah. That's right. 269 00:13:58,507 --> 00:14:01,478 So it's really helpful to have all this stuff organized. 270 00:14:01,478 --> 00:14:02,486 It is. 271 00:14:08,006 --> 00:14:10,782 Tip number 9. Fake it until you make it! 272 00:14:12,042 --> 00:14:15,220 I'm going to lump this in with getting out of your comfort zone 273 00:14:15,220 --> 00:14:16,598 and acting as-if. 274 00:14:16,598 --> 00:14:18,424 Yeah. Acting as-if you've already done it. 275 00:14:18,424 --> 00:14:19,389 Exactly. 276 00:14:19,389 --> 00:14:22,316 You know a lot of people are faking it right now you just don't even know it. 277 00:14:22,716 --> 00:14:23,415 True. 278 00:14:23,415 --> 00:14:27,187 Yeah. A lot of people have fears and they don't let it paralyze them 279 00:14:27,187 --> 00:14:28,799 or stop them from moving forward. 280 00:14:28,799 --> 00:14:30,539 They're just faking it until they make it. 281 00:14:30,539 --> 00:14:32,721 Yeah. You definitely gotta believe in yourself. 282 00:14:32,721 --> 00:14:36,287 And also accept that you're gonna be uncomfortable at times. 283 00:14:36,287 --> 00:14:37,897 It's gonna be scary at times. 284 00:14:37,897 --> 00:14:41,039 You may think about changing your mind at times. 285 00:14:41,039 --> 00:14:43,360 I know we did several times. 286 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:45,396 We were like, "Do we really want to leave the country?" 287 00:14:45,396 --> 00:14:48,065 You might start second guessing yourself and questioning yourself, 288 00:14:48,065 --> 00:14:50,087 but that's why all these tips are helpful. 289 00:14:50,087 --> 00:14:53,749 So to circle back around, when that happens you want to say, 290 00:14:53,749 --> 00:14:54,922 What's my big why? 291 00:14:54,922 --> 00:14:56,212 Yeah. Why am I doing this? 292 00:14:56,212 --> 00:14:59,448 And if you can tie all of these into your big why 293 00:14:59,448 --> 00:15:01,071 it keeps you motivated. 294 00:15:01,071 --> 00:15:02,928 Yeah. You've talked to your support group. 295 00:15:02,928 --> 00:15:04,355 You've done your education. 296 00:15:04,355 --> 00:15:06,126 You know you want to do this. 297 00:15:06,126 --> 00:15:09,984 Time to face your fears and fake it until you make it. 298 00:15:09,984 --> 00:15:11,267 You can do it. We did it. 299 00:15:11,267 --> 00:15:13,279 If we can do it, anybody can! 300 00:15:13,279 --> 00:15:14,129 That's right. 301 00:15:19,839 --> 00:15:21,467 That's all for today unconventionals. 302 00:15:21,467 --> 00:15:24,638 Hopefully you will find this list helpful and useful. 303 00:15:25,478 --> 00:15:26,913 It helped us out a lot. 304 00:15:26,913 --> 00:15:28,271 We were really afraid. 305 00:15:28,271 --> 00:15:31,276 We may have looked like we were calm and collected on the outside 306 00:15:31,276 --> 00:15:33,293 but on the inside we were scared to death. 307 00:15:34,523 --> 00:15:37,632 So doing these things, it's kind of naturally what we did 308 00:15:37,632 --> 00:15:40,751 but we kind of also figured some of them out along the way 309 00:15:40,751 --> 00:15:42,695 and they really helped us a lot. 310 00:15:42,695 --> 00:15:45,186 If you like our video, please remember to give us a thumbs up. 311 00:15:45,186 --> 00:15:46,966 Let us know if you liked it or not. 312 00:15:46,966 --> 00:15:49,831 And also please remember to share this video 313 00:15:49,831 --> 00:15:53,033 if you know other people going through the same stuff that we went through 314 00:15:53,033 --> 00:15:54,912 and that perhaps you're going through now, 315 00:15:54,912 --> 00:15:57,196 please help other people by sharing this with them. 316 00:15:57,196 --> 00:16:00,647 Yes. And join our group. Join our Facebook group. 317 00:16:00,647 --> 00:16:03,854 Our Facebook group, Amelia And JP's Unconventional Community. 318 00:16:03,854 --> 00:16:05,959 I'll put a link to that in our blog post. 319 00:16:05,959 --> 00:16:07,640 Yes, we are here to provide you support. 320 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:10,658 And everybody else. We've already got a lot of members. 321 00:16:10,658 --> 00:16:12,185 Welcome everybody to the group. 322 00:16:12,185 --> 00:16:13,255 Hola. 323 00:16:13,255 --> 00:16:15,357 And everybody is willing to help each other. 324 00:16:15,357 --> 00:16:17,854 It's a great place to get support from people who are going through 325 00:16:17,854 --> 00:16:19,853 the same thing that you are right now. 326 00:16:19,853 --> 00:16:21,303 Absolutely. 327 00:16:21,303 --> 00:16:22,431 Alright, that's it for today. 328 00:16:22,431 --> 00:16:23,596 See you soon. 329 00:16:23,596 --> 00:16:24,773 ¡Chao! 330 00:16:25,861 --> 00:16:27,497 She sure likes it under there. 331 00:16:27,497 --> 00:16:28,839 What are you doing Daisy? 332 00:16:32,046 --> 00:16:34,356 This is just for practice I assume.